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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
During an interesting conversation with another fabster, I was asked if I would turn a woman down if she offered me sex.
My response was that if I didn't know her, or had never had any contact with her , yes I would, which I think she found quite surprising.
So I open this question up to you lot. Would you turn down the offer of sex if you had had no prior contact, or a complete stranger |
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"During an interesting conversation with another fabster, I was asked if I would turn a woman down if she offered me sex.
My response was that if I didn't know her, or had never had any contact with her , yes I would, which I think she found quite surprising.
So I open this question up to you lot. Would you turn down the offer of sex if you had had no prior contact, or a complete stranger"
Absolutely yes. |
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over a year ago
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"During an interesting conversation with another fabster, I was asked if I would turn a woman down if she offered me sex.
My response was that if I didn't know her, or had never had any contact with her , yes I would, which I think she found quite surprising.
So I open this question up to you lot. Would you turn down the offer of sex if you had had no prior contact, or a complete stranger"
Yes. We aren't all thirsty  |
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"During an interesting conversation with another fabster, I was asked if I would turn a woman down if she offered me sex.
My response was that if I didn't know her, or had never had any contact with her , yes I would, which I think she found quite surprising.
So I open this question up to you lot. Would you turn down the offer of sex if you had had no prior contact, or a complete stranger"
Move been known to turn down women. One time, during a FFF I was invited in and said no. Still kicking myself 3 years later haha |
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over a year ago
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"During an interesting conversation with another fabster, I was asked if I would turn a woman down if she offered me sex.
My response was that if I didn't know her, or had never had any contact with her , yes I would, which I think she found quite surprising.
So I open this question up to you lot. Would you turn down the offer of sex if you had had no prior contact, or a complete stranger"
No if there was no chat or didn’t know the lady then definitely not  |
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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago
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"During an interesting conversation with another fabster, I was asked if I would turn a woman down if she offered me sex.
My response was that if I didn't know her, or had never had any contact with her , yes I would, which I think she found quite surprising.
So I open this question up to you lot. Would you turn down the offer of sex if you had had no prior contact,
or a complete stranger"
Yes I would refuse if no prior contact |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Yes
I would as I'd like to know this person little more and feel comfortable see if the chemistry led to this rather than just what they wanted as I might not just because there is attraction doesn't mean it's going to be sexual
I might be the only one thinking like this but I also could be wrong |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I would never have thought that so many people have not had a random sexual encounter with someone they just met.
Blimey I must be the Last of the Hedonists......"
Have in the past. Wouldn't now though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think this was aimed at men and the surprise was that a man would turn it down.
A lot of women do think ALL MEN are thirsty as fuck and can't control their dicks.
In answer though, yes, more men would turn it down than not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely yes, I've turned down those who I would love to have sex with too due to circumstances as well.
Sex is about more than just getting to stick my dick in a hole. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Another refusal here.
Even the Hemsworth would have to have a chat first.
Yehhhhh right! Tsssst   "
He would! I'd have to explain how to get to my house for a start  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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If I was ovulating, I'd got a freshly waxed foof, no work that needed doing and someone said to me "Hey Meli/strange beautiful woman, I'd really like to fuck you/masturbate for you because you turn me on so much. I'm staying at *somewhere that's not a Premier Inn/Travelodge*?
And that person gave me an instant sucker punch of lust? The sort that makes me achingly aware of how much I want them? Yes. I probably would.
The likelihood is absolutely zero. |
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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
"If I was ovulating, I'd got a freshly waxed foof, no work that needed doing and someone said to me "Hey Meli/strange beautiful woman, I'd really like to fuck you/masturbate for you because you turn me on so much. I'm staying at *somewhere that's not a Premier Inn/Travelodge*?
And that person gave me an instant sucker punch of lust? The sort that makes me achingly aware of how much I want them? Yes. I probably would.
The likelihood is absolutely zero."
that made me spit my coffee out, absolute classic |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m calling bullshit on some of these I need a connection replies, if you’re attracted to them, what else do you need to know, their star sign and where they do the weekly big shop ?! |
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Imagine having to contrive every sexual encounter, I couldn’t live such a prescriptive life. Those wonderful moments, eyes across a crowded room, ripping each other’s clothes of in a taxi. Or here on fab, that message. “I notice you have “meet today” up.....
Some of the best meets I have ever had came from a “meet today” posting....
