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Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. | |||
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You haven't asked specifically for a profile critique so I can't give one.
Based on your thread post alone I'd say it was attitude really. | |||
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"Im not able to answer you question OP, careful how you go and good luck. I've got some popcorn at the ready." May I join you please ??  | |||
Meets still aren't allowed & many people are not chatting just now for that reason.
Also, there are many, many, more men on here than women, so even us 1 or 2 star girls can afford to be picky. | |||
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"Im not able to answer you question OP, careful how you go and good luck. I've got some popcorn at the ready. May I join you please ?? "Why please be my guest, have you brought any liquid refreshments? | |||
"What she said
Meets still aren't allowed & many people are not chatting just now for that reason.
Also, there are many, many, more men on here than women, so even us 1 or 2 star girls can afford to be picky. "You are not a 1 or 2 star girl x | |||
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"...most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "It's this sort of positive attitude towards women that women absolutely adore. I really have no idea why you've not fared better. Odd. | |||
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"Im not able to answer you question OP, careful how you go and good luck. I've got some popcorn at the ready. May I join you please ??
Why please be my guest, have you brought any liquid refreshments?
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"Im not able to answer you question OP, careful how you go and good luck. I've got some popcorn at the ready. May I join you please ??
Why please be my guest, have you brought any liquid refreshments?
I have tea if there's room in the bench"I don't drink tea but your more than welcome to join us so long as you behave yourself  | |||
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"Im not able to answer you question OP, careful how you go and good luck. I've got some popcorn at the ready. May I join you please ??
Why please be my guest, have you brought any liquid refreshments?
I have tea if there's room in the bench
I don't drink tea but your more than welcome to join us so long as you behave yourself "Coffee? I promise to behave | |||
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"You can filter your searches based on star rating now. " can ya | |||
"You can filter your searches based on star rating now. " Ahhh that's why I've had 3,937 messages this morning.  | |||
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"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "How many stars would you give yourself? | |||
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Sorry chap you're not doing yourself any favours,
Chinese proverb - when in hole stop digging | |||
"This is getting good!!
Sorry chap you're not doing yourself any favours,
Chinese proverb - when in hole stop digging "
Oh no... I'm almost out of popcorn | |||
"I'm not rude I've been on this site a lot longer as this is a new profile. Also its been the same since before the pandemic no matter how I act or say women are never interested and just ignore the messages therefore I become more interested in men as I feel like men are far more open minded and more likely to respond. At the end of the day itd just be nice to be responded to as they forget I can see when my messages have been read and it actually does more harm by not giving a reply back to the message if u r not interested. The way I've always been treated by women have led me to be far more interested to becoming fully gay instead of bi and basically whats happened to me now as I'm just fed up with it all. "Do you think people are required to be interested in you? | |||
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"Your last paragraph alone would be reason enough for me to not be interested. Maybe adjust your attitude OP, you can't whine your way into bed." This exactly. | |||
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"I'm not rude I've been on this site a lot longer as this is a new profile. Also its been the same since before the pandemic no matter how I act or say women are never interested and just ignore the messages therefore I become more interested in men as I feel like men are far more open minded and more likely to respond. At the end of the day itd just be nice to be responded to as they forget I can see when my messages have been read and it actually does more harm by not giving a reply back to the message if u r not interested. The way I've always been treated by women have led me to be far more interested to becoming fully gay instead of bi and basically whats happened to me now as I'm just fed up with it all. "Firstly, you are rude. To insult even some of the women here cos you're not getting laid is fucking rude. You're not entitled to a shag. Women here get literally 100s of messages a day in some cases, I dunno about you but I don't have the time or inclination to respond to that many messages, especially when 99% of them are from people I'm not interested in. Also being gay....not a choice. You can't just decide to be gay because women aren't fucking you
As I said before, you will get out what you put in and frankly mate, your attitude sucks.
