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over a year ago
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With this I'm led to believe autistic people tend to be exceptionally good at a certain thing
Many of past discoveries was found by an autistic person
The movie rain man the guy was autistic
My question is
Do you lot think that could be carried over to sexual activity ?
Do you think that an autistic guy could be exceptionally good at it due to being autistic ? |
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre."
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?"
No |
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No"
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents "
But it's the same as non autistic people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
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Apart from you, obvs  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people"
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ? |
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ? "
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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How would you even measure it? You'd have to have sex with a huge number of people, like thousands, in a laboratory setting with sensors and observers and someone with a clipboard taking notes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not? "
Because I'm very curious about lots of different things  |
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not?
Because I'm very curious about lots of different things "
Ok. So someone who has said they are autistic has told you you are wrong and stereotyping yet you plough on....? |
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"How would you even measure it? You'd have to have sex with a huge number of people, like thousands, in a laboratory setting with sensors and observers and someone with a clipboard taking notes."
That would be kinky even for fab! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Everyone has different skills but from my experience being on the spectrum often means that the person gives a lot of attention to activities that they enjoy and find interesting.
Someone I went out with from Fab was on the spectrum and was one of the best lovers I have had.  |
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not?
Because I'm very curious about lots of different things
Ok. So someone who has said they are autistic has told you you are wrong and stereotyping yet you plough on....? "
Can I politely ask said person how they know I'm wrong please? |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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When I come across somebody, not just here but in life in general, who behaves and responds a bit different from what I expect I don't assume but equally do not rule out the possibility they may have Aspergic or other autistic traits. It is just something I have learnt over the years and also come across in my previous work.
To me, it is not something I would hail as brilliance, even though some autistic people are... neither is it something that makes them less likeable, or deserving of my respect.
It just is what it is? I can adjust my behaviour accordingly if I suspect somebody might have autistic traits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not?
Because I'm very curious about lots of different things
Ok. So someone who has said they are autistic has told you you are wrong and stereotyping yet you plough on....?
Can I politely ask said person how they know I'm wrong please?"
Because everyone likes different things. If we all got off in the same way then you'd have a point, but one person's hip grind technique is going to send Nancy to orgasmic heaven but leave Phylis completely cold and thinking about the shopping list. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’m not even sure how it would be measured! The spectrum is vast and it would be hard to differentiate between neurotypical qualities of a particular individual and someone on the spectrum.
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The “savant” thing is a pretty gross stereotype, the idea being the person is barely able to function in most ways but has one exceptional, innate talent. It’s pretty offensive.
It’s not about becoming good at something because it’s a special interest, which is extremely possible (even probable) for autistic people. If you had asked “could sex be an autistic person’s special interest and could they become exceptionally good at it as a result”, the answer would be “yes, it’s possible”, and probably people would be less fed up about the way you asked. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not?
Because I'm very curious about lots of different things
Ok. So someone who has said they are autistic has told you you are wrong and stereotyping yet you plough on....?
Can I politely ask said person how they know I'm wrong please?
Because everyone likes different things. If we all got off in the same way then you'd have a point, but one person's hip grind technique is going to send Nancy to orgasmic heaven but leave Phylis completely cold and thinking about the shopping list. "
You can't possibly know that there is not 1 person out there capable of alteration in any situation to meet any need |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The “savant” thing is a pretty gross stereotype, the idea being the person is barely able to function in most ways but has one exceptional, innate talent. It’s pretty offensive.
It’s not about becoming good at something because it’s a special interest, which is extremely possible (even probable) for autistic people. If you had asked “could sex be an autistic person’s special interest and could they become exceptionally good at it as a result”, the answer would be “yes, it’s possible”, and probably people would be less fed up about the way you asked."
I may need a PA |
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"The “savant” thing is a pretty gross stereotype, the idea being the person is barely able to function in most ways but has one exceptional, innate talent. It’s pretty offensive.
It’s not about becoming good at something because it’s a special interest, which is extremely possible (even probable) for autistic people. If you had asked “could sex be an autistic person’s special interest and could they become exceptionally good at it as a result”, the answer would be “yes, it’s possible”, and probably people would be less fed up about the way you asked.
I may need a PA "
What? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you autistic? "
I wouldn't know
I repeat sentences to myself after iv said them or wrote them down
I do things with my fingers/hands That's repetitive
Iv recently been told I to them show autistic traits
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The “savant” thing is a pretty gross stereotype, the idea being the person is barely able to function in most ways but has one exceptional, innate talent. It’s pretty offensive.
It’s not about becoming good at something because it’s a special interest, which is extremely possible (even probable) for autistic people. If you had asked “could sex be an autistic person’s special interest and could they become exceptionally good at it as a result”, the answer would be “yes, it’s possible”, and probably people would be less fed up about the way you asked.
I may need a PA
What?"
Personal assistant to rewrite my questions |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I used to do other things when I was younger
Things with my mouth making noises
I used to uncontrollably blink aswell
I don't know if I'm autistic or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people on the spectrum have exceptional talents most don't, some not on the spectrum have exceptional talent most don't.
Its a simple as that really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not?
Because I'm very curious about lots of different things
Ok. So someone who has said they are autistic has told you you are wrong and stereotyping yet you plough on....?
Can I politely ask said person how they know I'm wrong please?
Because everyone likes different things. If we all got off in the same way then you'd have a point, but one person's hip grind technique is going to send Nancy to orgasmic heaven but leave Phylis completely cold and thinking about the shopping list.
