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Intimidating

By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

A thread the other day really had my interest about forumites not meeting other forumites and the reasons why.

I’ve been told a few times in DMs that some women are intimidated by me accuse I’m “popular” in here and have met some beautiful women according to my veris. I’ve never been one of the cool kids lol

They’re also mentioning that they don’t think they’d measure up to my expectations and that they aren’t good/experienced enough.

If you’ve met me, and according to Lexi, half the forumites on here have, then you’d know just how far from the truth this idea of me is. I’m shy, unassuming and real quiet in real life.

I do understand this problem though. I often see people on here and think “she’s popular, there’s no way she’d want to speak to me”

I’m wondering just how widespread this forum pedestal thing stretches? It seems that for every person on the forum thinking “this person is too good/popular for me”, the person that’s thinking that could be thinking that about you!!!

Any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's why I never get any messages. They are all thinking 'he's way out of my league'.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"That's why I never get any messages. They are all thinking 'he's way out of my league'."

same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There was only only one intimidator.

That was Earnhardt

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"That's why I never get any messages. They are all thinking 'he's way out of my league'."

I get the opposite messages! Maybe they’re trying to let me down gently? Haha

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

"A thread the other day really had my interest about forumites not meeting other forumites and the reasons why.

They’re also mentioning that they don’t think they’d measure up to my expectations and that they aren’t good/experienced enough.

If you’ve met me, and according to Lexi, half the forumites on here have, then you’d know just how far from the truth this idea of me is. I’m shy, unassuming and real quiet in real life.

I do understand this problem though. I often see people on here and think “she’s popular, there’s no way she’d want to speak to me”

Any thoughts?"

Did you make a comeback/change your name, OP?

I’ve been here three years and hadn’t seen you since very recently, so can’t comment on your popularity really!

There are people I’d go

if/when I met them in real life (the ones I’ve mentioned in the crush/I fancy you threads) but I am confident enough to chat and have a drink... I spent most of my 20s scared to talk to people. Not anymore!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's why I never get any messages. They are all thinking 'he's way out of my league'.

same

Our coolness is so cool others find it intimidating

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By *gent CoulsonMan over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

In the best possible way, you one of the biggest male flirts on here

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"That's why I never get any messages. They are all thinking 'he's way out of my league'.

same

Our coolness is so cool others find it intimidating

I'm sure it's something like that

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

Iv been told I’m intimidating

I’m not that scary am I

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Iv been told I’m intimidating

I’m not that scary am I

Same

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

No one intimidates me. In the past if i've fancied someone i've never had an issue of letting it be known and if at a social, approaching them for a chat.

I certainly hope no one's felt intimidated in approaching me before

I'm very laid back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's why I never get any messages. They are all thinking 'he's way out of my league'.

I get the opposite messages! Maybe they’re trying to let me down gently? Haha"

Or they know your track record for liking Silverware..

Unlike your team.. And to be fair mine as well

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"A thread the other day really had my interest about forumites not meeting other forumites and the reasons why.

They’re also mentioning that they don’t think they’d measure up to my expectations and that they aren’t good/experienced enough.

If you’ve met me, and according to Lexi, half the forumites on here have, then you’d know just how far from the truth this idea of me is. I’m shy, unassuming and real quiet in real life.

I do understand this problem though. I often see people on here and think “she’s popular, there’s no way she’d want to speak to me”

Any thoughts?

Did you make a comeback/change your name, OP?

I’ve been here three years and hadn’t seen you since very recently, so can’t comment on your popularity really!

There are people I’d go

I was before lockdown. But lost my username password and gave up haha

Then got into a vanilla relationship and left fab for a bit.

Back with a vengeance now though haha

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

What is going on today?

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"In the best possible way, you one of the biggest male flirts on here

It’s all banter!!!

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It’s a very common thought process.

I’ve been around long enough to have seen all sides and to have seen the man behind the curtain, popularity is just a fleeting thing that comes and goes like the tides.

Essentially it just comes down to how much a person posts and is responded to.

I’ve had people giddy to meet me at socials because of my posting and threads, which I find very odd.

Yes, people do see it like that but we’re all just people, we all go to the toilet, do the shopping and go to work. There aren’t any celebrities here, only people posting stuff on the internet for others to read.

I find that placing others on a pedestal only serves to put more pressure onto a meet and I’d rather meet people who consider me and them as an equal, as that’s what we are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me thats pretty much everyday life not just on here

It can take me days to even pluck up the courage to message somone on here as i automatically think they think im weird,ugly blah blah blah. Most of the time I wont even message them

But i know that its probably hangups i have from being bullied at school, who/what i am and from being rather fat years ago taints your personal image of yourself and confidence.

But actually i have found being on here has in general improved my confidence and kinda helped with my fear of rejection though atleast

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"That's why I never get any messages. They are all thinking 'he's way out of my league'.

I get the opposite messages! Maybe they’re trying to let me down gently? Haha

Or they know your track record for liking Silverware..

Unlike your team.. And to be fair mine as well

Low blow!! Was just starting to like you haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You could always keep your veris hidden so that nobody knows who you've met and all these women will stop feeling so intimidated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In the best possible way, you one of the biggest male flirts on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What is going on today? "

It's the Wednesday of Introspection.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

What is going on today? "

Twilight zone... just go with it

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"It’s a very common thought process.

I’ve been around long enough to have seen all sides and to have seen the man behind the curtain, popularity is just a fleeting thing that comes and goes like the tides.

Essentially it just comes down to how much a person posts and is responded to.

I’ve had people giddy to meet me at socials because of my posting and threads, which I find very odd.

I find that placing others on a pedestal only serves to put more pressure onto a meet and I’d rather meet people who consider me and them as an equal, as that’s what we are"

I 100% agree with the first comment and 100% disagree with the last lol

Firstly, yes, I noticed that there’s a direct correlation between forum posts and messages received.

Lastly, I was brought up to genuinely place every woman on a pedestal. So no matter what happens, I’ll never be on the same level as them. Probably why I get a lot of “respectful” and “gentleman” comments.

