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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know swinging is a lot different to polygamy. It's just enjoying sex with others, not so much being compassionate or loving someone else. But you become good friends with the people you swing with and eventually, feelings start to creep in. Do you entertain it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being on here as a couple, that's a no go area. If any of us or our playmates catch feelings, that will be the end of that relationship. Respecting each other is number one always  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Being on here as a couple, that's a no go area. If any of us or our playmates catch feelings, that will be the end of that relationship. Respecting each other is number one always "
Yeah, figured that would be the most awkward part. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve made some good friends in the past, only with one in particular did things seem to be a little notch above the normal mutual friends thing but I put an end to that when I saw the warning signs!
My “swinging” life (albeit I have little to no interest in meeting going forwards) has always been about an escape from every day life that I can switch off from so anything more than that had to be shut down quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met my last partner on here and both of us started to feel it pretty immediately.
Then before that, I have had meets where it was just what it was, a meet.
I guess it can happen anywhere. We are human after all x |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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I definitely feel something for my fwb we have a connection and one out with sex, we communicate about life, tough and happy times, enjoy the same music, cook with each other, dance, laugh and enjoy each others company.
Mostly we respect each other and our desires, we appreciate that we are both people who do not see that there is just one person for everyone
Do I love him...no, do I care about him...yes xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know swinging is a lot different to polygamy. It's just enjoying sex with others, not so much being compassionate or loving someone else. But you become good friends with the people you swing with and eventually, feelings start to creep in. Do you entertain it?"
I have only ever had 'feelings' for one guy i met while swinging, I'm now happily married to him. We both swing still. |
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Absolutely no.
Not at all. It's a no go area.
Especially if your a single and your the one that's been invited into a couples lives. Causes no end of problems and the longer the feelings are allowed to build the worse it can get, the irrational thinking, the jealousy, the ultimate ending of "its just the once, he/she never needs to know... Absolutely no, I could never do it and neither could I encourage it. |
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If that ever happened I would put and end to it! A bloke I met for fwb was ok for first few months till he got all serious so I ended it! He got bit stalkerish but we talk occasionally now so all good x |
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"I definitely feel something for my fwb we have a connection and one out with sex, we communicate about life, tough and happy times, enjoy the same music, cook with each other, dance, laugh and enjoy each others company.
Mostly we respect each other and our desires, we appreciate that we are both people who do not see that there is just one person for everyone
Do I love him...no, do I care about him...yes xx"
I have this with my fwb. It's lovely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, myself and my good FWB have a mutual understanding of each other and really enjoy our time together with a sexual connection but we both know the line we have chosen and it’s perfect  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Feeling are hard to manage my brain has no room left my heart i gave away with my soul all thats left is frustration and an unfillable hole and a lingering hope she is safe and happy every moment i hope this |
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"I definitely feel something for my fwb we have a connection and one out with sex, we communicate about life, tough and happy times, enjoy the same music, cook with each other, dance, laugh and enjoy each others company.
Mostly we respect each other and our desires, we appreciate that we are both people who do not see that there is just one person for everyone
Do I love him...no, do I care about him...yes xx
I have this with my fwb. It's lovely."
What happens if he meets someone? Unless that person is committed to the lifestyle, it becomes exclusive and you lose the friendship and sex, presumably. No emotional fall-out? |
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"I definitely feel something for my fwb we have a connection and one out with sex, we communicate about life, tough and happy times, enjoy the same music, cook with each other, dance, laugh and enjoy each others company.
Mostly we respect each other and our desires, we appreciate that we are both people who do not see that there is just one person for everyone
Do I love him...no, do I care about him...yes xx
I have this with my fwb. It's lovely.
What happens if he meets someone? Unless that person is committed to the lifestyle, it becomes exclusive and you lose the friendship and sex, presumably. No emotional fall-out?"
We'd still be friends. We've discussed these things |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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"I definitely feel something for my fwb we have a connection and one out with sex, we communicate about life, tough and happy times, enjoy the same music, cook with each other, dance, laugh and enjoy each others company.
Mostly we respect each other and our desires, we appreciate that we are both people who do not see that there is just one person for everyone
Do I love him...no, do I care about him...yes xx
I have this with my fwb. It's lovely.
What happens if he meets someone? Unless that person is committed to the lifestyle, it becomes exclusive and you lose the friendship and sex, presumably. No emotional fall-out?"
No none at all, I would take it as a lovely time in my life and let him move on. We aren’t exclusive the possibility of either of us meeting another person where more may come of it is always there..no one knows what can happen in the future x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met a few guys who have openly said that they could fall in love with me even though they knew I am married. It messed with my head a bit as I am only here for NSA and I therefore stopped seeing them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nope, née feelings thank you very much.
my swinging lifestyle is very simple, i only want one thing.
yes i have made (and continue to make) very good friends, who'll i'll see or talk to regularly.
but that's it. my partner is the only one that gets my feelings.
Née dramas, née feelings 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know swinging is a lot different to polygamy. It's just enjoying sex with others, not so much being compassionate or loving someone else. But you become good friends with the people you swing with and eventually, feelings start to creep in. Do you entertain it?
I have only ever had 'feelings' for one guy i met while swinging, I'm now happily married to him. We both swing still."
'Feelings' have never crept in with other guys I've met, even if i meet them lots of times. Friendship, yes, but nothing more
With hubby i knew right at the begining he is special, however i wasn't looking for more than swinging but love just happened. I'm very glad it did |
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