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If you had elderly relative who was near to the end of their life. Who was lonely, unhappy and depressed and sexually frustrated.
And, they confinded in you that im the past they had seen escorts, and really wanted to again but wasn't in a position to arrange this themselves, would you
arrange it for them?
It would have taken quite a bit for them to open up about their wants and needs. How understanding would you be?
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"If you had elderly relative who was near to the end of their life. Who was lonely, unhappy and depressed and sexually frustrated.
And, they confinded in you that im the past they had seen escorts, and really wanted to again but wasn't in a position to arrange this themselves, would you
arrange it for them?
It would have taken quite a bit for them to open up about their wants and needs. How understanding would you be?
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"If you had elderly relative who was near to the end of their life. Who was lonely, unhappy and depressed and sexually frustrated.
And, they confinded in you that im the past they had seen escorts, and really wanted to again but wasn't in a position to arrange this themselves, would you
arrange it for them?
It would have taken quite a bit for them to open up about their wants and needs. How understanding would you be?
"
I would definitely and take them window shopping depending on there needs  |
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"If you had elderly relative who was near to the end of their life. Who was lonely, unhappy and depressed and sexually frustrated.
And, they confinded in you that im the past they had seen escorts, and really wanted to again but wasn't in a position to arrange this themselves, would you
arrange it for them?
It would have taken quite a bit for them to open up about their wants and needs. How understanding would you be?
"
I'm thinking you may have read the same advice column in a magazine that I did this morning op. |
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"If you had elderly relative who was near to the end of their life. Who was lonely, unhappy and depressed and sexually frustrated.
And, they confinded in you that im the past they had seen escorts, and really wanted to again but wasn't in a position to arrange this themselves, would you
arrange it for them?
It would have taken quite a bit for them to open up about their wants and needs. How understanding would you be?
I'm thinking you may have read the same advice column in a magazine that I did this morning op."
No..I never. This conversation actually happened today!
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"Honestly.. having recently lost my Dad (not a sympathy ploy) I would qute happily do almost anything that person asked of me... short of anything that'd get me jailed.. then I'd just fib"
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"If you had elderly relative who was near to the end of their life. Who was lonely, unhappy and depressed and sexually frustrated.
And, they confinded in you that im the past they had seen escorts, and really wanted to again but wasn't in a position to arrange this themselves, would you
arrange it for them?
It would have taken quite a bit for them to open up about their wants and needs. How understanding would you be?
"
Of course I would help. Be happy to. |
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Well in the newspaper magazine I read today there was something strikingly similar. A gentleman of nearly 80 who's wife died a while back was seeking out escorts to help him with his loneliness.
Your relative obviously trusts you alot to bring it up, just help them the best way that you can I guess. |
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"Well in the newspaper magazine I read today there was something strikingly similar. A gentleman of nearly 80 who's wife died a while back was seeking out escorts to help him with his loneliness.
Your relative obviously trusts you alot to bring it up, just help them the best way that you can I guess."
My relative is 80...I can't say the conversation was easy to begin with. And..I like to think I'm open minded. I was just a bit surprised! |
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"Absolutely...As for where to start; ask them about their previous experiences and work with them in arranging..I imagine many would do an outreach service if necessary.."
I mentioned it to my son and he said he'd take him f needed. Why shouldn't my relative enjoy whats left of his years.
Having them visit him maybe a way forward. |
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Yes I would, no question at all. I would make sure it was with someone that is used to providing services to the older generation (they usually put this in their profiles) and probably have a chat with them about this.
I’ve a few friends that are escorts, all seem to specialise in different sorts of clients and each one of them is a truly lovely person in their own right, it won’t be difficult to find what your elderly relative seeks.
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"Yes I would, no question at all. I would make sure it was with someone that is used to providing services to the older generation (they usually put this in their profiles) and probably have a chat with them about this.
I’ve a few friends that are escorts, all seem to specialise in different sorts of clients and each one of them is a truly lovely person in their own right, it won’t be difficult to find what your elderly relative seeks.
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I wish you were local because I could really do with some help! |
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"Well in the newspaper magazine I read today there was something strikingly similar. A gentleman of nearly 80 who's wife died a while back was seeking out escorts to help him with his loneliness.