You can't possibly know that there is not 1 person out there capable of alteration in any situation to meet any need"
It's extremely unlikely and if there is such a person they're unlikely to be autistic due to their social difficulties. |
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"With this I'm led to believe autistic people tend to be exceptionally good at a certain thing
Many of past discoveries was found by an autistic person
The movie rain man the guy was autistic
My question is
Do you lot think that could be carried over to sexual activity ?
Do you think that an autistic guy could be exceptionally good at it due to being autistic ? "
It's not so much as certian thing as certain similar things. We have a close relative who is autistic and severely limited in many ways but has a photographic memory when it comes to things like jigsaw puzzles. Some of the things he can do are amazing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not?
Because I'm very curious about lots of different things
Ok. So someone who has said they are autistic has told you you are wrong and stereotyping yet you plough on....?
Can I politely ask said person how they know I'm wrong please?
Because everyone likes different things. If we all got off in the same way then you'd have a point, but one person's hip grind technique is going to send Nancy to orgasmic heaven but leave Phylis completely cold and thinking about the shopping list.
You can't possibly know that there is not 1 person out there capable of alteration in any situation to meet any need
It's extremely unlikely and if there is such a person they're unlikely to be autistic due to their social difficulties. "
But not impossible
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By (user no longer on site)
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I support and work with 19 adults with autism. None of them show any particular high intelligence, but that’s relative, and most of them are asexual....
Some are very good with puzzles and could do them very quickly. Some have extreme memory but show some unsettling time if what they saw before is not at the same place .
So autism is not some kind of fun talk or something slightly associated with a sexual quizz.
If you want to know by interest or curiosity then read books and studies about it. Not really a chit chat on a swinging website. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I support and work with 19 adults with autism. None of them show any particular high intelligence, but that’s relative, and most of them are asexual....
Some are very good with puzzles and could do them very quickly. Some have extreme memory but show some unsettling time if what they saw before is not at the same place .
So autism is not some kind of fun talk or something slightly associated with a sexual quizz.
If you want to know by interest or curiosity then read books and studies about it. Not really a chit chat on a swinging website. "
Point taken and noted
Fun talk it was not
Informative question it was
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"The “savant” thing is a pretty gross stereotype, the idea being the person is barely able to function in most ways but has one exceptional, innate talent. It’s pretty offensive.
It’s not about becoming good at something because it’s a special interest, which is extremely possible (even probable) for autistic people. If you had asked “could sex be an autistic person’s special interest and could they become exceptionally good at it as a result”, the answer would be “yes, it’s possible”, and probably people would be less fed up about the way you asked.
I may need a PA
What?
Personal assistant to rewrite my questions "
Well it’s not really rewriting your question, it’s a completely different question. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The “savant” thing is a pretty gross stereotype, the idea being the person is barely able to function in most ways but has one exceptional, innate talent. It’s pretty offensive.
It’s not about becoming good at something because it’s a special interest, which is extremely possible (even probable) for autistic people. If you had asked “could sex be an autistic person’s special interest and could they become exceptionally good at it as a result”, the answer would be “yes, it’s possible”, and probably people would be less fed up about the way you asked.
I may need a PA
What?
Personal assistant to rewrite my questions
Well it’s not really rewriting your question, it’s a completely different question."
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Autism is caused by an imbalance in the brain. Autism covers a vast degree of severity and always comes with a diagnosis of something else. Asking about autistic people and sex is like asking about diabetic people and sex. And yes I am autistic and so are most the males in my family so I know what I’m on about. |
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"Autism is caused by an imbalance in the brain. Autism covers a vast degree of severity and always comes with a diagnosis of something else. Asking about autistic people and sex is like asking about diabetic people and sex. And yes I am autistic and so are most the males in my family so I know what I’m on about."
Diabetic people and sex ?
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"Autism is caused by an imbalance in the brain. Autism covers a vast degree of severity and always comes with a diagnosis of something else. Asking about autistic people and sex is like asking about diabetic people and sex. And yes I am autistic and so are most the males in my family so I know what I’m on about.
Diabetic people and sex ?
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It was just a comparison. Just because we have autism doesn’t mean we’d be better than someone with diabetes |
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"Autism is caused by an imbalance in the brain. Autism covers a vast degree of severity and always comes with a diagnosis of something else. Asking about autistic people and sex is like asking about diabetic people and sex. And yes I am autistic and so are most the males in my family so I know what I’m on about.
Diabetic people and sex ?
It was just a comparison. Just because we have autism doesn’t mean we’d be better than someone with diabetes "
Now I'm even more confused |
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"Autism is caused by an imbalance in the brain. Autism covers a vast degree of severity and always comes with a diagnosis of something else. Asking about autistic people and sex is like asking about diabetic people and sex. And yes I am autistic and so are most the males in my family so I know what I’m on about.
Diabetic people and sex ?
It was just a comparison. Just because we have autism doesn’t mean we’d be better than someone with diabetes
Now I'm even more confused "
Sexual prowess is not linked to diagnosis of any kind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Autism is caused by an imbalance in the brain. Autism covers a vast degree of severity and always comes with a diagnosis of something else. Asking about autistic people and sex is like asking about diabetic people and sex. And yes I am autistic and so are most the males in my family so I know what I’m on about.
Diabetic people and sex ?