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"I'm not rude I've been on this site a lot longer as this is a new profile. Also its been the same since before the pandemic no matter how I act or say women are never interested and just ignore the messages therefore I become more interested in men as I feel like men are far more open minded and more likely to respond. At the end of the day itd just be nice to be responded to as they forget I can see when my messages have been read and it actually does more harm by not giving a reply back to the message if u r not interested. The way I've always been treated by women have led me to be far more interested to becoming fully gay instead of bi and basically whats happened to me now as I'm just fed up with it all. "So an inbox full of rejection is better than an empty one? How does that work then? | |||
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"I'm not rude I've been on this site a lot longer as this is a new profile. Also its been the same since before the pandemic no matter how I act or say women are never interested and just ignore the messages therefore I become more interested in men as I feel like men are far more open minded and more likely to respond. At the end of the day itd just be nice to be responded to as they forget I can see when my messages have been read and it actually does more harm by not giving a reply back to the message if u r not interested. The way I've always been treated by women have led me to be far more interested to becoming fully gay instead of bi and basically whats happened to me now as I'm just fed up with it all.
Firstly, you are rude.
To insult even some of the women here cos you're not getting laid is fucking rude. You're not entitled to a shag.
Women here get literally 100s of messages a day in some cases, I dunno about you but I don't have the time or inclination to respond to that many messages, especially when 99% of them are from people I'm not interested in.
Also being gay....not a choice.
You can't just decide to be gay because women aren't fucking you
As I said before, you will get out what you put in and frankly mate, your attitude sucks.
Lu "Exactly this | |||
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"I'm not rude I've been on this site a lot longer as this is a new profile. Also its been the same since before the pandemic no matter how I act or say women are never interested and just ignore the messages therefore I become more interested in men as I feel like men are far more open minded and more likely to respond. At the end of the day itd just be nice to be responded to as they forget I can see when my messages have been read and it actually does more harm by not giving a reply back to the message if u r not interested. The way I've always been treated by women have led me to be far more interested to becoming fully gay instead of bi and basically whats happened to me now as I'm just fed up with it all. "I bet the men are forming a queue! | |||
"I'm not rude I've been on this site a lot longer as this is a new profile. Also its been the same since before the pandemic no matter how I act or say women are never interested and just ignore the messages therefore I become more interested in men as I feel like men are far more open minded and more likely to respond. At the end of the day itd just be nice to be responded to as they forget I can see when my messages have been read and it actually does more harm by not giving a reply back to the message if u r not interested. The way I've always been treated by women have led me to be far more interested to becoming fully gay instead of bi and basically whats happened to me now as I'm just fed up with it all. "People don't forget you can see a message has been read, because we all use the same site and all know we can check a message is read if we want to. Delete your sent messages. Don't obsess. And don't blame women if you get more interest from men. | |||
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"I'm not rude I've been on this site a lot longer as this is a new profile. Also its been the same since before the pandemic no matter how I act or say women are never interested and just ignore the messages therefore I become more interested in men as I feel like men are far more open minded and more likely to respond. At the end of the day itd just be nice to be responded to as they forget I can see when my messages have been read and it actually does more harm by not giving a reply back to the message if u r not interested. The way I've always been treated by women have led me to be far more interested to becoming fully gay instead of bi and basically whats happened to me now as I'm just fed up with it all. "I think you need a therapist, you seem really confused Mark | |||
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" Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "This is why. | |||
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"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "Tbf I am gorgeous and blessed, you can't blame them | |||
"I was going to write a thought out response but that last line in your opening post was practically suicide..." | |||
" Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "Oh yeah, things like this. | |||
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"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "Goose soundly cooked and Xmas is long passed lol | |||
"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "Op, you seem to have a very low opinion of the ‘standard’ of the women on this site. Are we supposed to be desperate and grateful due to our low level of attractiveness? I’m surprised you’d want to use us. | |||
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"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "Just based on the content of your post OP: Negativity is a turn off. Insulting people because they're not interested in you is a turn off. Many people want experienced play mates, not someone they have to teach. A positive attitude goes a long way! | |||
"Lastly a quick glance at your profile and I'd be ruling you out for many reasons before I even looked at your photos. " | |||
"I'm sensing a troll among us... All the very best.... " A troll would be a sight more interesting I think This is just another one of the ‘Entitled’ not getting what he wants in the sweet shop of life | |||
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"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "Eek!!! That plus your profile ..... seriously why aren’t you beating ‘young women or women that look young’ off with a stick OP | |||
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"I don’t like hung men, the body doesn’t bother me, but I prefer a dad bod/rugby build. It’s all about attitude, connection and chemistry. I find that negativity is off putting, for me and plenty of others, maybe have a break and think about what you really want, and come back with a fresh outlook. " I like this post x | |||
"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "Honestly take a look at what you’ve just posted and you should be able to work it out. We are in a pandemic so most won’t and aren’t meeting. You sound entitled as if women owe you something or should sleep with you because they are here, they don’t owe you anything so why should they be forced to respond to your messages? Being fit and hung doesn’t automatically get you laid btw, we’ve found most of the couples we’ve met the female half is more attracted to a dad bod and we have female friends that prefer an average size penis some prefer larger. Everyone has their own preferences don’t they? Putting every single female down by saying they aren’t attractive in your posts isn’t exactly helping you out here, is that how you actually feel or do I sense some bitterness? We seek profiles with similar meet interests and as it stands you have stated on your profile you would pretty much meet anybody at anytime so even if mrs C did consider meeting a single male from here it would be a no even before we had read some of your forum posts. Mr C | |||
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"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail.
