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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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On the back of another thread I was just wondering if you would couple up with someone from the forums.
There has been a few threads about forum relationships today and wanted to see if people are open to it or not. |
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"I have done previously with one. Would I do it again..probably not.
Oh ok interesting.
If you did would you keep it a secret?"
No, if others didn't like it then tough. I'm not here to please anyone other than myself x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have done previously with one. Would I do it again..probably not.
Oh ok interesting.
If you did would you keep it a secret?
No, if others didn't like it then tough. I'm not here to please anyone other than myself x"
Totally agree.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have in the past, would I do it again probably not in a full o living together relationship but as a couple on here who knows.. at the moment I just want to enjoy life with special to me people.  |
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"On the back of another thread I was just wondering if you would couple up with someone from the forums.
There has been a few threads about forum relationships today and wanted to see if people are open to it or not. "
I wouldn't mind a FWB from the forum, but I'm not looking for a relationship.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"On the back of another thread I was just wondering if you would couple up with someone from the forums.
There has been a few threads about forum relationships today and wanted to see if people are open to it or not.
I wouldn't mind a FWB from the forum, but I'm not looking for a relationship.
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Neither was I!   |
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Yes I already have a regular playmate on the forums and we don't publicise it because it's between us and I detest lampost pissing 
I think If I were mono and found a exclusive partner then things probably would be different, but I'm not so my poly stable stays private x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From the forums? Probably not, just cos I don't tend to get too close to other forumites.
But J and I met through fab, neither of us looking for a relationship....but y'know, shit happens
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There's no telling who you're going to click with...if you're meeting people from the forums you never know what may happen, and if you're both open to the idea of something more then why not?
I agree with there being more drama on the forums though...especially where some of the more "popular" people are concerned  |
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"On the back of another thread I was just wondering if you would couple up with someone from the forums.
There has been a few threads about forum relationships today and wanted to see if people are open to it or not. "
Yes. Have once before. Would do again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was single would I couple up on fab? Yeah. Probably.
Would I keep it quiet? Also Probably yes.
I don't feel jealousy in most situations but also I wouldn't want a relationship being public property.
There are a few fourimites I would enjoy spending time with. |
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"On the back of another thread I was just wondering if you would couple up with someone from the forums.
There has been a few threads about forum relationships today and wanted to see if people are open to it or not.
I wouldn't mind a FWB from the forum, but I'm not looking for a relationship.
Neither was I! "
Nor us!! |
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"There's no telling who you're going to click with...if you're meeting people from the forums you never know what may happen, and if you're both open to the idea of something more then why not?
I agree with there being more drama on the forums though...especially where some of the more "popular" people are concerned "
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"I wouldn't.
I'm not looking for any kind of commitment from here beyond a friend with benefits relationship.
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Oh I thought she meant FWBs. A proper relationship. Hell to the no!! No chance. Never. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't.
I'm not looking for any kind of commitment from here beyond a friend with benefits relationship.
Oh I thought she meant FWBs. A proper relationship. Hell to the no!! No chance. Never. "
I could be wrong.
We need clarification |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have done previously with one. Would I do it again..probably not."
May I ask W hy not? What are the pitfalls compared to a more ‘conventional’ way of meeting, although who knows what that is anymore? |
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"I have done previously with one. Would I do it again..probably not.
May I ask W hy not? What are the pitfalls compared to a more ‘conventional’ way of meeting, although who knows what that is anymore?"
Not worth the hassle |
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"On the back of another thread I was just wondering if you would couple up with someone from the forums.
There has been a few threads about forum relationships today and wanted to see if people are open to it or not.
I wouldn't mind a FWB from the forum, but I'm not looking for a relationship.
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This for me too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did, it lasted 5 years with a 9 month break in the middle. Also had a short but emotionally intense very long distance thing from here during that break. I don't want another serious relationship for a good few years, especially not with anyone from the forum because that would mean long distance again and I haven't got the energy reserves for that level of commitment. FWB's I would definitely consider. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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I would.
Seems silly to completely close myself of from a potential perfect match. None of us really know who, when, or where we may meet that one person that totally changes everything.
For all any of us know, by fully dismissing the idea of it, we may be condemning ourselves to being forever alone or a life bad relationships. No matter how small a chance.
Saying that I'm currently not actively looking for anything anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I did, it lasted 5 years with a 9 month break in the middle. Also had a short but emotionally intense very long distance thing from here during that break. I don't want another serious relationship for a good few years, especially not with anyone from the forum because that would mean long distance again and I haven't got the energy reserves for that level of commitment. FWB's I would definitely consider."
The distance thing can definitely be an issue.
We are lucky that we were easily able to make it work. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I would.
Seems silly to completely close myself of from a potential perfect match. None of us really know who, when, or where we may meet that one person that totally changes everything.
For all any of us know, by fully dismissing the idea of it, we may be condemning ourselves to being forever alone or a life bad relationships. No matter how small a chance.
Saying that I'm currently not actively looking for anything anyway. "
This is my thinking. |
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*lalalallalalaaaaaa*
My excitable side says "oooooo why not, it'sas good a place as any?!"
My sensible side says "don't be a fucking dickhead, been there, done that, build that wall, build it higher and when you think you're done chuck another few hundred feet up to be on the safe side"
I would be vary wary of making it public knowledge if I had a lapse and got with someone special. Again, been there and still have the scars. |
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"I would.
Seems silly to completely close myself of from a potential perfect match. None of us really know who, when, or where we may meet that one person that totally changes everything.
For all any of us know, by fully dismissing the idea of it, we may be condemning ourselves to being forever alone or a life bad relationships. No matter how small a chance.
