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"I'm torn. While it'd be great to erase some things and some people - I wouldn't be as strong as I am today."
Yes there is this which is why I usually say no to these questions but there are a couple of things that would saved some stress etc that I’d change. |
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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'm torn. While it'd be great to erase some things and some people - I wouldn't be as strong as I am today."
I am the same, part of me would go back 30 years and stop a certain event, but, the strength I ended up finding as a result, has made me who I am, would I be the same
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you had the chance to go back and change one moment in your past, that would completely alter the direction you life has gone in, would you do it.
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Life’s a fair ground ride ups as well as downs we all cope in our own little ways and most of time muddle through best to forget the past believe me I know Bernardo child best not to look in to my past look to a brighter future for me and all of us onwards and upwards ladys gents  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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God no. Any slight deviation could have resulted in me not having the wonderful children I now have.
I realise I could have had equalling as amazing children if I took another path but I would not choose too. |
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No.
The only things I can think I'd want to change, I've since come to realise are what have made me 'me'.
There are things about me I'd like to change, but I'm working on them and I think that process is making me a better person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t know would save my self a lot off pain but at the same time I wouldn’t be whare I am to say and be able to live life how I do totally care free hard one to choose bween |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I wouldn't go back to change my past.
I have experienced some very sad moments in my life but I got myself through them all. I am currently going through something very difficult indeed but I know I will get through it and I have already been amazed at my patience and resilience.
My life experiences have contributed to shaping me as a person, how I overcame each episode has made me grow as a person and I am proud of the woman I am and the role model that I am for my children.
I don't feel bad for myself for having the unfortunate and sometimes sad happenings in my life because those things were beyond my control. I am neither glad nor grateful to have experienced them, I do not dwell on the past or allow let it consume me... I am living my life for now.
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My past has made me more empathetic and effective in The job I do and love just now.
I could opt to change things earlier than when I did to save my eldest kids some suffering but it would mean not having my youngest so wouldn’t do that either.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The one thing I wish I could go back and change would be to be able to save my husband.
I’d do anything to change that. Anything "
Ditto with my wife 2010 osopageal cancer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely not. Everything I've done and experienced has been a moment of learning and development, even the really horrible stuff. Being content and at peace the majority of the time is not something I'd willingly give up. |
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"The one thing I wish I could go back and change would be to be able to save my husband.
I’d do anything to change that. Anything
Ditto with my wife 2010 osopageal cancer "
Sorry to hear that. Husband beat cancer but carried on with chemo maintenance to prolong remission. Ultimately it damaged his heart beyond repair and he died two months after chemo ended. He was 32 |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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In two respects, I realise I know I fouled up & should've taken the opposite course.
But life has these it's, but's and maybes. As I approach my retirement later this month, I look back on what has been a generally good life so far. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope.. cos despite the fact that i have no career, have hit rock bottom a number of times, have lost many years of my youth for various reasons, if something in my past were to change, i wouldnt be who i am today... and i wouldn't change who i am today and who i will grow into in years to come for wealth and fame or simply having a comfortable life at least. |
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Yes, I'd change 20/5/1992. A careless mistake cost me a lot, especially my long term health.
I'd also change 21/3/2021 another careless moment resulted in me dying in the air ambulance but recovered to wake in intensive care 2 days later. Still recovering |
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I don't have any regrets, but if there was one wish I could make it would be a proper final conversation with my brother. He died in January and despite us not being close in some respects, I do miss him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dat butterfly effect though... Who knows what other good stuff you might stop happening if you changed it...."
This. Changing ex's maybe but then if that ment id not have the same children then thats a solid no from me. John |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No.
I am the sum of my history, and I’m happy with who I am.
If I changed my history, it would change who I am. "
Very true. The shit you trudged through makes you the stronger person today.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I just change my future
This what I am working on and learning from the regrets and mistakes from of my past and making sure I don't repeat them "
You’ll get there. Self realisation is but a nudge away. Remember you are not your mistakes, you are not your shame, you are not you joy, you are not your suffering. You have experiences of all of them. You have your strengths, you have your weaknesses, you have past experiences, but your not them. You are the witness of all of that. The Seer and the seen. |
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