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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
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Attraction is a strange thing, as I get older I do find myself becoming more of a sapiophile, and looking for more of a mental connection to a playmate, after all it's said that the brain is the best sex organ a person can possess.
Physical attraction aside, what draws you to someone to select as a playmate, fuck buddy, partner or whatever you want to call it |
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over a year ago
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I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist  |
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over a year ago
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist "
Whos on your hotlist |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Whos on your hotlist "
It's empty right now *this might be a fib*  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m new to this. I’ve never had sex outside of a long term relationship, which started as a friendship. I don’t know yet what would attract me for ‘fun’ sex. I’m still finding my feet. |
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist "
Well that’s good to know x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Well that’s good to know x "
Yeah I've probably just eliminated so many in one clean sweep by coming across as an arrogant nob only attracted to intelligence 
Ffs, I post some real clangers at times |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Well that’s good to know x
Yeah I've probably just eliminated so many in one clean sweep by coming across as an arrogant nob only attracted to intelligence
Ffs, I post some real clangers at times "
Not at all I like that! I love chatting |
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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Well that’s good to know x
Yeah I've probably just eliminated so many in one clean sweep by coming across as an arrogant nob only attracted to intelligence
Ffs, I post some real clangers at times "
But I still love you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Well that’s good to know x
Yeah I've probably just eliminated so many in one clean sweep by coming across as an arrogant nob only attracted to intelligence
Ffs, I post some real clangers at times But I still love you "
You know that sinking feeling when you read back your post but it's too late to delete |
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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Well that’s good to know x
Yeah I've probably just eliminated so many in one clean sweep by coming across as an arrogant nob only attracted to intelligence
Ffs, I post some real clangers at times But I still love you
You know that sinking feeling when you read back your post but it's too late to delete "
all the time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Well that’s good to know x
Yeah I've probably just eliminated so many in one clean sweep by coming across as an arrogant nob only attracted to intelligence
Ffs, I post some real clangers at times "
Such arrogance Pinocchio |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being attracted to someone and finding someone attractive are two very different things for me. Finding someone attractive is based on looks alone.
I'm mostly attracted to humour. Banter, sarcasm and the ability to have a laugh with someone makes them a good playmate for me. You can have the best looks in the world but if you have a personality of a wardrobe.. not for me  |
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"Being attracted to someone and finding someone attractive are two very different things for me. Finding someone attractive is based on looks alone.
I'm mostly attracted to humour. Banter, sarcasm and the ability to have a laugh with someone makes them a good playmate for me. You can have the best looks in the world but if you have a personality of a wardrobe.. not for me "
So true x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A connection or a dynamic is most important for me.
How they talk and how they think is much more important than how they look.
But as I'm thinking about this, maybe I disregard women who I don't find attractive or women who don't match my "type"
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I’ve found myself increasingly attracted to people with wit and a generally fun outlook on life, as well as intelligence and compassion... you may look incredible with a perfect body, but if there’s not much going on in your head or you’re incredibly dull, you’re not for me....
Not that anyone with a perfect body has shown any interest in me ever.... |
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"I’ve found myself increasingly attracted to people with wit and a generally fun outlook on life, as well as intelligence and compassion... you may look incredible with a perfect body, but if there’s not much going on in your head or you’re incredibly dull, you’re not for me....
Not that anyone with a perfect body has shown any interest in me ever...."
That's not what you told me the other week |
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Looks are important to me, and I'd never compromise on physical attraction...but aside from that I look for intelligence and an attitude of fun and not taking themselves or this thing called life too seriously. If they can follow my random conversations and share my dark sense of humour then we're going to be friends |
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I attracted to a person's looks first, it's what grabs my attention first. If I was a true sapiophile then gender, looks etc wouldn't matter at all and they do.
Intelligence to me has many guises. I have a PhD but that doesn't necessarily mean I am more intelligent than someone else. What I look for is for someone I can converse with about my interests. But I kinda think that's what everyone wants in a partner. |
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"I’ve found myself increasingly attracted to people with wit and a generally fun outlook on life, as well as intelligence and compassion... you may look incredible with a perfect body, but if there’s not much going on in your head or you’re incredibly dull, you’re not for me....
Not that anyone with a perfect body has shown any interest in me ever....