It’s a curse lol

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

People find us intimidating in our normal life if they don't know us. They form a false impression of us based on how we look, the clothes we wear and the cars we drive. A case in point is an ex colleague visited me and was very surprised to find I didn't live in a show home with manicured gardens. She's much more friendly towards me now

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I've not thought about it to be honest as I don't put or see people on pedestals, If I browse through everyone there is not anyone that stands out above all others and that's the way it should be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll talk to and meet anyone for a drink and a chat.

When it comes to someone I fancy, I get excited mostly. There are times I'll be like "he's really nice, whys he so nice to me" but never intimated by others or feel unworthy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are a few women on here who are so incredibly beautiful, that make me think what can I offer this person.

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

"Iv been told I’m intimidating

I’m not that scary am I

Same

You can intimidate me anytime

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No one intimidates me. In the past if i've fancied someone i've never had an issue of letting it be known and if at a social, approaching them for a chat.

I certainly hope no one's felt intimidated in approaching me before

I'm very laid back."

Hence the name?

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I dont feel intimidated, if I like someone I'll let them know. I will however avoid the "so called popular ones" and the ones that claim everything is "banter" as they can end up causing so much drama....

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Maybe we thin we are out of somebody's league when insecure about a particular trait we have, be it weight related, skin-related, hair related or whatever. That insecurity feeds the feeling of not being good enough. Of course we do not know whether that person sees us in the same light, perhaps our insecurity is just what they are attracted to?

Just a thought?

Decided now not to try last summer's shorts on, well not just yet

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Modest brag?

That's quite a good username actually

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"There are a few women on here who are so incredibly beautiful, that make me think what can I offer this person."

Do you think beautiful women deserve more than not so beautiful women?

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By *ittycenMan over a year ago

south west

I chat with one lady on here who seems to fancy the absolute arse off me - I was stunned when she actually answered me as I thought (and still do) she is way out of my league, she is an absolute goddess!!

But after she left fab a year or so ago, he came looking for me when she came back on. Really nice surprise, in all senses

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A thread the other day really had my interest about forumites not meeting other forumites and the reasons why.

They’re also mentioning that they don’t think they’d measure up to my expectations and that they aren’t good/experienced enough.

If you’ve met me, and according to Lexi, half the forumites on here have, then you’d know just how far from the truth this idea of me is. I’m shy, unassuming and real quiet in real life.

I do understand this problem though. I often see people on here and think “she’s popular, there’s no way she’d want to speak to me”

Any thoughts?"

I just find you funny

Certainly not intimidating

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By *irty desireWoman over a year ago

newcatle

I just don’t get all this play ground shit.. no one is above or below anyone in my opinion!!!

I am not popular nor do i want to be.. My personality and full on sexyness gets me what i want from this site

See it more as mature and immature!! This might well get me well n truly hammered.. but the hay am exactly the same in real life and it works well there too!!

I don’t need some random blowing hot air up my ass because lets face it .... no guy is nicer than a one who hasn’t fucked you yet!!

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By *ittycenMan over a year ago

south west

"I chat with one lady on here who seems to fancy the absolute arse off me - I was stunned when she actually answered me as I thought (and still do) she is way out of my league, she is an absolute goddess!!

But after she left fab a year or so ago, he came looking for me when she came back on. Really nice surprise, in all senses"

*she came looking, not he

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

I tend not to bother with people who flirt a lot or who I deem "in demand"

Firstly I don't want the drama that comes with it from others.

Secondly I ain't fussed about meeting really, so certainly ain't gonna "compete" for someone/something I'm not giddy over. I don't personally see things as a competition or ego boost, but have been on the receiving end of those who do.

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By *gent CoulsonMan over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"There are a few women on here who are so incredibly beautiful, that make me think what can I offer this person."
some times you just have to take the plunge, worst thing that can happen is that say no

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"A thread the other day really had my interest about forumites not meeting other forumites and the reasons why.

They’re also mentioning that they don’t think they’d measure up to my expectations and that they aren’t good/experienced enough.

If you’ve met me, and according to Lexi, half the forumites on here have, then you’d know just how far from the truth this idea of me is. I’m shy, unassuming and real quiet in real life.

I do understand this problem though. I often see people on here and think “she’s popular, there’s no way she’d want to speak to me”

Any thoughts?"

Perception is reality. Even more true in this virtual world where the vast majority of people's knowledge and prejudices of others are based on a few sentences rather than actually meeting and experiencing eachother.

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"No one intimidates me. In the past if i've fancied someone i've never had an issue of letting it be known and if at a social, approaching them for a chat.

I certainly hope no one's felt intimidated in approaching me before

I'm very laid back.

Hence the name?

Yep!

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By *lbinoGorillaMan over a year ago

Redditch

I'm intimidated by pretty much everyone, which is down to my own insecurities I know, but it's why I don't chat to many people on here - usually a follow up to a thread comment - and don't often talk to strangers if I'm out and about. Maybe a shared look, and I'll give them my single eyebrow raise if they're lucky, but that's about it

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By *ancer36Woman over a year ago

Stirling

I never think of anyone as popular/non popular it’s a high school mentality in my opinion, intimidation is a reflection of yourself in many cases it’s derived from events in your past.

I’m a sexually confident woman and make no apologies for it but I’m also approachable and never rude to anyone.

I think there are people who may read too much into the flirtations and perceived confidence someone appears to have on the forums...some people are just naturally flirty and some are more introverted neither are right or wrong ways to be.

I’ll just be myself, I understand that I’m not everyone nor would I want to be and I’ll send a message if someone catches my eye, the worst that could happen is a momentary slip from the pedestal I put myself on, I’ll dust myself off and get back on it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No one intimidates me. In the past if i've fancied someone i've never had an issue of letting it be known and if at a social, approaching them for a chat.

I certainly hope no one's felt intimidated in approaching me before

I'm very laid back.

Hence the name?

Yep!

