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over a year ago
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None whatsoever. Anyone that says differently is far too shallow for their own good.
Only those that make you feel good about yourself deserve to see you naked anyways |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
They may limit what you could do, and that in turn may affect your enjoyment and so they matter in that sense, but when it comes to seeing people naked no they don’t (or shouldn’t). |
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
I'm sure they don't.
I hope they don't, I've got a new, livid-looking one on my inner thigh that really embarrasses me....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Scars are like life tattoos.
They are nothing to feel embarrassed by. I have stretch marks from pregnancies and weight loss, scars from operations for fertility treatment years ago and a hysterectomy.... all part and parcel of my life experiences.
I do however understand your insecurities and have my own regarding my body but it's not because of scars, it's more because I dislike what I see from weight loss body changes through exercise.
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By *avhonaWoman
over a year ago
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It's tough to look past the things that you see in/on yourself to the point where you would fully accept the positive input from anyone else. And sometimes it really is ok to want acceptance from others.
For me, I had some body confidence issues (still do at times) and it wasn't until I met a rather special friend that these things began to feel a lot less prominent in my mind. He worshipped every flawed inch of me and those flaws melted away into something a lot less important.
They don't ever fully go away for me, but I guess I'm saying that there are people in this world who will really look at you/into you and not only will they never want to change a thing about you, they will treasure what you have to the point where you can feel like you truly own every little scar, mark...'flaw'. |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
No they don't, the scars we share with people, regardless of physical or emotional, can be the most beautiful way to truely connect and open up to another person.
My physical scars are plain to see and I share the emotionl one with only the people I realy do cre about, including some of my more darker experiences. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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Scars don't matter, but if it makes you happier and more confident to cover them then do so.
If person meeting you likes you enough then the scars will probably be seen as of how unique you are. Xx |
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over a year ago
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
No they don't but I find it difficult too as I've got scars from surgery and feel very self conscious about them.
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Scars are your story. They make you real and earthy...not perfectly ethereal.
Cesarean scars, along with stretch marks are the reminders of the sacrifice a lady makes to give birth. They are actually lovely if you look away from the purely aesthetic.
The only people who care about aesthetic only are people you haven't talked to, or are shallow.
And they don't matter.
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Scars don't matter at all. Mrs has stretch some stretch marks and we love them. Reminders of our amazing life. Body imperfections shouldn't matter. Most of us will have some body confidence issues, weight, hair, size, etc so you are not alone.
It's hard because often just being told they are ok, doesn't always make the confidence suddenly improve to a level where you are not conscious any more but with enough positivity and support for yourself and from others, it will improve.
Personally, We got to a point where we just thought fuck it, can't change much of the things that worry us but if people didn't like it, then they are not right for us and we should value ourselves for who we are. |
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No they really don't matter at least not to me in any bad way OP.
I actually like scars of all kind be they stretch marks or scars from surgery, I find them fascinating but not in a turn on sense so I'm always happy to see them. I like one in particular of my own as it was from a shoulder surgery op where I was awake through it and got to see what they were doing while it was opened up.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are a beautiful person inside and out. Scars are part of your life. You shouldn't be ashamed or embarrassed about them. Be proud of them,they show that you are a survivor.  |
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over a year ago
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"Yes they matter. I like the stories they carry on. 
I could pretend that I got mine from a shark when I was saving a fair maiden  "
Yep. You stick with that. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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Scars tell a story of who you are and what you have been through. If someone is a twat about a scar (the way it looks etc) then they don't deserve the pleasure of being with you naked in the first place!
You are beautiful inside and out and a scar only highlights this |
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I have to say would not bother me in slightest, I have a few over the years, its the lived in look.
I think you look amazing, absolutely stunning and so very very attractive, If you were naked alongside me all I would want to know would be the story behind them if you were happy to share and if not you would get a kiss and a cuddle and its never mentioned again xxx
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Short answer is no.
Scars are part of your life and represent what you've either overcome from say operations or stretch marks from pregnancy.
You have lovely smile, great figure, with good manners and all together are an exceptionally nice person |
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Here’s the stupid thing - scars on someone else don’t matter to me at all. My own scars though? They’ve definitely knocked my confidence. When the nurse changed my dressings after my last (very unexpected) op, I sobbed because they looked so ugly. I don’t feel quite as bad now they’ve healed, but I do still feel a bit wobbly about them. |
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over a year ago
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No course not OP
I've got 3 scars from having my appendix out which I'm not overly keen on but it is what it is
Nobody is perfect, we're all unique in our own ways
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over a year ago
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Sparkles, you're beautiful. Those scars won't matter a jot to the bloke who's totally into you (figuratively and literally  ) and they are part of your story. That story can't be erased, nor can the scars, but you can learn to tell it in a way that describes rather than limits you. x |
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over a year ago
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"Here’s the stupid thing - scars on someone else don’t matter to me at all. My own scars though? They’ve definitely knocked my confidence. When the nurse changed my dressings after my last (very unexpected) op, I sobbed because they looked so ugly. I don’t feel quite as bad now they’ve healed, but I do still feel a bit wobbly about them."