Your relative obviously trusts you alot to bring it up, just help them the best way that you can I guess.
My relative is 80...I can't say the conversation was easy to begin with. And..I like to think I'm open minded. I was just a bit surprised!"
I can imagine you were surprised. I wonder if there is a site that caters for the more mature client. Maybe do a bit of investigating and see what's out there, then give him the tools and know how to make his choices on what exactly he is looking for. |
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"Well in the newspaper magazine I read today there was something strikingly similar. A gentleman of nearly 80 who's wife died a while back was seeking out escorts to help him with his loneliness.
Your relative obviously trusts you alot to bring it up, just help them the best way that you can I guess.
My relative is 80...I can't say the conversation was easy to begin with. And..I like to think I'm open minded. I was just a bit surprised!"
Why surprised ? I’d like to think at that age I’d get help and not be thought of as a perv
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"Yes I would, no question at all. I would make sure it was with someone that is used to providing services to the older generation (they usually put this in their profiles) and probably have a chat with them about this.
I’ve a few friends that are escorts, all seem to specialise in different sorts of clients and each one of them is a truly lovely person in their own right, it won’t be difficult to find what your elderly relative seeks.
I wish you were local because I could really do with some help!"
Some escorts specialise in “disabled” clients and whilst I am not suggesting that elderly = disabled these ladies/gents tend to be of a more patient and empathetic disposition (that is a sweeping generalisation, but it is a good indicator). There are also escorts of all ages and it may suit your relative to have a more mature escort, to help them relax and feel comfortable.
If you explain to the provider of the service what you are looking for, I think you will be pretty amazed at just how understanding they can be. |
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"Well in the newspaper magazine I read today there was something strikingly similar. A gentleman of nearly 80 who's wife died a while back was seeking out escorts to help him with his loneliness.
Your relative obviously trusts you alot to bring it up, just help them the best way that you can I guess.
My relative is 80...I can't say the conversation was easy to begin with. And..I like to think I'm open minded. I was just a bit surprised!
Why surprised ? I’d like to think at that age I’d get help and not be thought of as a perv
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More surprised that they opened up to me.
Not for one minute do I think it's pervy!
I'm more of the school of thought of... enjoy your life..do what makes you happy! |
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"Yes I would, no question at all. I would make sure it was with someone that is used to providing services to the older generation (they usually put this in their profiles) and probably have a chat with them about this.
I’ve a few friends that are escorts, all seem to specialise in different sorts of clients and each one of them is a truly lovely person in their own right, it won’t be difficult to find what your elderly relative seeks.
I wish you were local because I could really do with some help!
Some escorts specialise in “disabled” clients and whilst I am not suggesting that elderly = disabled these ladies/gents tend to be of a more patient and empathetic disposition (that is a sweeping generalisation, but it is a good indicator). There are also escorts of all ages and it may suit your relative to have a more mature escort, to help them relax and feel comfortable.
If you explain to the provider of the service what you are looking for, I think you will be pretty amazed at just how understanding they can be. "
Yes..I totally get what ykur saying.
I really want it to be an enjoyable experience for him and will definitely have that chat with the provider....once I find one! |
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"Well in the newspaper magazine I read today there was something strikingly similar. A gentleman of nearly 80 who's wife died a while back was seeking out escorts to help him with his loneliness.
Your relative obviously trusts you alot to bring it up, just help them the best way that you can I guess.
My relative is 80...I can't say the conversation was easy to begin with. And..I like to think I'm open minded. I was just a bit surprised!
Why surprised ? I’d like to think at that age I’d get help and not be thought of as a perv
More surprised that they opened up to me.
Not for one minute do I think it's pervy!
I'm more of the school of thought of... enjoy your life..do what makes you happy!"
Then take that thought and make a smile  |
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"Yes I would, no question at all. I would make sure it was with someone that is used to providing services to the older generation (they usually put this in their profiles) and probably have a chat with them about this.
I’ve a few friends that are escorts, all seem to specialise in different sorts of clients and each one of them is a truly lovely person in their own right, it won’t be difficult to find what your elderly relative seeks.
I wish you were local because I could really do with some help!