Maybe I should have thought of that although 'Pink and chilled' just makes me think of gin

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"In the best possible way, you one of the biggest male flirts on here

I said don’t start!!! Lol

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I just don’t get all this play ground shit.. no one is above or below anyone in my opinion!!!

I am not popular nor do i want to be.. My personality and full on sexyness gets me what i want from this site

See it more as mature and immature!! This might well get me well n truly hammered.. but the hay am exactly the same in real life and it works well there too!!

I don’t need some random blowing hot air up my ass because lets face it .... no guy is nicer than a one who hasn’t fucked you yet!!"

That is a great summary! Made me smile as well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm intimidated by pretty much everyone, which is down to my own insecurities I know, but it's why I don't chat to many people on here - usually a follow up to a thread comment - and don't often talk to strangers if I'm out and about. Maybe a shared look, and I'll give them my single eyebrow raise if they're lucky, but that's about it

After the eyebrow raise you can follow with "Hey, how you doin'?"

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"No one intimidates me. In the past if i've fancied someone i've never had an issue of letting it be known and if at a social, approaching them for a chat.

I certainly hope no one's felt intimidated in approaching me before

I'm very laid back.

Hence the name?

Yep!

Maybe I should have thought of that although 'Pink and chilled' just makes me think of gin

Makes me think of rosé

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

PPP - People’s Pedestal Perception.

Someone’s hottie is another persons nottie. We all like different, so if you don’t ask you’ll never know.

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

I’m very shy and easily intimidated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m very shy and easily intimidated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Modest brag?

That's quite a good username actually

Bragwurst

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I’m very shy and easily intimidated

I call bullshit on that

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By *irty desireWoman over a year ago

newcatle

No will a feel down that my 1st response got ignored

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

I've never felt intimidated, why would I? There's either reciprocatal fancying or there isn't. I suppose I have previously had fleeting thoughts of "is it worth all the bitching, sniping and general unpleasant behaviour that's going to be thrown my way if I "dare" to meet a "forum popular" guy....but that's a different matter entirely, although one that still doesn't faze me in the slightest

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"I've never felt intimidated, why would I? There's either reciprocatal fancying or there isn't. I suppose I have previously had fleeting thoughts of "is it worth all the bitching, sniping and general unpleasant behaviour that's going to be thrown my way if I "dare" to meet a "forum popular" guy....but that's a different matter entirely, although one that still doesn't faze me in the slightest

The forum bitching is, from my perspective, BS. I know it has happened, but I’ve met one or two forumites and I’ve never had any bitching or arguing.

Maybe I’ve just been lucky in the people I’ve met.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"It’s a very common thought process.

I’ve been around long enough to have seen all sides and to have seen the man behind the curtain, popularity is just a fleeting thing that comes and goes like the tides.

Essentially it just comes down to how much a person posts and is responded to.

I’ve had people giddy to meet me at socials because of my posting and threads, which I find very odd.

I find that placing others on a pedestal only serves to put more pressure onto a meet and I’d rather meet people who consider me and them as an equal, as that’s what we are

I 100% agree with the first comment and 100% disagree with the last lol

Firstly, yes, I noticed that there’s a direct correlation between forum posts and messages received.

It’s a curse lol"

It’s perfectly possible to treat everyone with respect and be gentlemanly whilst still behaving as equals.

I’ve found in the past that pedestals only serve to elevate a person to a level of unattainability or make someone into something that they’re not, which then dooms interactions.

If what you’re doing works for you though, that’s great, I’m just saying how I feel about things

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"It’s a very common thought process.

I’ve been around long enough to have seen all sides and to have seen the man behind the curtain, popularity is just a fleeting thing that comes and goes like the tides.

Essentially it just comes down to how much a person posts and is responded to.

I’ve had people giddy to meet me at socials because of my posting and threads, which I find very odd.

I find that placing others on a pedestal only serves to put more pressure onto a meet and I’d rather meet people who consider me and them as an equal, as that’s what we are

I 100% agree with the first comment and 100% disagree with the last lol

Firstly, yes, I noticed that there’s a direct correlation between forum posts and messages received.

It’s a curse lol

It’s perfectly possible to treat everyone with respect and be gentlemanly whilst still behaving as equals.

I’ve found in the past that pedestals only serve to elevate a person to a level of unattainability or make someone into something that they’re not, which then dooms interactions.

If what you’re doing works for you though, that’s great, I’m just saying how I feel about things"

And I applaud your opinion.

It doesn’t work for me though, with self worth issues and low self esteem, which are both ingrained into my psyche, I’m always putting extra pressure on myself to try harder to impress.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Iv been told I’m intimidating

I’m not that scary am I

Scare the fuck out of me

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"PPP - People’s Pedestal Perception.

Someone’s hottie is another persons nottie. We all like different, so if you don’t ask you’ll never know. "

This is brilliant!

I’ve been waffling for years trying to bottle it down and you’ve nailed it

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

"Iv been told I’m intimidating

I’m not that scary am I

Scare the fuck out of me"

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I personally prefer the ones who don't use the forums...x

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"Iv been told I’m intimidating

I’m not that scary am I

Terrifying haha

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

The forum bitching is, from my perspective, BS. I know it has happened, but I’ve met one or two forumites and I’ve never had any bitching or arguing.

Maybe I’ve just been lucky in the people I’ve met. "

You never know, the might have been many a catfight because of you... lol

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By *ockosaurusMan over a year ago

Warwick

I do often feel intimidated by people that come across as more extroverted and confident, but I think that is simply because it highlights to me my own more introverted nature which throughout life has always been cast as a more negative trait, and so ends up making me feel a lesser person.

It's nothing to do with the other person, it's purely my own lack of confidence and insecurities.

What I personally love about Fab though, is that through that chatting and being fabbed by some of these people, it's actually boosting my confidence and in turn making me less intimidated.