Read the posts in this thread |
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It will matter to some but not to most - just be honest and the let the superficial run away.
Then take it baby steps - maybe not go completely nuts at first. Again a quality person will be understanding and will want you to be as comfortable as possible.
I have been with guys with bad scarring and i can't say it put me off one bit. |
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over a year ago
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
Anyone that thinks they are important or ugly is not someone you want to be involved with. Personally.... I'd kiss them all xxx |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
They never matter every scars tells a story good or bad and it's sometimes a good place to start and work around  |
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
I’m going to say NO as I really don’t mind scars on others and can see past them as they all have a story. However, I am so different about them on me. Like you, I don’t feel confident to go naked and tend to stay covered up as I have a lot of scarring from previous surgery from having cancer at 19, again at 28 and at 41. The Mr constantly tells me that it doesn’t matter to him and that my sexual appeal is far greater and not to worry. However, they do make me conscious...  |
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over a year ago
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
You are very beautiful, scars should not matter no. |
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over a year ago
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
Any scar is a story of the person you are today, they’re our own little history and should be embraced |
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
They won’t matter between two people who are genuinely into each other.
Our scars bumps and lumps make us who we are.
I used to be conscious of my overly pretty penis but now I’ve come to terms with it.  |
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"We're both covered in scars. Something like that would never put us off.
How do you feel about other's scars OP?
Lu "
I find them intriguing, I love to learn the story behind them if that person is willing to share the story x |
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over a year ago
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Hi Sparkle,
Don't worry about scars, they're superficial. I have a huge scar on my back which I was worried about but no more. I don't mind whether someone asks about it or ignores it.
M x  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"We're both covered in scars. Something like that would never put us off.
How do you feel about other's scars OP?
Lu
I find them intriguing, I love to learn the story behind them if that person is willing to share the story x"
I'm beyond a story it's more like a novel and nope I'm not accidental prone just each one a chapter of my life more than 9 lives but and still going strong |
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over a year ago
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
Yes they do matter. They matter to you. If you don't feel comfortable naked why do it?
Corsets, lingerie, stockings, something that will cover it and make you feel confident.
If it's an arm scar you could wear a bandage over it. Anything that makes you feel happier. |
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"Here’s the stupid thing - scars on someone else don’t matter to me at all. My own scars though? They’ve definitely knocked my confidence. When the nurse changed my dressings after my last (very unexpected) op, I sobbed because they looked so ugly. I don’t feel quite as bad now they’ve healed, but I do still feel a bit wobbly about them.
Read the posts in this thread "
That’s why it’s so silly, I know logically that they don’t matter, especially when reading a thread like this, but believing it emotionally is something else. Oh well, I’ll just keep slathering the Bio-Oil on, it’s not like anyone will be seeing me naked for a while! |
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Every time I forget I have them someone asks what the fuck happened to my legs and I get super self conscious all over again 
But I wouldn't even dream of pointing someone's out, saying anything or even judging on them |
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
No, I had a meeting and must have been “warned” 20 times about having scars. I couldn’t care less. My focus is on pleasing you; not finding out about scars.
Funnily enough though, I use my scar from a genuine lion attack as a nice breaker to get you naked  |
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"It's tough to look past the things that you see in/on yourself to the point where you would fully accept the positive input from anyone else. And sometimes it really is ok to want acceptance from others.
For me, I had some body confidence issues (still do at times) and it wasn't until I met a rather special friend that these things began to feel a lot less prominent in my mind. He worshipped every flawed inch of me and those flaws melted away into something a lot less important.
They don't ever fully go away for me, but I guess I'm saying that there are people in this world who will really look at you/into you and not only will they never want to change a thing about you, they will treasure what you have to the point where you can feel like you truly own every little scar, mark...'flaw'."
This 
I hope I find someone who thinks that way about me one day |
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
I've now got scars on my face after recent surgery. Can't cover them up!
I wouldn't worry about them x |
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Unless you're really Frankenstein's monster, then I don't think you really have a problem. It's the bolts you really have to worry about?
Scars are just your life history, and if people can't look past that, then it just shows how shallow they are |
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Honestly before we joined the scene, I (male half) would never be seen with my top off as I have a port wine birthmark that covers half my torso and my entire right arm and it always bothered me to the point I wouldn't allow my right arm or hand in photos.
Now, however I couldn't give a rat's ass and that is thanks to some of the amazing people we have met on the scene. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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I’ve got a huge one, never ever bothered me, even as a youngster and obviously it’s grown with me so not a nice neat one you get these days lol, I don’t think about it when getting naked, I just strip off without a thought about it. I wouldn’t be alive without it and nobody’s ever said anything to me about it and if it did bother them then no hard feelings from me and they know where the door is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely not scars do not matter one bit had motorcycle accident broken leg jaw arm head split open by chain saw so no scars don’t matter at all oh and have a scar on my todger when a lady bit instead of sucking ooouuuuccchhhhh
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"We're both covered in scars. Something like that would never put us off.
How do you feel about other's scars OP?
