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The Big Give Away!

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

How much do you give away ? When you post on Forum are you an open book or do you sit in the reserved camp? Would you say that changes when you message people and chat directly?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm definitely in the reserved camp on Forum and very selective about what I give away. But that soon changes as I get to know people more directly, not quite an open book but still a decent page turner.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm a pretty open book

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't give much away at all, either on the forum or in private chat

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple over a year ago

Newcastle

Very much reserved in the forum's. I open up much more to people once I have been chatting a while through PM's.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm always honest and myself but try to keep back on the forums (didn't once).

Private message and chats will start to be more open.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

Honest outside of the things that might make me look unsexy. Less sexy. Fewer sexies. Whichever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yeah I'm pretty open I think - about as open as I

would be on 'normal' social media!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm definitely in the reserved camp on Forum and very selective about what I give away. But that soon changes as I get to know people more directly, not quite an open book but still a decent page turner.

What's the next chapter

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm a pretty open book"

You seem like Lacey

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't give much away at all, either on the forum or in private chat "

I didnt think so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Very much reserved in the forum's. I open up much more to people once I have been chatting a while through PM's.

Kx "

Yes. I wish we could see bit more of you here again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got told I was ‘aloof’ the other day, my first thought was I’m nothing like a back scrubber.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got told I was ‘aloof’ the other day, my first thought was I’m nothing like a back scrubber. "

But you do look like Idris.

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By *ockosaurusMan over a year ago

Warwick

I like to think I'm pretty open in the forums.

Happy to chat about anything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm always honest and myself but try to keep back on the forums (didn't once).

Private message and chats will start to be more open."

Once bitten, twice shy ? Fab is definitely a learning curve.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im unknown.

none of you know the real me. unless youve met me of course.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Honest outside of the things that might make me look unsexy. Less sexy. Fewer sexies. Whichever. "

Not sure

Let's just focus on more sexy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I got told I was ‘aloof’ the other day, my first thought was I’m nothing like a back scrubber. "

More like Sponge. Producing a mass of bubbly words.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like to think I'm pretty open in the forums.

Happy to chat about anything

Easy peasy then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm definitely reserved and don't let many in. I generally stick to the feel good moments.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"im unknown.

none of you know the real me. unless youve met me of course."

Then you are the one to get to know!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

I’m honest in what I say on here, opinions / thoughts. However, it is rare I will share anything I deem personal. That only comes with built trust and there are very few of those around.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"yeah I'm pretty open I think - about as open as I

would be on 'normal' social media!"

I'm generally much more open on Facebook but then I don't show my arse there so who knows ?

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

I share as much as I'm able without getting a time out (not the chocolate bar)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m honest in what I say on here, opinions / thoughts. However, it is rare I will share anything I deem personal. That only comes with built trust and there are very few of those around. "

one of the nicest women on here/

classy profile, and talented.

see i said it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm definitely reserved and don't let many in. I generally stick to the feel good moments.

Definitely don't give them away

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

I’m not saying

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I'm not particularly open on the forum - there are easy topics that I'd happily waffle on about (and do) but for the most part I compartmentalise people. I don't mind listening to others, I'm eternally curious. I don't tend to share too much about my private life on the forums or in messages on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I share as much as I'm able without getting a time out (not the chocolate bar)"

I think the posts where you've shared personal experiences have made a lasting impression on many people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m not saying

But you just said it

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By *B69Woman over a year ago

Wiltshire

I’m very reserved on the forums but very open in person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m honest in what I say on here, opinions / thoughts. However, it is rare I will share anything I deem personal. That only comes with built trust and there are very few of those around. "

Our privacy has the value we put on it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got told I was ‘aloof’ the other day, my first thought was I’m nothing like a back scrubber.

But you do look like Idris. "

Sorry, missed this one ! Didn't mean to give you the Elba.

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

"I’m not saying

But you just said it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am very open, always

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"I share as much as I'm able without getting a time out (not the chocolate bar)

I think the posts where you've shared personal experiences have made a lasting impression on many people. "

And I'll continue to do so if it saves someone else from feeling alone and/or helps them understand their confusion or own emotions a little better.

