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"I was in the supermarket tonignt and i was perving a ladys very sexy arse in leggings in front of me and the guy with her saw me looking and smiled at me.
Should i have said anything ?"
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over a year ago
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No, the guy probably thought it was cool that were eyeing up his girlfriend, but I imagine his response would have quickly changed if you had approached! |
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"I was in the supermarket tonignt and i was perving a ladys very sexy arse in leggings in front of me and the guy with her saw me looking and smiled at me.
Should i have said anything ?"
Unless you potentially wanted a argument or a fight. You could have taken a smile for thanks for admiring... |
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So creepy.. I got kerb crawled earlier this week walking home from the gym in my leggings. It's made me think about carrying something i can use in self defence
My friend got followed through the woods whilst walking with her dogs.. It's not funny or sexy.. Even if they 'just want to say hello'
Seriously 99.9% of men have zero idea what it is like to be a woman in today's society |
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By *histlerMan
over a year ago
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I was once complimented by a couple of guys when I was out with a girl. They stopped short of high fiving me!
We were all over each other (me and the girl lol) and when she went to the toilets they leaned over and said I was in for a good night and how hot she was.
I left with my chest puffed out  |
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"So creepy.. I got kerb crawled earlier this week walking home from the gym in my leggings. It's made me think about carrying something i can use in self defence
My friend got followed through the woods whilst walking with her dogs.. It's not funny or sexy.. Even if they 'just want to say hello'
Seriously 99.9% of men have zero idea what it is like to be a woman in today's society "
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"I was in the supermarket tonignt and i was perving a ladys very sexy arse in leggings in front of me and the guy with her saw me looking and smiled at me.
Should i have said anything ?"
Sometimes words are not needed. A smile, wink or nod of the head is sufficient. |
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"So creepy.. I got kerb crawled earlier this week walking home from the gym in my leggings. It's made me think about carrying something i can use in self defence
My friend got followed through the woods whilst walking with her dogs.. It's not funny or sexy.. Even if they 'just want to say hello'
Seriously 99.9% of men have zero idea what it is like to be a woman in today's society "
Deep heat! Its legal and gives the same effect as Peper spray. |
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"So creepy.. I got kerb crawled earlier this week walking home from the gym in my leggings. It's made me think about carrying something i can use in self defence
My friend got followed through the woods whilst walking with her dogs.. It's not funny or sexy.. Even if they 'just want to say hello'
Seriously 99.9% of men have zero idea what it is like to be a woman in today's society
Deep heat! Its legal and gives the same effect as Peper spray. "
ROFL, i can just picture it now.. Could you wait a moment whilst i find my tube, wait i need to unscrew the cap and squeeze a bit out 
I have a heavy duty hair clip that i can either keep in my pocket/hand or easily take out of my hair.. Hopefully I'll never need it, but it makes me feel more secure/in control.
My mum told me to stop walking  clearly it's not men who are the issue lol  |
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I smile at people sometimes as a way of letting them know I've seen them peeping. It most certainly isn't an invitation. Merely an acknowledgement they've been caught without wanting to cause any issues. |
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"So creepy.. I got kerb crawled earlier this week walking home from the gym in my leggings. It's made me think about carrying something i can use in self defence
My friend got followed through the woods whilst walking with her dogs.. It's not funny or sexy.. Even if they 'just want to say hello'
Seriously 99.9% of men have zero idea what it is like to be a woman in today's society
Deep heat! Its legal and gives the same effect as Peper spray.
ROFL, i can just picture it now.. Could you wait a moment whilst i find my tube, wait i need to unscrew the cap and squeeze a bit out
I have a heavy duty hair clip that i can either keep in my pocket/hand or easily take out of my hair.. Hopefully I'll never need it, but it makes me feel more secure/in control.
My mum told me to stop walking clearly it's not men who are the issue lol "
They do a deep heat spray can  |
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"So creepy.. I got kerb crawled earlier this week walking home from the gym in my leggings. It's made me think about carrying something i can use in self defence
My friend got followed through the woods whilst walking with her dogs.. It's not funny or sexy.. Even if they 'just want to say hello'
Seriously 99.9% of men have zero idea what it is like to be a woman in today's society
Deep heat! Its legal and gives the same effect as Peper spray.
