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seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
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"That first paragraph made sense.
After that, not so much.... Are you a more public person or private?"
Depends, often ony mood in the moment. But usually I get things the wrong way round and share things that ought to be private and bottle up things I ought to put out there |
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
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It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
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"That first paragraph made sense.
After that, not so much.... Are you a more public person or private?
Depends, often ony mood in the moment. But usually I get things the wrong way round and share things that ought to be private and bottle up things I ought to put out there"
Why do you think you get things (if you do) the wrong way around?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R"
You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings? |
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"That first paragraph made sense.
After that, not so much.... Are you a more public person or private?
Depends, often ony mood in the moment. But usually I get things the wrong way round and share things that ought to be private and bottle up things I ought to put out there Why do you think you get things (if you do) the wrong way around?
Share only what you think feasible...no pressure."
I'm probably not right in the head, that's why....
I understand more about your original post now, though, thanks to a few other replies above. I'm open to others at a superficial, or surface, level and enjoy the company of others most of the time.
I am quite guarded about more personal and intimate things, though |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That first paragraph made sense.
After that, not so much.... Are you a more public person or private?
Depends, often ony mood in the moment. But usually I get things the wrong way round and share things that ought to be private and bottle up things I ought to put out there Why do you think you get things (if you do) the wrong way around?
Share only what you think feasible...no pressure.
I'm probably not right in the head, that's why....
I understand more about your original post now, though, thanks to a few other replies above. I'm open to others at a superficial, or surface, level and enjoy the company of others most of the time.
I am quite guarded about more personal and intimate things, though"
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings?"
Well both. The talkers trying to kink shame the doers
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings?
Well both. The talkers trying to kink shame the doers
R"
Yes I see that 'shaming' happening here often.
Why do you think it is done? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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There are those who carry with themselves a demeanour of general unnapproachability (what a mouthful!) and those who do not.
Does your character reflect your interactiveness here? |
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings?
Well both. The talkers trying to kink shame the doers
R Yes I see that 'shaming' happening here often.
Why do you think it is done?"
Just closed minded. Closed minded people are more interested in being heard and being right instead of trying to see the other point of view. They tend to shout the loudest but say fuck all
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings?
Well both. The talkers trying to kink shame the doers
R Yes I see that 'shaming' happening here often.
Why do you think it is done?
Just closed minded. Closed minded people are more interested in being heard and being right instead of trying to see the other point of view. They tend to shout the loudest but say fuck all
R"
In other words...you dont have to agree with another's way but if no-one is being hurt in the matter let them get on with it.
Or do people feel a need to play doctor?
"For the safety of all?" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings?
Well both. The talkers trying to kink shame the doers
R Yes I see that 'shaming' happening here often.
Why do you think it is done?
Just closed minded. Closed minded people are more interested in being heard and being right instead of trying to see the other point of view. They tend to shout the loudest but say fuck all
R In other words...you dont have to agree with another's way but if no-one is being hurt in the matter let them get on with it.
Or do people feel a need to play doctor?
"For the safety of all?""
do you see the irony of you telling other people how they should behave while you are being offended by them telling you how to behave ? |
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings?"
Urgh men (as I look for men on here) that share their meets and the intimate detail either by veri or by photos/ videos are a complete turn off for me. Who wants or needs that? Nope nope nope |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings?
Well both. The talkers trying to kink shame the doers
R Yes I see that 'shaming' happening here often.
Why do you think it is done?
Just closed minded. Closed minded people are more interested in being heard and being right instead of trying to see the other point of view. They tend to shout the loudest but say fuck all
R In other words...you dont have to agree with another's way but if no-one is being hurt in the matter let them get on with it.
Or do people feel a need to play doctor?
"For the safety of all?"do you see the irony of you telling other people how they should behave while you are being offended by them telling you how to behave ?"
I see no dictatorship style going on here but reasonable engagement and thought. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings?
Urgh men (as I look for men on here) that share their meets and the intimate detail either by veri or by photos/ videos are a complete turn off for me. Who wants or needs that? Nope nope nope "
A fair opinion as it is your choice as to what you prefer. |
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"I read above or nowhere near our duvet. I wouldn't want to read under it. It sounds a bit impractical. Luke "
...But nothing wrong if that person chose to do so...right?
But what if that person hammered on others for doing the same things publicly?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings?
Urgh men (as I look for men on here) that share their meets and the intimate detail either by veri or by photos/ videos are a complete turn off for me. Who wants or needs that? Nope nope nope "
Strong and fair opinions...but can you perceive why others may not feel as you do? |
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"I read above or nowhere near our duvet. I wouldn't want to read under it. It sounds a bit impractical. Luke ...But nothing wrong if that person chose to do so...right?
But what if that person hammered on others for doing the same things publicly?
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Thing is in this world if you make things public then people will have an opinion and more than likely comment. That’s part and parcel of making things public. If you don’t want comments or options then don’t make it public. |
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings?
Urgh men (as I look for men on here) that share their meets and the intimate detail either by veri or by photos/ videos are a complete turn off for me. Who wants or needs that? Nope nope nope Strong and fair opinions...but can you perceive why others may not feel as you do?"
How others feel is none of my business .... if it turns me off they won’t get very far with me and that’s as it should be. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not a clue.