I'm at the stage in life I'd rather share my "why" than my bodily fluids.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

Open, I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m very reserved on the forums but very open in person."

OK. Let's have a coffee

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I am very open, always

You do come across just as you say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trying to be open minded, definitely not sitting on the fence

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By *evil-AngelWoman over a year ago

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On the forum, it depends on my mood. There are times I feel like sharing and times I'm more guarded.

Privately, I share more as I get to know people better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I share as much as I'm able without getting a time out (not the chocolate bar)

I think the posts where you've shared personal experiences have made a lasting impression on many people.

And I'll continue to do so if it saves someone else from feeling alone and/or helps them understand their confusion or own emotions a little better.

I'm at the stage in life I'd rather share my "why" than my bodily fluids."

Sharing what eats your soul is more therapeutic than eating someone's privates. I think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not particularly open on the forum - there are easy topics that I'd happily waffle on about (and do) but for the most part I compartmentalise people. I don't mind listening to others, I'm eternally curious. I don't tend to share too much about my private life on the forums or in messages on here. "

How about if you meet in socials, is that quite different? (I've not been so genuinely curious).

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By *ockosaurusMan over a year ago

Warwick

"I like to think I'm pretty open in the forums.

Happy to chat about anything

Easy peasy then

I'm not 'that' easy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Open, I think."

You are. I feel like I know you a little thanks to that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Trying to be open minded, definitely not sitting on the fence

Jumping over the fence then ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"On the forum, it depends on my mood. There are times I feel like sharing and times I'm more guarded.

Privately, I share more as I get to know people better. "

It's healthy to have some guard I suppose. Protective.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm always honest and myself but try to keep back on the forums (didn't once).

Private message and chats will start to be more open.

Once bitten, twice shy ? Fab is definitely a learning curve."

Worse, I got riled at an assumption and told why I don't think like that. Released too much detail.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like to think I'm pretty open in the forums.

Happy to chat about anything

Easy peasy then

I'm not 'that' easy

OK. Easy to digest as you come across

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By *evil-AngelWoman over a year ago

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"On the forum, it depends on my mood. There are times I feel like sharing and times I'm more guarded.

Privately, I share more as I get to know people better.

It's healthy to have some guard I suppose. Protective.

I think so, it's definitely a balancing act between worrying I've overshared and people not really getting to know me because I've been too guarded.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My stories a pieces of my soul, my forum posts are totally different!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"On the forum, it depends on my mood. There are times I feel like sharing and times I'm more guarded.

Privately, I share more as I get to know people better.

It's healthy to have some guard I suppose. Protective.

I think so, it's definitely a balancing act between worrying I've overshared and people not really getting to know me because I've been too guarded. "

The ongoing dilemma

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Trying to be open minded, definitely not sitting on the fence

Jumping over the fence then ?

Depends what is in the other side

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm always honest and myself but try to keep back on the forums (didn't once).

Private message and chats will start to be more open.

Once bitten, twice shy ? Fab is definitely a learning curve.

Worse, I got riled at an assumption and told why I don't think like that. Released too much detail."

Ah, I'm sure most of us have said too much in anger.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am very open, always

You do come across just as you say

Good, I like that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My stories a pieces of my soul, my forum posts are totally different!

I think you're American? The home of confession culture rather than us reserved Brits ?

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By *B69Woman over a year ago

Wiltshire

"I’m very reserved on the forums but very open in person.

OK. Let's have a coffee

Would love to

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple over a year ago

Newcastle

"Very much reserved in the forum's. I open up much more to people once I have been chatting a while through PM's.

Yes. I wish we could see bit more of you here again

Well u get to see more of me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I chat or occasionally flirt on forums or messages, but the deep stuff happens off fab, on kik, or WhatsApp if I really like them

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im an open book with some things. Other things id never mention

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a lot more guarded now than when I was on before.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I chat or occasionally flirt on forums or messages, but the deep stuff happens off fab, on kik, or WhatsApp if I really like them

I like that. A selective reveal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m very reserved on the forums but very open in person.

