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"Just the same as with any other forms of grief or loss, it’s no different really; Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings. Pain and guilt. ... Anger and bargaining. ... Depression. ... The upward turn. ... Reconstruction and working through. ... Acceptance and hope. The time taken will vary according to the person and situation and remember that it’s possible to regress as well but these are recognised as being the stages of loss. " After 2 years since my ex broke me. I dunno what stage I'm even at  | |||
"Just the same as with any other forms of grief or loss, it’s no different really; Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings. Pain and guilt. ... Anger and bargaining. ... Depression. ... The upward turn. ... Reconstruction and working through. ... Acceptance and hope. The time taken will vary according to the person and situation and remember that it’s possible to regress as well but these are recognised as being the stages of loss. " Two years on I'm only at the last two stages after a set back, each person is different though | |||
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"Just the same as with any other forms of grief or loss, it’s no different really; Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings. Pain and guilt. ... Anger and bargaining. ... Depression. ... The upward turn. ... Reconstruction and working through. ... Acceptance and hope. The time taken will vary according to the person and situation and remember that it’s possible to regress as well but these are recognised as being the stages of loss. " hope is a story told to children it doesnt exist never did | |||
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"2 Stages Together Not together " Beat me to it. | |||
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"Just the same as with any other forms of grief or loss, it’s no different really; Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings. Pain and guilt. ... Anger and bargaining. ... Depression. ... The upward turn. ... Reconstruction and working through. ... Acceptance and hope. The time taken will vary according to the person and situation and remember that it’s possible to regress as well but these are recognised as being the stages of loss. " Exactly this. Time is the only thing i found that helped quell the emotional rollercoaster that I was left dealing with. Understanding that breakups follow the grief process (it is a loss after all) also helped me appreciate why I was feeling the way I was. | |||
"Just the same as with any other forms of grief or loss, it’s no different really; Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings. Pain and guilt. ... Anger and bargaining. ... Depression. ... The upward turn. ... Reconstruction and working through. ... Acceptance and hope. The time taken will vary according to the person and situation and remember that it’s possible to regress as well but these are recognised as being the stages of loss. hope is a story told to children it doesnt exist never did" That’s your opinion, a very bleak and destructive one but still, just your opinion | |||
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"2 Stages Together Not together " This comes closest to my thoughts. We are alone before a relationship. We are enjoying life before a relationship. NO ONE ...... not even the psych mags/ books can say what the stages of a breakup are. Every person is different. Every relationship is different. Relationships exist for varying lengths of time. Peoples feelings are varied. Some people are 'just needy' whilst others truly love. Some people just 'use' others. Acceptance is what matters. Once we accept the relationship is over we can focus on ourselves again. No relationship is ever a waste of time. Relationships should be enjoyed on a moment by moment basis.... It's having goals that makes people call the ending of relationships a 'fail' .... Being happy and content within ourselves or having a very solid idea of who we are as an individual prevents much of the breast beating when something temporary ends. Humans should be surrounded by people.... not person.... friends..... not friend.... | |||
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"2 Stages Together Not together This comes closest to my thoughts. We are alone before a relationship. We are enjoying life before a relationship. NO ONE ...... not even the psych mags/ books can say what the stages of a breakup are. Every person is different. Every relationship is different. Relationships exist for varying lengths of time. Peoples feelings are varied. Some people are 'just needy' whilst others truly love. Some people just 'use' others. Acceptance is what matters. Once we accept the relationship is over we can focus on ourselves again. No relationship is ever a waste of time. Relationships should be enjoyed on a moment by moment basis.... It's having goals that makes people call the ending of relationships a 'fail' .... Being happy and content within ourselves or having a very solid idea of who we are as an individual prevents much of the breast beating when something temporary ends. Humans should be surrounded by people.... not person.... friends..... not friend.... " Absolutely | |||