ROFL, i can just picture it now.. Could you wait a moment whilst i find my tube, wait i need to unscrew the cap and squeeze a bit out
I have a heavy duty hair clip that i can either keep in my pocket/hand or easily take out of my hair.. Hopefully I'll never need it, but it makes me feel more secure/in control.
My mum told me to stop walking clearly it's not men who are the issue lol
They do a deep heat spray can "
yes they do, also a smaller version that would fit in a bag.
I know two that's used it. One however sprayed herself in the face also, but it worked a treat lol |
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This is what being on FAB does to people - makes you think that everyone’s a swinger and you going up to approach them would result in them asking you to go home with them.
When in reality in would have probably resulted in a punch in the face!
Please don’t confuse FAB world with real world 
K |
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"So creepy.. I got kerb crawled earlier this week walking home from the gym in my leggings. It's made me think about carrying something i can use in self defence
My friend got followed through the woods whilst walking with her dogs.. It's not funny or sexy.. Even if they 'just want to say hello'
Seriously 99.9% of men have zero idea what it is like to be a woman in today's society
Deep heat! Its legal and gives the same effect as Peper spray.
ROFL, i can just picture it now.. Could you wait a moment whilst i find my tube, wait i need to unscrew the cap and squeeze a bit out
I have a heavy duty hair clip that i can either keep in my pocket/hand or easily take out of my hair.. Hopefully I'll never need it, but it makes me feel more secure/in control.
My mum told me to stop walking clearly it's not men who are the issue lol
They do a deep heat spray can
yes they do, also a smaller version that would fit in a bag.
I know two that's used it. One however sprayed herself in the face also, but it worked a treat lol "
Adding that to my shopping list. Although I've been known to spray B.O buster away from my armpit and hairspray in my eyes. I'm sure I'll be fine |
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"So creepy.. I got kerb crawled earlier this week walking home from the gym in my leggings. It's made me think about carrying something i can use in self defence
My friend got followed through the woods whilst walking with her dogs.. It's not funny or sexy.. Even if they 'just want to say hello'
Seriously 99.9% of men have zero idea what it is like to be a woman in today's society
Deep heat! Its legal and gives the same effect as Peper spray.
ROFL, i can just picture it now.. Could you wait a moment whilst i find my tube, wait i need to unscrew the cap and squeeze a bit out
I have a heavy duty hair clip that i can either keep in my pocket/hand or easily take out of my hair.. Hopefully I'll never need it, but it makes me feel more secure/in control.
My mum told me to stop walking clearly it's not men who are the issue lol
They do a deep heat spray can
yes they do, also a smaller version that would fit in a bag.
I know two that's used it. One however sprayed herself in the face also, but it worked a treat lol "
Omg! Haha i will look into it, thank you x |
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By *histlerMan
over a year ago
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"This is what being on FAB does to people - makes you think that everyone’s a swinger and you going up to approach them would result in them asking you to go home with them.
When in reality in would have probably resulted in a punch in the face!
Please don’t confuse FAB world with real world
K"
This!! (and porn) |
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"This is what being on FAB does to people - makes you think that everyone’s a swinger and you going up to approach them would result in them asking you to go home with them.
When in reality in would have probably resulted in a punch in the face!
Please don’t confuse FAB world with real world
K"
Exactly. I find it quite worrisome. There will be so many desensitised folk from here or other sexualised platforms that think it's acceptable to approach or whatever.
It becomes peoples standard behaviour like that thread a while ago where loads of workmen admitted to hunting out peoples dirty underwear to sniff while the homeowner wasn't around. It normalises behaviour that's not acceptable in "general population" |
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"So creepy.. I got kerb crawled earlier this week walking home from the gym in my leggings. It's made me think about carrying something i can use in self defence
My friend got followed through the woods whilst walking with her dogs.. It's not funny or sexy.. Even if they 'just want to say hello'
Seriously 99.9% of men have zero idea what it is like to be a woman in today's society
Deep heat! Its legal and gives the same effect as Peper spray.