Honestly take a look at what you’ve just posted and you should be able to work it out.
We are in a pandemic so most won’t and aren’t meeting.
You sound entitled as if women owe you something or should sleep with you because they are here, they don’t owe you anything so why should they be forced to respond to your messages?
Being fit and hung doesn’t automatically get you laid btw, we’ve found most of the couples we’ve met the female half is more attracted to a dad bod and we have female friends that prefer an average size penis some prefer larger. Everyone has their own preferences don’t they?
Putting every single female down by saying they aren’t attractive in your posts isn’t exactly helping you out here, is that how you actually feel or do I sense some bitterness?
We seek profiles with similar meet interests and as it stands you have stated on your profile you would pretty much meet anybody at anytime so even if mrs C did consider meeting a single male from here it would be a no even before we had read some of your forum posts.
Mr C"I think that sums it up pretty well | |||
"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "For starter's you're the age of many women's children's on here...your a baby in fab terms lol there was a 18-30 thread somewhere though. other than that I'm imagining it is pure attitude, first thing I read on your profile makes it look as you don't understand sexuality at all and are just looking for a hole to fill.....nah dude, this isn't a hooker site, you want more guarantee go pay for it (btw they still have right to refuse you too). People's bodies are their own, it is up to them what they do with them, not you, should they with to include you or not is also their choice. | |||
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"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "Firstly, don’t call us “you women”, that’ll put a lot of backs up straight away. Secondly, what do you mean by “guys like me”? Do you mean guys so young they’re barely more than children? Whiny, entitled guys with incel-like attitudes? Believe me when I say that based on your posts, it’s not your looks putting people off. Thirdly, don’t assume we all only like one type. Fit or hung isn’t important to me at all. Experience and skills are, that’s true - I’m not interested in two-pumps-and-done sex, or in someone who has no idea how to give pleasure. I don’t want to do all the work and get nothing out of it. Complaining that “you women” don’t want an inexperienced man makes it sound like meeting you wouldn’t be that enjoyable. Lastly. My god. Read your last paragraph and be honest with yourself - is that a good look? Do you really thinking talking about women like that will improve things for you? We’re “picky” because we have the right, regardless of our looks, to decide who we allow to touch us. Our bodies aren’t a free commodity to anyone who wants them. Aren’t you being picky by specifying an age range? If you’re allowed that right, why aren’t we? | |||
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"I'm not rude I've been on this site a lot longer as this is a new profile. Also its been the same since before the pandemic no matter how I act or say women are never interested and just ignore the messages therefore I become more interested in men as I feel like men are far more open minded and more likely to respond. At the end of the day itd just be nice to be responded to as they forget I can see when my messages have been read and it actually does more harm by not giving a reply back to the message if u r not interested. The way I've always been treated by women have led me to be far more interested to becoming fully gay instead of bi and basically whats happened to me now as I'm just fed up with it all. "Well if you are interested in men only I am confused as to why you are singling out women as the enemy here or why the post? I am sorry but you need take some time and reflect on your self. No one owes you an response and if it causes you more harm by you not getting a response then perhaps this is not the site for you. | |||
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"Hiya OP If your here for meets and your not getting any, thus leading to frustration. If the site is having a negative impact on your happiness then its probably time to take a break or leave never to return. By the way what happens when 5 stars status is attained, do they get a free nandos black card?