Lu
I find them intriguing, I love to learn the story behind them if that person is willing to share the story x"
So if you know you feel that way, you must know others do too!
Anyone who's out off by scars simply isn't for you...wr all have our moments of insecurity but I promise you've nothing to worry about...other people probably don't even notice them. |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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They don't matter to most. I personally like them on a person and have a few of my own.
You have to accept and love yourself though. If you don't accept yourself it doesn't matter what others think. You look rather lovely in your photos x |
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
I hope you find that confidence and also meet people interested in you as a person and the stories of your scars xx |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"It's the low confidence that is more likely to put someone off
I am confident when fully dressed and particularly dressed....just not fully naked."
I understand this, we all have body confidence issues to some degree.
But, once you've got down to 'partially dressed', presumably so is the other party.... so they almost certainly fancy you enough to be past the point at which a scar would be an issue.
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
No they don't. Scars can look beautiful anyway.
If you are unsure, show us yourself naked sometime and we'll let you know our opinion. It's pretty clear you are a stunner.
Compare scars with Hannah. I would hazard a guess she has more significant scarring than you. Better still, I'll examine you both at the same time. 
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??
No they don't. Scars can look beautiful anyway.
If you are unsure, show us yourself naked sometime and we'll let you know our opinion. It's pretty clear you are a stunner.
Compare scars with Hannah. I would hazard a guess she has more significant scarring than you. Better still, I'll examine you both at the same time.
Luke "
I like your thinking x |
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I have a 10" long scar on each hip plus my csection scar.
They knocked my confidence to begin with but 10 years later I have had no bad reactions to them, some curiosity (double hip surgery) but my confidence grew and I hardly notice them now.
Embrace them, they are part of your story xx |
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
Being in possession of some pretty impressive scars myself (male half) I do sometimes wonder what people think of them, but at the end of the day, they don’t affect my life or my performance and many others have more damaging mental scars that cannot be seen, that affect their every waking moment; so basically if someone has an issue with your scars, they really need to get a grip. I just see them as my life tattoos. |
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
My dear, all the imperfections make us unique and sexy. Please do not forget there is a history of your life... Sometimes sad sometimes happy.
You are beautiful |
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They matter.
I bloody earnt mine with blood and tears. Took time but I got to the point that I think of them like my ink.
Badges.
I still have occasional insecure moments but generally that's caused by letting others opinions get to me.
Dont do that. It's a hard habit to break.
To sum it up if I didnt have my scars I might not be here today |
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"I have a very visible scar within my groin area, and if any thing, it has bring further positive intrigue,...I love my scar "
Is it like a treasure map? Can you follow the line to find the treasure? |
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"Having a bit of a body confidence issue and I don't think I could ever get totally naked with anyone again.
Do they matter??"
No! As long you don’t mind the people sexualise about it too |
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I have quite a few scars a couple on my hands from operations from an accident when I was younger I also have one major one on my ankle from the same accident. I also have a couple of other scars from other little mishaps.
But I hardly notice them anymore, however when I do they remind me what I went through at the time and how far I have come to over come the issues around them.
In summary, you can either make an issue of your scars or you can think sod it.. I have bloody well overcome the issues behind them and if you the person who is looking at them and me naked and you are making something of them, then to be honest you need to have a good look at yourself both inside and out. |
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"I have a very visible scar within my groin area, and if any thing, it has bring further positive intrigue,...I love my scar
Is it like a treasure map? Can you follow the line to find the treasure?
Hahaha, some thing like that,..it's two visible scar lines, see if you can see it "
Ahh yes, they're more visible in the black and white ones! They're pretty cool scars! |
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"I have a very visible scar within my groin area, and if any thing, it has bring further positive intrigue,...I love my scar
Is it like a treasure map? Can you follow the line to find the treasure?
Hahaha, some thing like that,..it's two visible scar lines, see if you can see it
Ahh yes, they're more visible in the black and white ones! They're pretty cool scars! "
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"i was set on fire and have burns on my arms shoulder and chest which tattoos mostly covered up.
few scars from operations but no one seems to mind."
I have tattoos over scars too. To pretend to be what was originally there.
It's an interesting way to combine hiding something and fooling the casual eye. And also I love ink. |
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They shouldn't matter nope!
Saying that I have a couple of scars which I always worry will put someone off if I was close to, due to an operation which has left an ugly scar. |
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"i was set on fire and have burns on my arms shoulder and chest which tattoos mostly covered up.
few scars from operations but no one seems to mind.
I have tattoos over scars too. To pretend to be what was originally there.
It's an interesting way to combine hiding something and fooling the casual eye. And also I love ink."
Me too, i was stabbed in the upper arm. I had it tattoo'd over.  |
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To me a scar shows you haved lived your life.
It doesn't matter if it is due to injury or an operation, it tells a story of you.
I have scars on top of scars on my knees, when I came off motorbikes and bicycles. I have a rather fetching 4 inch scar on my abdomen, where they took away my cancer, also the testicle it was attached to.
If someone judges you by the scars you have, you need to be asking do I really want to be with this person? |
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