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"I don't mean this to be as flippant as it might sound but it was what happened to me after my daughter's mother left me: 1. Red wine 2. Red wine. 3. Dating apps. 4. Too much red wine. 5. Met my soul mate. 6. Just the right amount of red wine. There was a lot of hurt and upset through phases 1 - 3 and nearly lost job and house. Phase 5 saved me and I'm now happier than I ever was. M" Love this, It's what many of us do. | |||
"For me, every relationship in life is transient, be it romantic or otherwise. And while there may be varying degrees of sadness and missing them when the relationship ends, I am grateful for the experiences and feelings that I was fortunate enough to share with that person, and look back fondly on our time together. " Agreed Lily ... I meant to mention that throughout life we gain experience and rather than saying , 'Jeez that relationship was shit' .... we just need to take what we learned with us, where ever we are headed. | |||
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"Recovery from having unwillingly committed to a narcissistic relationship is a long and painful grieving process, that through intelligent preparation can usually be avoided. " At what point did it become apparent you were in league with a narcissist | |||
"What are the stages of breakup for a narcissist Jubal ?" Since they are highly psychopatic, they do not experience remorse and normally have a new conquest waiting to be idealised, devalued and discarded. The terms psychopath and narcissist can often be used interchangeably; and there can be comorbidity with borderline (psychotic) behaviours. The narcissistic has been profoundly damaged during their upbringing, sometimes by being overvalued, but often by being abused. Their relationships tend to initially be 'over the top', a major red flag. The worst kind is the malignant narcissist who gains her/his 'kicks' from exploiting manipulating and damaging their prey, emotionally, financially and sometimes physically. Narcissism is untreatable and attempts to 'cure' them usually makes them more expert and skilled. These are ruthless predators who do not experience human emotions as others do; their genes loaded the gun and their environment pulled the trigger to make them what they are. If you know how to spot them, walk away, quickly. | |||
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"What are the stages of breakup for a narcissist Jubal ? Since they are highly psychopatic, they do not experience remorse and normally have a new conquest waiting to be idealised, devalued and discarded. The terms psychopath and narcissist can often be used interchangeably; and there can be comorbidity with borderline (psychotic) behaviours. The narcissistic has been profoundly damaged during their upbringing, sometimes by being overvalued, but often by being abused. Their relationships tend to initially be 'over the top', a major red flag. The worst kind is the malignant narcissist who gains her/his 'kicks' from exploiting manipulating and damaging their prey, emotionally, financially and sometimes physically. Narcissism is untreatable and attempts to 'cure' them usually makes them more expert and skilled. These are ruthless predators who do not experience human emotions as others do; their genes loaded the gun and their environment pulled the trigger to make them what they are. If you know how to spot them, walk away, quickly." A lot of that is contradictory. e.g. They were overvalued as children OR abused ? Which one ? If it's genetic ..... and their experiences are familial ....... How do you account for one child from a family of 6 being narcissistic ? Who get's away ..... who doesn't ? Can they be traumatised later in life or have bad peer experiences ? It doesn't ring true to me that narcissists are made and made by mothers..... not all of them. | |||
"What are the stages of breakup for a narcissist Jubal ? Since they are highly psychopatic, they do not experience remorse and normally have a new conquest waiting to be idealised, devalued and discarded. The terms psychopath and narcissist can often be used interchangeably; and there can be comorbidity with borderline (psychotic) behaviours. The narcissistic has been profoundly damaged during their upbringing, sometimes by being overvalued, but often by being abused. Their relationships tend to initially be 'over the top', a major red flag. The worst kind is the malignant narcissist who gains her/his 'kicks' from exploiting manipulating and damaging their prey, emotionally, financially and sometimes physically. Narcissism is untreatable and attempts to 'cure' them usually makes them more expert and skilled. These are ruthless predators who do not experience human emotions as others do; their genes loaded the gun and their environment pulled the trigger to make them what they are. If you know how to spot them, walk away, quickly. A lot of that is contradictory. e.g. They were overvalued as children OR abused ? Which one ? If it's genetic ..... and their experiences are familial ....... How do you account for one child from a family of 6 being narcissistic ? Who get's away ..... who doesn't ? Can they be traumatised later in life or have bad peer experiences ? It doesn't ring true to me that narcissists are made and made by mothers..... not all of them. " How do you think that narcissistic personalities are formed Granny? | |||