"Are they real?! I would like one of those. Please rate me 5 stars | |||
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"Hiya OP If your here for meets and your not getting any, thus leading to frustration. If the site is having a negative impact on your happiness then its probably time to take a break or leave never to return. By the way what happens when 5 stars status is attained, do they get a free nandos black card?
Are they real?! I would like one of those. Please rate me 5 stars "Only those that have attained 5 star status can rate which rules me out, otherwise I'd give you one. Nandos back card that is | |||
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"Best way to make sure women aren’t interested in you is to engage in a logically conversation into why you aren’t their type. That’s panty wettening talk right there " This is what I don't understand. Why do people get upset when those they think are unattractive turn them down?.They should be relieved. | |||
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"When you have been brought up in a society that fulfils your needs, you will expect society to always fulfil your needs, regardless of what they are. Whilst we can castigate the OP for being entitled, we should be looking to the generation that created that entitlement...... We killed their drive, focus and ambition with kindness and left a mess of expectations " His whole generation will not be the same. There are people of all ages on here who are exactly the same. | |||
"Best way to make sure women aren’t interested in you is to engage in a logically conversation into why you aren’t their type. That’s panty wettening talk right there This is what I don't understand. Why do people get upset when those they think are unattractive turn them down?.They should be relieved. " “I think I’m an 8. I give them a 6. They must therefore be interested in me as they have less chance” - possibly? Take it as an insult when the interest doesn’t appear | |||
"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "Damn chief well firstly for me what constitutes a star rating and why aren’t all a 10? Rona has fluffed up meeting and diluted conversations because honestly what’s the point if there’s no meeting after connection, unless you make some quality banterous friends like I have
As the legend MJ said “I’m starting with the man in the mirror” | |||
"So you will resort to fucking men because women wont resort to fucking you...nice! I bet the men youve met love that! "From what I've read on here over the years, those men don't care. If he's getting what he needs from men that he isn't getting from women he's made the right choice. | |||
"Your last paragraph would suggest you’re a dick, could that be a factor? ?? Mark" | |||
"Best way to make sure women aren’t interested in you is to engage in a logically conversation into why you aren’t their type. That’s panty wettening talk right there This is what I don't understand. Why do people get upset when those they think are unattractive turn them down?.They should be relieved. “I think I’m an 8. I give them a 6. They must therefore be interested in me as they have less chance” - possibly? Take it as an insult when the interest doesn’t appear " That's the problem with physical leagues. | |||
"When you have been brought up in a society that fulfils your needs, you will expect society to always fulfil your needs, regardless of what they are. Whilst we can castigate the OP for being entitled, we should be looking to the generation that created that entitlement...... We killed their drive, focus and ambition with kindness and left a mess of expectations " Nah, that’s not true. Just look at all the entitled whining on here from men in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s. It really isn’t just Gen Z. | |||
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"im too hungover for this.. can someone pass me the eye bleach please? oh and popcorn. Danke Px "Sorry I've just finished my popcorn  | |||
"Swamp donkey pmsl...." Haha yeah I liked that also. I'm going to add it to my list of insults along with "arse head" | |||
"When you have been brought up in a society that fulfils your needs, you will expect society to always fulfil your needs, regardless of what they are. Whilst we can castigate the OP for being entitled, we should be looking to the generation that created that entitlement...... We killed their drive, focus and ambition with kindness and left a mess of expectations Nah, that’s not true. Just look at all the entitled whining on here from men in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s. It really isn’t just Gen Z." I think both you and the poster above (that responded to my post) are right to a degree, I think men and women of all generations have become more entitled over the years, and I don’t think there is very much difference in the genders when it comes to that expectation or entitlement. Perhaps what I should have done was not based my post so much on a generational thing, but more on the times we live in; these “get rich quick, low effort-high reward, instant gratification” times. The sad thing is that expending effort is actually part of the reward, it builds confidence (I did it), mental strength (I can do it) and satisfaction (look what I could do). Maybe I am stuck in the past, but I prefer to accomplish something over being given something, whether that’s a wonderful illicit meeting on fab or a sense of well being in my life. | |||
