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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Messaging others is just plain rude 
Checking phone, and I mean just checking I'm cool with as you don't know what commitments they have etc etc so they might need to check in
Also, nothing wrong with someone arranging safe calls etc |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I've had this before. I think my face did this.  And they messaged a good friend of mine.
It's only happened once before but it did make me think fuck I must be boring and view the person in a slightly different light. Before that I'd been caught in their dicksand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they started looking at their phone full stop I’d find it very disrespectful "
agree with this - if you're not enjoying the company of the person / people you're with enough to keep off your phone, then there probably isn't any point going any further!
even the lads I'm mates with rip into someone if they're on their phone on a night out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"
Feel a bit wtf but hey ho life goes on once you loved lost forever then life seems to lose it’s sparkle  |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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There are only a few acceptable reasons in my opinion for getting your phone out while meeting, including
Safety calls/checks
Responding to children/family
Wanting to show me something
Using it to message others on fab in front of me would not be something I would find acceptable.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely meet over.
I have checked my phone during meets because I was expecting a text/had family issues, but I apologised and did it as quickly as possible.
Actually browsing online and especially messaging others is just rude though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If there were reasons behind it, then I’d be okay with it as long as they were made known.
Letting a fab friend know where you are, if your safe etc.
But for no reason? Nah, toodles to you!! |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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It’s rude. It’s happened to me with a Fab meet at a restaurant and whilst waiting for our food he got his phone and had a WhatsApp group chat with work colleagues.
I should have left there and then but we’d ordered and I was hungry  but I did tell him I thought it rude and he said I was over reacting
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"It’s rude. It’s happened to me with a Fab meet at a restaurant and whilst waiting for our food he got his phone and had a WhatsApp group chat with work colleagues.
I should have left there and then but we’d ordered and I was hungry but I did tell him I thought it rude and he said I was over reacting
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I was once on an actual date and the guy leaned back from the table and looked down at his phone while messaging and saying "yeah" every few seconds to pretend he was listening even though I'd stopped talking . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess on the plus side this scenario, or any unnecessary phone use on a meet, is about as big a red flag that you need to know the person has little real interest in you. See ya, wouldn't want to be ya ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"
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I would say something, its happened and have said something...it comes down to respect, I would think there with me n setting up the next thing....f%%King cheek  |
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"It’s happened both ways... I actually was more offended by the one who messaged me from someone else’s house.. he got an earful. Rude!!! "
Oh yeah I had this recently , staying at his FB for the night and did I fancy meeting the following day whilst he was in the area |
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"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?
Are you with him now?  "
No, hypothetical question...just incase it ever happens for future reference. I wouldn't be happy and would feel like I wasn't good enough....didn't know if that would be an overreaction x |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"It’s rude. It’s happened to me with a Fab meet at a restaurant and whilst waiting for our food he got his phone and had a WhatsApp group chat with work colleagues.
I should have left there and then but we’d ordered and I was hungry but I did tell him I thought it rude and he said I was over reacting
I was once on an actual date and the guy leaned back from the table and looked down at his phone while messaging and saying "yeah" every few seconds to pretend he was listening even though I'd stopped talking . "
Bloody cheek! I hope he looked suitably embarrassed once he realised. |
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"It’s happened both ways... I actually was more offended by the one who messaged me from someone else’s house.. he got an earful. Rude!!!
Oh yeah I had this recently , staying at his FB for the night and did I fancy meeting the following day whilst he was in the area "
Charmer some people really don’t think do they?!?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?
Are you with him now?
No, hypothetical question...just incase it ever happens for future reference. I wouldn't be happy and would feel like I wasn't good enough....didn't know if that would be an overreaction x"
Shouldn't ever let anybody else's actions, leave you feeling or questioning if your good enough, your enough plain and simple, thats what I believe about myself |
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"It’s rude. It’s happened to me with a Fab meet at a restaurant and whilst waiting for our food he got his phone and had a WhatsApp group chat with work colleagues.
I should have left there and then but we’d ordered and I was hungry but I did tell him I thought it rude and he said I was over reacting
I was once on an actual date and the guy leaned back from the table and looked down at his phone while messaging and saying "yeah" every few seconds to pretend he was listening even though I'd stopped talking .
Bloody cheek! I hope he looked suitably embarrassed once he realised."
Nope, he paid little attention to whatever I said for the whole date to be honest . Also was really sleazy and overly touchy feely but then kicked off when I politely turned down a second date. Oblivious! |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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Just plain rude & it’d be “See Ya” but I can see it happening more & more with the younger generation being glued to theirs phones a lot of the time even on a night out.
Is it going to be the new normal?
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I have often sat on a social and chatted about Fab. I ask about their experience and what type of messages they get etc.
I have done the same after sex on a meet. In these contexts I think its fine to break out your phone and talk about it. If they answer a message then that is fine too.
Would I want them to wait till I go to the loo or home to do it ?
Of course not.
We are adults. We are not here to be exclusive and as a guy, I have to accept that whoever I am talking to is a lady and therefore popular.
If she did it without this, then I hope I would be able to take the hint and leave.
I obviously wasn't what she was looking for. Bit of a kick in the ego, but nothing that kills you. |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
If it's a weekend with someone I've seen many times before, it's fine. We can't be glued together the whole time, and everyday life can intrude.
If it's someone new and we're not even spending the night together, it'd be a good sign that there won't be another meet. I've been lucky enough not to have experienced that yet.
If it's "I know the kids are fine with the babysitter but I want to check in on them anyway", go right ahead. Get that worry off your mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think checking phone is ok or answering a txt we all have personal lives .... but scrolling and messaging on fab would be quite disrespectful..... It would be meet over for me x |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"It’s rude. It’s happened to me with a Fab meet at a restaurant and whilst waiting for our food he got his phone and had a WhatsApp group chat with work colleagues.
