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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Loving the forum threads today!
In our swinging lives we all have boundaries and some of those seem more intensely intertwined with our views of relationship
So... What constitutes a relationship? Where are it's boundaries.. When do you 'know' you are in a relationship...
How about a fwb that you meet twice a week... Or a long distant friend, whom you speak with several times a day, but only meet once a month.. Where do they fall on your scale?
Is it only a relationship if you have 'feels'.. What if the other person doesn't - would you hide your feelings to preserve the 'relationship'
Gosh it's complicated isn't it
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loving the forum threads today!
In our swinging lives we all have boundaries and some of those seem more intensely intertwined with our views of relationship
So... What constitutes a relationship? Where are it's boundaries.. When do you 'know' you are in a relationship...
How about a fwb that you meet twice a week... Or a long distant friend, whom you speak with several times a day, but only meet once a month.. Where do they fall on your scale?
Is it only a relationship if you have 'feels'.. What if the other person doesn't - would you hide your feelings to preserve the 'relationship'
Gosh it's complicated isn't it
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Mutual feelings (whatever they are) and mutual trust...I think so  |
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I'm quite a literal person and if I'm meeting and talking to a person I call it a relationship.
I have a professional relationship with my doctor.
A sexual relationship with people we swing with.
Well, you get the picture.
On Facebook I know that declaring that you're "in a relationship" means you're romantically entwined and everyone should know it  |
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"Loving the forum threads today!
In our swinging lives we all have boundaries and some of those seem more intensely intertwined with our views of relationship
So... What constitutes a relationship? Where are it's boundaries.. When do you 'know' you are in a relationship...
How about a fwb that you meet twice a week... Or a long distant friend, whom you speak with several times a day, but only meet once a month.. Where do they fall on your scale?
Is it only a relationship if you have 'feels'.. What if the other person doesn't - would you hide your feelings to preserve the 'relationship'
Gosh it's complicated isn't it
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Relationships are usually very complicated and I think if you both feel as though you always want to be around each other and can't stop messaging or thinking about each other then you're pretty much in that place.
It has to be mutual or there's only half foundations to build on and it won't take long for it to come tumbling down.
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You have relationships with everyone even the postman. They’re just different ... I think in terms of 1-2-1 I use the word commitment as that’s totally different. I have relationships with everyone I meet but never commitment as I’m single. |
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This is the thing with relationships... they should be two people who both have a full understanding and openness about the other, on whatever level that becomes. Yet we see daily so many in relationships looking for something secret outside that. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Different levels of relationships
Romantic
Business
Friendship
Professional to name a few "
This ^^^
And I see the term even wider in as much that I consider brief encounters a form of temporary relationship.
The most important part is that both parties are in agreement to the terms f such encounters. Clarity of communication to manage expectations of each is key for a successful relationship... at any level. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loving the forum threads today!
In our swinging lives we all have boundaries and some of those seem more intensely intertwined with our views of relationship
So... What constitutes a relationship? Where are it's boundaries.. When do you 'know' you are in a relationship...
How about a fwb that you meet twice a week... Or a long distant friend, whom you speak with several times a day, but only meet once a month.. Where do they fall on your scale?
Is it only a relationship if you have 'feels'.. What if the other person doesn't - would you hide your feelings to preserve the 'relationship'
Gosh it's complicated isn't it
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I don't think I'd ever think of it as a relationship if I had the feels but the other person didn't. I'd just give myself a talking to and move on.
I guess you'd agree together that things have turned into more, that you don't want to ever be without that person in your life. My idea of a relationship would be someone I want to share all parts of my life with, not just the sexual element or days out here and there. |
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"I'm quite a literal person and if I'm meeting and talking to a person I call it a relationship.
I have a professional relationship with my doctor.
A sexual relationship with people we swing with.
Well, you get the picture.
On Facebook I know that declaring that you're "in a relationship" means you're romantically entwined and everyone should know it "
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Relationships: old school where we date, potentially connect and live happily ever after. Our family and friends know we are in a relationship
FwB : not quite a relationship but we feel comfortable in one another’s space and happy to do vanilla things together too ** this is easily confused with dating which is NOT the same! ** Probably don’t share our FWB details with friends
FB: purely for sex - end of
NSA: where we can pick up and put down as time allows. No commitment expected or asked. Free to move on as and when we chose (respecting mutual feelings of course)
I fit into the NSA and FwB but I’m not looking for a relationship |
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Hugs don't constitute a relationship i hope. 