"When you have been brought up in a society that fulfils your needs, you will expect society to always fulfil your needs, regardless of what they are. Whilst we can castigate the OP for being entitled, we should be looking to the generation that created that entitlement...... We killed their drive, focus and ambition with kindness and left a mess of expectations Nah, that’s not true. Just look at all the entitled whining on here from men in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s. It really isn’t just Gen Z. I think both you and the poster above (that responded to my post) are right to a degree, I think men and women of all generations have become more entitled over the years, and I don’t think there is very much difference in the genders when it comes to that expectation or entitlement. Perhaps what I should have done was not based my post so much on a generational thing, but more on the times we live in; these “get rich quick, low effort-high reward, instant gratification” times. The sad thing is that expending effort is actually part of the reward, it builds confidence (I did it), mental strength (I can do it) and satisfaction (look what I could do). Maybe I am stuck in the past, but I prefer to accomplish something over being given something, whether that’s a wonderful illicit meeting on fab or a sense of well being in my life. " I think it's joining a site dedicated to sex that confuses people. I've heard the it's a sex site, why are you being fussy many times. Some people just want a warm body; others need more than that, and age shouldn't factor in showing those people some respect. I've met 20 somethings who were mature and respectful. I know frustration with the site can cause bitterness, but airing that in public will rile people up. How I see it is, if something isn't working for you, try something else, or change your approach. | |||
"*Bites tongue and takes note that the OP is the same age as my son so goes into mum mode* Kiddo, your age will play a major factor. I know it's frustrating but having been here before you'll be aware that no reply means no interest. People can look for their own version of 5 star and that, believe it or not doesn't always come down to looks alone. You may think 5 star means supermodel. To others 5 star means the entire experience from first message to saying goodbye at the end of the meet and everything inbetween. One persons supermodel can be another persons swamp donkey and vice versa. I appreciate you say you've been here before and lacked replies then too, but you cannot dismiss the fact peoples lives have been turned upside down because of the pandemic and meeting or making new connections has been the last thing on many peoples minds, even though they've been logging in to the site. The site for many is more than sex, more than hooking up. It's keeping in touch with existing friends. So, let's talk a little bit about effort. How many organised group socials have you been to? How many cougars and cubs nights or other club nights have you been to? If the answer is none, then you need to start pointing the finger at yourself for your own lack of replies coz there's a fuckton of people that only meet at clubs or make connections through socials then use the site to keep in touch. So... shake off your entitled frustration and think about how you're gonna move forward, if swinging is something you're prepared to put the effort into or whether you're simply searching for an easy fuck.... Coz you will not find that here." Princess Peach has arrived. I read the OP’s opening salvo and thought Lord have mercy if the peach is patrolling. He got off lightly me thinks. | |||
"I think men and women of all generations have become more entitled over the years, and I don’t think there is very much difference in the genders when it comes to that expectation or entitlement. " Really? Perhaps you can point me to the half dozen or more posts per day by entitled women with terrible profiles complaining that they don’t have people falling at their feet in spite of their own lack of effort. | |||
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"*Bites tongue and takes note that the OP is the same age as my son so goes into mum mode* Kiddo, your age will play a major factor. I know it's frustrating but having been here before you'll be aware that no reply means no interest. People can look for their own version of 5 star and that, believe it or not doesn't always come down to looks alone. You may think 5 star means supermodel. To others 5 star means the entire experience from first message to saying goodbye at the end of the meet and everything inbetween. One persons supermodel can be another persons swamp donkey and vice versa. I appreciate you say you've been here before and lacked replies then too, but you cannot dismiss the fact peoples lives have been turned upside down because of the pandemic and meeting or making new connections has been the last thing on many peoples minds, even though they've been logging in to the site. The site for many is more than sex, more than hooking up. It's keeping in touch with existing friends. So, let's talk a little bit about effort. How many organised group socials have you been to? How many cougars and cubs nights or other club nights have you been to? If the answer is none, then you need to start pointing the finger at yourself for your own lack of replies coz there's a fuckton of people that only meet at clubs or make connections through socials then use the site to keep in touch. So... shake off your entitled frustration and think about how you're gonna move forward, if swinging is something you're prepared to put the effort into or whether you're simply searching for an easy fuck.... Coz you will not find that here. Princess Peach has arrived. I read the OP’s opening salvo and thought Lord have mercy if the peach is patrolling. He got off lightly me thinks." Incredibly. I've been in a dark place this week, plus I'm a hormonal prick right know so was aware if I wasn't careful I could have easily left him feeling as though he'd been hit by a truck. *pats self on head... Good Peach* | |||