That's not what you told me the other week "
My dear, you have an enquiring mind, a filthy and charming wit and the best outlook on life... you know I would  |
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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
"I attracted to a person's looks first, it's what grabs my attention first. If I was a true sapiophile then gender, looks etc wouldn't matter at all and they do.
Intelligence to me has many guises. I have a PhD but that doesn't necessarily mean I am more intelligent than someone else. What I look for is for someone I can converse with about my interests. But I kinda think that's what everyone wants in a partner. "
but isn't that intelligence, the ability to to converse in an articulate way. |
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"I attracted to a person's looks first, it's what grabs my attention first. If I was a true sapiophile then gender, looks etc wouldn't matter at all and they do.
Intelligence to me has many guises. I have a PhD but that doesn't necessarily mean I am more intelligent than someone else. What I look for is for someone I can converse with about my interests. But I kinda think that's what everyone wants in a partner. but isn't that intelligence, the ability to to converse in an articulate way."
I don't particularly think so necessarily. One of best mates doesn't even have a GCSE in my field of expertise. But she will talk to me about my work get excited for me about. Even though she really doesn't have a clue. And I love her dearly for it. To me it's about taking an interest in someone and enjoying their company. |
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"I’ve found myself increasingly attracted to people with wit and a generally fun outlook on life, as well as intelligence and compassion... you may look incredible with a perfect body, but if there’s not much going on in your head or you’re incredibly dull, you’re not for me....
Not that anyone with a perfect body has shown any interest in me ever....
That's not what you told me the other week
My dear, you have an enquiring mind, a filthy and charming wit and the best outlook on life... you know I would "
But no perfect body I'm devastated going to go cry I to my cup of tea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Well that’s good to know x
Yeah I've probably just eliminated so many in one clean sweep by coming across as an arrogant nob only attracted to intelligence
Ffs, I post some real clangers at times "
Define “intelligence.” |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Well that’s good to know x
Yeah I've probably just eliminated so many in one clean sweep by coming across as an arrogant nob only attracted to intelligence
Ffs, I post some real clangers at times But I still love you
You know that sinking feeling when you read back your post but it's too late to delete "
Don’t read back your post. That’s my secret. Out of sight, out of mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Well that’s good to know x
Yeah I've probably just eliminated so many in one clean sweep by coming across as an arrogant nob only attracted to intelligence
Ffs, I post some real clangers at times
Define “intelligence.” "
See, this is where I dropped the clanger
Ok, maybe what I meant to say is someone who has interesting (to me) points to make and not just text speak or one word answers. They can articulate what they mean.
I don't think that's improved my answer in any way, shape or form  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Physical attraction is usually my initial attraction, so I wont be putting that aside.
Face first.
Then itelligence, wit, common ground, similar likes sexually, after that x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being attracted to someone and finding someone attractive are two very different things for me. Finding someone attractive is based on looks alone.
I'm mostly attracted to humour. Banter, sarcasm and the ability to have a laugh with someone makes them a good playmate for me. You can have the best looks in the world but if you have a personality of a wardrobe.. not for me "
Funnily enough, I find my wardrobe interesting; how smoothly the door slides, the arrangements of the drawers.....but I get your point and largely agree with it...apart from the wardrobe but, obviously. That’s just being a wardrophobe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Physical attraction is usually my initial attraction, so I wont be putting that aside.
Face first.
Then itelligence, wit, common ground, similar likes sexually, after that x"
Second all of this
Her x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me personally ....
A bubbly fun personality, perhaps a tad kooky , a devious and perverted mind . And someone who doesn't expect exclusivity as that's not happening, ever "
Soooo.....you’re exclusively non-exclusive then? Does that make you exclusively inclusive?  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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Attraction does shift and change as we get older, it’s often the result of experiences or the changes in our psychology.
I’ve found that my attraction has shifted but I still need to be physically attracted primarily. How that physical attraction is quantified has changed though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had sex with many people who others would not consider 'attractive', and it was absolutely the best sex. Thankfully they fuck unattractive people with no personality too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've contemplated this over many iterations of my profile and my various times on and off fab.
For me, it boils down to two things.
Can we hold and maintain a conversation?
Does she seem genuinely attracted to me in whatever way?
I've been lucky that all my meets have been lovely ladies who are genuinely attractive. But when you are inches away from someone, pulses racing and completely oblivious to the outside world, at that moment they are the most attractive person on the planet.