Sometimes your posts are more similar to Eric Cantona’s ramblings than anything else.
Your analogy about books and beds is just abstract! "
It's really about ideas of openness and closedness.
Private or public.
Similarities and differences.
Also how others might perceive them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I read above or nowhere near our duvet. I wouldn't want to read under it. It sounds a bit impractical. Luke ...But nothing wrong if that person chose to do so...right?
But what if that person hammered on others for doing the same things publicly?
Thing is in this world if you make things public then people will have an opinion and more than likely comment. That’s part and parcel of making things public. If you don’t want comments or options then don’t make it public. "
I agree and the last part is generally good wisdom....but what if to engage with others on here (profile) you had to make your interests known.
Does that mean open season on those individuals?
Or live and let live? |
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"Not a clue.
Sometimes your posts are more similar to Eric Cantona’s ramblings than anything else.
Your analogy about books and beds is just abstract! It's really about ideas of openness and closedness.
Private or public.
Similarities and differences.
Also how others might perceive them."
So you mean why some hide who they’re meeting and others don’t?
And you think that one party judges the other for their actions?
Is that what you’re asking? |
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings?
Urgh men (as I look for men on here) that share their meets and the intimate detail either by veri or by photos/ videos are a complete turn off for me. Who wants or needs that? Nope nope nope "
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"I read above or nowhere near our duvet. I wouldn't want to read under it. It sounds a bit impractical. Luke ...But nothing wrong if that person chose to do so...right?
But what if that person hammered on others for doing the same things publicly?
Thing is in this world if you make things public then people will have an opinion and more than likely comment. That’s part and parcel of making things public. If you don’t want comments or options then don’t make it public. I agree and the last part is generally good wisdom....but what if to engage with others on here (profile) you had to make your interests known.
Does that mean open season on those individuals?
Or live and let live?"
Life is always open season ... sure a profile is used to outline interests to assess compatibility but everyone reading will always have an opinion on everything they read whether consciously or sun consciously |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not a clue.
Sometimes your posts are more similar to Eric Cantona’s ramblings than anything else.
Your analogy about books and beds is just abstract! It's really about ideas of openness and closedness.
Private or public.
Similarities and differences.
Also how others might perceive them.
So you mean why some hide who they’re meeting and others don’t?
And you think that one party judges the other for their actions?
Is that what you’re asking? "
The first point may be relevant in some cases...public/private.
The second would just involve a strange hypocrisy and I am not reaching for that! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm probably in the publicly unavailable camp, in that I state on my profile I won't meet but I post pics anyway "
That would be so...if you do such you are publically unavailable no apostrophe needed.
I have no issue with that.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I read above or nowhere near our duvet. I wouldn't want to read under it. It sounds a bit impractical. Luke ...But nothing wrong if that person chose to do so...right?
But what if that person hammered on others for doing the same things publicly?
Thing is in this world if you make things public then people will have an opinion and more than likely comment. That’s part and parcel of making things public. If you don’t want comments or options then don’t make it public. I agree and the last part is generally good wisdom....but what if to engage with others on here (profile) you had to make your interests known.
Does that mean open season on those individuals?
Or live and let live?
Life is always open season ... sure a profile is used to outline interests to assess compatibility but everyone reading will always have an opinion on everything they read whether consciously or sun consciously "
True, but let's hope it stops short of open season on! |
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"Sounded to me like a comparison between cheaters and non cheaters to me."
I welcome your mental stimulus as it is interesting what people see in things at times.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not a clue.
Sometimes your posts are more similar to Eric Cantona’s ramblings than anything else.
Your analogy about books and beds is just abstract! It's really about ideas of openness and closedness.
Private or public.
Similarities and differences.
Also how others might perceive them.
So you mean why some hide who they’re meeting and others don’t?
And you think that one party judges the other for their actions?
Is that what you’re asking? The first point may be relevant in some cases...public/private.
The second would just involve a strange hypocrisy and I am not reaching for that!"
Although I did mention (not as primary thought but relative to) a scenario where what if someone 'beneath the covers' accused someone 'above the covers' for doing the same thing? |
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"seem to be 'publically unavailable' on fab have issues with those who are more 'publically available' on fab?
Isn't it a simple fact that you can read a book that is resting above or on top of bedsheets and also that same book with a smaller amount of light from beneath them?
But to most strangers arriving on such scenes (unless they knew your peculiarities or reasoning) one option among those might seem just that 'slight bit different' or strange?
It's the same with most things on here. The kink threads are rife with it. It's funny when they start preaching about kinks that I love when they have never tried or have no intrest in
R You mean more talkers than actual doers? Or more private (for whatever reason) about their doings?
Well both. The talkers trying to kink shame the doers
R Yes I see that 'shaming' happening here often.
Why do you think it is done?
Just closed minded. Closed minded people are more interested in being heard and being right instead of trying to see the other point of view. They tend to shout the loudest but say fuck all
R In other words...you dont have to agree with another's way but if no-one is being hurt in the matter let them get on with it.
Or do people feel a need to play doctor?
"For the safety of all?"do you see the irony of you telling other people how they should behave while you are being offended by them telling you how to behave ?"
I'm not offended. Just pointing out that people have more to say in subjects that don't intrest them
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