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

"Iv been told I’m intimidating

I’m not that scary am I

Terrifying haha"

Last time I offer to bounce on your inflatable donkey

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"Iv been told I’m intimidating

I’m not that scary am I

Terrifying haha

Last time I offer to bounce on your inflatable donkey

Don't get him started on that donkey

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do often feel intimidated by people that come across as more extroverted and confident, but I think that is simply because it highlights to me my own more introverted nature which throughout life has always been cast as a more negative trait, and so ends up making me feel a lesser person.

It's nothing to do with the other person, it's purely my own lack of confidence and insecurities.

What I personally love about Fab though, is that through that chatting and being fabbed by some of these people, it's actually boosting my confidence and in turn making me less intimidated."

You shouldn't feel intimidated, by anyone

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

I’m out of all of your leagues… unfortunately for me the wrong end of the table!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's nothing to do with the other person, it's purely my own lack of confidence and insecurities.

What I personally love about Fab though, is that through that chatting and being fabbed by some of these people, it's actually boosting my confidence and in turn making me less intimidated."

Yep pretty much similar to me

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By *ockosaurusMan over a year ago

Warwick

It's nothing to do with the other person, it's purely my own lack of confidence and insecurities.

What I personally love about Fab though, is that through that chatting and being fabbed by some of these people, it's actually boosting my confidence and in turn making me less intimidated.

You shouldn't feel intimidated, by anyone "

Thank you.

I'm getting better

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"PPP - People’s Pedestal Perception.

Someone’s hottie is another persons nottie. We all like different, so if you don’t ask you’ll never know. "

Ooo...perfectly stated!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Right I keep ignoring these kinda threads as it's been going on for weeks now.

I don't give a fuck who's " popular " or who isn't.

I take each person at face value and have made some great friends .

Some of my friends are great friends with some of my other friends , and some aren't. And that's fine.

Just don't involve me in any bullshit or drama coz I can't be arsed with it .

That's all

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

"Right I keep ignoring these kinda threads as it's been going on for weeks now.

I don't give a fuck who's " popular " or who isn't.

I take each person at face value and have made some great friends .

Some of my friends are great friends with some of my other friends , and some aren't. And that's fine.

Just don't involve me in any bullshit or drama coz I can't be arsed with it .

That's all

True dat

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

"I’m very shy and easily intimidated

What?

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

"I’m very shy and easily intimidated

I call bullshit on that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have had it and I don't like it.

Plain and simple, in person, I am extremely approachable, especially in clubs.

Don't think you can't say hi

If out and about doing daily activities then steer clear, I would say obviously but you know there are always a few who don't grasp it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi NYCsausage

You’re the nicest guy I’ve come across in the forums, always funny, respectful and the first with an encouraging word to others. You’re the first to laugh at yourself and others. Regardless of what others think fucking like you mate.

It’s the same as this popular rubbish

Who cares I don’t what gets my back up is the people who clearly like to comment on threads for the sake of saying something. Even when it’s clearly a snide comment to others. I’ve seen it in a few different threads now and I just avoid reading there waffle.

Say fuck em NYC if they think that they’re clearly the wrong people to want to talk to.

I’ve been labelled with everything from racist/baby killer/scum/invader all for the job I do.

I don’t care about those people and you shouldn’t either,

You’re well liked on here and I bet you are at home

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's nothing to do with the other person, it's purely my own lack of confidence and insecurities.

What I personally love about Fab though, is that through that chatting and being fabbed by some of these people, it's actually boosting my confidence and in turn making me less intimidated.

You shouldn't feel intimidated, by anyone

Thank you.

I'm getting better

I've noticed.

I will continue to remind you too

You're a good one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right I keep ignoring these kinda threads as it's been going on for weeks now.

I don't give a fuck who's " popular " or who isn't.

I take each person at face value and have made some great friends .

Some of my friends are great friends with some of my other friends , and some aren't. And that's fine.

Just don't involve me in any bullshit or drama coz I can't be arsed with it .

That's all

Perfect post

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Opposite I suspect I don't come across well and.i.am less than popular.

Yet the rare moment I meet It goes well and have been told I.am easy to talk to.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Right I keep ignoring these kinda threads as it's been going on for weeks now.

I don't give a fuck who's " popular " or who isn't.

I take each person at face value and have made some great friends .

Some of my friends are great friends with some of my other friends , and some aren't. And that's fine.

Just don't involve me in any bullshit or drama coz I can't be arsed with it .

That's all

True dat

"
Thanks Belle

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Right I keep ignoring these kinda threads as it's been going on for weeks now.

I don't give a fuck who's " popular " or who isn't.

I take each person at face value and have made some great friends .

Some of my friends are great friends with some of my other friends , and some aren't. And that's fine.

Just don't involve me in any bullshit or drama coz I can't be arsed with it .

That's all

Perfect post

Cheers Tom

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Right I keep ignoring these kinda threads as it's been going on for weeks now.

I don't give a fuck who's " popular " or who isn't.

I take each person at face value and have made some great friends .

Some of my friends are great friends with some of my other friends , and some aren't. And that's fine.

Just don't involve me in any bullshit or drama coz I can't be arsed with it .

That's all

Amen to that grumpy arse!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Right I keep ignoring these kinda threads as it's been going on for weeks now.

I don't give a fuck who's " popular " or who isn't.

I take each person at face value and have made some great friends .

Some of my friends are great friends with some of my other friends , and some aren't. And that's fine.

Just don't involve me in any bullshit or drama coz I can't be arsed with it .

That's all

Amen to that grumpy arse!

Cheers Nora

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I really want to agree with a poster but I don't want a thumbs up. Dilemma.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I really want to agree with a poster but I don't want a thumbs up. Dilemma.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I really want to agree with a poster but I don't want a thumbs up. Dilemma.

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I really want to agree with a poster but I don't want a thumbs up. Dilemma.

Just do it!-

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

That's weird OP you are not in the least bit intimidating!

Maybe some women are very easily intimidated due to low self esteem?

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

The forum bitching is, from my perspective, BS. I know it has happened, but I’ve met one or two forumites and I’ve never had any bitching or arguing.

Maybe I’ve just been lucky in the people I’ve met.