OK. Let's have a coffee

Would love to"

) yay

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Very much reserved in the forum's. I open up much more to people once I have been chatting a while through PM's.

Yes. I wish we could see bit more of you here again

Well u get to see more of me

Ah roll on Dec

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Im an open book with some things. Other things id never mention"

Some need to remain hidden treasures. Or deeply buried memories.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm a lot more guarded now than when I was on before. "

May I ask why?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very reserved on Fab full stop lol until I'm chatting to someone on WhatsApp!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Very reserved on Fab full stop lol until I'm chatting to someone on WhatsApp! "

It's nicer. Voice messages and all. So much more personal and precious as you get 1:1 time. So is Telegram

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would say I am in both

I am a open book about something’s other things I try to keep to my self or in less I trust or we meet

mostly I am just me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would say I am in both

I am a open book about something’s other things I try to keep to my self or in less I trust or we meet

mostly I am just me "

Have you made those choices by experience or instinct? Looking for pointers here !

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By *not123Couple over a year ago

sp1

Cx very much an open book, i am who i am, if not for you then leadt you know

Px much more reserved

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a lot more guarded now than when I was on before.

May I ask why? "

I was going through a divorce the first time I joined and in emotional turmoil, although I didn't realise at the time to what extent. I wore my heart on my sleeve and was emotionally needy and vulnerable, oversharing and generally seeking validation in the wrong places. A couple of people took advantage of that. I'm in a much healthier place now and don't feel the need to seek validation from anyone other than myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Cx very much an open book, i am who i am, if not for you then leadt you know

Px much more reserved "

But it didn't stop you getting together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm a lot more guarded now than when I was on before.

May I ask why?

This sort of resonates.

To progress! And growth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm a lot more guarded now than when I was on before.

May I ask why?

This sort of resonates.

To progress! And growth. "

And thanks for sharing in open.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm....my username.....

I share more in private.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Erm....my username.....

I share more in private.

You milk that username in so many ways

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Im an open book with some things. Other things id never mention

Some need to remain hidden treasures. Or deeply buried memories. "
i agree and some things are just not for an open forum

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By *heNYCSausageMan over a year ago

Everton

"How much do you give away ? When you post on Forum are you an open book or do you sit in the reserved camp? Would you say that changes when you message people and chat directly?

Please share

as much as you like

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This thread is run with help of lovely LeoBlooms, so you might get replies from either of us

I’m an open book......unless you ask me a question that I don’t want to answer

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By *not123Couple over a year ago

sp1

"Cx very much an open book, i am who i am, if not for you then leadt you know

Px much more reserved

But it didn't stop you getting together.

Lol nooo Learnt by my mistakes, known him. Since i was 11 when i was the reserved one and he was a tease.

Now i say what i feel lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"How much do you give away ? When you post on Forum are you an open book or do you sit in the reserved camp? Would you say that changes when you message people and chat directly?

Please share

as much as you like

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This thread is run with help of lovely LeoBlooms, so you might get replies from either of us

I’m an open book......unless you ask me a question that I don’t want to answer

Nobody should push you for an answer if you feel its private

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Cx very much an open book, i am who i am, if not for you then leadt you know

Px much more reserved

But it didn't stop you getting together.

Lol nooo Learnt by my mistakes, known him. Since i was 11 when i was the reserved one and he was a tease.

Now i say what i feel lol

Aww are you childhood sweethearts??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would say I am in both

I am a open book about something’s other things I try to keep to my self or in less I trust or we meet

mostly I am just me

Have you made those choices by experience or instinct? Looking for pointers here !

Bit off both sort off

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"How about if you meet in socials, is that quite different? (I've not been so genuinely curious)."

Socials like the big gatherings? Well most people are rather excitable and talk about shared things - Fab, how good it is to meet you, how they are finding Fab... basic, generic questions. Most people go to have a good time, a couple of drinks and want to talk but it's not really the time for deeper conversations if that makes sense?