I should have left there and then but we’d ordered and I was hungry but I did tell him I thought it rude and he said I was over reacting
I was once on an actual date and the guy leaned back from the table and looked down at his phone while messaging and saying "yeah" every few seconds to pretend he was listening even though I'd stopped talking .
Bloody cheek! I hope he looked suitably embarrassed once he realised.
Nope, he paid little attention to whatever I said for the whole date to be honest . Also was really sleazy and overly touchy feely but then kicked off when I politely turned down a second date. Oblivious! "
the cheek of him! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"
Maybe up your game....put abit more effort into the meet...must have been your fault.....im 100% joking x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?
That would be pretty bad. Has this happened to you, Sparkle?
Not yet...."
I thought this had happened..... |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
If someone I met went on fab to chat to others durning a meet with me then the meet would end there and then. The only reason someone would do that is if they had decided they weren't that into you.
If it's just checking a text or something I don't mind as long as it didn't keep happening. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"It seems fab really is (laugh) a place of people full of
imperfections.
How did any of you notice they were on fab?
Are you really that nosy?"
Maybe they are laying next to them in bed and using their phone.
If someone kept looking at their phone while I was with them I'd ask why. I'm not nosy, but I'd like to know if I was boring them.
If they insisted on laying next to me with their phone in their hand I'd snuggle up and stare at the screen (laughs loudly). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?
Are you with him now?
No, hypothetical question...just incase it ever happens for future reference. I wouldn't be happy and would feel like I wasn't good enough....didn't know if that would be an overreaction x"
I was just giggling how everyone assumed it was someone you’d met....
I wondered if you’d been on fab and he’d called you out for it and looked to us to justify your actions |
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"There are only a few acceptable reasons in my opinion for getting your phone out while meeting, including
Safety calls/checks
Responding to children/family
Wanting to show me something
Using it to message others on fab in front of me would not be something I would find acceptable.
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I agree with all of this  |
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"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?
Are you with him now?
No, hypothetical question...just incase it ever happens for future reference. I wouldn't be happy and would feel like I wasn't good enough....didn't know if that would be an overreaction x
I was just giggling how everyone assumed it was someone you’d met....
I wondered if you’d been on fab and he’d called you out for it and looked to us to justify your actions "
My focus is always on whoever I'm with x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?
Are you with him now?
No, hypothetical question...just incase it ever happens for future reference. I wouldn't be happy and would feel like I wasn't good enough....didn't know if that would be an overreaction x
I was just giggling how everyone assumed it was someone you’d met....
I wondered if you’d been on fab and he’d called you out for it and looked to us to justify your actions
My focus is always on whoever I'm with x"
I like to play devils advocate |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?
Are you with him now?
No, hypothetical question...just incase it ever happens for future reference. I wouldn't be happy and would feel like I wasn't good enough....didn't know if that would be an overreaction x
I was just giggling how everyone assumed it was someone you’d met....
I wondered if you’d been on fab and he’d called you out for it and looked to us to justify your actions
My focus is always on whoever I'm with x"
If someone did that, then they are not good enough for you, never doubt your worth Sparkle, I know that you know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It seems fab really is (laugh) a place of people full of
imperfections.
How did any of you notice they were on fab?
Are you really that nosy?
Maybe they are laying next to them in bed and using their phone.
If someone kept looking at their phone while I was with them I'd ask why. I'm not nosy, but I'd like to know if I was boring them.
If they insisted on laying next to me with their phone in their hand I'd snuggle up and stare at the screen (laughs loudly)."
Watch out for those screen snugglers guys (laugh) |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"If they started looking at their phone full stop I’d find it very disrespectful
Agree. Put the phone away.
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I think I’d just get up and leave without even saying anything, they’re obviously bored! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would feel like the meet wasn’t going brilliantly.
Then again, my wife has been known to reply to fab messages whilst I gently caress her vagina with my tongue and that was quite a turn on so I think it all depends on the circumstances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s rude. It’s happened to me with a Fab meet at a restaurant and whilst waiting for our food he got his phone and had a WhatsApp group chat with work colleagues.
I should have left there and then but we’d ordered and I was hungry but I did tell him I thought it rude and he said I was over reacting
I was once on an actual date and the guy leaned back from the table and looked down at his phone while messaging and saying "yeah" every few seconds to pretend he was listening even though I'd stopped talking . "
did you see the episode of first dates like ths a few years back , imagine being so self unaware that you would act like that on a date to start, but one being filmed for tv |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think browsing for new meets and chatting your way through your inbox would be rude
but when i used to meet i have often lay in bed between rounds while we both looked at local updates, the forums, hot pics - pointed out profiles we liked to each other with the intention of maybe messaging for a group meet , i used to go on chat with meets while having a few drinks during the warm up too
i think it very much depends on the dynamic of the meet and the intention of the scrolling / inclusion of the other person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won’t even allow phones in a formal work meeting. It’s impolite even in that setting and beyond discourteous at a first meeting. It’s disrespectful. Only exception would be if they were checking on their children or such like, then that’s sweet. |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
Chinese Takeaway near you |
"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"
If it's at the beginning & it's just a quick reply to messages then cool  but if it's more than 5mins, then goodbye 'ain't nobody got time 4 that' lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have to be honest and say im guilty of this.
i was even in bed with a women and texting another one planning the next meet.
thankfully im a lot older and mature than i was then.
and she is still a friend of mine so i guess i was forgiven.
ok sharpen them knives. |
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