You never know, the might have been many a catfight because of you... lol

I’m definitely not worth fighting over lol so I know for certain

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"Iv been told I’m intimidating

I’m not that scary am I

Terrifying haha

Last time I offer to bounce on your inflatable donkey

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I really want to agree with a poster but I don't want a thumbs up. Dilemma.

You intimidate me Meli

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really want to agree with a poster but I don't want a thumbs up. Dilemma.

You intimidate me Meli

Meli's alright

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I only try and be intimidating in the dungeon. That seems to be the done thing...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh I do love a good forumieee bitch session

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I really want to agree with a poster but I don't want a thumbs up. Dilemma.

You intimidate me Meli

Meli's alright

Yeah she ain’t bad

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By *ookie46Woman over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"PPP - People’s Pedestal Perception.

Someone’s hottie is another persons nottie. We all like different, so if you don’t ask you’ll never know. "

Nailed it

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"Hi NYCsausage

It’s the same as this popular rubbish

Say fuck em NYC if they think that they’re clearly the wrong people to want to talk to.

I’ve been labelled with everything from racist/baby killer/scum/invader all for the job I do.

I don’t care about those people and you shouldn’t either,

You’re well liked on here and I bet you are at home

Just on the school run, I’ll read and reply why I get home.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I really want to agree with a poster but I don't want a thumbs up. Dilemma.

You intimidate me Meli

Meli's alright

Yeah she ain’t bad

Aww shucks guys, that's all I've wanted to read. I don't want to be popular or intimidating, I just want people to stop and occasionally think, yeah she ain't bad for a waffling pretentious sort.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I really want to agree with a poster but I don't want a thumbs up. Dilemma.

You intimidate me Meli

Meli's alright

Yeah she ain’t bad

Aww shucks guys, that's all I've wanted to read. I don't want to be popular or intimidating, I just want people to stop and occasionally think, yeah she ain't bad for a waffling pretentious sort.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like to go on the forums and love the banter. I don't think people find me intimidating at all. Unless anyone knows otherwise?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The trouble with pedestals is the competition to get on them only to then fall off them ... rather spend my life being ignored and happy

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"Hi NYCsausage

It’s the same as this popular rubbish

Say fuck em NYC if they think that they’re clearly the wrong people to want to talk to.

I’ve been labelled with everything from racist/baby killer/scum/invader all for the job I do.

I don’t care about those people and you shouldn’t either,

You’re well liked on here and I bet you are at home

That’s a cool message. You just ooze cool haha

Thank you. All I want is to bring positivity to the forums, and if that includes self deprecating then that’s fine by me.

My inbox is open to anyone and I’ll always be roly even if someone hasn’t read my profile, I’ll still have a laugh with them lol

What else are we here for? Cant be the sex cause we’re on lockdown haha

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By *isAdventure69Woman over a year ago

Hampshire

"That's why I never get any messages. They are all thinking 'he's way out of my league'.

same

Same

Oh wait I'm not a royalty either ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's why I never get any messages. They are all thinking 'he's way out of my league'.

I get the opposite messages! Maybe they’re trying to let me down gently? Haha

Or they know your track record for liking Silverware..

Unlike your team.. And to be fair mine as well

Low blow!! Was just starting to like you haha"

Sorry fella I just couldn't resist it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know if intimidated is the right word, but I do feel less than with some people. And it's not just to do with forum "popularity" can be a number of things added together that make me feel that way. And that's my problem not theirs at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A thread the other day really had my interest about forumites not meeting other forumites and the reasons why.

They’re also mentioning that they don’t think they’d measure up to my expectations and that they aren’t good/experienced enough.

If you’ve met me, and according to Lexi, half the forumites on here have, then you’d know just how far from the truth this idea of me is. I’m shy, unassuming and real quiet in real life.

I do understand this problem though. I often see people on here and think “she’s popular, there’s no way she’d want to speak to me”

Any thoughts?"

Your way outta my league, I coundnt cope

....

All jokes aside no body is better or worse than anybody else, if I think someone is out of me league, the thinking stems from feeling insecure within myself, not because they've been put on a pedestal...it always has to be brought back to the first person, what is going on for me to be feeling this way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

We could double up.

For research purposes only of course....nothing else.

I have zero ulterior motive here I swear

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By * Sophie xTV/TS over a year ago

Derby

"If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

We could double up.

For research purposes only of course....nothing else.

I have zero ulterior motive here I swear

Get in the queue bitch!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

We could double up.

For research purposes only of course....nothing else.

I have zero ulterior motive here I swear

Get in the queue bitch!

I am, 1 step spot in front of you

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By * Sophie xTV/TS over a year ago

Derby

"If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

We could double up.

For research purposes only of course....nothing else.

I have zero ulterior motive here I swear

Get in the queue bitch!

I am, 1 step spot in front of you

And I'm your taxi so who's going to get there first

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"forum pedestal"

Thanks OP. I needed that laugh!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

We could double up.

For research purposes only of course....nothing else.

I have zero ulterior motive here I swear

Get in the queue bitch!

I am, 1 step spot in front of you

And I'm your taxi so who's going to get there first

A song just popped in my head.

"You can reach me by railway, you can reach me by trailway

You can reach me on an airplane, you can reach me with your mind.

You can reach me by caravan, cross the desert like an Arab man

I don't care how you get here, just get here if you can"

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By *nkforthekinkMan over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

Not many people have had a bronze statue cast of them OP maybe make that picture private till after the next meet.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

Never thought this.... gotta be your own biggest fan lol!

Your lucky you get to speak to me

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

It’s all a load of waffle!

I’ve never seen so much smoke blowing up people arses these days on here. It’s cringy!

It’s not about being popular….. it’s about how much arse licking is done. Didn’t use to be like this.

I don’t get as involved on the forums as much as I used to but believe me if and when you meet me in person no one intimidates me. Love me or hate me I’m not actually that arsed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Iv been told I’m intimidating

I’m not that scary am I

"
.. Yeah you are soooo intimidating! God love anyone who tries to message you....Hahah!!