It was just a comparison. Just because we have autism doesn’t mean we’d be better than someone with diabetes
Now I'm even more confused "
Makes perfect sense to me. |
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"Autism is caused by an imbalance in the brain. Autism covers a vast degree of severity and always comes with a diagnosis of something else. Asking about autistic people and sex is like asking about diabetic people and sex. And yes I am autistic and so are most the males in my family so I know what I’m on about.
Diabetic people and sex ?
It was just a comparison. Just because we have autism doesn’t mean we’d be better than someone with diabetes
Now I'm even more confused
Makes perfect sense to me. "
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Autism is caused by an imbalance in the brain. Autism covers a vast degree of severity and always comes with a diagnosis of something else. Asking about autistic people and sex is like asking about diabetic people and sex. And yes I am autistic and so are most the males in my family so I know what I’m on about.
Diabetic people and sex ?
It was just a comparison. Just because we have autism doesn’t mean we’d be better than someone with diabetes
Now I'm even more confused
Makes perfect sense to me. "
Makes sense to me, too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Autism is caused by an imbalance in the brain. Autism covers a vast degree of severity and always comes with a diagnosis of something else. Asking about autistic people and sex is like asking about diabetic people and sex. And yes I am autistic and so are most the males in my family so I know what I’m on about.
Diabetic people and sex ?
It was just a comparison. Just because we have autism doesn’t mean we’d be better than someone with diabetes
Now I'm even more confused
Makes perfect sense to me. Makes sense to me, too "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it true that an autistic person can have some cognitive differences and find it difficult to fully understand some things ?"
I think if you're interested it's probably best to be some research.
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"Is it true that an autistic person can have some cognitive differences and find it difficult to fully understand some things ?
I think if you're interested it's probably best to be some research.
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Your probably right but I will continue to question things be it on the forum or not and in that is really like to think that folk would be able to give an informative answer or answers as you clearly have |
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"Is it true that an autistic person can have some cognitive differences and find it difficult to fully understand some things ?"
Being autistic brings specific challenges (varied, it's a broad spectrum) but there's no "all people with autism can or can't do XYZ".
There a heck of a lot of misconceptions about autism. The National Autistic Society website is a good place to start for information |
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"Is it true that an autistic person can have some cognitive differences and find it difficult to fully understand some things ?
Being autistic brings specific challenges (varied, it's a broad spectrum) but there's no "all people with autism can or can't do XYZ".
There a heck of a lot of misconceptions about autism. The National Autistic Society website is a good place to start for information "
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It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know |
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know "
People who know what ? |
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?"
About being on the spectrum. |
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum. "
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum. "
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen. |
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum.
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen. "
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum.
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen. "
I think telling someone to do something is quite wrong
Until said professionals are actually having sex with those autistic people I shall continue to question |
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum.
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen.
I think telling someone to do something is quite wrong
Until said professionals are actually having sex with those autistic people I shall continue to question "
I have been having sex with an autistic person for the past 17 years.
It's wholly unethical for professionals to have sex with autistic people to assess their sexual prowess.
Why can you not accept that being autistic is a varied feast and that yes, some autistic people might be sexually very able, but equally some may not, exactly the same as the general population? Autism has no direct influence on the ability to physically have sex. |
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum.
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen.
I think telling someone to do something is quite wrong
Until said professionals are actually having sex with those autistic people I shall continue to question "
Which autistic people?
I'll refer back to my original comment on the thread. You are being crass and oversimplifying a very broad subject. Though considering your only frame of reference was rain main I'm not sure why we are surprised. |
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum.
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen.
I think telling someone to do something is quite wrong
Until said professionals are actually having sex with those autistic people I shall continue to question
I have been having sex with an autistic person for the past 17 years.
It's wholly unethical for professionals to have sex with autistic people to assess their sexual prowess.
Why can you not accept that being autistic is a varied feast and that yes, some autistic people might be sexually very able, but equally some may not, exactly the same as the general population? Autism has no direct influence on the ability to physically have sex."
Have I not done that? |
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum.
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen.
I think telling someone to do something is quite wrong
Until said professionals are actually having sex with those autistic people I shall continue to question
I have been having sex with an autistic person for the past 17 years.
It's wholly unethical for professionals to have sex with autistic people to assess their sexual prowess.
Why can you not accept that being autistic is a varied feast and that yes, some autistic people might be sexually very able, but equally some may not, exactly the same as the general population? Autism has no direct influence on the ability to physically have sex.
Have I not done that?"
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum.
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen.
I think telling someone to do something is quite wrong
Until said professionals are actually having sex with those autistic people I shall continue to question
Which autistic people?
I'll refer back to my original comment on the thread. You are being crass and oversimplifying a very broad subject. Though considering your only frame of reference was rain main I'm not sure why we are surprised. "
I'm not surprised either
I was expecting some of the responses with this thread as I did with the others
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum.
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen.
I think telling someone to do something is quite wrong
Until said professionals are actually having sex with those autistic people I shall continue to question "
Professionals won’t have sex with people they support or help?? Are you seriously taking the piss now? |
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum.
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen.
I think telling someone to do something is quite wrong
Until said professionals are actually having sex with those autistic people I shall continue to question
Which autistic people?
I'll refer back to my original comment on the thread. You are being crass and oversimplifying a very broad subject. Though considering your only frame of reference was rain main I'm not sure why we are surprised. "
Crass, yes that’s the word! Crass |
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum.
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen.
I think telling someone to do something is quite wrong
Until said professionals are actually having sex with those autistic people I shall continue to question
Which autistic people?