"Just the same as with any other forms of grief or loss, it’s no different really; Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings. Pain and guilt. ... Anger and bargaining. ... Depression. ... The upward turn. ... Reconstruction and working through. ... Acceptance and hope. The time taken will vary according to the person and situation and remember that it’s possible to regress as well but these are recognised as being the stages of loss. " For me this only applied to the breakup of my marriage. Though I didn't go through so many stages. Apart from that, over is over and time to get on with life. | |||
"Just the same as with any other forms of grief or loss, it’s no different really; Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings. Pain and guilt. ... Anger and bargaining. ... Depression. ... The upward turn. ... Reconstruction and working through. ... Acceptance and hope. The time taken will vary according to the person and situation and remember that it’s possible to regress as well but these are recognised as being the stages of loss. " Well the monkey sums it up perfectly. My breakup spiralled me into a dark place. It does get better though.  | |||
"What are the stages of breakup for a narcissist Jubal ? Since they are highly psychopatic, they do not experience remorse and normally have a new conquest waiting to be idealised, devalued and discarded. The terms psychopath and narcissist can often be used interchangeably; and there can be comorbidity with borderline (psychotic) behaviours. The narcissistic has been profoundly damaged during their upbringing, sometimes by being overvalued, but often by being abused. Their relationships tend to initially be 'over the top', a major red flag. The worst kind is the malignant narcissist who gains her/his 'kicks' from exploiting manipulating and damaging their prey, emotionally, financially and sometimes physically. Narcissism is untreatable and attempts to 'cure' them usually makes them more expert and skilled. These are ruthless predators who do not experience human emotions as others do; their genes loaded the gun and their environment pulled the trigger to make them what they are. If you know how to spot them, walk away, quickly. A lot of that is contradictory. e.g. They were overvalued as children OR abused ? Which one ? If it's genetic ..... and their experiences are familial ....... How do you account for one child from a family of 6 being narcissistic ? Who get's away ..... who doesn't ? Can they be traumatised later in life or have bad peer experiences ? It doesn't ring true to me that narcissists are made and made by mothers..... not all of them. How do you think that narcissistic personalities are formed Granny? " Over to you. How do YOU think that narcissitic personalities are formed ? | |||
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"What are the stages of breakup for a narcissist Jubal ? Since they are highly psychopatic, they do not experience remorse and normally have a new conquest waiting to be idealised, devalued and discarded. The terms psychopath and narcissist can often be used interchangeably; and there can be comorbidity with borderline (psychotic) behaviours. The narcissistic has been profoundly damaged during their upbringing, sometimes by being overvalued, but often by being abused. Their relationships tend to initially be 'over the top', a major red flag. The worst kind is the malignant narcissist who gains her/his 'kicks' from exploiting manipulating and damaging their prey, emotionally, financially and sometimes physically. Narcissism is untreatable and attempts to 'cure' them usually makes them more expert and skilled. These are ruthless predators who do not experience human emotions as others do; their genes loaded the gun and their environment pulled the trigger to make them what they are. If you know how to spot them, walk away, quickly. A lot of that is contradictory. e.g. They were overvalued as children OR abused ? Which one ? If it's genetic ..... and their experiences are familial ....... How do you account for one child from a family of 6 being narcissistic ? Who get's away ..... who doesn't ? Can they be traumatised later in life or have bad peer experiences ? It doesn't ring true to me that narcissists are made and made by mothers..... not all of them. How do you think that narcissistic personalities are formed Granny? Over to you. How do YOU think that narcissitic personalities are formed ? " Well I’m not picking holes in what a person has posted. I’m just curious to see what your specialised knowledge is on this matter? After all, you asked him the question, then dismissed the answer | |||