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"It’s all a load of waffle!

I’ve never seen so much smoke blowing up people arses these days on here. It’s cringy!

It’s not about being popular….. it’s about how much arse licking is done. Didn’t use to be like this.

I don’t get as involved on the forums as much as I used to but believe me if and when you meet me in person no one intimidates me. Love me or hate me I’m not actually that arsed

You intimidated me when I first met you haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

"
... Hahaha.. Brilliant... They have to work their socks off to even breathe the same air.. Haha.. Love it

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"Never thought this.... gotta be your own biggest fan lol!

Your lucky you get to speak to me

I know x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t find men intimidating on here. Might find a few idiots in my search though. Mr Sausage I’m sure we will meet at some point when I shout across the club room ‘Mr Sausage’ haha

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"I really want to agree with a poster but I don't want a thumbs up. Dilemma.

Making light of people's insecurities only adds fuel to the fire.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

To anyone who feels intimidated by any of the "popular" people on here, if you met them at a social you would wonder why you were so affected by them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People are people - that's it.

Why does everything in life have to be a popularity contest?

Im liked because I'm nice, chatty and fun - that's what I tell myself anyway

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"People are people - that's it.

Why does everything in life have to be a popularity contest?

Im liked because I'm nice, chatty and fun - that's what I tell myself anyway

Haha we just put up with you

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

"Iv been told I’m intimidating

I’m not that scary am I

.. Yeah you are soooo intimidating! God love anyone who tries to message you....Hahah!!

I know right

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I’m very shy. I get intimidated by blinding beauty (he may know who he is) and by outgoing gregarious souls.

If I ever refer to someone as forum royalty I mean it in a tongue in cheek way, as with most of my posts, they are to be taken with a slight pinch of salt and a raised eyebrow.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I really want to agree with a poster but I don't want a thumbs up. Dilemma.

Making light of people's insecurities only adds fuel to the fire.

I'm not making light of a person's insecurities, it was a playful teasing to Grumpy who I've told before that I don't particularly like thumbs up. I agreed with his post that was directly quoted above me.

There's no fuel added to fire but a misinterpretation that I'm not quite sure why I explained. Ach well.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

We could double up.

For research purposes only of course....nothing else.

I have zero ulterior motive here I swear

Get in the queue bitch!

I am, 1 step spot in front of you

And I'm your taxi so who's going to get there first

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People are people - that's it.

Why does everything in life have to be a popularity contest?

Im liked because I'm nice, chatty and fun - that's what I tell myself anyway

Haha we just put up with you

Such a twat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

We could double up.

For research purposes only of course....nothing else.

I have zero ulterior motive here I swear

Get in the queue bitch!

I am, 1 step spot in front of you

And I'm your taxi so who's going to get there first

A song just popped in my head.

"You can reach me by railway, you can reach me by trailway

You can reach me on an airplane, you can reach me with your mind.

You can reach me by caravan, cross the desert like an Arab man

I don't care how you get here, just get here if you can"

What time am I picking you up Ivy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one intimidates me really. However, us regular forumite folk are only a very very small percentage of people who use this site. So really, we should all just relax, approach anyone who we like and see what happens. They can only say no, right? And there's waaaaay more people available in the rest of the site, who are equally as lovely, you just haven't met them yet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

We could double up.

For research purposes only of course....nothing else.

I have zero ulterior motive here I swear

Get in the queue bitch!

I am, 1 step spot in front of you

And I'm your taxi so who's going to get there first

A song just popped in my head.

"You can reach me by railway, you can reach me by trailway

You can reach me on an airplane, you can reach me with your mind.

You can reach me by caravan, cross the desert like an Arab man

I don't care how you get here, just get here if you can"

What time am I picking you up Ivy?

00:01 on 21st June

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By * Sophie xTV/TS over a year ago

Derby

"If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

We could double up.

For research purposes only of course....nothing else.

I have zero ulterior motive here I swear

Get in the queue bitch!

I am, 1 step spot in front of you

And I'm your taxi so who's going to get there first

A song just popped in my head.

"You can reach me by railway, you can reach me by trailway

You can reach me on an airplane, you can reach me with your mind.

You can reach me by caravan, cross the desert like an Arab man

I don't care how you get here, just get here if you can"

What time am I picking you up Ivy?

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

"People are people - that's it.

Why does everything in life have to be a popularity contest?

Im liked because I'm nice, chatty and fun - that's what I tell myself anyway

Haha we just put up with you

Such a twat

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The way I see it ....

I don't care if you don't like me

I don't care if you hate me

I don't care about all the bollocky stories people have made up on here about me and a certain McNugget friend.

The only people that truly know me on here are the ones that have met me in person and the ones I speak to on a daily basis on and off here.

No time for drama and I definately won't kiss anyone's arses to be more popular....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

We could double up.

For research purposes only of course....nothing else.

I have zero ulterior motive here I swear

Get in the queue bitch!

I am, 1 step spot in front of you

And I'm your taxi so who's going to get there first

A song just popped in my head.

"You can reach me by railway, you can reach me by trailway

You can reach me on an airplane, you can reach me with your mind.

You can reach me by caravan, cross the desert like an Arab man

I don't care how you get here, just get here if you can"

What time am I picking you up Ivy?

You know I love you! Garden party at yours it is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If people don't find me intimidating I'd better up my game

We could double up.

For research purposes only of course....nothing else.

I have zero ulterior motive here I swear

Get in the queue bitch!

I am, 1 step spot in front of you

And I'm your taxi so who's going to get there first

A song just popped in my head.

"You can reach me by railway, you can reach me by trailway

You can reach me on an airplane, you can reach me with your mind.

You can reach me by caravan, cross the desert like an Arab man

I don't care how you get here, just get here if you can"

What time am I picking you up Ivy?

You know I love you! Garden party at yours it is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a lot of people here including you OP that has met a lot of forum people.