I'll refer back to my original comment on the thread. You are being crass and oversimplifying a very broad subject. Though considering your only frame of reference was rain main I'm not sure why we are surprised.
I'm not surprised either
I was expecting some of the responses with this thread as I did with the others
That's life and then we die "
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum.
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen.
I think telling someone to do something is quite wrong
Until said professionals are actually having sex with those autistic people I shall continue to question
I have been having sex with an autistic person for the past 17 years.
It's wholly unethical for professionals to have sex with autistic people to assess their sexual prowess.
Why can you not accept that being autistic is a varied feast and that yes, some autistic people might be sexually very able, but equally some may not, exactly the same as the general population? Autism has no direct influence on the ability to physically have sex.
Have I not done that?
No. "
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"I used to do other things when I was younger
Things with my mouth making noises
I used to uncontrollably blink aswell
I don't know if I'm autistic or not "
These traits are tics. My son has them, I have them. They are habits that come and go for no apparent reason and can persist for days to weeks, perhaps a few months. I have one that has been throughout my adult life and I do it whilst driving.
They’re not necessarily a sign of autism but may be obsessive compulsive or simply standalone. I, too, haven’t the slightest clue. I am a tad obsessive compulsive but my son is the exact opposite. |
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"It's also worth saying to the OP that you've had advice/comments from a number of people who are exceptionally well placed to comment, for various reasons, but you wouldn't know that. I'd suggest taking the general consensus to heart because it comes from people who know
People who know what ?
About being on the spectrum.
^^^This. You have been advised by professionals who work with autistic people, the spouses/partners of autistic people and autistic people themselves. You should listen.
I think telling someone to do something is quite wrong
Until said professionals are actually having sex with those autistic people I shall continue to question
Which autistic people?
I'll refer back to my original comment on the thread. You are being crass and oversimplifying a very broad subject. Though considering your only frame of reference was rain main I'm not sure why we are surprised.
I'm not surprised either
I was expecting some of the responses with this thread as I did with the others
That's life and then we die
What a weird comment "
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Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass! |
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"Jesus. If I bite my tongue anymore I’ll bite it off!
I'm really struggling too Nora so I'm going to Tesco instead. "
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!"
The question has previously been answered what's crass to you don't always necessarily be crass to me
I asked that question no body else, answers and informative ones was the desired result |
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"Jesus. If I bite my tongue anymore I’ll bite it off!
I'm really struggling too Nora so I'm going to Tesco instead.
Bring me a bottle of Chablis please I need to neck it down "
I will indeed.
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not? "
Because he may be trying to get a discussion going on what he saw on TV. Forums are helpful for this |
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!
The question has previously been answered what's crass to you don't always necessarily be crass to me
I asked that question no body else, answers and informative ones was the desired result "
Ok... Let's say someone asks a very simplistic, overly generic question about one of the conditions your daughter has but then says they don't see it as crass. Do you see now why wether you think it's crass or not is irrelevant? |
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!
The question has previously been answered what's crass to you don't always necessarily be crass to me
I asked that question no body else, answers and informative ones was the desired result "
if you were so curious about someones medical condition the nhs website might have been a good place to start! not a sex forum! |
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not?
Because he may be trying to get a discussion going on what he saw on TV. Forums are helpful for this"
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not?
Because he may be trying to get a discussion going on what he saw on TV. Forums are helpful for this"
I agree. Though the ability or get a discussion going well relies greatly upon the way it is present and responded to. The OPs responses while they may be still attempting to get a discussion going are quite clearly presented in a way to antagonise also. |
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!
The question has previously been answered what's crass to you don't always necessarily be crass to me
I asked that question no body else, answers and informative ones was the desired result
Ok... Let's say someone asks a very simplistic, overly generic question about one of the conditions your daughter has but then says they don't see it as crass. Do you see now why wether you think it's crass or not is irrelevant? "
There's lots and lots of unanswered questions with regards to my daughter's condition, I now know lots of information about the disease she has and would openly ask for questions around it to be asked aswell as answered because without questioning we simply do not learn |
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!
The question has previously been answered what's crass to you don't always necessarily be crass to me
I asked that question no body else, answers and informative ones was the desired result
if you were so curious about someones medical condition the nhs website might have been a good place to start! not a sex forum!"
I disagree with that because there are many on here who are able to give advice and explain things I just think the way the OP has gone about it hasn't necessarily been the best or maybe we all just misunderstood.
I don't know, all I know is I am finding it difficult to follow the thread so will take a break but I don't think any question is wrong to ask just because it's a swingers site. |
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"Is it true that an autistic person can have some cognitive differences and find it difficult to fully understand some things ?
I think if you're interested it's probably best to be some research.
Your probably right but I will continue to question things be it on the forum or not and in that is really like to think that folk would be able to give an informative answer or answers as you clearly have "
I think it's useful to ask people who may have experience of it. Google just gives bland answers.
If people aren't allowed to ask questions the world and forum would be a crappy place. |
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!
The question has previously been answered what's crass to you don't always necessarily be crass to me
I asked that question no body else, answers and informative ones was the desired result
Ok... Let's say someone asks a very simplistic, overly generic question about one of the conditions your daughter has but then says they don't see it as crass. Do you see now why wether you think it's crass or not is irrelevant? "
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not?
Because he may be trying to get a discussion going on what he saw on TV. Forums are helpful for this
I agree. Though the ability or get a discussion going well relies greatly upon the way it is present and responded to. The OPs responses while they may be still attempting to get a discussion going are quite clearly presented in a way to antagonise also. "
If also done courses on things like we are only in control of our own actions and although we can sometimes antagonize others how the respond and react is down to them and them alone |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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What was the programme called that you saw on TV op?