As far as one to one (or one to two socials), even then I'm a bit guarded. It's easy to deflect questions away from yourself and most people are happy to talk about themselves, which I like, don't get me wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

I am probably more honest on here than I am in real life.

Or am I?

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By *not123Couple over a year ago

sp1

"Cx very much an open book, i am who i am, if not for you then leadt you know

Px much more reserved

But it didn't stop you getting together.

Lol nooo Learnt by my mistakes, known him. Since i was 11 when i was the reserved one and he was a tease.

Now i say what i feel lol

Aww are you childhood sweethearts??"

Yes we never realised that we actually both liked each other, he was my brother's best mate.

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

I'm very much an open book in person with people I know well, but on the forums I'm more private and think more carefully about what I say.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I am probably more honest on here than I am in real life.

Or am I? "

Who knows? Anyone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Cx very much an open book, i am who i am, if not for you then leadt you know

Px much more reserved

But it didn't stop you getting together.

Lol nooo Learnt by my mistakes, known him. Since i was 11 when i was the reserved one and he was a tease.

Now i say what i feel lol

Aww are you childhood sweethearts??

Yes we never realised that we actually both liked each other, he was my brother's best mate. "

I'm a sucker for these stories

) beautiful you have grown together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm very much an open book in person with people I know well, but on the forums I'm more private and think more carefully about what I say.

Mrs"

We shall find out at that party you keep promising to hold;-)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got told I was ‘aloof’ the other day, my first thought was I’m nothing like a back scrubber. "

Aloof? Emotionally or with your opinions? Certainly one interpretation of the word is wholly

Inaccurate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How about if you meet in socials, is that quite different? (I've not been so genuinely curious).

Thanks Meli, yes I meant the big social gatherings, and keeping it fun and lighter there definitely makes sense.

Deflection..is that a half way point between reveal and reserve?

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By *heNYCSausageMan over a year ago

Everton

"How much do you give away ? When you post on Forum are you an open book or do you sit in the reserved camp? Would you say that changes when you message people and chat directly?

Please share

as much as you like

* * *

This thread is run with help of lovely LeoBlooms, so you might get replies from either of us

I’m an open book......unless you ask me a question that I don’t want to answer

Nobody should push you for an answer if you feel its private

I’d like to see them try

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think because the forums can be read by anyone on the internet I feel some people should, perhaps, share a little less sometimes

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I'm far more reserved in the forums than I am in person, or private chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think because the forums can be read by anyone on the internet I feel some people should, perhaps, share a little less sometimes

I hope everyone on here makes informed choices.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm far more reserved in the forums than I am in person, or private chat.

Just dripping a little goodness here and there

making people curious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP...playing here now:

Another day.....another day......I do believe....another day......

It’s always going to remind me of you now.

There, thought I’d share that.

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By *ildbillkidMan over a year ago

where the road goes on forever

I'm open to some things in the forums, in pm's more so

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

The forums are publicly accessible, so I limit what topics I get involved in.

I prefer the happier and pointless threads to discussions and show us your tits stuff.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm open to some things in the forums, in pm's more so"

Would you give away which things ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The forums are publicly accessible, so I limit what topics I get involved in.

I prefer the happier and pointless threads to discussions and show us your tits stuff."

Its easy to forget sometimes how publicly this all is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have my moments of being more reserved or more open.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP...playing here now:

Another day.....another day......I do believe....another day......

It’s always going to remind me of you now.

There, thought I’d share that."

I can only think of: Another day I paradise, when it comes to my company

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By *ildbillkidMan over a year ago

where the road goes on forever

"I'm open to some things in the forums, in pm's more so

Would you give away which things ?"
i avoid the drama, the arguments, and the things i know nothing about, being from texas, thats quite abit,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum. "

I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset?

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

"I'm very much an open book in person with people I know well, but on the forums I'm more private and think more carefully about what I say.

Mrs

We shall find out at that party you keep promising to hold;-)"

One day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have my moments of being more reserved or more open."

In general or only on Fab ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got told I was ‘aloof’ the other day, my first thought was I’m nothing like a back scrubber.

