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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A few days ago talking to our eldest about what to expect when he goes to high school in September, then realising that all the advice we were giving him could be completely off point because it was 18+ years ago that we were in that situation.
So question.... do you actually realise your age ? Or do you , like us , talk as if you're a lot younger and not realise how many years have passed ? |
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By *rFun50Man
over a year ago
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As someone who is a bit in the middle of this I do get what you mean. I’m 26 which isn’t in any way old at all, I often see people in their late 30s or their 40s as much more “Proper adults” than myself. But at the same time I sometimes shock myself that it’s 10 years since I left school. I hate the cliche but age really is just a number, you can feel older or younger based on situations. Do you remember how grown up you felt at 16/17, and now they just look so young! Act young and have fun I say! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sound like me this  ... I forget I’m 41 ... as I don’t look no where near it We defo look our ages plus some haha buy it's all in the mind
Deffo is in the mind .. I’m still 23  "
Ohhhh if someone mentions jagerbombs we're both 18 again no questions asked haha . Then back to reality on a Monday morning trying to hide the silver hairs  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have friends just starting families, I have friends who are now grandparents.
Have to admit I’ve been feeling like I’ve gone up a generation the last few years and I’m not really a fan of it. "
Dreading the grandparents stage! Hopefully it's layer rather than sooner ! |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"My son turned 15 this week...definitely made me realize my age 
Our eldest turned 11 last week , rather not think about it "
Ask me again in 3 years...i'll need to rob a bank to finance uni!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I literally just had this conversation with my oldest friend. We grew up together, and it's hard to comprehend that we are now the same age our parents were when we were in school. They seemed so "old"!! But they were we think. Times have changed and our generation still have a youthful outlook and persona. Possibly because we did not have the same struggles as they or our grandparents did.
We do however often find ourselves having that "you know John who was married to Mary who had a child for Jack who was your second cousin on your father's side" type of conversation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m 44 and it freaks me out that people my age are old enough to have kids (even grandkids!). I only started feeling just about mature enough for marriage at 41 (still not married though). |
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"I have friends just starting families, I have friends who are now grandparents.
Have to admit I’ve been feeling like I’ve gone up a generation the last few years and I’m not really a fan of it. "
I’m glad I’m not the only one!! I’m 45 tomorrow but don’t feel it!! My 19 yr old thinks I’m ancient
J x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I literally just had this conversation with my oldest friend. We grew up together, and it's hard to comprehend that we are now the same age our parents were when we were in school. They seemed so "old"!! But they were we think. Times have changed and our generation still have a youthful outlook and persona. Possibly because we did not have the same struggles as they or our grandparents did.
We do however often find ourselves having that "you know John who was married to Mary who had a child for Jack who was your second cousin on your father's side" type of conversation "
Youthful outlook but the grey hairs stop the youthful look  browsing social media noticing how many of our school friends are married with children and so on , then remembering we're actually getting old lol. But yeah youthful outlook for definite ! Will soooo be taking our kids clubbing when they turn 18  or at least we'll try! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have friends just starting families, I have friends who are now grandparents.
Have to admit I’ve been feeling like I’ve gone up a generation the last few years and I’m not really a fan of it.
I’m glad I’m not the only one!! I’m 45 tomorrow but don’t feel it!! My 19 yr old thinks I’m ancient
J x"
Best way around that , embarrass them in the supermarket chicken dance at morrisons checkouts is the real winner |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m 44 and it freaks me out that people my age are old enough to have kids (even grandkids!). I only started feeling just about mature enough for marriage at 41 (still not married though). "
Long engagement for us ! No way are we old enough to be married yet (mentally that is ) lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m 44 and it freaks me out that people my age are old enough to have kids (even grandkids!). I only started feeling just about mature enough for marriage at 41 (still not married though).
Long engagement for us ! No way are we old enough to be married yet (mentally that is ) lol "
Still trying to find someone to even have the long engagement with |
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My oldest child is 31 & my oldest grandchild is nearly 10, I'm 50 in less than six months but I still feel like I'm in my thirties, I have a young outlook on life I think as I'm surrounded by young people at work & home.
I wouldn't want to be young now though with all the social media around, bad hair styles, clothes choices, etc saved for eternity |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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I can feel myself getting physically older.
Mentally I am maturing but I'm still very able to adapt and grasp to things changing, advice I give is adjusted based upon what I knew about then, and what I know now. Of which I am quite capable of keeping up with most things... I'm not quite "back in my day" but there are also strange and bizzare "trends" of the modern day that scare me, not through confusion but disbelief that they are a thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have friends around my age and younger who to me look older than I do. I'm not sure if it is fact or delusion.