Autism is a spectrum there are many different traits that are associated with being on this spectrum.
Savant autism is like rainman, in the film he was amazing with numbers. Not all savants are exceptional with numbers it could be anything.
Like everyone everybody is unique. |
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!
The question has previously been answered what's crass to you don't always necessarily be crass to me
I asked that question no body else, answers and informative ones was the desired result
if you were so curious about someones medical condition the nhs website might have been a good place to start! not a sex forum!"
The nhs website I doubt has the answers to the questions I asked but thank you for the input |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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Ali G's cousin, Simon Baron Cohen is one of the world's leading experts on autism and the autistic spectrum.
He also runs one of the foremost research facilities on this puzzling condition in Cambridge, I think.
He has published numerous academic papers aimed at the professional diagnostician, but he also produces papers for the families of people who are on this continuum, ranging from those with learning disabilities through to Aspergers, and autistic savants.
There are a range of comorbid conditions associated with autism such as relationship issues, rigid routines, etc.
Try Google scholar and use the usual search criteria, including Simon Baron-Cohen.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!
The question has previously been answered what's crass to you don't always necessarily be crass to me
I asked that question no body else, answers and informative ones was the desired result
if you were so curious about someones medical condition the nhs website might have been a good place to start! not a sex forum!
I disagree with that because there are many on here who are able to give advice and explain things I just think the way the OP has gone about it hasn't necessarily been the best or maybe we all just misunderstood.
I don't know, all I know is I am finding it difficult to follow the thread so will take a break but I don't think any question is wrong to ask just because it's a swingers site. "
You didn't understand his original post? Or did you make assumptions based on his other threads? |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not?
Because he may be trying to get a discussion going on what he saw on TV. Forums are helpful for this
I agree. Though the ability or get a discussion going well relies greatly upon the way it is present and responded to. The OPs responses while they may be still attempting to get a discussion going are quite clearly presented in a way to antagonise also. "
To be fair, whether that was his intention or not, it didn't stand a chance after the first couple of posts. |
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!"
That does not explain why it's crass.
Many people on the forums find it hard to understand other people's points of view. Or cannot understand a point someone is making and therefore get irate over something that wasn't said.
Many people on the forums don't bother to ask for clarification.
Do people know if the OP is autistic? Or do they only support their friends. |
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!
The question has previously been answered what's crass to you don't always necessarily be crass to me
I asked that question no body else, answers and informative ones was the desired result
Ok... Let's say someone asks a very simplistic, overly generic question about one of the conditions your daughter has but then says they don't see it as crass. Do you see now why wether you think it's crass or not is irrelevant?
There's lots and lots of unanswered questions with regards to my daughter's condition, I now know lots of information about the disease she has and would openly ask for questions around it to be asked aswell as answered because without questioning we simply do not learn "
I didn't say questioning was a bad thing.... I said crass questioning was.
You dismisses anyone on here who answered you by saying what a braos and diverse spectrum autism is and that it isn't simply people being extremely talented at things because it didn't fit your narrative. That is what implies you are not after a discussion about ausmtism to learn on the forums. You have a precinveived motion that you only want validated. |
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre.
Are you saying what if asked may hold some validity?
No
Iv maybe picked you up wrong as you say a few autistic people may have exceptional talents
But it's the same as non autistic people
Without a doubt non autistic people will also have some exceptional talents
My question was about autistic people though ?
Ok, but why? Why specifically ask of autistic people that have exceptional talents, as you put it, and not simply people who have exceptional talents? Why should it make any difference if those with exceptional talents have a diagnosis of autism or not?
Because he may be trying to get a discussion going on what he saw on TV. Forums are helpful for this
I agree. Though the ability or get a discussion going well relies greatly upon the way it is present and responded to. The OPs responses while they may be still attempting to get a discussion going are quite clearly presented in a way to antagonise also.
To be fair, whether that was his intention or not, it didn't stand a chance after the first couple of posts. "
It was a question in order to receive informative answers
Not nastiness and judgement |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"What was the programme called that you saw on TV op?
Autism is a spectrum there are many different traits that are associated with being on this spectrum.
Savant autism is like rainman, in the film he was amazing with numbers. Not all savants are exceptional with numbers it could be anything.
Like everyone everybody is unique. "
Oddly enough I watched the graduate last night, he played that really well too. |
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!
The question has previously been answered what's crass to you don't always necessarily be crass to me
I asked that question no body else, answers and informative ones was the desired result
Ok... Let's say someone asks a very simplistic, overly generic question about one of the conditions your daughter has but then says they don't see it as crass. Do you see now why wether you think it's crass or not is irrelevant?
There's lots and lots of unanswered questions with regards to my daughter's condition, I now know lots of information about the disease she has and would openly ask for questions around it to be asked aswell as answered because without questioning we simply do not learn
I didn't say questioning was a bad thing.... I said crass questioning was.
You dismisses anyone on here who answered you by saying what a braos and diverse spectrum autism is and that it isn't simply people being extremely talented at things because it didn't fit your narrative. That is what implies you are not after a discussion about ausmtism to learn on the forums. You have a precinveived motion that you only want validated."
Not at all |
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!
That does not explain why it's crass.
Many people on the forums find it hard to understand other people's points of view. Or cannot understand a point someone is making and therefore get irate over something that wasn't said.