"What are the stages of breakup for a narcissist Jubal ? Since they are highly psychopatic, they do not experience remorse and normally have a new conquest waiting to be idealised, devalued and discarded. The terms psychopath and narcissist can often be used interchangeably; and there can be comorbidity with borderline (psychotic) behaviours. The narcissistic has been profoundly damaged during their upbringing, sometimes by being overvalued, but often by being abused. Their relationships tend to initially be 'over the top', a major red flag. The worst kind is the malignant narcissist who gains her/his 'kicks' from exploiting manipulating and damaging their prey, emotionally, financially and sometimes physically. Narcissism is untreatable and attempts to 'cure' them usually makes them more expert and skilled. These are ruthless predators who do not experience human emotions as others do; their genes loaded the gun and their environment pulled the trigger to make them what they are. If you know how to spot them, walk away, quickly. A lot of that is contradictory. e.g. They were overvalued as children OR abused ? Which one ? If it's genetic ..... and their experiences are familial ....... How do you account for one child from a family of 6 being narcissistic ? Who get's away ..... who doesn't ? Can they be traumatised later in life or have bad peer experiences ? It doesn't ring true to me that narcissists are made and made by mothers..... not all of them. How do you think that narcissistic personalities are formed Granny? Over to you. How do YOU think that narcissitic personalities are formed ? Well I’m not picking holes in what a person has posted. I’m just curious to see what your specialised knowledge is on this matter? After all, you asked him the question, then dismissed the answer" Interesting that that is what you see. I asked further questions. No more no less. I asked for further info. No more no less. | |||
"What are the stages of breakup for a narcissist Jubal ? It doesn't ring true to me that narcissists are made and made by mothers..... not all of them. How do you think that narcissistic personalities are formed Granny? Over to you. How do YOU think that narcissitic personalities are formed ? Well I’m not picking holes in what a person has posted. I’m just curious to see what your specialised knowledge is on this matter? After all, you asked him the question, then dismissed the answer Interesting that that is what you see. I asked further questions. No more no less. I asked for further info. No more no less. " Your line here ^^ I asked you the question because you seemed to have more understanding. I’m curious as to why you chose to turn it around on me too. A strange way to discuss a subject *gallic shrug* As you say; it doesn’t matter, it’s the internet | |||
"What are the stages of breakup for a narcissist Jubal ? Since they are highly psychopatic, they do not experience remorse and normally have a new conquest waiting to be idealised, devalued and discarded. The terms psychopath and narcissist can often be used interchangeably; and there can be comorbidity with borderline (psychotic) behaviours. The narcissistic has been profoundly damaged during their upbringing, sometimes by being overvalued, but often by being abused. Their relationships tend to initially be 'over the top', a major red flag. The worst kind is the malignant narcissist who gains her/his 'kicks' from exploiting manipulating and damaging their prey, emotionally, financially and sometimes physically. Narcissism is untreatable and attempts to 'cure' them usually makes them more expert and skilled. These are ruthless predators who do not experience human emotions as others do; their genes loaded the gun and their environment pulled the trigger to make them what they are. If you know how to spot them, walk away, quickly. A lot of that is contradictory. e.g. They were overvalued as children OR abused ? Which one ? If it's genetic ..... and their experiences are familial ....... How do you account for one child from a family of 6 being narcissistic ? Who get's away ..... who doesn't ? Can they be traumatised later in life or have bad peer experiences ? It doesn't ring true to me that narcissists are made and made by mothers..... not all of them. " My ex is a narcissist. His brothers and sisters aren't. I think it's an inate personality trait. | |||
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"What are the stages of breakup for a narcissist Jubal ? Since they are highly psychopatic, they do not experience remorse and normally have a new conquest waiting to be idealised, devalued and discarded. The terms psychopath and narcissist can often be used interchangeably; and there can be comorbidity with borderline (psychotic) behaviours. The narcissistic has been profoundly damaged during their upbringing, sometimes by being overvalued, but often by being abused. Their relationships tend to initially be 'over the top', a major red flag. The worst kind is the malignant narcissist who gains her/his 'kicks' from exploiting manipulating and damaging their prey, emotionally, financially and sometimes physically. Narcissism is untreatable and attempts to 'cure' them usually makes them more expert and skilled. These are ruthless predators who do not experience human emotions as others do; their genes loaded the gun and their environment pulled the trigger to make them what they are. If you know how to spot them, walk away, quickly. A lot of that is contradictory. e.g. They were overvalued as children OR abused ? Which one ? If it's genetic ..... and their experiences are familial ....... How do you account for one child from a family of 6 being narcissistic ? Who get's away ..... who doesn't ? Can they be traumatised later in life or have bad peer experiences ? It doesn't ring true to me that narcissists are made and made by mothers..... not all of them. My ex is a narcissist. His brothers and sisters aren't. I think it's an inate personality trait. " Sometimes, where a child is in the hierarchy if a family affects hiw they are parented. A late child who isn't as much a strain to two, better off and more mature parents may get a completely different upbringing to an "accident" when they were young, poor and terrified to be a parent. Thats how a therapist explained it to a friend of mine whose twin brothers are a pair of absolute... Anyway, nature v nurture is complicated. | |||
