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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
How does language make you feel?
How likely is an articulate person to be successful in getting a meet with you?
Equally, how does so-called bad language feature on your list of turn-ons/ offs?
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over a year ago
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For me, it's very important. But I'm a linguist. I love the use of language in all it's forms.
There's only two places for bad language in my world. When I'm driving and in bed. Call me a w***e in real life and I'll walk away. Do the same whilst you hold onto my hair as you push me against a wall and I'm putty  |
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"How does language make you feel?
How likely is an articulate person to be successful in getting a meet with you?
Equally, how does so-called bad language feature on your list of turn-ons/ offs?
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I'm one of those for whom written and spoken language makes a massive difference. I'm a huge fan of well spoken language, well written language and very much the opposite for bad language and bad writing.
It's one of our biggest tools for communicating and I can't understand why people are not more passionate about it.
I know school isn't cool but it's why I had to switch the Brits off last night as Lewis capaldi just came out swearing needlessly. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"For me, it's very important. But I'm a linguist. I love the use of language in all it's forms.
There's only two places for bad language in my world. When I'm driving and in bed. Call me a w***e in real life and I'll walk away. Do the same whilst you hold onto my hair as you push me against a wall and I'm putty "
So, for you it is about context as much as anything. I would agree that the appropriateness of some words depend on their context.
I, too, love languages, even the ones I do not understand but that is more about the sound per se. The careful and deliberate choice of words is incredibly erotic, isn't it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't swear for hell for it.
Only when seriously angry do I swear but it's never with a raised voice or shouting.
I feel if you are shouting and being abusive to each other then it's over. Time to part.
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
I like to consider myself a word smith, I love the use of language.years ago, I wrote for my band, I write poetry when the mood takes me.
I like to think I am articulate, I will, most of the time choose my words carefully.
I have been know to use rude or crude language in the heat of passion, but tend to find it off putting in certain public situations, then that's just |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t get me wrong I can swear with the best of them but I prefer not to, I only tend to when I’m around people who use that language more than myself.
As for chats I prefer something intellectual or something stimulating than the usual “hi how are you” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Language and the ability to communicate are super important to me.
I overthink and lack of quality communication feeds the voices in my head.
I relish good conversations and I take pride in being a good conversationalist. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me, it's very important. But I'm a linguist. I love the use of language in all it's forms.
There's only two places for bad language in my world. When I'm driving and in bed. Call me a w***e in real life and I'll walk away. Do the same whilst you hold onto my hair as you push me against a wall and I'm putty
So, for you it is about context as much as anything. I would agree that the appropriateness of some words depend on their context.
I, too, love languages, even the ones I do not understand but that is more about the sound per se. The careful and deliberate choice of words is incredibly erotic, isn't it?"
It is very erotic
And context is extremely important. I really frown on casual use of swearing/bad language. My grown up children still apologise if they come out with something they know I'll disapprove of.
There is a time and a place for everything x |
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I like someone articulate, and receiving an interesting and well written message is a joy.
I enjoy playing with words and I tend to most enjoy talking to others who take a similar enjoyment in it.
That said, as long as someone can communicate well enough to get their message across I'm not overly concerned whether their language is flowery. If I need to spend time deciphering a message to get the gist of it I'm going to get bored very quickly (short attention span).
I tend not to swear in messages, but I don't mind someone else swearing though I might find it odd in an initial message. In verbal conversations it needs to be extreme for me to find it off-putting. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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So I am thinking if people are attracted to seductive language (in the broad sense of the word, not just limited to fabs and the scene), it really would make sense to craft our messages to each other with a bit of thought? Thinking of what we want to achieve with our message and choose the words accordingly? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And as for bad language ... it is a tool like any other set of words. I use bad words as emphasis all the time. It's just how I talk.
That was a nice dinner. fuck me, that was a nice dinner. One tells you a fact
The other emphasises how nice it was.
I'm not about to rock up to my sister in law and call her a slag. Or call a random stranger a slut. I'm not disrespectful.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"So I am thinking if people are attracted to seductive language (in the broad sense of the word, not just limited to fabs and the scene), it really would make sense to craft our messages to each other with a bit of thought? Thinking of what we want to achieve with our message and choose the words accordingly?"
Absolutely, I think a combination of suggesting, hinting, playing with possibilities with a bit of restraint can work well. There has to be interest and work to do on both sides or it becomes dull. Like when you give a presentation , you have to tell a story or sell an idea to bring them in, but you also try to trigger the audiences imagination so they create new possibilities and fill in the gaps themselves, it’s never a one way delivery, or they just nod off
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
"And as for bad language ... it is a tool like any other set of words. I use bad words as emphasis all the time. It's just how I talk.
That was a nice dinner. fuck me, that was a nice dinner. One tells you a fact
The other emphasises how nice it was.
I'm not about to rock up to my sister in law and call her a slag. Or call a random stranger a slut. I'm not disrespectful.
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I think someone just stole his dinner jacket because it was so nice |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It’s not a deal breaker for me, personality is important though."
I understand, and for some it may, for others it may not be a deal breaker.
I was more focussing on how language and a well presented message for example could lead to many more, more successful meets on here as well. If you guys realised that many, perhaps the majority of women for example respond well to an articulate initial message rather than a "how's you" or "what u up to" etc... there would be less frustration perhaps?
And... personality is hugely important and it is reflected in how somebody talks and writes. |
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I'm drawn to people who have a good knowledge of language in all walks of life, particularly if they are able to play with it - clever wit is something I enjoy. I find the opposite to be true of people who don't have a good command of language. A few years ago I worked with a younger lady who the entire team were frequently having to explain the meaning of words to (not obscure words, just words we were using in day to day conversation). It was a very rare occasion that her contribution to a conversation didn't consist of sex or something to do with the Kardashians. Try as I might I just couldn't warm to her.
With regards to bad language, I think that the situation and knowing your audience are key. I have worked for years in environments where it is commonplace, be that as an outlet for pressure or just in a general "banter" and that's the way things are kind of way - I think it has conditioned me to be the same way, and I do swear quite a bit at work. But I wouldn't do it outside of such environments, for instance in front of someone's children. If in doubt, don't swear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bad language is defo no especially in day to day conversation. I work in an male environment which is quite sweary but tend to hold back. Maybe I am being a snob but I feel people that swear can't articulate themselves very well  |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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I’m a bit of a language geek. My job involved explaining the nuts and bolts of languages to others for years, so it’s something I enjoy dealing with.
Both English and Welsh are amazing, so I’ve plenty to keep me occupied.
That said, I totally understand that its not so important for others. That’s fine too!
Obviously, I have a huge crush on Susie Dent . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As it's been mentioned, for bad language it depends on the context.
As for someone being articulate, it's definitely a plus and something I feel is very impressive as long as it comes off naturally and as snobbish. Definitely something I strive towards with some difficulty I must admit with English not being my first language and all that  |
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"As it's been mentioned, for bad language it depends on the context.
As for someone being articulate, it's definitely a plus and something I feel is very impressive as long as it comes off naturally and as snobbish. Definitely something I strive towards with some difficulty I must admit with English not being my first language and all that "
Same here.
I like when people can write a message in an articulate way and I like good grammar and spellings... that said it won’t stop me from liking someone if their English is bad |
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