Many people on the forums don't bother to ask for clarification.
Do people know if the OP is autistic? Or do they only support their friends. "
He already said he doesn't have a diagnosis. He has said some people have said he has 'tenancies' but has never been tested.
It's not about supporting friends, it's about challenging stereotypes and out dated notions that all autistic people are like rainmain.
He's essentially seeking the rain man of sex and assuming they will be autistic. Crass. |
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"The autistic savant thing is a massive stereotype. A few autistic people may have exceptional talents, but most of us are pretty mediocre."
Best quite I’ve ever seen. “Most autistic people are mediocre”. Brilliant |
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"Signs of autism in adults - NHShttps://www.nhs.uk › ... › Autism › Signs of autism
finding it hard to understand what others are thinking or feeling. getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends...
thats why the question is crass!
The question has previously been answered what's crass to you don't always necessarily be crass to me
I asked that question no body else, answers and informative ones was the desired result
if you were so curious about someones medical condition the nhs website might have been a good place to start! not a sex forum!
I disagree with that because there are many on here who are able to give advice and explain things I just think the way the OP has gone about it hasn't necessarily been the best or maybe we all just misunderstood.
I don't know, all I know is I am finding it difficult to follow the thread so will take a break but I don't think any question is wrong to ask just because it's a swingers site.
You didn't understand his original post? Or did you make assumptions based on his other threads?"
I haven't read his other threads and I didn't say I'd misunderstood anything. |
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I think people are irritated because despite the opening line "With this I'm led to believe autistic people tend to be exceptionally good at a certain thing" being demonstrably false, and having been advised of this by a number of people who know about being autistic, the OP has continued to repeat the same question.
Autistic people are constantly (incorrectly) assumed to all have some magical savant-like abilities and when they reply to this (frequent) assumption with "no, I'm just an ordinary person, struggling to navigate a neurotypical world," people continue to assume and insist they must be somehow savantic.
There's no one-size-fits all autistic presentation and so it's completely inaccurate to suggest ALL autistic people can do something or possess certain abilities/qualities.
That's why people are irritated. |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
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Fuckit, I'm on the spectrum, 3 of my kids are as well. We are very different people. One is definitely a very high achiever, another is bordering on non verbal. It's something of a umbrella term so whilst it may include exceptional individuals, it can also describe those that will need support to live. And as mentioned above co-morbid conditions compound things. |
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That's why people are irritated.
People are not tied to the thread and can't get out. They don't have to read it"
Folks are trying to make clear that the initial assumption in the OP is not correct, but it seems this is not enough. The people stating that "not all autistic people have savantic abilities" are autistic people, family members of autistic people or people who work professionally with autistic people. Surely that's a sufficiently robust answer? |
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That's why people are irritated.
People are not tied to the thread and can't get out. They don't have to read it
Folks are trying to make clear that the initial assumption in the OP is not correct, but it seems this is not enough. The people stating that "not all autistic people have savantic abilities" are autistic people, family members of autistic people or people who work professionally with autistic people. Surely that's a sufficiently robust answer? "
Of course it is, but it's not telling me I'm wrong |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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That's why people are irritated.
People are not tied to the thread and can't get out. They don't have to read it
Folks are trying to make clear that the initial assumption in the OP is not correct, but it seems this is not enough. The people stating that "not all autistic people have savantic abilities" are autistic people, family members of autistic people or people who work professionally with autistic people. Surely that's a sufficiently robust answer? "
He doesn't have to accept peoples answers if he doesn't want to. |
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"With this I'm led to believe autistic people tend to be exceptionally good at a certain thing
Many of past discoveries was found by an autistic person
The movie rain man the guy was autistic
My question is
Do you lot think that could be carried over to sexual activity ?
Do you think that an autistic guy could be exceptionally good at it due to being autistic ? "
Some have good attention to detail and are repetitive. I can see how that would work for some women. |
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I have ADHD Aspergers dyspraxia and Autism. (I thought I had dyscalculia but it turns out I didn’t like maths and was shit at it)
It has certainly done me no favours in life and I have fought very hard along the way.
My brother has an exceptional skill in remembering sequences of numbers and letters and would be considered a savant. Sadly that’s where his talents stop and he does not pursue any interests sexually.
I however consider myself to be talented in the sack but it’s not down to my autism. I put it down to practice and listening to my partners needs.
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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Surely being a fantastic fuck is determined by the person who you are having sex with at the time.Nothing to do with ASD or anything else.
You may think you are fantastic the person you are with may think you're awful.
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"Surely being a fantastic fuck is determined by the person who you are having sex with at the time.Nothing to do with ASD or anything else.
You may think you are fantastic the person you are with may think you're awful.
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I'm yet to experience this |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"Surely being a fantastic fuck is determined by the person who you are having sex with at the time.Nothing to do with ASD or anything else.
You may think you are fantastic the person you are with may think you're awful.
I'm yet to experience this "
To your knowledge anyway.
People are not always honest! |
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"Surely being a fantastic fuck is determined by the person who you are having sex with at the time.Nothing to do with ASD or anything else.
You may think you are fantastic the person you are with may think you're awful.
I'm yet to experience this
To your knowledge anyway.
People are not always honest! "
They ain't
That's life and then we die |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"Surely being a fantastic fuck is determined by the person who you are having sex with at the time.Nothing to do with ASD or anything else.
You may think you are fantastic the person you are with may think you're awful.
