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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Had a very bad meet tonight has anyone had one and ran a mile like ann did tonight and how do we get rid of the creeps,the dirty smelly,unclean guys who spoil it for the good guys xx |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Had a very bad meet tonight has anyone had one and ran a mile like ann did tonight and how do we get rid of the creeps,the dirty smelly,unclean guys who spoil it for the good guys xx"
its not exclusive to guys. I know some single guys who havemet women who are adverse to a good personal hygiene routine  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a very bad meet tonight has anyone had one and ran a mile like ann did tonight and how do we get rid of the creeps,the dirty smelly,unclean guys who spoil it for the good guys xx"
I almost always meet socially in a pub first. Then if I like take them back or go to theirs but if not I will say no thanks and if asked give my reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just playing devils advocate here
You thought he was ok enough to meet him but it was'nt as good as you intended it to be
Are you saying that you will only rely on what other people have said about someone before you decide to meet them? use your own instinct,no-one will ever show a bad verification on a profile anyway
He turned up did'nt he?
Its no-ones fault that you did'nt get along,its just one of those things that can happen
I hope your next meet is a better one  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I do expect people we meet to be be clean and respect themselves but this one was aweful, and creepy wouldn't want a single woman to walk into that enviroment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The mistake we made tonight was we went to a guy who didn't have any veris and won't make same mistake again"
His hidden veri said creapy unclean smelly, will not meet again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The mistake we made tonight was we went to a guy who didn't have any veris and won't make same mistake again"
Hate to be so blunt, but serve you right - sorry  We would never EVER meet ANYONE who has not got at least one veri-by-meeting. If you still wanted to meet this guy cos everything else looked good, then like others have said, you should have met somewhere neutral for a drink first on the STRICT understanding that you had the right of veto if not happy in any way.
Once again - sorry to be so direct about this....
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two sides to every story..
his may differ and in any case, bit indiscrete to slag someone off..
your post about 'him' and single women is uncalled for, who was he hannibal lecter?
just my opinion.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The mistake we made tonight was we went to a guy who didn't have any veris and won't make same mistake again"
I don't think a veri would have necessarily saved you.
One persons creepy is another persons normal.
Also I don't believe a veri is a guarantee of cleanliness.
Put it down to experience and move on  |
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Most people live somewhere near a pub, so a swift lemonade can give the opportunity to asses the attraction and compatibility.
Like a lot of single females I insist on a coffee meet (as a single I prefer to meet without alcohol being on offer). Anyone not willing to do so gets my best wishes and a goodbye.
I have rarely met people with poor hygiene, but I do turn down around 50% of meets on the basis of insufficient lust. But if they are pleasant, have good hygiene and a good attitude and turned up where and when they said then I verify - just cos I don't fancy them doesn't mean the next woman won't. 
But it is far easier to make my escape from a public place than from someones house. And yes, I have been there and done that!  |
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"Hate to be so blunt, but serve you right - sorry We would never EVER meet ANYONE who has not got at least one veri-by-meeting."
Really??? What if the first (and by default 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc) people you met from here thought the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The first time we ever met anyone from a site about 4 years ago it ended up with us escaping from their house in hysterical laughter and that was after a drink in a pub first,we drove off in a cloud of smoke thinking wtf happened there?
We have leanrt lots since
No matter how many checks you put in place or how many verifications tell you that the person is the best meet in the world,that is no guarantee that its going to be a good meet for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a very bad meet tonight has anyone had one and ran a mile like ann did tonight and how do we get rid of the creeps,the dirty smelly,unclean guys who spoil it for the good guys xx"
Mingers come with and without cock. The worst though are the ones that you think dont have one but do.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meet socially first?
My thoughts entirely - you might not get close to their armpits and other bits but you get a general impression and can check for halitosis."
yeah tic tacs should be available in the form of fanny wipes too  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I often wonder how anyone ever started meeting anyone at all from here the amount of people that say they would never meet anyone who wasn't verified. "
The verification, or lack of, would not worry me as everybody has to start somewhere. If there were no veris I would just talk on the phone a few times to get a "feel" for the person prior to meeting. |
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"I often wonder how anyone ever started meeting anyone at all from here the amount of people that say they would never meet anyone who wasn't verified. The verification, or lack of, would not worry me as everybody has to start somewhere. If there were no veris I would just talk on the phone a few times to get a "feel" for the person prior to meeting. "
I will meet unverified guys, but I expect recent face pics and that they either already have or are happy to verify them and that the first meet is over coffee in a public place.