It's remembering things that you thought were a few years ago and turns out they were a few decades ago... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At the tender age of 71, I still think like a much younger person, not sure how old I look but have been told by people that I look younger. Must be all the late nights, drinking and chasing women, I never catch them but the exercise must be working  |
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I feel amazing. I never feel my age. Or do I ?
When I looked at people my age when I was in my 20's I thought they were ancient and knew nothing.... now when I listen to those in their 20's I can only smile as I know they are not yet fully baked and speak only from their limited experiences in life.
When I walk around the neighbourhood going ..... look at the shit, look a the litter..... listen to the noise.... look at the untidy gardens/shops/pubs/businesses...... Listen to the awful vowel dropping vulgar , loud language......
Then I realise I haven't noticed that we are not in the 70's anymore. 
I endure. Therefore i'm young. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A few days ago talking to our eldest about what to expect when he goes to high school in September, then realising that all the advice we were giving him could be completely off point because it was 18+ years ago that we were in that situation.
So question.... do you actually realise your age ? Or do you , like us , talk as if you're a lot younger and not realise how many years have passed ? "
Did you tell him to watch out for that goldfish? ... do kids even still do that to each other lol
- I realise it. Try not to think about it
I (we) don’t act it I don’t think ... or at least we don’t act like people we went to school with do - some of them fuckers are ancient lol xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have friends around my age and younger who to me look older than I do. I'm not sure if it is fact or delusion.
It's remembering things that you thought were a few years ago and turns out they were a few decades ago..."
Thisssss ^ |
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Yeah we talk as if 1990 was about five years ago . My dad talks about 1947 as if it was yesterday.
When our kids friends have children we sometimes talk about our experiences and you can see them thinking "but it's all different now" |
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4 me still avin friends who I grew up with makes me feel young around me .but then ur nieces .nephews who u looked after av now got kids of their own .realise how years av flown by .Still a kid at heart x |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"A few days ago talking to our eldest about what to expect when he goes to high school in September, then realising that all the advice we were giving him could be completely off point because it was 18+ years ago that we were in that situation.
So question.... do you actually realise your age ? Or do you , like us , talk as if you're a lot younger and not realise how many years have passed ? "
You have to realise it with kids , it’s risky if you don’t , especially as they get older and you advise them on education and careers. Some research shows kids get the worse possible career advice from parents , followed by school because they base it in how they remember things. It puts pressure on you as parents to not live in the past and adapt to modern culture and be relevant etc which is a good thing. I made a decision not to ever moan at my teenagers music tastes and play all the music I liked at their age, but discover new music together at festivals etc. You also need to be on top of social media and all the kids of pressures if you little ones so you can help them navigate all that safely, because the chances are your kids will have body image issues, join weird online forums, meet strangers off the internet and regularly self harm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of my work colleagues are in their late 20’s and early 30’s and I don’t feel much older myself in my deluded mind when I’m with them, my sometimes creaking bones bring me back to earth with a bump most mornings and hit me with a dose of Welsh reality that I’m actually 53..(not that I look it mind)! |
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By *amish SMan
over a year ago
Eastleigh |
Doesn't matter how old you are, in the kids eyes you were never young!!
I was lucky to work with youngsters, some from 16 years old, so managed to keep up with things. Some went on to become good engineers and leaders.
As I remind some, kids are not yours, they are only loaned to you, I remind my very independant youngest of this now she is 22 and living in here own place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm 44, physically feel about 94, in my head only 24, get told I look about 34...
Still not a "proper" adult though I don't think. "
Don't bother. Being a grown up is severely over-rated... |
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By *lovisMan
over a year ago
Twickenham |
Went to Body Works exhibition in London and they have body analysis machines at the end. My results said that my metabolism was that of a 74 year old. Disappointment that this isn't enough to get me my pension already. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My brain has 2 ages, one much younger than the other.. They have no idea the other exists ... I think my penchant for younger guys is because of my young brain part... I still feel my spirit is young... The old part is for talking/philosophising/advice and other things that can only come from a life lived... That kinda guff, ya know... For that, I quite like being old  not sure which bit the talking shite comes from though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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(M) Yes - most certainly. Plus the reality hitting that many of the hope and dreams of youth will never be realised. That’s the hardest part. Accepting the mediocrity reached at middle age |
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