I'm yet to experience this
To your knowledge anyway.
People are not always honest!
They ain't
That's life and then we die "
Exactly.
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"Surely being a fantastic fuck is determined by the person who you are having sex with at the time.Nothing to do with ASD or anything else.
You may think you are fantastic the person you are with may think you're awful.
I'm yet to experience this
To your knowledge anyway.
People are not always honest!
They ain't
That's life and then we die
Exactly.
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Have you ever been lied to when it comes down to it ? |
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I've actually dated 3 autistic people in the past, 2 with Aspergers and one with ADHD. I don't believe it made them better in bed but i found in a couple of them that their alternative/neurodivergent views were strangely intoxicating and as a result i was incredibly happy with them. I think when you are happy with anyone, it translates into the bedroom. |
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"I've actually dated 3 autistic people in the past, 2 with Aspergers and one with ADHD. I don't believe it made them better in bed but i found in a couple of them that their alternative/neurodivergent views were strangely intoxicating and as a result i was incredibly happy with them. I think when you are happy with anyone, it translates into the bedroom. "
Adhd isn't autism. Blimey. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"Surely being a fantastic fuck is determined by the person who you are having sex with at the time.Nothing to do with ASD or anything else.
You may think you are fantastic the person you are with may think you're awful.
I'm yet to experience this
To your knowledge anyway.
People are not always honest!
They ain't
That's life and then we die
Exactly.
Have you ever been lied to when it comes down to it ?"
Not that I know of however I have lied, this boosted his ego! |
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"I've actually dated 3 autistic people in the past, 2 with Aspergers and one with ADHD. I don't believe it made them better in bed but i found in a couple of them that their alternative/neurodivergent views were strangely intoxicating and as a result i was incredibly happy with them. I think when you are happy with anyone, it translates into the bedroom.
Adhd isn't autism. Blimey. "
Sorry, i meant 3 with Aspergers but one of those they thought had ADHD too |
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"I've actually dated 3 autistic people in the past, 2 with Aspergers and one with ADHD. I don't believe it made them better in bed but i found in a couple of them that their alternative/neurodivergent views were strangely intoxicating and as a result i was incredibly happy with them. I think when you are happy with anyone, it translates into the bedroom.
Adhd isn't autism. Blimey. "
It's on the ASD spectrum!
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"Surely being a fantastic fuck is determined by the person who you are having sex with at the time.Nothing to do with ASD or anything else.
You may think you are fantastic the person you are with may think you're awful.
I'm yet to experience this
To your knowledge anyway.
People are not always honest!
They ain't
That's life and then we die
Exactly.
Have you ever been lied to when it comes down to it ?
Not that I know of however I have lied, this boosted his ego! "
We all know people lie
I'm not even sorry for this bit if a person fakes sexual pleasure and you don't notice it then in my opinion you've not got the slightest clue about fucking and intimacy |
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"I've actually dated 3 autistic people in the past, 2 with Aspergers and one with ADHD. I don't believe it made them better in bed but i found in a couple of them that their alternative/neurodivergent views were strangely intoxicating and as a result i was incredibly happy with them. I think when you are happy with anyone, it translates into the bedroom.
Adhd isn't autism. Blimey. "
Its on the ASD spectrum and can share similar traits. |
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"I've actually dated 3 autistic people in the past, 2 with Aspergers and one with ADHD. I don't believe it made them better in bed but i found in a couple of them that their alternative/neurodivergent views were strangely intoxicating and as a result i was incredibly happy with them. I think when you are happy with anyone, it translates into the bedroom.
Adhd isn't autism. Blimey.
Sorry, i meant 3 with Aspergers but one of those they thought had ADHD too"
Its fairly common to be diagnosed with both. |
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"I've actually dated 3 autistic people in the past, 2 with Aspergers and one with ADHD. I don't believe it made them better in bed but i found in a couple of them that their alternative/neurodivergent views were strangely intoxicating and as a result i was incredibly happy with them. I think when you are happy with anyone, it translates into the bedroom.
Adhd isn't autism. Blimey.
Its on the ASD spectrum and can share similar traits. "
No, it's not on the spectrum. |
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"I've actually dated 3 autistic people in the past, 2 with Aspergers and one with ADHD. I don't believe it made them better in bed but i found in a couple of them that their alternative/neurodivergent views were strangely intoxicating and as a result i was incredibly happy with them. I think when you are happy with anyone, it translates into the bedroom.
Adhd isn't autism. Blimey.
Its on the ASD spectrum and can share similar traits.
No, it's not on the spectrum. "
Its on The ASD spectrum! |
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"I've actually dated 3 autistic people in the past, 2 with Aspergers and one with ADHD. I don't believe it made them better in bed but i found in a couple of them that their alternative/neurodivergent views were strangely intoxicating and as a result i was incredibly happy with them. I think when you are happy with anyone, it translates into the bedroom.
Adhd isn't autism. Blimey.
Its on the ASD spectrum and can share similar traits.
No, it's not on the spectrum.
