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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then  or  and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me? |
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Don’t participate in those games because they’re somewhat private for the people on here that already know one another.
Better off getting to know people and chat in other threads.
These “what would you do with the person above” make no sense because they’re all strangers to me. But if your “in the club” they can be fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It happens to all of us at times.
Sometimes it’s purely because two people comment at the same time, and so yours gets lost.
It also takes a while for people to get to know you, but it’ll happen. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't partake in those games very often so I can't say I've experienced it very often.
Feeling a bit meh about constantly being skipped over is crap though - if it's a general forum thread it's not deliberate but those ones?  I think a lot of users get excited and want to comment on the woman they perceive to be hot a few posters above or joke around with their friends. It's rubbish but try and frame it as just being a game for some horny adults who haven't been outside properly for a year. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for the reassurance. It’s good to know it’s not just me.
I’d love to get to know more people, but often never know how to start a conversation. I guess I’m an over thinking. I thought these types of threads will help.
Hope you’re all keeping well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?"
Eh you rudely avoided me earlier so yeah your been bitter !!!! Na I’m kidding mate |
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"Thank you for the reassurance. It’s good to know it’s not just me.
I’d love to get to know more people, but often never know how to start a conversation. I guess I’m an over thinking. I thought these types of threads will help.
Hope you’re all keeping well. "
Don’t feel bad about it. As much a “public” forum this is it’s basically private as in there’s a bunch of people that live on here, all know eachother and it’s just inside jokes/flirting you can’t join in with.
The discussion threads are best because they value thoughtful comments over flirty banter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just avoid them. Sometimes its a case of if the face fits!! When you're a newbie but been on before people forget who you are yet talked to you in the past lol. Dont take it personally x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah it happens. I don't tend to join those threads, but occasionally I do and getting missed out is just par for the course. Being the weird hippy kid who was rubbish at sport as a child meant I was often picked last and I suppose it can feel a little reminiscent of that, but only when I'm feeling low in confidence for other reasons. Normally it's not a problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah it happens. I don't tend to join those threads, but occasionally I do and getting missed out is just par for the course. Being the weird hippy kid who was rubbish at sport as a child meant I was often picked last and I suppose it can feel a little reminiscent of that, but only when I'm feeling low in confidence for other reasons. Normally it's not a problem."
Doubt you have an issue getting attention on here !
Good for you ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah it happens. I don't tend to join those threads, but occasionally I do and getting missed out is just par for the course. Being the weird hippy kid who was rubbish at sport as a child meant I was often picked last and I suppose it can feel a little reminiscent of that, but only when I'm feeling low in confidence for other reasons. Normally it's not a problem."
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I don't take part in those posts anymore as they move too quickly and I can't keep up! Then you accidentally cause people to be skipped because by the time you post, the person you're responding to is now the third person up, not the person above. |
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I must admit I'm starting to avoid those kinds of threads now too. For the same reasons as others have said, as well as the feeling of being missed out.
But I took a step back and have myself a talking to over feeling negative about not being mentioned - yes, on one level it sucks but at the same time this is just an internet forum, not real life, and there are more important things to worry about in the grand scheme of things  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This place is very cliquey anyway and that comes across in the forums. Also as a single guy you just have to get used to being ignored on here, it’s par for the course unfortunately, in my experience anyway. Sorry to put a downer on it lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I first started using the forum I joined in with the games and commented on practically every thread. I then got bored with the games abd now just pick threads which interest me. |
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?"
I gave up on those kind of threads mate, because you’re quite correct, mostly they’re for the ‘in crowd’, but also blokes tend to skip other men to chase women they fancy, and couples skip blokes to chase couples they fancy, so the fun of the thread game loses out to sexual attraction |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was always picked last in PE unless it was rugby then I was always picked first
The one time my size worked for me. Having a dad that was the star of the local rugby team did help |
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If you are commenting after a hot girl then the likelihood is you and 10 guys are going to reply and therefore you’ll get overlooked.
Those type of games are always going to turn into chaos because every guy wants to respond to a woman and not another man.
On normal type threads, people will tend to either reply to a known person or an interesting comment. Say enough interesting things and you’ll start getting noticed.
Think you are getting over looked and therefore don’t comment, then you’ll just fade into the background.
I comment for me really...I don’t really care so much whether that comment gets replied to or ignored. I’ve said what I wanted to on the thread
K |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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If it was football, rugby, cricket infact, anything with a ball, I was àlways last to be chosen but if it was running, the teams all fought over me... Cometh the moment, cometh the man (person).
We all bring something to the party and we all get a moment to bathe in glory (eventually). |
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?"