"Just the same as with any other forms of grief or loss, it’s no different really; Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings. Pain and guilt. ... Anger and bargaining. ... Depression. ... The upward turn. ... Reconstruction and working through. ... Acceptance and hope. The time taken will vary according to the person and situation and remember that it’s possible to regress as well but these are recognised as being the stages of loss. " even when i end it i somehow get stuck in a loop where the upward turn happens then i revert back to pain and bargaining  . its like the cookies on my browser need cleared | |||
"What are the stages of breakup for a narcissist Jubal ? Since they are highly psychopatic, they do not experience remorse and normally have a new conquest waiting to be idealised, devalued and discarded. The terms psychopath and narcissist can often be used interchangeably; and there can be comorbidity with borderline (psychotic) behaviours. The narcissistic has been profoundly damaged during their upbringing, sometimes by being overvalued, but often by being abused. Their relationships tend to initially be 'over the top', a major red flag. The worst kind is the malignant narcissist who gains her/his 'kicks' from exploiting manipulating and damaging their prey, emotionally, financially and sometimes physically. Narcissism is untreatable and attempts to 'cure' them usually makes them more expert and skilled. These are ruthless predators who do not experience human emotions as others do; their genes loaded the gun and their environment pulled the trigger to make them what they are. If you know how to spot them, walk away, quickly." i also think the term narcissist is bandied about far too much these days for pretty much any relationship where one person happened to be a bit more selfish / self absorbed | |||
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"That wasn’t initiated by yourself? It’s taken me quite a while to get to the acceptance stage where you kind of feel okay. You’ve accepted that there’s nothing you can do, accepted that this person will no longer be in your life and you can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Things don’t hurt so much anymore and you know you’re going to be okay. Also doesn’t have to be an actual relationship breakup it could be someone you were dating and then they broke it off. " This was the OPs actual question. It seems to have been derailed. | |||
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"A breakup is also like a death of sorts. Being aware of what is causing you to feel so badly is important. Another person is a source of generating endorphins within us, whether we realise it or not. If they suddenly break up with us the source of endorphin production is gone so we suffer withdrawal symptoms similar to drug withdrawal. We suffer anxiety and depression because of the loss. This then fuels more anxiety and depression. It's interesting to observe how your body is behaving when suffering this withdrawal. Raised heart rates from the anxiety, pains from the Adrenalin rush when in the flight or fight mode. " | |||
"2 Stages Together Not together This comes closest to my thoughts. We are alone before a relationship. We are enjoying life before a relationship. NO ONE ...... not even the psych mags/ books can say what the stages of a breakup are. Every person is different. Every relationship is different. Relationships exist for varying lengths of time. Peoples feelings are varied. Some people are 'just needy' whilst others truly love. Some people just 'use' others. Acceptance is what matters. Once we accept the relationship is over we can focus on ourselves again. No relationship is ever a waste of time. Relationships should be enjoyed on a moment by moment basis.... It's having goals that makes people call the ending of relationships a 'fail' .... Being happy and content within ourselves or having a very solid idea of who we are as an individual prevents much of the breast beating when something temporary ends. Humans should be surrounded by people.... not person.... friends..... not friend.... " I am believing this more and more about humans, we need lots of people with different thoughts and input around us and not sort of isolate ourselves off into little pairs. | |||
"That wasn’t initiated by yourself? It’s taken me quite a while to get to the acceptance stage where you kind of feel okay. You’ve accepted that there’s nothing you can do, accepted that this person will no longer be in your life and you can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Things don’t hurt so much anymore and you know you’re going to be okay. Also doesn’t have to be an actual relationship breakup it could be someone you were dating and then they broke it off. " sorry to hear this but he needs his head examined | |||