Some escorts specialise in “disabled” clients and whilst I am not suggesting that elderly = disabled these ladies/gents tend to be of a more patient and empathetic disposition (that is a sweeping generalisation, but it is a good indicator). There are also escorts of all ages and it may suit your relative to have a more mature escort, to help them relax and feel comfortable.
If you explain to the provider of the service what you are looking for, I think you will be pretty amazed at just how understanding they can be.
Yes..I totally get what ykur saying.
I really want it to be an enjoyable experience for him and will definitely have that chat with the provider....once I find one!"
Slight admission, I worked as a “companion” for a while and have had this conversation with relatives, it’s not as rare as you might believe. There are certain things I would avoid, which I won’t say here as they will be taken out of context but I’m sure you have an idea of what they might be. |
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"Yes I would, no question at all. I would make sure it was with someone that is used to providing services to the older generation (they usually put this in their profiles) and probably have a chat with them about this.
I’ve a few friends that are escorts, all seem to specialise in different sorts of clients and each one of them is a truly lovely person in their own right, it won’t be difficult to find what your elderly relative seeks.
I wish you were local because I could really do with some help!
Some escorts specialise in “disabled” clients and whilst I am not suggesting that elderly = disabled these ladies/gents tend to be of a more patient and empathetic disposition (that is a sweeping generalisation, but it is a good indicator). There are also escorts of all ages and it may suit your relative to have a more mature escort, to help them relax and feel comfortable.
If you explain to the provider of the service what you are looking for, I think you will be pretty amazed at just how understanding they can be.
Yes..I totally get what ykur saying.
I really want it to be an enjoyable experience for him and will definitely have that chat with the provider....once I find one!
Slight admission, I worked as a “companion” for a while and have had this conversation with relatives, it’s not as rare as you might believe. There are certain things I would avoid, which I won’t say here as they will be taken out of context but I’m sure you have an idea of what they might be. "
Thanks Devon...I really appreciate all of your input x |
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"Well in the newspaper magazine I read today there was something strikingly similar. A gentleman of nearly 80 who's wife died a while back was seeking out escorts to help him with his loneliness.
Your relative obviously trusts you alot to bring it up, just help them the best way that you can I guess.
My relative is 80...I can't say the conversation was easy to begin with. And..I like to think I'm open minded. I was just a bit surprised!
Why surprised ? I’d like to think at that age I’d get help and not be thought of as a perv
More surprised that they opened up to me.
Not for one minute do I think it's pervy!
I'm more of the school of thought of... enjoy your life..do what makes you happy!
Then take that thought and make a smile "
That's the plan! |
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Probably. I personally know a couple of escorts, one of whom specifically likes helping out older and disabled clients. Not sure I'd feel comfortable with my friend seeing a close relative but she could probably recommend someone. |
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"If you had elderly relative who was near to the end of their life. Who was lonely, unhappy and depressed and sexually frustrated.
And, they confinded in you that im the past they had seen escorts, and really wanted to again but wasn't in a position to arrange this themselves, would you
arrange it for them?
It would have taken quite a bit for them to open up about their wants and needs. How understanding would you be?
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Try a site called, I think McCoy's (as in the real McCoy) and search your friends area. |
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"If you find one Annabelle will you do it for us all when we reach 80?
Seriously .... I hope you find a solution "
I don't know about us all DC lol
But, there's a few I'd give a helping hand to
And thanks..I am working on it |
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"If you had elderly relative who was near to the end of their life. Who was lonely, unhappy and depressed and sexually frustrated.
And, they confinded in you that im the past they had seen escorts, and really wanted to again but wasn't in a position to arrange this themselves, would you
arrange it for them?
It would have taken quite a bit for them to open up about their wants and needs. How understanding would you be?
Try a site called, I think McCoy's (as in the real McCoy) and search your friends area. "
Oh ok..nice one |
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This thread has made me chuckle.
Not trying to downplay the situation in any way, and well done op for tackling such a difficult issue.
But in my head:
Some randy old bugger has played the I'm old card and convinced a relative to arrange a hot younger person to come and service them 
But maybe that's my twisted humour?
Like I said I think the OP is brave and understanding tackling such a issue which I'm sure must be something that happens alot more than anyone realises.
Who are we to deny others one of the most basic of human instincts to someone in their twilight years.
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