ROFL, i can just picture it now.. Could you wait a moment whilst i find my tube, wait i need to unscrew the cap and squeeze a bit out
I have a heavy duty hair clip that i can either keep in my pocket/hand or easily take out of my hair.. Hopefully I'll never need it, but it makes me feel more secure/in control.
My mum told me to stop walking clearly it's not men who are the issue lol
They do a deep heat spray can
yes they do, also a smaller version that would fit in a bag.
I know two that's used it. One however sprayed herself in the face also, but it worked a treat lol
Adding that to my shopping list. Although I've been known to spray B.O buster away from my armpit and hairspray in my eyes. I'm sure I'll be fine "
Makes note to put sunglasses on first if Midnight gets attacked  |
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"I was in the supermarket tonignt and i was perving a ladys very sexy arse in leggings in front of me and the guy with her saw me looking and smiled at me.
Should i have said anything ?"
Yes, you should have had a good word with yourself about the difference between porn films and the real world.
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"This is what being on FAB does to people - makes you think that everyone’s a swinger and you going up to approach them would result in them asking you to go home with them.
When in reality in would have probably resulted in a punch in the face!
Please don’t confuse FAB world with real world
K"
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"I was in the supermarket tonignt and i was perving a ladys very sexy arse in leggings in front of me and the guy with her saw me looking and smiled at me.
Should i have said anything ?"
This is just an example of swinger brain. Or porn brain.
Here you get chatting to a mice person and it's not unusual for you to see them naked. It's normal.
In the real world thats not how shit works.
You checked out his GF and he smiled because your attention made her more desirable to him. Just human nature. |
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I think he should have said something. You never know, he could have been invited back to their place where a cheeky scouser with a perm and a 'tache was fixing their sink, a bus driver was hiding under the bed and a milkman was sliding down the drainpipe. |
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Ogling or staring at people can make others uncomfortable, even when you think they can't see. You may have, at best, deterred others from wanting to know you, or raised fears that people have, including from past experiences. Some men may think that they are innocently enjoying the view in front of them, whilst others will want you as good as castrated. Negative experiences are common and some men are very scary. Others may be embarrassed by you but best to enjoy some porn than develop habits of being a potential nuisance. Engage with people in the right situations. |
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I can't say anything, over the years I've pulled in supermarkets. It's always been after eye contact, and a comment that has cut a dash, but it wouldn't have happened if her gorgeous body hadn't first caught my eye. If the lady who I got talking to in B&M today as we were both looking at garden ornaments to brighten up our places just happens to be reading this, you'll get my phone number next time we meet, if you are not already spoken for. |
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"So creepy.. I got kerb crawled earlier this week walking home from the gym in my leggings. It's made me think about carrying something i can use in self defence
My friend got followed through the woods whilst walking with her dogs.. It's not funny or sexy.. Even if they 'just want to say hello'
Seriously 99.9% of men have zero idea what it is like to be a woman in today's society "
I totally agree with This! I think it’s different when it happens in person and someone just wants to casually chat u up while u are trying to do your business and go on with ur day.
I’ve been stopped or approached a few times, some were so forward to ask me what I was doing and if I wanted to go to see their place
CREEPY!
It’s totally different compared to when you are mentally ready say maybe in a bar/club or a swinging place then you know u are there to be seen and are looking.