I feel your pain, it’s often by accident though I feel. Well at least I hope so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its mostly by accident OP as the thread moves so fast, but sometimes you do see people reply quote only to friends or people they fancy which is rather off. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Thank you for the reassurance. It’s good to know it’s not just me.
I’d love to get to know more people, but often never know how to start a conversation. I guess I’m an over thinking. I thought these types of threads will help.
Hope you’re all keeping well. "
It's not just you, it happens to a lot of us x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't partake in those games very often so I can't say I've experienced it very often.
Feeling a bit meh about constantly being skipped over is crap though - if it's a general forum thread it's not deliberate but those ones? I think a lot of users get excited and want to comment on the woman they perceive to be hot a few posters above or joke around with their friends. It's rubbish but try and frame it as just being a game for some horny adults who haven't been outside properly for a year."
Pretty much |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it was football, rugby, cricket infact, anything with a ball, I was àlways last to be chosen but if it was running, the teams all fought over me... Cometh the moment, cometh the man (person).
We all bring something to the party and we all get a moment to bathe in glory (eventually)."
Exactly mate. Well said. |
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?"
Sometimes you can post at the same time as someone else. Just happens., |
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?"
Not just you.... I've been in here years but regularly get ignored or skipped over. It's amusing sometimes as it's often new guys to the forums trying their best to get noticed by the sirens  |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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"If you are commenting after a hot girl then the likelihood is you and 10 guys are going to reply and therefore you’ll get overlooked.
Those type of games are always going to turn into chaos because every guy wants to respond to a woman and not another man.
On normal type threads, people will tend to either reply to a known person or an interesting comment. Say enough interesting things and you’ll start getting noticed.
Think you are getting over looked and therefore don’t comment, then you’ll just fade into the background.
I comment for me really...I don’t really care so much whether that comment gets replied to or ignored. I’ve said what I wanted to on the thread
K"
Agree with this. Generally I comment on things that I have an opinion on & want to voice it, whether or not others agree, or disagree, or appreciate my input, is irrelevant really. I am unapologetically myself.
You aren't being overlooked on purpose. Join in with discussion threads and just be yourself & you will slowly build your own little network of familiar forumites. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'll often comment on all kinds of threads as I might have something worth contributing, im unaware of ever having my comment "quoted" or responded to but I'll carry in regardless cos I enjoy it |
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Often it happens when during the time i am writing my message, someone else has replied so the order gets messed up. I have even tried going back and answering the latest poster but then someone else has posted in the meantime! Can start to feel like another circle of the Inferno! |
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Believe me I happens all the time , to us all !!
I don't tend to play the " Do , fuck , avoid , have a beer , throw a fish at the user above " ones as I type too slow and by the time I've posted I've inadvertently said I'd love to fuck a 72 year old guy from Wigan above  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't partake in those games very often so I can't say I've experienced it very often.
Feeling a bit meh about constantly being skipped over is crap though - if it's a general forum thread it's not deliberate but those ones? I think a lot of users get excited and want to comment on the woman they perceive to be hot a few posters above or joke around with their friends. It's rubbish but try and frame it as just being a game for some horny adults who haven't been outside properly for a year."
I did actually LOL at "horny adults who haven't been out for a year" |
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I think valuing your self esteem sometimes means protecting it by not doing things that might damage it.
Even the strongest, most confident of people will feel bad about constant (perceived) rejection. I say perceived because it's not 'you' being passed over, it's a representation of you in a virtual game .
Bear in mind that the forums are contributed to by a tiny minority of fab members and those threads a tiny percentage of those contributors. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think valuing your self esteem sometimes means protecting it by not doing things that might damage it.
Even the strongest, most confident of people will feel bad about constant (perceived) rejection. I say perceived because it's not 'you' being passed over, it's a representation of you in a virtual game .
Bear in mind that the forums are contributed to by a tiny minority of fab members and those threads a tiny percentage of those contributors. "
Like this a lot !!!! Very well put |
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"I think valuing your self esteem sometimes means protecting it by not doing things that might damage it.
Even the strongest, most confident of people will feel bad about constant (perceived) rejection. I say perceived because it's not 'you' being passed over, it's a representation of you in a virtual game .
Bear in mind that the forums are contributed to by a tiny minority of fab members and those threads a tiny percentage of those contributors.
Like this a lot !!!! Very well put "
I think it's too easy to place your self worth in the hands of people who won't care for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think valuing your self esteem sometimes means protecting it by not doing things that might damage it.
Even the strongest, most confident of people will feel bad about constant (perceived) rejection. I say perceived because it's not 'you' being passed over, it's a representation of you in a virtual game .
Bear in mind that the forums are contributed to by a tiny minority of fab members and those threads a tiny percentage of those contributors.