"That wasn’t initiated by yourself? It’s taken me quite a while to get to the acceptance stage where you kind of feel okay. You’ve accepted that there’s nothing you can do, accepted that this person will no longer be in your life and you can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Things don’t hurt so much anymore and you know you’re going to be okay. Also doesn’t have to be an actual relationship breakup it could be someone you were dating and then they broke it off. " You can do courses for this. Relate used to do some. Also if its any use, I once did a course about relationships and the adult/parent/child aspects in them that was really useful. That was with relate. Another good resource is the 5 love languages for relationship help and understanding yourself and your partners and how you interact. Believe it or not it can help with break ups too as you can see why it didn't work and why it wouldn't in the future. | |||
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"Still think I’m married I know it sounds stupid I only took my wedding ring off three years ago after eleven years you would think it gets easier pain over her death still hurts today but finally accepted she is not hear anymore time to make new lady’s friends x "I'm sorry for your loss x | |||
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"That wasn’t initiated by yourself? It’s taken me quite a while to get to the acceptance stage where you kind of feel okay. You’ve accepted that there’s nothing you can do, accepted that this person will no longer be in your life and you can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Things don’t hurt so much anymore and you know you’re going to be okay. Also doesn’t have to be an actual relationship breakup it could be someone you were dating and then they broke it off. " Throw in kids and numerous affairs and you have yourself the ultimate heart break in some ways she did me a favor I can now have my life back and enjoy it to it's fullest | |||
"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that" The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. | |||
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"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. " You just called a partner a bus, car and horse... | |||
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"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. You just called a partner a bus, car and horse... " People are just meat. Fuck em use em dump em.  | |||
"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. You just called a partner a bus, car and horse... " When it's dead in the water, no need to look on ex's in any other way than a commodity that's had itsday, and outlived its use, and time to find a substitute, like a football manager would do. Get the under achiever off the field, and get someone on there that might produce a better result before the match is over. Tits and pussy, as well as cocks are not obsolete, and gone out of production. Replacements are everywhere. So it's a case get a life, get out there, and get on with it. | |||
"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. You just called a partner a bus, car and horse... When it's dead in the water, no need to look on ex's in any other way than a commodity that's had itsday, and outlived its use, and time to find a substitute, like a football manager would do. Get the under achiever off the field, and get someone on there that might produce a better result before the match is over. Tits and pussy, as well as cocks are not obsolete, and gone out of production. Replacements are everywhere. So it's a case get a life, get out there, and get on with it. " I can just see you giving post break up pep talks in a huddle on a field that’s tickled me | |||
"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. You just called a partner a bus, car and horse... People are just meat. Fuck em use em dump em. "I'm not that callous, I love being in meaningful relationship, but I've always put on my profile, no lame ducks, no emotional high dependents, no eccentrics, I don't carry passengers, and I am particularly unsympathetic to damaged goods who expect me to accept the fact that they are not over a lost lover. | |||
"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. You just called a partner a bus, car and horse... When it's dead in the water, no need to look on ex's in any other way than a commodity that's had itsday, and outlived its use, and time to find a substitute, like a football manager would do. Get the under achiever off the field, and get someone on there that might produce a better result before the match is over. Tits and pussy, as well as cocks are not obsolete, and gone out of production. Replacements are everywhere. So it's a case get a life, get out there, and get on with it. I can just see you giving post break up pep talks in a huddle on a field that’s tickled me "You might be right, but let's be honest, who in their right mind is going to want to spend quality time with someone who is as boring as constantly dwelling on their past. Life is for living, and if ghosts were able to post on here, thousands in the cemeteries would agree with me. | |||