But if you are just walking to the shops or in a taxi minding ur own business. Please men keep ur shit together lol |
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This thread seemed to quickly go off point
It’s natural behaviour to look at a person that you find attractive and even more so if there’s a flash of thigh, boobs thrown in for good measure
So occasionally you get caught if your glance turns into a stare
Surely it’s at that point which is the cusp
What you do next denotes how you are judged by that person
Most of us look away or smile
Personally I wouldn’t have said anything to the boyfriend
I’ve seen guys looking at my wife, not in a creepy way, it just happens
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"This thread seemed to quickly go off point
It’s natural behaviour to look at a person that you find attractive and even more so if there’s a flash of thigh, boobs thrown in for good measure
So occasionally you get caught if your glance turns into a stare
Surely it’s at that point which is the cusp
What you do next denotes how you are judged by that person
Most of us look away or smile
Personally I wouldn’t have said anything to the boyfriend
I’ve seen guys looking at my wife, not in a creepy way, it just happens
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I think obviously if u just look then there’s nothing wrong. But acting on it, especially as she had a bf there, and maybe asking if they wanted to do a cuckold/MFM.
That’d have been weird. Even if the situation were to be reversed, that’d have been weird and inappropriate in my opinion (as in, the woman approaching the guy and asking if he was up to fuck her while the bf watched) |
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"This thread seemed to quickly go off point
It’s natural behaviour to look at a person that you find attractive and even more so if there’s a flash of thigh, boobs thrown in for good measure
So occasionally you get caught if your glance turns into a stare
Surely it’s at that point which is the cusp
What you do next denotes how you are judged by that person
Most of us look away or smile
Personally I wouldn’t have said anything to the boyfriend
I’ve seen guys looking at my wife, not in a creepy way, it just happens
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Difference being ... you’re a man. |
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"I find this worrying "
It really is ... the men reading can actually choose to view the women’s opinions on this abs learn by it or tell us we are wrong. Some appear to already telling us we are wrong ... sigh. |
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"I was in the supermarket tonignt and i was perving a ladys very sexy arse in leggings in front of me and the guy with her saw me looking and smiled at me.
Should i have said anything ?
Yes, you should have had a good word with yourself about the difference between porn films and the real world.
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This is so worrying... as most have said, no! Absolutely not, this is why women feel unsafe. It's completely inappropriate in certain settings,
If you're in a bar/club or online on a swingers website yes, you can say something but real world situations that seem harmless to a guy can be extremely intimidating to a woman, think how you'd feel being stared at by someone twice your size... a total stranger whilst simply trying to walk your dog or pick up some groceries. It's not flattering it's unnerving.
Guys please read what the ladies have written
Please take on board what they are saying.
Don't disregard it.
If needed, adjust your behaviour and grow as a person.
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"This thread seemed to quickly go off point
It’s natural behaviour to look at a person that you find attractive and even more so if there’s a flash of thigh, boobs thrown in for good measure
So occasionally you get caught if your glance turns into a stare
Surely it’s at that point which is the cusp
What you do next denotes how you are judged by that person
Most of us look away or smile
Personally I wouldn’t have said anything to the boyfriend
I’ve seen guys looking at my wife, not in a creepy way, it just happens
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How did it go off point? The guy literally asked if he should have said anything to the guy after ogling the woman. |
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"This is so worrying... as most have said, no! Absolutely not, this is why women feel unsafe. It's completely inappropriate in certain settings,
If you're in a bar/club or online on a swingers website yes, you can say something but real world situations that seem harmless to a guy can be extremely intimidating to a woman, think how you'd feel being stared at by someone twice your size... a total stranger whilst simply trying to walk your dog or pick up some groceries. It's not flattering it's unnerving.
Guys please read what the ladies have written
Please take on board what they are saying.
Don't disregard it.
If needed, adjust your behaviour and grow as a person.
Mrs."
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"This thread seemed to quickly go off point
It’s natural behaviour to look at a person that you find attractive and even more so if there’s a flash of thigh, boobs thrown in for good measure
So occasionally you get caught if your glance turns into a stare
Surely it’s at that point which is the cusp
What you do next denotes how you are judged by that person
Most of us look away or smile
Personally I wouldn’t have said anything to the boyfriend
I’ve seen guys looking at my wife, not in a creepy way, it just happens
How did it go off point? The guy literally asked if he should have said anything to the guy after ogling the woman. "
I did wonder ..... maybe the poster was expecting a fantasy type sharing of stories of when they ogled women in inappropriate settings post rather than the sensible non predatory responses |
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