I want to be reasonably certain that I will be able to recognise who I am meeting. And I will verify. We all have to start somewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We had an awful meet the last time we played, we've had a wobble and are now slowly getting back on the horse with lessons learnt! Glad you're safe!!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I often wonder how anyone ever started meeting anyone at all from here the amount of people that say they would never meet anyone who wasn't verified. "
In the past there were prob far less cocks in frocks with female profiles on wank trips |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hate to be so blunt, but serve you right - sorry We would never EVER meet ANYONE who has not got at least one veri-by-meeting.
Really??? What if the first (and by default 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc) people you met from here thought the same "
True, but it's a learning curve and you have to find what you're comfortable with. When I was on another site a couple of years back as a single guy there was NO verification system at all, so it was a level playing field. Sometimes wonder if the verification facility is actually worth having.
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Each case is different I guess - sometimes you get a funny vibe about people after a couple of email exchanges and then if you pursue they turn out really nice, just bad choice of words in teh email perhaps. Other times you think they are great and they turn out to be somewhat different when you meet. Anything is possible in the scene... but also in the vanilla world. I am quite good with my instinct usually. |
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"Hate to be so blunt, but serve you right - sorry We would never EVER meet ANYONE who has not got at least one veri-by-meeting.
Really??? What if the first (and by default 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc) people you met from here thought the same
True, but it's a learning curve and you have to find what you're comfortable with. When I was on another site a couple of years back as a single guy there was NO verification system at all, so it was a level playing field. Sometimes wonder if the verification facility is actually worth having.
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I don't personally pay much attention to them.
I've met a few single guys who werent verified and no horror stories.
In 4 years I have only ever encountered 2 timewasters (arranged and confirmed the meet and didnt turn up) both of those were well verified on Fab.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I appreciate all your comments and take them all on board as a cpl I feel the safety and security of a woman going to meet a guy is imperitive and we will probably have other bad meets but we enjoy going out to meet new people and it won't put us off but be more careful in the future. |
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Worst meet I had a good few years ago from a different site was a couple wonting a threesome, but it soon become very clear to me that the poor women had obviously been talked into it by the guy, it was very awkward and I felt really sorry for her, I did not have sex with her made my excuses and left, reading between the lines I think the guys plan was to get guys round their with the real intension of trying to shag the guy :-$ sneaky sod, he got in touch a few months latter apologising for the women being a let down, and saying he now had a new girl friend who was really up for it and would I like to meet again, he must have really had the bloody gift of the gab to get two women even to agree to turn up for it.
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Worst meet I had a good few years ago from a different site was a couple wonting a threesome, but it soon become very clear to me that the poor women had obviously been talked into it by the guy, it was very awkward and I felt really sorry for her, I did not have sex with her made my excuses and left, reading between the lines I think the guys plan was to get guys round their with the real intension of trying to shag the guy :-$ sneaky sod, he got in touch a few months latter apologising for the women being a let down, and saying he now had a new girl friend who was really up for it and would I like to meet again, he must have really had the bloody gift of the gab to get two women even to agree to turn up for it.
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That is a horrible experience for the woman and arguably for you. Anybody who appears to be playing under duresse .. its plain wrong and also a turn off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I appreciate all your comments and take them all on board as a cpl I feel the safety and security of a woman going to meet a guy is imperitive and we will probably have other bad meets but we enjoy going out to meet new people and it won't put us off but be more careful in the future."
Let's hope you just had a bad one. Maybe you could throw in a question into your messages like..... "(fem) likes Lynx Africa body spray on a guy. What one do you use...?" If he answers, 'What's Lynx?' ya know what yar in fer....!! Bit tacky but worth a try..
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"I often wonder how anyone ever started meeting anyone at all from here the amount of people that say they would never meet anyone who wasn't verified. "
I bet it caused a forum argument. You 1st... No you 1st... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Moodycow. You habe just made a very good point. I feel, that I will never find anyone from here as i am only phot verified. Know one seems to trust single guys.
I consider myself a nice guy and always find partners or couples when i visit the friendlier clubs. Incidentally you do npt come across as a moody cow x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Maybe you could throw in a question into your messages like..... "(fem) likes Lynx Africa body spray on a guy. What one do you use...?" If he answers, 'What's Lynx?' ya know what yar in fer....!! Bit tacky but worth a try..
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Q: What's Lynx ?
A: Perky in FM heels... |
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