"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. You just called a partner a bus, car and horse... When it's dead in the water, no need to look on ex's in any other way than a commodity that's had itsday, and outlived its use, and time to find a substitute, like a football manager would do. Get the under achiever off the field, and get someone on there that might produce a better result before the match is over. Tits and pussy, as well as cocks are not obsolete, and gone out of production. Replacements are everywhere. So it's a case get a life, get out there, and get on with it. " Even tho I’ve not experienced a break up ,my first love is now my husband I really don’t think it’s as simple as just going out and finding another cock or fanny . | |||
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"My last relationship was 19years long, from the age of 16! It’s fair to say he broke my heart when he said he didn’t love me anymore. That was that, no trying to make things better or work on issues; he was done! I was never given a chance to change things. I still now, 2 years on, constantly second guess everything we did together - especially for the last 2 ish years of the 19 It didn’t help that not long after leaving he started dating someone he already knew and soon after he moved in with her Me on the other hand has been devastated by this all, had to sell the house (he owned half) and I’ve had to move back in with my parents - not ideal at my age But I can’t change it and I wouldn’t want him back. I miss our friendship and our laughs though. We have so many good memories that I don’t get to reminisce with him about Hard moving on in a way! " I'm sure it is. Sorry to hear about it. Sounds similar. Just try and think of the good times, they are in the bank. | |||
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"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. You just called a partner a bus, car and horse... When it's dead in the water, no need to look on ex's in any other way than a commodity that's had itsday, and outlived its use, and time to find a substitute, like a football manager would do. Get the under achiever off the field, and get someone on there that might produce a better result before the match is over. Tits and pussy, as well as cocks are not obsolete, and gone out of production. Replacements are everywhere. So it's a case get a life, get out there, and get on with it. " There’s more to people and relationships than just having body parts. If it was as simple as someone just having a dick then I wouldn’t be single. | |||
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"People are in our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When they are gone, deal with it any way you want, there are no stages. I'm with Granny." She doesn't mean in the biblical sense .... | |||
"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. You just called a partner a bus, car and horse... When it's dead in the water, no need to look on ex's in any other way than a commodity that's had itsday, and outlived its use, and time to find a substitute, like a football manager would do. Get the under achiever off the field, and get someone on there that might produce a better result before the match is over. Tits and pussy, as well as cocks are not obsolete, and gone out of production. Replacements are everywhere. So it's a case get a life, get out there, and get on with it. There’s more to people and relationships than just having body parts. If it was as simple as someone just having a dick then I wouldn’t be single. " Sweetheart, every intelligent person knows that fantastic sex is the glue that binds a successful relationship, if that's in place then everything else that comes with the territory is a bonus. In every break up lack of physical attraction happens, but then of course other factors get the blame, totally overlooking the fact that fundamentally it's ended because, the get up and go has got up and went. So I'm afraid it is about body parts with all the successes that follow as the meaningful relationship develops being due to the fact that ultimately, you can't keep our hands off one another. | |||
"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. You just called a partner a bus, car and horse... When it's dead in the water, no need to look on ex's in any other way than a commodity that's had itsday, and outlived its use, and time to find a substitute, like a football manager would do. Get the under achiever off the field, and get someone on there that might produce a better result before the match is over. Tits and pussy, as well as cocks are not obsolete, and gone out of production. Replacements are everywhere. So it's a case get a life, get out there, and get on with it. There’s more to people and relationships than just having body parts. If it was as simple as someone just having a dick then I wouldn’t be single. Sweetheart, every intelligent person knows that fantastic sex is the glue that binds a successful relationship, if that's in place then everything else that comes with the territory is a bonus. In every break up lack of physical attraction happens, but then of course other factors get the blame, totally overlooking the fact that fundamentally it's ended because, the get up and go has got up and went. So I'm afraid it is about body parts with all the successes that follow as the meaningful relationship develops being due to the fact that ultimately, you can't keep our hands off one another. " That was extremely patronising. Not all relationships that work are built on the foundation of sex. | |||
