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As some of you may remember I lost my shit a bit the last few months, took a major slump due to the death of friends and the world being a cunt of a place.
It's the funeral tomorrow of my mate that was killed by the hit n run driver (who's still unidentified at the moment) whilst he was out walking his dog.
The floral tribute from a group of us who used to play xbox together is being dropped off at mine in the next hour and I'm nervous about it. I've organised the flowers and although I wanna see them, I don't at the same time. I wanna "do him proud" with the flowers, but that's impossible, how can you do a life proud like that? I don't doubt for a sec he'd not be chuffed with them, I dunno it's weird. Although I want the funeral to come n go so this bit of the ordeal is over (he was killed at the end of Feb) I don't, who does?
I know I'm waffling, I'm a little here n there ya know?
So yeah, that's me processing by the written word I suppose.
Gonna be a bastard of a day, but hopefully one that's full of love and peace.
Sending you all good vibes and do me a favour, drop a mate a message.... just let em know you love em.
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My thoughts will be with you Peach and you know where to find me if you need to vent or just tell someone stuff.
Take care of you and I know your mate will always have thought you were awesome and did him proud in all you do xx
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I've never had a funeral of a friend so I'm not sure what to say. It'll be a hard day, remember the good bits of the times you shared together is all I have.
I'm popping to see my mate tonight because of you and I will give her a hug.
Look after yourself x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's never easy things like this.
You feel cheated because you never got to say goodbye.
Thing is we all end up with regrets. No one lives life without them.
So today celebrate the life that was and everything about your friend, all they did and how you enjoyed them being around.
And if you remember that they will always be there in spirit
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Losing your best friends or mates is always a big shit life pinch in the face. Even now I think about my friends I lost and get rough inside.
But life goes on, I think about all the good time and silly stupid things we done together. Some reckless shit that could have killed all of us. The it makes me smile or laugh.
So think about that silly things you done with him, what make him laugh about you.
Embrasse that day like a wrestler, don’t let it take you down....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wish I could offer advice on how to cope in the lead up and aftermath, but I hope writing it out here helped you process what's about to come up.
I'm sorry to hear about your friend, especially as it must have been so sudden and the funeral is your chance at closure. These next few days will be tough but from what I've seen of you here, I have no doubt you have the character to come out the other side |
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I lost my best mate in accident in my 20's. There is no words I can speak that will make it better. I still think of him when certain songs come up on the radio or I pass the pub we used to drink in. He'll always with me, as your friend will be with you. Big hugs you'll get through it x |
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"As some of you may remember I lost my shit a bit the last few months, took a major slump due to the death of friends and the world being a cunt of a place.
It's the funeral tomorrow of my mate that was killed by the hit n run driver (who's still unidentified at the moment) whilst he was out walking his dog.
The floral tribute from a group of us who used to play xbox together is being dropped off at mine in the next hour and I'm nervous about it. I've organised the flowers and although I wanna see them, I don't at the same time. I wanna "do him proud" with the flowers, but that's impossible, how can you do a life proud like that? I don't doubt for a sec he'd not be chuffed with them, I dunno it's weird. Although I want the funeral to come n go so this bit of the ordeal is over (he was killed at the end of Feb) I don't, who does?
I know I'm waffling, I'm a little here n there ya know?
So yeah, that's me processing by the written word I suppose.
Gonna be a bastard of a day, but hopefully one that's full of love and peace.
Sending you all good vibes and do me a favour, drop a mate a message.... just let em know you love em.
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Really hard times you're going through and I hope they find the coward responsible.
Send you lots of hugs and I'm here for venting if you need.
I'm sure you've done him proud for sure x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only advice I can offer having lost 3 family members in 2013
is to laugh with the memories
when you can
cry when you want too and scream if you want too.
I often look up to the sky and speak to my brother because although we were not close I still miss him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't say I know you PP so I have nothing to offer except positive thoughts.
You seem really nice and sincere and your emotional vulnerability is really intense recently and for obvious reasons.
The next few days will be rough but hopefully you can process and find some comfort |
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Sincerely sorry to here about your friend. It's going to be tough for awhile, no way of getting around it, but always remember the good times you shared, and also remember, your friend wouldn't want you to be sad for a long time, your friend would want you to go on with your life and be happy, and to think about them from time to time with good thoughts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow Peach that is a lot to deal with, sending hugs and virtual strength to get through the day 
Roll with the emotion when it takes you x
You know you are doing him proud by remembering and honouring his memory. It is so hard saying goodbye and the circumstances make it particularly difficult |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you are stood there tomorrow feeling shit, just think hard of all the times you laughed together, and did crazy shit. It's okay to cry and smile at funerals, you are there to celebrate a life. People are only ever really gone if you forget them. Even if the remembering brings a tear, let it flow and think of a time that was fun and be grateful you had that..x |
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I went through a similar wave of conflicting feelings and emotions a couple of years ago when my parents died close together.
As the eldest and only local one of their children I was the one left organising everything and while I also wanted to “do them proud” I also could barely cope with the pressure and even just thinking about it was incredibly painful and stressful.
There is no magic wand that makes everything better, but hopefully you and your friends can find solace in each other.
I’m sure you’ll do them proud x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The flowers don't really matter. Going to the funeral is your tribute to your friend. The love and respect you have for your friend. It will hurt but you will not be alone in that, the others will be hurting too. Take plenty of tissues, make sure you have someones hand to hold, it will keep you both steady. It is a chance to say goodbye, one that sadly many of his friends and loved ones were denied to do in person. Other than that try to put the negatives of the day to one side. Remember the good and positive things your friend brought into his family, friends and your lifes. |
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I lost a dear friend at the end of January. Watched her funeral on a TV screen. I couldn't do anything for her apart from cry my eyes out. Do whatever you are allowed to. Keep him in your heart and cry your eyes out. My heart and thoughts are with you plus a few tears (heart) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My personal experience is that the truth is there is so little you can do and that's part of the pain along with the despair, emptyness and sense of unfair loss.
It sounds like youre doing as much as you can Peach - as much as any of us could. Be kind to yourself as well as the others today xx.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The flowers have arrived, and honestly couldn't be more perfect. It's such a relief "
That’s excellent that you’re pleased with then Princess.
I really hope you’re feeling a little better about the day now.
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"The flowers have arrived, and honestly couldn't be more perfect. It's such a relief
That’s excellent that you’re pleased with then Princess.
I really hope you’re feeling a little better about the day now.
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Yeah, now they're here I've settled. I know they're just flowers but I was "representing" by sorting them kinda thing, they're not just from me but from a group of us. I wanted everyone to be happy and they are |
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"The flowers have arrived, and honestly couldn't be more perfect. It's such a relief
That’s excellent that you’re pleased with then Princess.
I really hope you’re feeling a little better about the day now.
Yeah, now they're here I've settled. I know they're just flowers but I was "representing" by sorting them kinda thing, they're not just from me but from a group of us. I wanted everyone to be happy and they are"
Just seen this thread, Peachy. Glad you've settled a bit, hugs from us |
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