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I love having a fuck buddy but.....
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I am single and although I have a couple of men I see on a regular basis who I met on here it is more just for sex and I find life is missing something.
I want someone to spend time with go on days out or weekends away with.
Do I quit Fab and look for a "normal" relationship or is there actually any chance of meeting someone on here and combining the two lifestyles? |
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"We met on here. I was previously on dating sites but found the men just wanted casual sex without admitting it
J x"
Thanks its nice to hear it can work.
It's only recently I've been feeling like this. Maybe a side effect of lockdown and too much time on my own.
I'll see how I feel once normality resumes and maybe start putting a few feelers out for what I'm after. |
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"Maybe go to a club when allowed to you could find a single guy there that also enjoys the lifestyle that’s what I’m going to do anyways x"
I've never really fancied the idea of clubs. Especially if I was going alone but it's an idea. Thanks |
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"Mostly happens when you're not looking for OP
Fuck buddies only work when both parties want the same otherwise it will be unequal gratification "
Due to personal reasons I have been perfectly happy with just sex only for a few years but recently have been rethinking what I want/need. |
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"If you want some kind of friendship with the men you meet, try and build that before the sex"
It's mainly since lockdown I've been rethinking things.
Just sex has worked fine for me for the last few years and I never thought I'd be thinking of anything more than that again.
It may just be "lockdown syndrome" and I may change my mind again once we get back to normal. |
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"Maybe go to a club when allowed to you could find a single guy there that also enjoys the lifestyle that’s what I’m going to do anyways x
I've never really fancied the idea of clubs. Especially if I was going alone but it's an idea. Thanks"
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"Mostly happens when you're not looking for OP
Fuck buddies only work when both parties want the same otherwise it will be unequal gratification
Due to personal reasons I have been perfectly happy with just sex only for a few years but recently have been rethinking what I want/need. "
Same for a lot (me included) after the last 18 months make sure you have what you're looking for/interested in in your bio ... it helps even if only for future reference! |
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"Mostly happens when you're not looking for OP
Fuck buddies only work when both parties want the same otherwise it will be unequal gratification
Due to personal reasons I have been perfectly happy with just sex only for a few years but recently have been rethinking what I want/need.
Same for a lot (me included) after the last 18 months make sure you have what you're looking for/interested in in your bio ... it helps even if only for future reference! "
I'll see how I feel once we get back to normal. It may just be due to being alone too much during lockdown. I'll look at changing my profile if this feeling continues. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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We met on another site and it has been amazing ever since. Both as part of the scene and outside the scene.
I find that too many here are looking for the wrong thing in all the wrong places, too quickly dismisses what may be in front of them cos it seems uncool.
We have been happily part of the scene and leaving the scene happy. The fairy tale can happen but the prince/princess may be the one you least suspect.
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I'd be more than happy to go out and about with someone I met on here tbh.
If I'm going to fuck them, there would have had to be some form of connection, so I see no problem having non-sexual fun with them too.
I'm sure you'll find what you are looking for, you just have to be honest with yourself and others as to what it is you actually want. |
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I met my lovely other half right here on the forums 2 and a half years ago and at the end of this month we will be moving in together so it definitely happens and isn't as uncommon as you may think. |
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"I am single and although I have a couple of men I see on a regular basis who I met on here it is more just for sex and I find life is missing something.
I want someone to spend time with go on days out or weekends away with.
Do I quit Fab and look for a "normal" relationship or is there actually any chance of meeting someone on here and combining the two lifestyles?"
Have you asked one of the guys you already know intimately if they would prefer that sort of relationship? |
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"I'd be more than happy to go out and about with someone I met on here tbh.
If I'm going to fuck them, there would have had to be some form of connection, so I see no problem having non-sexual fun with them too.
I'm sure you'll find what you are looking for, you just have to be honest with yourself and others as to what it is you actually want. "
Thanks. I have always been honest. This is a very recent change in my mood and possibly just down to the lockdown situations.
Its been a strange 12 months and I may just be over thinking things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can find that on here but you sometimes have to suck off a lot of frogs before you meet your prince"
Now that's a visual I didn't want! 
I need something nice to take its place?  |
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"I am single and although I have a couple of men I see on a regular basis who I met on here it is more just for sex and I find life is missing something.
I want someone to spend time with go on days out or weekends away with.
Do I quit Fab and look for a "normal" relationship or is there actually any chance of meeting someone on here and combining the two lifestyles?
Have you asked one of the guys you already know intimately if they would prefer that sort of relationship? "
One of them it isn't possible with and the other has always been totally honest in that he is not looking for anything more than a bit of regular fun.
It's worked well for all for the past 2 years and this is a recent change in how i feel.
I'll see how things are in a few months when lockdown and all the weirdness is over. |
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"I met my lovely other half right here on the forums 2 and a half years ago and at the end of this month we will be moving in together so it definitely happens and isn't as uncommon as you may think. "
Thanks its nice to hear that it can work out |
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I have a fab holiday fwb, we are both single and go away once a month for weekends away, great friends first, lovers second and neither of us wants a relationship so it works perfectly
Keep looking you will find yours on here |
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"I am single and although I have a couple of men I see on a regular basis who I met on here it is more just for sex and I find life is missing something.
I want someone to spend time with go on days out or weekends away with.
Do I quit Fab and look for a "normal" relationship or is there actually any chance of meeting someone on here and combining the two lifestyles?"
Yes there absolutely is .
Having fun together doesn't always mean sexual, I see no reason why the two can't be combined if you genuinely enjoy each others company  |
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"I have a fab holiday fwb, we are both single and go away once a month for weekends away, great friends first, lovers second and neither of us wants a relationship so it works perfectly
Keep looking you will find yours on here "
Thanks |
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I wouldn't fall into the trap of specifically looking for more on here, but remain open to it by all means. Sometimes if you look too hard for something specific, you just just wind up disappointed and lonely.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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They are exactly the kids of relationships I have mostly, so yes it can happen here or in normal life , just refuse to settle for less! For me an fb is purely for the sex, usually a specific adventure and generally not long term otherwise I would find it quite boring |
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Are you looking for a relationship, OP, or FWB? - you suggested you want someone to spend time with, go on days out or weekends away with. You can have all of that with a FWB, without the full commitment of a relationship.
Both are within your grasp. Decide what you want and just look for common interests and build connection, then see what develops.
Enjoy the journey 
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"Are you looking for a relationship, OP, or FWB? - you suggested you want someone to spend time with, go on days out or weekends away with. You can have all of that with a FWB, without the full commitment of a relationship.
Both are within your grasp. Decide what you want and just look for common interests and build connection, then see what develops.
Enjoy the journey
C"
Thanks. I'm not really sure exactly what I want. It is something that I've been thinking about but only recently.
It could just be a side effect of lockdown.
I'm going to give myself a little time to work things out but thanks for your comment. |
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"I have a fab holiday fwb, we are both single and go away once a month for weekends away, great friends first, lovers second and neither of us wants a relationship so it works perfectly
Keep looking you will find yours on here "
that sounds perfect |
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