"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. You just called a partner a bus, car and horse... When it's dead in the water, no need to look on ex's in any other way than a commodity that's had itsday, and outlived its use, and time to find a substitute, like a football manager would do. Get the under achiever off the field, and get someone on there that might produce a better result before the match is over. Tits and pussy, as well as cocks are not obsolete, and gone out of production. Replacements are everywhere. So it's a case get a life, get out there, and get on with it. There’s more to people and relationships than just having body parts. If it was as simple as someone just having a dick then I wouldn’t be single. Sweetheart, every intelligent person knows that fantastic sex is the glue that binds a successful relationship, if that's in place then everything else that comes with the territory is a bonus. In every break up lack of physical attraction happens, but then of course other factors get the blame, totally overlooking the fact that fundamentally it's ended because, the get up and go has got up and went. So I'm afraid it is about body parts with all the successes that follow as the meaningful relationship develops being due to the fact that ultimately, you can't keep our hands off one another. " this is not only completely patronising, for most people it is just not true it takes much more than sexual attraction to build a relationship and keep it together | |||
"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. " Can a horse cheat on you? Can a bus punch you? Can a car cause emotional and financial abuse to you? | |||
"Cant really relate to this. Once ive broken up with someone ive broken up and thats the end of that The only comment that I can relate to on this entire thread! This was starting to sound more like the agony aunt pages of a daily newspaper. Looking for a relationship is like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one, as there will be another one along in a minute. Once you get on a particular bus, if you don't like the direction it's going in, you just jump off that bus and get on another one that might actually get you to the destination you want to be at. If your car breaks down beyond repair, what do you do? You simply go to a garage and get another one, you don't keep throwing good money after bad. Only for a relationship you go on straight dating sites, where you often feel like a little boy let loose in sweet shop, as the choice is vast. If your horse goes lame, and even the best vet can't do anything with it, you have it shot, although that would be a bit of drastic way to end a relationship, but if you are flogging a dead horse, you need to get yourself a new filly, or stallion whichever your desires might be, and they are on every street corner. If all the kings horses and all the kings men can't put humpty together again, remember that new Humpties get laid every day of the week, and you too can have a great time getting laid as well. History should remain history, learn from it, and don't make the same mistake twice. You just called a partner a bus, car and horse... When it's dead in the water, no need to look on ex's in any other way than a commodity that's had itsday, and outlived its use, and time to find a substitute, like a football manager would do. Get the under achiever off the field, and get someone on there that might produce a better result before the match is over. Tits and pussy, as well as cocks are not obsolete, and gone out of production. Replacements are everywhere. So it's a case get a life, get out there, and get on with it. There’s more to people and relationships than just having body parts. If it was as simple as someone just having a dick then I wouldn’t be single. Sweetheart, every intelligent person knows that fantastic sex is the glue that binds a successful relationship, if that's in place then everything else that comes with the territory is a bonus. In every break up lack of physical attraction happens, but then of course other factors get the blame, totally overlooking the fact that fundamentally it's ended because, the get up and go has got up and went. So I'm afraid it is about body parts with all the successes that follow as the meaningful relationship develops being due to the fact that ultimately, you can't keep our hands off one another. " No that's bullshit. May be true for you but not everyone. Bit sad really if sex is the only thing keeping 2 slabs of meat in a relationship. | |||
" Sweetheart, every intelligent person knows that fantastic sex is the glue that binds a successful relationship, if that's in place then everything else that comes with the territory is a bonus. In every break up lack of physical attraction happens, but then of course other factors get the blame, totally overlooking the fact that fundamentally it's ended because, the get up and go has got up and went. So I'm afraid it is about body parts with all the successes that follow as the meaningful relationship develops being due to the fact that ultimately, you can't keep our hands off one another. " If that were true I wouldn’t encounter the problems I have. The sex side I can maintain but the issues I have with anxious attachment and the fact I suffocate men and create problems that aren’t there, become very clingy and dependant on guys. There is a whole lot more to having a relationship than just sex. | |||
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