So I wouldn't meet them because I wouldn't want to be gossiped about

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"No one intimidates me really. However, us regular forumite folk are only a very very small percentage of people who use this site. So really, we should all just relax, approach anyone who we like and see what happens. They can only say no, right? And there's waaaaay more people available in the rest of the site, who are equally as lovely, you just haven't met them yet

^^^ this lady understands it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a lot of people here including you OP that has met a lot of forum people.

So I wouldn't meet them because I wouldn't want to be gossiped about

this is a fair point, and one of the things I'm apprehensive about with the manchester social.

not a reflection on anybody here other than me and my own nervousness!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not intimidated by anyone, even the most experienced anything. If they say yes to a meet, it's because we've connected, which is amazing. That being said.... Um, um, hi Quacksplat....

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"The way I see it ....

I don't care if you don't like me

I don't care if you hate me

I don't care about all the bollocky stories people have made up on here about me and a certain McNugget friend.

The only people that truly know me on here are the ones that have met me in person and the ones I speak to on a daily basis on and off here.

No time for drama and I definately won't kiss anyone's arses to be more popular....

Just be you and don't worry about what other people think . I don't.

You're fine as you are Dreamy xx

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"A thread the other day really had my interest about forumites not meeting other forumites and the reasons why.

'''

Any thoughts?"

Bullies unfortunately exist in all walks of life.

That's what the block and delete buttons are for.

Nobody should feel intimidated.

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By *entlemanrogueMan over a year ago

Motherwell

"A thread the other day really had my interest about forumites not meeting other forumites and the reasons why.

They’re also mentioning that they don’t think they’d measure up to my expectations and that they aren’t good/experienced enough.

If you’ve met me, and according to Lexi, half the forumites on here have, then you’d know just how far from the truth this idea of me is. I’m shy, unassuming and real quiet in real life.

I do understand this problem though. I often see people on here and think “she’s popular, there’s no way she’d want to speak to me”

Any thoughts?"

You only have one veri, or Fab is playing up my side.

But yes i was told this as well i cant compete with other women you have met (on my kink profile) surely they must realise if you are conacting them, you want to meet them.

saying that your veri is smoking hot, no doubt.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I'd rather be comfy on the floor than on a pedestal, knowing me I'd fall off anyway

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yeah.

Don't fall for manipulative bullshit.

Don't buy into hype.

Don't name people in public posts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a lot of people here including you OP that has met a lot of forum people.

So I wouldn't meet them because I wouldn't want to be gossiped about

this is a fair point, and one of the things I'm apprehensive about with the manchester social.

not a reflection on anybody here other than me and my own nervousness!

I'm sure the nerves will go shortly after you get there

I'm just antisocial- that's why I'm not going

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"No one intimidates me. In the past if i've fancied someone i've never had an issue of letting it be known and if at a social, approaching them for a chat.

I certainly hope no one's felt intimidated in approaching me before

I'm very laid back."

No-one puts Chillout in the corner!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Problem with pedestals is! being put on one, can lead to becoming a legend in your own ego

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

"There's a lot of people here including you OP that has met a lot of forum people.

So I wouldn't meet them because I wouldn't want to be gossiped about

this is a fair point, and one of the things I'm apprehensive about with the manchester social.

not a reflection on anybody here other than me and my own nervousness!

I'm sure the nerves will go shortly after you get there

I'm just antisocial- that's why I'm not going

I think you’ve to get to a point where you don’t care.

If they’ve nothing better to do than talk about you then that’s their problem.

I’ve never really noticed cliques and bitchiness in clubs cos I don’t care enough to listen.... but I’ve been assured it’s there.

Just enjoy doing you and people will always talk

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By *tew008Man over a year ago

edinburgh

"That's why I never get any messages. They are all thinking 'he's way out of my league'."

Oh is that why

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I talk to people on here, I’m not on anyone’s pedestal nor would I want to be!

I’d prefer to look at someone on the same level, not look down on them and definitely not look up to them.

I could be seen as popular as I’ve been here years and know many but I rarely meet bar socials.

I get annoyed at many of the ‘popular’ threads as why does it matter? We’re here for fun and sex not to make lifetime commitments to each other.

Real life has enough drama... why add it on here also.

Free Cuthbert

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a lot of people here including you OP that has met a lot of forum people.

So I wouldn't meet them because I wouldn't want to be gossiped about

this is a fair point, and one of the things I'm apprehensive about with the manchester social.

not a reflection on anybody here other than me and my own nervousness!

I'm sure the nerves will go shortly after you get there

I'm just antisocial- that's why I'm not going

I think you’ve to get to a point where you don’t care.

If they’ve nothing better to do than talk about you then that’s their problem.

I’ve never really noticed cliques and bitchiness in clubs cos I don’t care enough to listen.... but I’ve been assured it’s there.

Just enjoy doing you and people will always talk

xx"

Oh I don't care - don't get the wrong impression

I just avoid the people that I know are all talking about each other.

Too much drama

That's why I never display veris etc .. there are a lot of people that don't like to share - which is pretty ironic for a swingers site

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"No one intimidates me. In the past if i've fancied someone i've never had an issue of letting it be known and if at a social, approaching them for a chat.

I certainly hope no one's felt intimidated in approaching me before

I'm very laid back."

I have, not because I wanted to bang ya coz I don't and not necessarily because of you as in your person, but the circles mixed in at the time. I didn't feel as though I could have any comms with you at all without there being repercussions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a lot of people here including you OP that has met a lot of forum people.

So I wouldn't meet them because I wouldn't want to be gossiped about

this is a fair point, and one of the things I'm apprehensive about with the manchester social.

not a reflection on anybody here other than me and my own nervousness!

I've been to one MLS, pretty sure I wasn't gossiped about after, it was fun, interesting, and I have my name down again, so I'd say just enjoy it !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a lot of people here including you OP that has met a lot of forum people.

So I wouldn't meet them because I wouldn't want to be gossiped about

this is a fair point, and one of the things I'm apprehensive about with the manchester social.

not a reflection on anybody here other than me and my own nervousness!