Yes, there are some peeps I find visually appealing, but attraction has to be mutual. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Well that’s good to know x
Yeah I've probably just eliminated so many in one clean sweep by coming across as an arrogant nob only attracted to intelligence
Ffs, I post some real clangers at times "
Not a clanger. I found myself nodding along as I read your post.
A post on the forum, a message or the 'about me' profile bit is more likely to make me interested in someone if it intrigues me in some way than photos and 'skills'.
It is probably age and having more idea of what I do or don't want. |
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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Whos on your hotlist "
You are now |
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"Being attracted to someone and finding someone attractive are two very different things for me. Finding someone attractive is based on looks alone.
I'm mostly attracted to humour. Banter, sarcasm and the ability to have a laugh with someone makes them a good playmate for me. You can have the best looks in the world but if you have a personality of a wardrobe.. not for me
Funnily enough, I find my wardrobe interesting; how smoothly the door slides, the arrangements of the drawers.....but I get your point and largely agree with it...apart from the wardrobe but, obviously. That’s just being a wardrophobe."
Disclaimer: This statement is a personal preference, this is not an attack on wardrobes or any other furniture. No wardrobes were harmed in the making of this post. |
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"I find myself making connections with people I can communicate well with.
Yeah there will always be times when you see a profile and the pictures are just so good, you have to have a peep but when I read a thoughtful and insightful post, I'm immediately intrigued by that person.
I don't think it's age that has done that, I've always been attracted to intelligent conversation.
If they look good as well, then they definitely go on my hotlist
Well that’s good to know x
Yeah I've probably just eliminated so many in one clean sweep by coming across as an arrogant nob only attracted to intelligence
Ffs, I post some real clangers at times
Define “intelligence.”
See, this is where I dropped the clanger
Ok, maybe what I meant to say is someone who has interesting (to me) points to make and not just text speak or one word answers. They can articulate what they mean.
I don't think that's improved my answer in any way, shape or form "
I can type more than one word answers and don’t even know how to use text speak. Nooow, the last point about interesting points to make...? Sorry, what was my point here?  |
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"Being attracted to someone and finding someone attractive are two very different things for me. Finding someone attractive is based on looks alone.
I'm mostly attracted to humour. Banter, sarcasm and the ability to have a laugh with someone makes them a good playmate for me. You can have the best looks in the world but if you have a personality of a wardrobe.. not for me
Funnily enough, I find my wardrobe interesting; how smoothly the door slides, the arrangements of the drawers.....but I get your point and largely agree with it...apart from the wardrobe but, obviously. That’s just being a wardrophobe.
Disclaimer: This statement is a personal preference, this is not an attack on wardrobes or any other furniture. No wardrobes were harmed in the making of this post."
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"For me personally ....
A bubbly fun personality, perhaps a tad kooky , a devious and perverted mind . And someone who doesn't expect exclusivity as that's not happening, ever
Soooo.....you’re exclusively non-exclusive then? Does that make you exclusively inclusive? "
Haha kind of yes!! I'm all for affection and hugs ( I love it ) but no way am I doing the one woman for life sexually scenario |
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"For me personally ....
A bubbly fun personality, perhaps a tad kooky , a devious and perverted mind . And someone who doesn't expect exclusivity as that's not happening, ever
Soooo.....you’re exclusively non-exclusive then? Does that make you exclusively inclusive?
Haha kind of yes!! I'm all for affection and hugs ( I love it ) but no way am I doing the one woman for life sexually scenario "
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I seek an attraction with his face and the spark of when I look forward to his next message.
The rest comes along naturally but if those two things aren't there initially then then I wouldn't invest in it |
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I need that first inital attraction as that what gets my attention.
I like someone who is down to earth and who can make me laugh my head off. Someone who is so laid back that they are almost horizontal x |
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"For me personally ....
A bubbly fun personality, perhaps a tad kooky , a devious and perverted mind . And someone who doesn't expect exclusivity as that's not happening, ever
Soooo.....you’re exclusively non-exclusive then? Does that make you exclusively inclusive?
Haha kind of yes!! I'm all for affection and hugs ( I love it ) but no way am I doing the one woman for life sexually scenario
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Haha I missed this |
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