"When you have been brought up in a society that fulfils your needs, you will expect society to always fulfil your needs, regardless of what they are. Whilst we can castigate the OP for being entitled, we should be looking to the generation that created that entitlement...... We killed their drive, focus and ambition with kindness and left a mess of expectations Nah, that’s not true. Just look at all the entitled whining on here from men in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s. It really isn’t just Gen Z. I think both you and the poster above (that responded to my post) are right to a degree, I think men and women of all generations have become more entitled over the years, and I don’t think there is very much difference in the genders when it comes to that expectation or entitlement. Perhaps what I should have done was not based my post so much on a generational thing, but more on the times we live in; these “get rich quick, low effort-high reward, instant gratification” times. The sad thing is that expending effort is actually part of the reward, it builds confidence (I did it), mental strength (I can do it) and satisfaction (look what I could do). Maybe I am stuck in the past, but I prefer to accomplish something over being given something, whether that’s a wonderful illicit meeting on fab or a sense of well being in my life. I think it's joining a site dedicated to sex that confuses people. I've heard the it's a sex site, why are you being fussy many times. Some people just want a warm body; others need more than that, and age shouldn't factor in showing those people some respect. I've met 20 somethings who were mature and respectful. I know frustration with the site can cause bitterness, but airing that in public will rile people up. How I see it is, if something isn't working for you, try something else, or change your approach. " I agree with you entirely, if fab actually lowers your self esteem, causes you angst and frustration and makes you unhappy, then you should leave and concentrate on the things that do the opposite. The thing about marketing on the internet is that is based on popularity (whether that’s a website or an individual) fab sells itself as a place to have sexual connections, but as with all things, people should really read the small print. It’s not the site owners or other users problem if you can’t meet someone, it’s yours and your expectations and your understanding of effort vs reward. | |||
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"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. ""You're all pretty ugly why won't you fuck me" Yeah you should make that your opening line | |||
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"I think men and women of all generations have become more entitled over the years, and I don’t think there is very much difference in the genders when it comes to that expectation or entitlement. Really? Perhaps you can point me to the half dozen or more posts per day by entitled women with terrible profiles complaining that they don’t have people falling at their feet in spite of their own lack of effort." I could point you to a large number of posts from women complaining about the way that some men run their profiles (what photos they include, details etc.). I could also point to a large number of status updates of judgement and angst from women about how “shit” men are. Both the examples given above are examples of “entitlement” (profiles should conform to my view of the world and the way I use this site and men should behave in a way I deem appropriate). To imply that there are not entitled members of all genders (single and couples) on this site is a little naive, I think. The fact that you see it more from men is purely down to the numbers of single men. | |||
"I think men and women of all generations have become more entitled over the years, and I don’t think there is very much difference in the genders when it comes to that expectation or entitlement. Really? Perhaps you can point me to the half dozen or more posts per day by entitled women with terrible profiles complaining that they don’t have people falling at their feet in spite of their own lack of effort. I could point you to a large number of posts from women complaining about the way that some men run their profiles (what photos they include, details etc.). I could also point to a large number of status updates of judgement and angst from women about how “shit” men are. Both the examples given above are examples of “entitlement” (profiles should conform to my view of the world and the way I use this site and men should behave in a way I deem appropriate). To imply that there are not entitled members of all genders (single and couples) on this site is a little naive, I think. The fact that you see it more from men is purely down to the numbers of single men. " This | |||
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"I think men and women of all generations have become more entitled over the years, and I don’t think there is very much difference in the genders when it comes to that expectation or entitlement. Really? Perhaps you can point me to the half dozen or more posts per day by entitled women with terrible profiles complaining that they don’t have people falling at their feet in spite of their own lack of effort. I could point you to a large number of posts from women complaining about the way that some men run their profiles (what photos they include, details etc.). I could also point to a large number of status updates of judgement and angst from women about how “shit” men are. Both the examples given above are examples of “entitlement” (profiles should conform to my view of the world and the way I use this site and men should behave in a way I deem appropriate). To imply that there are not entitled members of all genders (single and couples) on this site is a little naive, I think. The fact that you see it more from men is purely down to the numbers of single men. "
