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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
I have been told by a fair few women on here that I seem like a nice man, which I take as a huge compliment.
I can't and won't change who or how I am.
But being in a bit of a contemplative mood this morning, I got to wondering, is it detrimental, being "a nice man" on here.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Not at all, but it's not necessarily a plus either - people are people and like and look for different things.
What some see as "nice" others will see as "meh" etc
I've found that just being myself and letting people take me or leave me based on that is the way to go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. Not being you might be though. And I hate being called 'nice'.
That's good then because you ain't  "
Yeah you tell 'em. I've got my reputation to uphold. |
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"I have been told by a fair few women on here that I seem like a nice man, which I take as a huge compliment.
I can't and won't change who or how I am.
But being in a bit of a contemplative mood this morning, I got to wondering, is it detrimental, being "a nice man" on here.
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politeness costs nothing. Good manners are sexy. Nothing wrong with being a nice person in my opinion. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Not at all, but it's not necessarily a plus either - people are people and like and look for different things.
What some see as "nice" others will see as "meh" etc
I've found that just being myself and letting people take me or leave me based on that is the way to go."
Meh to me is someone who has nothing interesting to say, or never disagrees with anyone.
I can pleasantly disagree with many things in life  |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"I have been told by a fair few women on here that I seem like a nice man, which I take as a huge compliment.
I can't and won't change who or how I am.
But being in a bit of a contemplative mood this morning, I got to wondering, is it detrimental, being "a nice man" on here.
politeness costs nothing. Good manners are sexy. Nothing wrong with being a nice person in my opinion. "
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Being nice is great, but it is pretty much the average expectation of a person.
We need to be more than just nice. There needs to be more that defines us else we can end up being pretty boring.
Take the 'nice guys finish last' phrase. That implies that the non nice guys finish first, but why? It's because they have things defining them. They are often assertive, confident, edgey, exciting, etc. These all make them more interesting and attractive and can make them stand out from the crowd.
There is no reason why we can't be nice and more. We all have more, we just need to figure out what that is, build it up and not be afraid to let people see that side of us.
That is when we will finish first. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I have been told by a fair few women on here that I seem like a nice man, which I take as a huge compliment.
I can't and won't change who or how I am.
But being in a bit of a contemplative mood this morning, I got to wondering, is it detrimental, being "a nice man" on here.
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Detrimental how? Regarding your prospects for meeting people? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been told by a fair few women on here that I seem like a nice man, which I take as a huge compliment.
I can't and won't change who or how I am.
But being in a bit of a contemplative mood this morning, I got to wondering, is it detrimental, being "a nice man" on here.
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No. I'd only meet someone if I thought he was a nice person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone's different and is looking for different things. The important thing is just be yourself, otherwise it won't work anyway.
I like to think I'm nice and a good laugh, some will think no thanks, others will think that's what I like. Win some lose some, but it's on your terms |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"No. Nice is the bare minimum. I want someone to be nice but its not enough on its own. "
Agreed. It all comes down to attraction, whatever that might imply. Nice / pleasant what have you should be expected by default. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"No. Nice is the bare minimum. I want someone to be nice but its not enough on its own. "
Agreed.
If treating a person with respect is your USP, then there’s an issue.
Also, people who think that being nice should get them an all access pass to pants land, aren’t nice |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"I have been told by a fair few women on here that I seem like a nice man, which I take as a huge compliment.
I can't and won't change who or how I am.
But being in a bit of a contemplative mood this morning, I got to wondering, is it detrimental, being "a nice man" on here.
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Happens to us nice girls too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can only be yourself. I want someone nice. I could be with someone whontreated others badly.
Its about the context that the word is used in not the word itself. |
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