If you have any issues leading up to or at the social, please msg me lovely xx

We’re quite strict on inappropriate behaviour

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven’t read the thread or the opening question, so I will take a wild guess at what it’s about. Yes, I am intimated by women, trying to win me over with their wiles, the boobs are the worst, cause you’re lost in them while they work their Feminine charms on you, ain’t gonna work this time ladies.

If i am way off topic, my apologies, but like I said I didn’t read the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have been known to be intimidating. We’ve never tried to be. We just seem to scare a lot of people off because we are very into each other. That’s seems to be a problem for some people. Although we do say that people need to be able to hold their own and just get involved. The great friends we have from the scene are just those type of people. (You know who you are)

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

"No one intimidates me. In the past if i've fancied someone i've never had an issue of letting it be known and if at a social, approaching them for a chat.

I certainly hope no one's felt intimidated in approaching me before

I'm very laid back."

You have most certainly never made me feel intimidated

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

"I haven’t read the thread or the opening question, so I will take a wild guess at what it’s about. Yes, I am intimated by women, trying to win me over with their wiles, the boobs are the worst, cause you’re lost in them while they work their Feminine charms on you, ain’t gonna work this time ladies.

If i am way off topic, my apologies, but like I said I didn’t read the thread. "

Hey ginger

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a lot of people here including you OP that has met a lot of forum people.

So I wouldn't meet them because I wouldn't want to be gossiped about

this is a fair point, and one of the things I'm apprehensive about with the manchester social.

not a reflection on anybody here other than me and my own nervousness!

If you have any issues leading up to or at the social, please msg me lovely xx

We’re quite strict on inappropriate behaviour

ah nice one - I'm sure it'll be fine

I'm determined to get to this one for a few reasons... it sounds like fun & will be good to put faces to names; I 100% want to break through the mindset of 'I won't enjoy it because I'm so nervous'; and there are a few people I've said I'll meet there for a drink and I can't let them down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a lot of people here including you OP that has met a lot of forum people.

So I wouldn't meet them because I wouldn't want to be gossiped about

this is a fair point, and one of the things I'm apprehensive about with the manchester social.

not a reflection on anybody here other than me and my own nervousness!

If you have any issues leading up to or at the social, please msg me lovely xx

We’re quite strict on inappropriate behaviour

ah nice one - I'm sure it'll be fine

You can prop the bar up with me until you get Dutch courage lol

Many people are totally different in real life than on here, you’ll be fine gorgeous xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a lot of people here including you OP that has met a lot of forum people.

So I wouldn't meet them because I wouldn't want to be gossiped about

this is a fair point, and one of the things I'm apprehensive about with the manchester social.

not a reflection on anybody here other than me and my own nervousness!

If you have any issues leading up to or at the social, please msg me lovely xx

We’re quite strict on inappropriate behaviour

ah nice one - I'm sure it'll be fine

Do it for you, nobody else

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If i am way off topic, my apologies, but like I said I didn’t read the thread.

Hey ginger

She’s flirting again, what do I do ?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A thread the other day really had my interest about forumites not meeting other forumites and the reasons why.

They’re also mentioning that they don’t think they’d measure up to my expectations and that they aren’t good/experienced enough.

If you’ve met me, and according to Lexi, half the forumites on here have, then you’d know just how far from the truth this idea of me is. I’m shy, unassuming and real quiet in real life.

I do understand this problem though. I often see people on here and think “she’s popular, there’s no way she’d want to speak to me”

Any thoughts?"

I get called intimidating, I have no idea why and I'm not popular by a long shot and quite frankly I'm sick of the hearing the word. I think I'm just a normal person that likes a laugh. But no I'm intimidating apparently. I'm not even going to try and figure that shit out. I'll just continue to be me and hope people see I'm just a normal average ant on the planet like everyone else is. Sorry you've been called it too OP. It sucks I know. Try and ignore it.

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

If i am way off topic, my apologies, but like I said I didn’t read the thread.

Hey ginger

She’s flirting again, what do I do ?!

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man over a year ago

Everton

I think people have took the context of the opening post and painted it to suit their point of view.

It’s been pointed out to me that my post was a “look at me, I’m popular” post, I’ve never been that guy. I’m embarrassed to even type that. What I was saying was that I’m surprised at the different levels everyone on here is at. And how forum profiles portray people to be a bigger persona than they actually are.

I’m sorry if I offended anyone

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I think people have took the context of the opening post and painted it to suit their point of view.

I’m sorry if I offended anyone "

I asked a question once about how people come across and portray themselves on fab as opposed to real life....I applaud the ones that can pretend to be something they aren't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have been known to be intimidating. We’ve never tried to be. We just seem to scare a lot of people off because we are very into each other. That’s seems to be a problem for some people. Although we do say that people need to be able to hold their own and just get involved. The great friends we have from the scene are just those type of people. (You know who you are)

Totes talking about me

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

"I think people have took the context of the opening post and painted it to suit their point of view.

I’m sorry if I offended anyone

I asked a question once about how people come across and portray themselves on fab as opposed to real life....I applaud the ones that can pretend to be something they aren't."

That would be a massive percentage of fab!

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

"I think people have took the context of the opening post and painted it to suit their point of view.

I’m sorry if I offended anyone "

You have no need to apologise, people take things the wrong way that’s their issue. Things get read in different tones.

I know you better than anyone on here…… your intentions are never bad. You have a heart of gold and would never intentionally upset or hurt anyone.

Don’t let people on the forums judge you. Think of the people in the clubs and real life. You are a one in a million guy and a best friend to me.

Love ya sausage

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Apparently I look scary and intimidating because if got a constant frown

Can't help it 1 bit

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"I think people have took the context of the opening post and painted it to suit their point of view.

I’m sorry if I offended anyone "

I didn't see it painted as you as a look at me thread, but no matter how uncomfortable you are with it I think you should have one, we all should.

Be proud of who you are, we have nearly come out the other side of over a year of groundhog day and each and every one of you no matter what crap has been said in the past, treat tomorrow as a clean slate. It won't be long before we are raising a glass together

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