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I will say that a negative mindset and outlook will never give you the desired outcome. This applies to everything in life...including the ability to bed women. | |||
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"Your last paragraph would suggest you’re a dick, could that be a factor? ?? Mark" Love this | |||
"Your last paragraph would suggest you’re a dick, could that be a factor? ?? Mark Love this "What? Dick? | |||
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"I thought about making a sensible reply. And then I thought what’s the point" It's always worth it.... you might not get through to the OP but you will reach other people who read the thread......xx | |||
"You need to treat the women/man/TV with respect no matter what. At the end of the day if they don’t want to see you, they don’t want to yes everyone has a type and yes you may not be it, but life goes on. Just remember to be polite as they’re literally opening up a sexual part of there life to you so just stay chilled and be patient ".this x | |||
"I think men and women of all generations have become more entitled over the years, and I don’t think there is very much difference in the genders when it comes to that expectation or entitlement. Really? Perhaps you can point me to the half dozen or more posts per day by entitled women with terrible profiles complaining that they don’t have people falling at their feet in spite of their own lack of effort. I could point you to a large number of posts from women complaining about the way that some men run their profiles (what photos they include, details etc.). I could also point to a large number of status updates of judgement and angst from women about how “shit” men are. Both the examples given above are examples of “entitlement” (profiles should conform to my view of the world and the way I use this site and men should behave in a way I deem appropriate). To imply that there are not entitled members of all genders (single and couples) on this site is a little naive, I think. The fact that you see it more from men is purely down to the numbers of single men. This "Definitely this | |||
"Your last paragraph would suggest you’re a dick, could that be a factor? ?? Mark Love this
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"I'm not rude I've been on this site a lot longer as this is a new profile. Also its been the same since before the pandemic no matter how I act or say women are never interested and just ignore the messages therefore I become more interested in men as I feel like men are far more open minded and more likely to respond. At the end of the day itd just be nice to be responded to as they forget I can see when my messages have been read and it actually does more harm by not giving a reply back to the message if u r not interested. The way I've always been treated by women have led me to be far more interested to becoming fully gay instead of bi and basically whats happened to me now as I'm just fed up with it all.
Firstly, you are rude.
To insult even some of the women here cos you're not getting laid is fucking rude. You're not entitled to a shag.
Women here get literally 100s of messages a day in some cases, I dunno about you but I don't have the time or inclination to respond to that many messages, especially when 99% of them are from people I'm not interested in.
Also being gay....not a choice.
You can't just decide to be gay because women aren't fucking you
As I said before, you will get out what you put in and frankly mate, your attitude sucks.
Lu "I agree. Your comment about being gay as a way out of your "sex drought" is just juvenile. You can't just decide to be gay as an easier option. That in itself is an insult to gay guys ! | |||
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"Just out of curiosity why aren't any of you women interested in guys like me? Is it because you are all fixated on the stereotype version of men that are fit, hung and/ or are experienced? Or am I missing something cause I'm very open minded in bed for trying most things out as someone thats inexperienced looking for fwb and there are a good plentiful of you nearby that don't respond or generaly message me.
Especially since from what I've seen most of the women here aren't even 5 star perfection themselves so I'll never understand why they act so picky with every little detail. "Well I'm positively frothing at the gash now! | |||
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"I'm not rude I've been on this site a lot longer as this is a new profile. Also its been the same since before the pandemic no matter how I act or say women are never interested and just ignore the messages therefore I become more interested in men as I feel like men are far more open minded and more likely to respond. At the end of the day itd just be nice to be responded to as they forget I can see when my messages have been read and it actually does more harm by not giving a reply back to the message if u r not interested. The way I've always been treated by women have led me to be far more interested to becoming fully gay instead of bi and basically whats happened to me now as I'm just fed up with it all. "Do you have a profile on the other Fab site for bi and gay men? Bound to get lots of replies on there I would have thought. | |||
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"Well you're last paragraph isn't going to do wonders for you
You haven't asked specifically for a profile critique so I can't give one.
Based on your thread post alone I'd say it was attitude really. " | |||