Aloof? Emotionally or with your opinions? Certainly one interpretation of the word is wholly

Inaccurate."

Thanks dude, I’ll have to ask her!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP...playing here now:

Another day.....another day......I do believe....another day......

It’s always going to remind me of you now.

There, thought I’d share that.

I can only think of: Another day I paradise, when it comes to my company

You haunt my dreams

There’s nothing to do but believe

Just believe

Just breathe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm open to some things in the forums, in pm's more so

Would you give away which things ? i avoid the drama, the arguments, and the things i know nothing about, being from texas, thats quite abit,

One of my heroes, Bill Hicks, was from Texas so I won't hear a word against it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It depends on my mood and the subject

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I'm pretty much myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It depends, there are some things I’m happy to talk about. Some things I can agree on a thread about because I’ve been through the same,

But I’m also very private and guarded about myself, in real life too. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It depends on my mood and the subject "

I do like your rare serious threads

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm pretty much myself

The angelic creature then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It depends, there are some things I’m happy to talk about. Some things I can agree on a thread about because I’ve been through the same,

But I’m also very private and guarded about myself, in real life too. X "

I do that too. I'll share what helped me for example but without sharing gory details of what happened. Somewhere in between then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have my moments of being more reserved or more open.

In general or only on Fab ? "

Both, I think, for me, it all depends on subject matter, and other factors.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum.

I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset? "

I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest.

Just growing and learning I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum.

I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset?

I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest.

Just growing and learning I guess. "

Why do you feel the need for to be less open now?

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By *uicy jonesMan over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

Used to be totally open , but so many people take advantage so now I'm a closed book

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum.

I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset?

I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest.

Just growing and learning I guess. "

I've always been a shy and reserved person and have usually tried to make the opposite journey. I'll wave as we pass on the way !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Used to be totally open , but so many people take advantage so now I'm a closed book

This seems to be a recurring theme. In what way would they take advantage?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Used to be totally open , but so many people take advantage so now I'm a closed book

I'm sorry to hear that. You can't pour from empty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum.

I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset?

I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest.

Just growing and learning I guess.

I've always been a shy and reserved person and have usually tried to make the opposite journey. I'll wave as we pass on the way !

As am I OP. I’m trying to be less inhibited, reserved and closed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum.

I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset?

I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest.

Just growing and learning I guess.

Why do you feel the need for to be less open now?"

I think I’ve learnt from oversharing in the past maybe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum.

I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset?

I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest.

Just growing and learning I guess.

I've always been a shy and reserved person and have usually tried to make the opposite journey. I'll wave as we pass on the way !

I think for me, it’s finding a middle ground. I’m still fairly open, but I keep some things to myself, or just share with trusted people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum.

I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset?

I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest.

Just growing and learning I guess.

Why do you feel the need for to be less open now?

I think I’ve learnt from oversharing in the past maybe. "

I heard someone else mention this term, over sharing, today. It’s obvious what it means but what are the implications of it. I’d never heard the term before today, or perhaps I hadn’t taken notice of it until today.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I give away bit and pieces here and there. Sometimes I just blab because thats what mood dictates.

I give away hints. I overuse grin emoji if I don't want to be taken too seriously. But together they still are just little crumbs. I keep the majority of the loaf (love and loathe

) for the ones who are hungry to know more. And listen to the more truthful/accurate version of me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I give away bit and pieces here and there. Sometimes I just blab because thats what mood dictates.

I give away hints. I overuse grin emoji if I don't want to be taken too seriously. But together they still are just little crumbs. I keep the majority of the loaf (love and loathe

) for the ones who are hungry to know more. And listen to the more truthful/accurate version of me.

I think you’ve described a fair bit of me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum.

I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset?

I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest.

Just growing and learning I guess.

Why do you feel the need for to be less open now?

I think I’ve learnt from oversharing in the past maybe.

People don’t need to know everything so they, and I’ve got to a point where I don’t want people to know everything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I give away bit and pieces here and there. Sometimes I just blab because thats what mood dictates.