I’m obviously a dinosaur or worse..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another refusal here.
Even the Hemsworth would have to have a chat first.
Yehhhhh right! Tsssst
He would! I'd have to explain how to get to my house for a start "
Name and address suplied lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men on here are hypocrites or try to look good! post men think about sex all the time, if they could have their own way they would do it on the veg counter or in the starbucks queue....
If I am in the mood that day yes I would, connection or not its just pure raw primal sex and its fucking good. After that we get on with our life, no name or phone number exchanged.... |
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Yes, I would (and do!) refuse.
Just because you're advertising your wears on Fab doesn't mean that you have to give it away. It's your own choice.
Certain women, just don't do it for me.
All the gay men with the "wanna suk?" or telling me they're going to rip me a new arse hole........ block! |
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"I’m calling bullshit on some of these I need a connection replies, if you’re attracted to them, what else do you need to know, their star sign and where they do the weekly big shop ?!"
I think the issue here is context.
If these guys were locked in a cell for 10 years and a super hot female walked in and wanted to ride him, I doubt any would say no.
Also, how much of a contact are we taking about? A women sending a photo of herself to you is a form of contact. Would you agree to fuck someone you'd never even seen a picture of?
I wouldn't, If turn that down.
To me there's a big difference to someone walking over and saying let's fuck, and someone walking up chatting for 30 mins then heading off to fuck.
It maybe that the first had never happened, and I'm doubtful it every would, so if it did I'd be suspicious that I was going to get mugged |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m calling bullshit on some of these I need a connection replies, if you’re attracted to them, what else do you need to know, their star sign and where they do the weekly big shop ?!"
Some, perhaps. I said “Yes” to the question whether I’d turn it down because I have done so.
She looked great, attraction was there after spending a couple of hours with her but it still didn’t feel right. Can’t tell what was missing. I even knew her star sign, which was Scorpio. I remember it well.
I can only guess that the reason I didn’t follow through was because I didn’t know where she did her weekly big shop.
Thanks for making sense of it for me.  |
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"I’m calling bullshit on some of these I need a connection replies, if you’re attracted to them, what else do you need to know, their star sign and where they do the weekly big shop ?!
Some, perhaps. I said “Yes” to the question whether I’d turn it down because I have done so.
She looked great, attraction was there after spending a couple of hours with her but it still didn’t feel right. Can’t tell what was missing. I even knew her star sign, which was Scorpio. I remember it well.
I can only guess that the reason I didn’t follow through was because I didn’t know where she did her weekly big shop.
Thanks for making sense of it for me. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on the whole situation, if it was ‘hi, let’s have sex’ then it’d be a no.
But if you find them attractive, you hit it off & things go that way then... |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"During an interesting conversation with another fabster, I was asked if I would turn a woman down if she offered me sex.
My response was that if I didn't know her, or had never had any contact with her , yes I would, which I think she found quite surprising.
So I open this question up to you lot. Would you turn down the offer of sex if you had had no prior contact, or a complete stranger"
Yes because it would not suit or satisfy me and what I want to get out of a meet, and therefore I doubt they would enjoy themselves. |
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Sorry, sorry.
How is it “desperate” to be spontaneous?
If someone approaches me in a bar (or on fab) and I fancy them and it is clear that they would like to have sex with me, then chances are, I will have sex with them.
Didn’t realise this made me a heinous individual or “desperate”
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, it might be different point but it doesn't happen only between male and female.
I need a connection to have sex.
I know sometimes people are very spontaneous and dont blame them but the buzzer in my head will be stopping me to go further than kissing her
Kiss is always a great start 
You know it in seconds if this will lead or not to something unique and special |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are some men having difficulty believing other men say yes to this thread. I'm 60, prematurely grey and overweight. Still my answer is yes.
I agree. This thread is a good filter for me "
A lot of the forums should be a good filter for the discerning.
However "I got a biggun, wanna shag" is so prevalent I often wonder if or why it works. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"During an interesting conversation with another fabster, I was asked if I would turn a woman down if she offered me sex.
My response was that if I didn't know her, or had never had any contact with her , yes I would, which I think she found quite surprising.
So I open this question up to you lot. Would you turn down the offer of sex if you had had no prior contact, or a complete stranger"
It depends on the context, situation, do I find him atttactive? Does he find me attractive? Do I feel comfortable?