Saying that I'm currently not actively looking for anything anyway. "
Condemning myself to being alone really does feel like the safest and sensible thing for me. I think I'd be a fucking awful partner coz I'm so issued up. I get on my own nerves and those things that may seem endearing to start with would soon piss the other person off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...
Can you handle any possible insecurities that may present, with the possible flirting and banter that may be present, or that person not replying to one of your comments but to someone else's repeatedly...can you handle those feelings approatly, with out it becoming an issue between you two in the relationship |
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"What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...
Can you handle any possible insecurities that may present, with the possible flirting and banter that may be present, or that person not replying to one of your comments but to someone else's repeatedly...can you handle those feelings approatly, with out it becoming an issue between you two in the relationship "
In the 23 months I've been on here I've seen some fab formed couples do handle all of that, some blow all their drama straight across the forums and some just fizzle out after a few weeks, its just like eastenders occasionally on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...
Can you handle any possible insecurities that may present, with the possible flirting and banter that may be present, or that person not replying to one of your comments but to someone else's repeatedly...can you handle those feelings approatly, with out it becoming an issue between you two in the relationship
In the 23 months I've been on here I've seen some fab formed couples do handle all of that, some blow all their drama straight across the forums and some just fizzle out after a few weeks, its just like eastenders occasionally on here "
But we don't see what goes on in private, away from the forums |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would.
Seems silly to completely close myself of from a potential perfect match. None of us really know who, when, or where we may meet that one person that totally changes everything.
For all any of us know, by fully dismissing the idea of it, we may be condemning ourselves to being forever alone or a life bad relationships. No matter how small a chance.
Saying that I'm currently not actively looking for anything anyway.
Condemning myself to being alone really does feel like the safest and sensible thing for me. I think I'd be a fucking awful partner coz I'm so issued up. I get on my own nerves and those things that may seem endearing to start with would soon piss the other person off."
We all come with issues, Princess Peach, im fucked up cuz of lifes situations....I do my best not let them play apart in my life today, that doesn't always happen, n reunsolved trauma presents at times |
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"What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...
Can you handle any possible insecurities that may present, with the possible flirting and banter that may be present, or that person not replying to one of your comments but to someone else's repeatedly...can you handle those feelings approatly, with out it becoming an issue between you two in the relationship
In the 23 months I've been on here I've seen some fab formed couples do handle all of that, some blow all their drama straight across the forums and some just fizzle out after a few weeks, its just like eastenders occasionally on here
But we don't see what goes on in private, away from the forums "
True... but I don't think I'd want to tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...
Can you handle any possible insecurities that may present, with the possible flirting and banter that may be present, or that person not replying to one of your comments but to someone else's repeatedly...can you handle those feelings approatly, with out it becoming an issue between you two in the relationship
In the 23 months I've been on here I've seen some fab formed couples do handle all of that, some blow all their drama straight across the forums and some just fizzle out after a few weeks, its just like eastenders occasionally on here
But we don't see what goes on in private, away from the forums
True... but I don't think I'd want to tbh"
Neither would I, my own shit is enough to deal with lol |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I would.
Seems silly to completely close myself of from a potential perfect match. None of us really know who, when, or where we may meet that one person that totally changes everything.
For all any of us know, by fully dismissing the idea of it, we may be condemning ourselves to being forever alone or a life bad relationships. No matter how small a chance.
Saying that I'm currently not actively looking for anything anyway.
Condemning myself to being alone really does feel like the safest and sensible thing for me. I think I'd be a fucking awful partner coz I'm so issued up. I get on my own nerves and those things that may seem endearing to start with would soon piss the other person off."
Oh if that is what you feel is right for you then only you know. But you would view that way about all places for it to present itself?
We are all issued up in our own ways. Just how issues won't stand in the way of the right person, which is exactly why it makes them worth being open to.
The main thing is you do and look what is right for you! But if you are actually looking, would you limit your search or would you want as much chance to find as you can? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...
Can you handle any possible insecurities that may present, with the possible flirting and banter that may be present, or that person not replying to one of your comments but to someone else's repeatedly...can you handle those feelings approatly, with out it becoming an issue between you two in the relationship
In the 23 months I've been on here I've seen some fab formed couples do handle all of that, some blow all their drama straight across the forums and some just fizzle out after a few weeks, its just like eastenders occasionally on here
But we don't see what goes on in private, away from the forums "
This is exactly why I left for 3 years. Just wasn't worth the hassle of being on here and someone ending up feeling crap.
I do get that but if you're secure in everything, should it really matter? I mean, couples get flirted with and they handle it ok. Other people who have a partner at home (the ones who know they're on here) handle it ok. Should we therefore not be looking to see why it happens and try to fix that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...
Can you handle any possible insecurities that may present, with the possible flirting and banter that may be present, or that person not replying to one of your comments but to someone else's repeatedly...can you handle those feelings approatly, with out it becoming an issue between you two in the relationship
In the 23 months I've been on here I've seen some fab formed couples do handle all of that, some blow all their drama straight across the forums and some just fizzle out after a few weeks, its just like eastenders occasionally on here
But we don't see what goes on in private, away from the forums
This is exactly why I left for 3 years. Just wasn't worth the hassle of being on here and someone ending up feeling crap.
I do get that but if you're secure in everything, should it really matter? I mean, couples get flirted with and they handle it ok. Other people who have a partner at home (the ones who know they're on here) handle it ok. Should we therefore not be looking to see why it happens and try to fix that? "
If there is open honest communication, absolutely look at the root cause |
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