I give away hints. I overuse grin emoji if I don't want to be taken too seriously. But together they still are just little crumbs. I keep the majority of the loaf (love and loathe

) for the ones who are hungry to know more. And listen to the more truthful/accurate version of me.

I think you’ve described a fair bit of me.

Hello fellow crumb dropper

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a bit of both it all depends on the situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On the forums far less open than I may have been in the past,...but then I'm here far less than I used to be...

Now I mostly just log in read and wander back to the cave.

Those who might want to know me have to get past my guarded nature, that was probably always the case, but now I rarely post anything meaningful in the forums, and private messages don't often come my way.

Away from here, in the "real world" I'm usually far more at ease...

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share

I don’t like to give too much away on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share

I don’t like to give too much away on here. "

Yes ! We all know you love shagging your tree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum.

I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset?

I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest.

Just growing and learning I guess.

Why do you feel the need for to be less open now?

I think I’ve learnt from oversharing in the past maybe.

People don’t need to know everything so they, and I’ve got to a point where I don’t want people to know everything. "

Thanks for sharing that.

I think that’s how I’ve always felt what you’ve described but people accused me of being closed. How odd. I feel only those I share my life with are the ones who are privy to all of me and the superficial me should be enough for everyone else.

I suppose the only difference how superficial is superficial. I think I’m fairly open but not wholly so.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

"I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share

I don’t like to give too much away on here.

Yes ! We all know you love shagging your tree

Only at Christmas

the rest of the year I like to play with my front bush

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share

I don’t like to give too much away on here.

Yes ! We all know you love shagging your tree

Only at Christmas

the rest of the year I like to play with my front bush

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm a bit of both it all depends on the situation."

Chameleon then ?

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"I'm pretty much myself

The angelic creature then?

The halo slips from time to time

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"On the forums far less open than I may have been in the past,...but then I'm here far less than I used to be...

Now I mostly just log in read and wander back to the cave.

Away from here, in the "real world" I'm usually far more at ease...

Not making poetic ripples anymore, I noticed. You are wandering off far too often !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share

I don’t like to give too much away on here. "

I was here at Christmas Babs and don't remember that! Look forward to your reveal this December

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share

I don’t like to give too much away on here.

Yes ! We all know you love shagging your tree

Only at Christmas

the rest of the year I like to play with my front bush

I'd assumed you were a tree hugger, not a shagger. Everyday a school day, etc

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

I just chatter & enjoy the less heavy contentious threads - I'm here for fun & giggles.

I don't share easily. But once I've made a connection, I will let my guard down. Eventually

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m here for connecting physically and mentally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just chatter & enjoy the less heavy contentious threads - I'm here for fun & giggles.

I don't share easily. But once I've made a connection, I will let my guard down. Eventually

Do those connections always take time Red ?

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

"I just chatter & enjoy the less heavy contentious threads - I'm here for fun & giggles.

I don't share easily. But once I've made a connection, I will let my guard down. Eventually

Do those connections always take time Red ? "

No, not always Leo. I've a couple of good friends on here that know a little of the real me. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m here for connecting physically and mentally "

Like me you joined in lockdown so making those connections hasn't been easy. Good luck as things change.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

"I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share

I don’t like to give too much away on here.

I was here at Christmas Babs and don't remember that! Look forward to your reveal this December

Oh it starts much earlier than December

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share

I don’t like to give too much away on here.

I was here at Christmas Babs and don't remember that! Look forward to your reveal this December

Oh it starts much earlier than December

See you in July for Christmas Dinner then. Cheers !

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'm more like the Beano.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm more like the Beano.

A great role model CG - funny and popular

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

An open book (which no one wants to read) here. M X

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I'm more like the Beano.

A great role model CG - funny and popular

And i come cheap.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"An open book (which no one wants to read) here. M X"

Not so ! I just read your excellent shampoo joke and when I'd worked it out had a good chuckle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm more like the Beano.

A great role model CG - funny and popular

And i come cheap.