So... I’ve had sex with people I haven’t met before and chatted online. But I checked kinda the basic points, if not I’d refuse. And if the situation is odd, I’d refuse |
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"Sorry, sorry.
How is it “desperate” to be spontaneous?
If someone approaches me in a bar (or on fab) and I fancy them and it is clear that they would like to have sex with me, then chances are, I will have sex with them.
Didn’t realise this made me a heinous individual or “desperate”
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I'd you said yes to anyone that asks you, that would be desperate not spontaneous.
You have said if you fancied her. That was never part of the question.
I assume by what you said, that if you didn't find her attractive in the flesh you would say no?
Which would mean you 'would' turn down sex from a women. |
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By *elloWoman
over a year ago
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"During an interesting conversation with another fabster, I was asked if I would turn a woman down if she offered me sex.
My response was that if I didn't know her, or had never had any contact with her , yes I would, which I think she found quite surprising.
So I open this question up to you lot. Would you turn down the offer of sex if you had had no prior contact, or a complete stranger"
FAF OP?  |
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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
"During an interesting conversation with another fabster, I was asked if I would turn a woman down if she offered me sex.
My response was that if I didn't know her, or had never had any contact with her , yes I would, which I think she found quite surprising.
So I open this question up to you lot. Would you turn down the offer of sex if you had had no prior contact, or a complete stranger
FAF OP? "
what do you take me for, I'm a gentleman dont you know |
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"Sigh. Whatever happened to spontaneity, lust, desire, passion.... immediate attraction?
How far I have drifted from the “norm”.... "
I’m not a spontaneous person generally speaking. As for the rest, I don’t get those from a message (especially the “hey bbe wanna fuck” ones). I might feel those things in person if I met someone on a night out, but I probably still wouldn’t jump straight into bed with them out of concern for my safety. |
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"Sorry, sorry.
How is it “desperate” to be spontaneous?
If someone approaches me in a bar (or on fab) and I fancy them and it is clear that they would like to have sex with me, then chances are, I will have sex with them.
Didn’t realise this made me a heinous individual or “desperate”
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I don’t have a problem with any of your comments mate. You said some men so not tarring us all with the same brush |
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"Sorry, sorry.
How is it “desperate” to be spontaneous?
If someone approaches me in a bar (or on fab) and I fancy them and it is clear that they would like to have sex with me, then chances are, I will have sex with them.
Didn’t realise this made me a heinous individual or “desperate”
I don’t have a problem with any of your comments mate. You said some men so not tarring us all with the same brush "
Confused of Devon (having never said “some men”) |
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"Sorry, sorry.
How is it “desperate” to be spontaneous?
If someone approaches me in a bar (or on fab) and I fancy them and it is clear that they would like to have sex with me, then chances are, I will have sex with them.
Didn’t realise this made me a heinous individual or “desperate”
I don’t have a problem with any of your comments mate. You said some men so not tarring us all with the same brush
Confused of Devon (having never said “some men”) "
No wasn’t you,was city jeans. |
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"Sorry, sorry.
How is it “desperate” to be spontaneous?
If someone approaches me in a bar (or on fab) and I fancy them and it is clear that they would like to have sex with me, then chances are, I will have sex with them.
Didn’t realise this made me a heinous individual or “desperate”
I don’t have a problem with any of your comments mate. You said some men so not tarring us all with the same brush
Confused of Devon (having never said “some men”)
No wasn’t you,was city jeans. "
I am not responsible for all posters from Devon, I did try to become the “King of Devon” but I lost out in 2nd round voting to a badger |
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"Sorry, sorry.
How is it “desperate” to be spontaneous?
If someone approaches me in a bar (or on fab) and I fancy them and it is clear that they would like to have sex with me, then chances are, I will have sex with them.
Didn’t realise this made me a heinous individual or “desperate”
I don’t have a problem with any of your comments mate. You said some men so not tarring us all with the same brush
Confused of Devon (having never said “some men”)
No wasn’t you,was city jeans.
I am not responsible for all posters from Devon, I did try to become the “King of Devon” but I lost out in 2nd round voting to a badger "
Don’t let a badger stop you’re dream |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends on the situation. Usually, even if I fancy him, I'd prefer to build a connection so I'd probably start a conversation instead and see how it went. However, occasionally if I'm out dancing and drinking, I'll come across a guy I fancy and if he's up for it too then maybe I'll go have a fun night with him. |
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