Its on The ASD spectrum!"
https://www.understood.org/en/learning-thinking-differences/child-learning-disabilities/add-adhd/ive-heard-that-autism-and-adhd-are-related-is-that-true
"Autism spectrum disorder and ADHD are related in several ways. ADHD is not on the autism spectrum, but they have some of the same symptoms. And having one of these conditions increases the chances of having the other." |
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Op . Your not gonna get any sympathy on here whether your autistic or not . I think everyone is “” autistic “” in one way or another. We all are . It’s becoming the by word for personality. Im good at drawing from memory though  |
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"Op . Your not gonna get any sympathy on here whether your autistic or not . I think everyone is “” autistic “” in one way or another. We all are . It’s becoming the by word for personality. Im good at drawing from memory though "
Nonsense. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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Before this thread closes, I would suggest those interested in developing a more in-depth understanding of those on the autistic spectrum should have a look at Sir Simon Baron Cohen's E-S theory of the origins of the autistic brain, and the manifested behaviours which are diverse with other associated co-morbidities.
This theory has been criticised, but it has developed another increment of understanding.
Info about Sir Simon and the E-S theory on both Google and Google Scholar. |
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"one of the key things about being autistic is the inability to read others, how that will make for great sex im not sure? "
I'm no sex god, but my autism doesn't impact on that. If I was into the theory more, I'd be utterly amazing. Ability to read social cues doesn't need to affect it much. |
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"one of the key things about being autistic is the inability to read others, how that will make for great sex im not sure? "
The person with autism whom I have been sleeping with for 17 years gives me great sex. But he is nervous with strangers, at least until he's got the measure of them. Having autism doesn't necessarily cause a person to be unable to have great sex. Obviously, everyone with autism is different though. |
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over a year ago
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"Op . Your not gonna get any sympathy on here whether your autistic or not . I think everyone is “” autistic “” in one way or another. We all are . It’s becoming the by word for personality. Im good at drawing from memory though
Nonsense. "
I, wholeheartedly, concur. |
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"one of the key things about being autistic is the inability to read others, how that will make for great sex im not sure? "
This is a persistent stereotype that’s wrong. |
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"Op . Your not gonna get any sympathy on here whether your autistic or not . I think everyone is “” autistic “” in one way or another. We all are . It’s becoming the by word for personality. Im good at drawing from memory though
Nonsense.
I, wholeheartedly, concur."
Nothing like having a clinical diagnosis dismissed as fashion eh?
We all have diabetes one way or another... Right... ?!? |
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"one of the key things about being autistic is the inability to read others, how that will make for great sex im not sure? "
For some mabaybe but I wouldn't say it was a key thing.
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"one of the key things about being autistic is the inability to read others, how that will make for great sex im not sure?
I'm no sex god, but my autism doesn't impact on that. If I was into the theory more, I'd be utterly amazing. Ability to read social cues doesn't need to affect it much. "
I guess with any medical issue from arthritis to shingles to autism to.... some will be far more effected than others... the nhs website generalizes, it can hardly do a case by case account but as a rule if you have autism you find it hard to read people, which in any social situation, sexual or other wise must make things tricky? or the nhs dont know what they are on about? |
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"one of the key things about being autistic is the inability to read others, how that will make for great sex im not sure?
I'm no sex god, but my autism doesn't impact on that. If I was into the theory more, I'd be utterly amazing. Ability to read social cues doesn't need to affect it much.
I guess with any medical issue from arthritis to shingles to autism to.... some will be far more effected than others... the nhs website generalizes, it can hardly do a case by case account but as a rule if you have autism you find it hard to read people, which in any social situation, sexual or other wise must make things tricky? or the nhs dont know what they are on about? "
If you're asking me directly then there are two distinct types of people I come across.
1) NTs who say "What? You? Aspergers? But you're totally fine!"
2) Aspies who say "What? It's fucking obvious to us. Would've told you years ago, we just presumed you already knew!" |
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"one of the key things about being autistic is the inability to read others, how that will make for great sex im not sure?
I'm no sex god, but my autism doesn't impact on that. If I was into the theory more, I'd be utterly amazing. Ability to read social cues doesn't need to affect it much.
I guess with any medical issue from arthritis to shingles to autism to.... some will be far more effected than others... the nhs website generalizes, it can hardly do a case by case account but as a rule if you have autism you find it hard to read people, which in any social situation, sexual or other wise must make things tricky? or the nhs dont know what they are on about?
If you're asking me directly then there are two distinct types of people I come across.
1) NTs who say "What? You? Aspergers? But you're totally fine!"
2) Aspies who say "What? It's fucking obvious to us. Would've told you years ago, we just presumed you already knew!" "
When people say to me:
“What you? I wouldn’t of thought it you appear normal”
I don’t like that. It denigrates my struggle.
But I understand it may come from a nice place. |
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"If you're asking me directly then there are two distinct types of people I come across.
1) NTs who say "What? You? Aspergers? But you're totally fine!"
2) Aspies who say "What? It's fucking obvious to us. Would've told you years ago, we just presumed you already knew!"
When people say to me:
“What you? I wouldn’t of thought it you appear normal”
I don’t like that. It denigrates my struggle.
But I understand it may come from a nice place. "
Well first I'd say "I think you'll find it's 'wouldn't have'" but if they didn't punch me for that I wouldn't take it negatively as in your example they're accepting the truth, not denying it. I'd take it as a positive that my artificial skills are working well and I was doing a good job. Hopefully it'd be a positive for them too. |
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"Op . Your not gonna get any sympathy on here whether your autistic or not . I think everyone is “” autistic “” in one way or another. We all are . It’s becoming the by word for personality. Im good at drawing from memory though
Nonsense.
I, wholeheartedly, concur.
Nothing like having a clinical diagnosis dismissed as fashion eh?
We all have diabetes one way or another... Right... ?!? "
You know, that was precisely what I was thinking, too. |
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