Like this a lot !!!! Very well put
I think it's too easy to place your self worth in the hands of people who won't care for it. "
I get there are people that can handle the bullshit that comes with this place I can’t but it so eloquent as you put it but yes the threads can be tough on the people with less self confidence and I always try throw the best advice I can some is good some I’m crazy messy !
But I don’t need to add anything to what you wrote it was perfect
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?"
Welcome to the forums, common.occurance don't sweat it fuck it |
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?"
I always try and quote, to show who I’m talking to.
I guess it’s just the nature of the site, people go for who they’re attracted to, not some new nerd like me.
S’life! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?
I always try and quote, to show who I’m talking to.
I guess it’s just the nature of the site, people go for who they’re attracted to, not some new nerd like me.
S’life! "
Don’t pull the pity party poor nerd dude routine ! Your smart women love that !
I’m told anyway I don’t have first hand experience |
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?
I always try and quote, to show who I’m talking to.
I guess it’s just the nature of the site, people go for who they’re attracted to, not some new nerd like me.
S’life!
Don’t pull the pity party poor nerd dude routine ! Your smart women love that !
I’m told anyway I don’t have first hand experience "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?
I always try and quote, to show who I’m talking to.
I guess it’s just the nature of the site, people go for who they’re attracted to, not some new nerd like me.
S’life!
Don’t pull the pity party poor nerd dude routine ! Your smart women love that !
I’m told anyway I don’t have first hand experience
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Wasn’t been rude there pal just so you know just more a pep talk |
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?
I always try and quote, to show who I’m talking to.
I guess it’s just the nature of the site, people go for who they’re attracted to, not some new nerd like me.
S’life!
Don’t pull the pity party poor nerd dude routine ! Your smart women love that !
I’m told anyway I don’t have first hand experience
Wasn’t been rude there pal just so you know just more a pep talk "
I didn’t think you were , I was laughing at you laughing at yourself.
I also didn’t mean it to sound like poor me!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?
I always try and quote, to show who I’m talking to.
I guess it’s just the nature of the site, people go for who they’re attracted to, not some new nerd like me.
S’life!
Don’t pull the pity party poor nerd dude routine ! Your smart women love that !
I’m told anyway I don’t have first hand experience
Wasn’t been rude there pal just so you know just more a pep talk
I didn’t think you were , I was laughing at you laughing at yourself.
I also didn’t mean it to sound like poor me! "
As long as we’r laughing mate things can get misconstrued so easily I’m not here to be a dick head ! Glad we cleared that up |
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"Is getting skipped in the forum feeds the Fab equivalent of being the last person picked in PE?
We all love the game threads (don’t we)? ‘Send a pick to the above’, ‘would you rather… the above’
So you play along, fab, send pic, comment… only for the person above to then or and suddenly you’ve been skipped and missed out on half the fun.
Do I sound bitter, most likely, but it happens regularly. Or is it just me?
I always try and quote, to show who I’m talking to.
I guess it’s just the nature of the site, people go for who they’re attracted to, not some new nerd like me.
S’life!
Don’t pull the pity party poor nerd dude routine ! Your smart women love that !
I’m told anyway I don’t have first hand experience
Wasn’t been rude there pal just so you know just more a pep talk
I didn’t think you were , I was laughing at you laughing at yourself.
I also didn’t mean it to sound like poor me!
As long as we’r laughing mate things can get misconstrued so easily I’m not here to be a dick head ! Glad we cleared that up "
I didn’t think that mate, at all! |
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Happens all the time and it's the nature of the forums.
I rarely get fabs or winks through those threads and in the ask in private threads 99 percent of questions come from those on my friends list.
There will always be those who join threads with no intention of taking part but are happy to be fabbed and winked by others.
I used to take it personally when my forum comments were ignored but even though it still happens I persevere and don't let it put me off posting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Happens all the time and it's the nature of the forums.
I rarely get fabs or winks through those threads and in the ask in private threads 99 percent of questions come from those on my friends list.
There will always be those who join threads with no intention of taking part but are happy to be fabbed and winked by others.
I used to take it personally when my forum comments were ignored but even though it still happens I persevere and don't let it put me off posting. "
I’m glad you used the term “used” to take it personally this site in the scheme of actually life is nothing ! To much time and stress is based on social media it’s crazy to me !
Post what the fuck you want say wat you want as long as your not offending nobody ! This is fabs people let’s have a laugh and stop worrying about wat people say on forums !
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By (user no longer on site)
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Try not to take anything to heart. Consider that you’ll never engage nevermind meet the vast majority of people on the site. Its really just some randomers posting shite online, in the main. There’s many more fulfilling things to do in life.
Post what you like, when you like. If it makes you laugh keep doing it. |
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