You Menace

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I probably share too much. I'm an open book.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I probably share too much. I'm an open book. "

I really enjoy your Forum contributions, those chapters in the book.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I probably share too much. I'm an open book.

I really enjoy your Forum contributions, those chapters in the book."

Thanks Leo I appreciate that. Sometimes I bore myself though. Or I get frustrated because it feels like you are shouting into the wind and no one can hear you or is listening

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I probably share too much. I'm an open book.

I really enjoy your Forum contributions, those chapters in the book.

Thanks Leo I appreciate that. Sometimes I bore myself though. Or I get frustrated because it feels like you are shouting into the wind and no one can hear you or is listening "

I've certainly felt that at times and you think, why did I bother sharing? But often people do read and notice things without replying directly so you can still be heard without knowing it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks for all posts this evening. I'll reply to any others tomorrow.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I probably share too much. I'm an open book.

I really enjoy your Forum contributions, those chapters in the book.

Thanks Leo I appreciate that. Sometimes I bore myself though. Or I get frustrated because it feels like you are shouting into the wind and no one can hear you or is listening

I've certainly felt that at times and you think, why did I bother sharing? But often people do read and notice things without replying directly so you can still be heard without knowing it."
exactly. A wise woman told me to assume people are nodding along with what I write.

She was wise or had great tits. One or the other

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I probably share too much. I'm an open book.

I really enjoy your Forum contributions, those chapters in the book.

Thanks Leo I appreciate that. Sometimes I bore myself though. Or I get frustrated because it feels like you are shouting into the wind and no one can hear you or is listening "

Or you just hear echo of your own words. But those days pass. And someone comes sits and actually listens. I hope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thanks for all posts this evening. I'll reply to any others tomorrow."

Thanks for the help Leo. One of the most smooth co run threads I've ever done.

and thanks for what you've decided to give away on this thread.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Thanks Meli, yes I meant the big social gatherings, and keeping it fun and lighter there definitely makes sense.

Deflection..is that a half way point between reveal and reserve? "

Yes, the big socials are meant for fun and lightness really. They are really interesting, one day you should attend one! It's a field day for people watching.

I'd never considered deflection to be on that scale before, it's more a learned behaviour borne out of experience and bias.

I wouldn't say I'm particularly reserved but perhaps I am. Revealing requires trust, the knowledge the other is listening and interested in you and won't use information as a weapon. The few I know accept me as the whole and not the facets I still don't share all with.

And this has been me sharing a lot behind my thought processes on a Sunday morning.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm more like the Beano.

A great role model CG - funny and popular

And i come cheap.

Rubbish. The amount I’ve spent on cake and Stormtrooper memorabilia.....but you’re worth every penny.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven’t experienced information about what I reveal being weaponised and can’t imagine why people would do such a thing.

What is it they do with what you have shared that makes it a weapon? I understand very obvious threats such as revealing who you are to your family and friends but I suspect people mean that it’s being used in a more subtle manner.

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By *ewfie02Couple over a year ago

Ayrshire

Open book for us. No secrets from anyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I probably share too much. I'm an open book.

I really enjoy your Forum contributions, those chapters in the book.

Thanks Leo I appreciate that. Sometimes I bore myself though. Or I get frustrated because it feels like you are shouting into the wind and no one can hear you or is listening

Or you just hear echo of your own words. But those days pass. And someone comes sits and actually listens. I hope. "
I have had one or two really cool people reach out and let me know that they hear and that really helped. One aspect of my personality is what I call Irrational Confidence Guy. He has taken over post writing duties. He just assumes he's interesting and wise.

I like I.C.G.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple over a year ago

Stockport

Open book...

Mrs J x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I haven’t experienced information about what I reveal being weaponised and can’t imagine why people would do such a thing.

And I think that would make an excellent thread in itself. We didn't think too many questions in OP would do thread any good this time. Just wanted to narrow it down.

thanks for getting so beautifully involved in this one. All of you.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I haven’t experienced information about what I reveal being weaponised and can’t imagine why people would do such a thing.

What is it they do with what you have shared that makes it a weapon? "

Oh that's far too much sharing for this thread.

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