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Not really. I try not to discuss favourite books and films. Music rarely comes up in conversation when I’m getting ploughed.
I guess if we were incorporating food into it I would if he planned on eating shellfish out my bum crack. I can’t imagine anaphylaxis is sexy. Then again, each to their own |
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over a year ago
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"Not really. I try not to discuss favourite books and films. Music rarely comes up in conversation when I’m getting ploughed.
I guess if we were incorporating food into it I would if he planned on eating shellfish out my bum crack. I can’t imagine anaphylaxis is sexy. Then again, each to their own "
Not what you told me  you were on about sharing a Campbell's meatball bath this weekend   |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Do you need to have lots in common with a person before you would have sex with them"
The least would be a desire/interest in having sex with one another.
But unless you want to expand on the social side, then no. |
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"No need for things in common but if opposing views on basic issues (women’s rights, animal welfare etc) then that’s a deal breaker."
We’d add homophobia to that too. Don’t care how sexy you are if you’re a scum bag... but we do also enjoy the connection, maybe at a shallow level but having a laugh about our different experiences is always a great icebreaker... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not particularly no. Opposites attract yea...
Once there's a
Electric Chemistry and a strong attraction to both mind and body... i.e. Personality is more important to me...than things in common |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
Opposites attract..if there’s a spark and your personalities bounce of each other I don’t think having common interests matter, were all individuals and even if I’m not into the same things I find it sexy when someone is passionate about something x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess there are two different types of meets.
If we were arranging a date type meet then we needed chemistry to help things along. Things in common ... that's hard to define. Take a random 40 yr old couple. If they have kids, a house, jobs and like sex then we have a lot in common. But there are a million reasons why sex might not happen.
But if the chemistry is good then sex is probably going to be on the cards even though we might have very little in common
Of course at a club or party then everything can go out the window. That level of hormones can make anyone desirable |
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Of course at a club or party then everything can go out the window. That level of hormones can make anyone desirable "
That is very true and actually what prompted the thought of this question thread in my head  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of our favourite forms of play is getting my wife into a hormonal mess with orgasm denial and seeing what she is open to do when shes in that state.
Its fascinating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having things in common is not that important but having common ground is. As long as we are on the same page of what we are looking for and sexually, that's what makes a great playmate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not neccessarily. The guy ive been seeing the longest we get on really well but have absolutly nothing in common i always joke with him that we wouldnt last 24 hrs in the real world"
My wife and I had nothing in common on paper when we met. Different backgrounds and experiences. Different social classes and expectations.
I told my friends it wouldnt last a week when we met first. That was 24 years ago.
We needed opposites to be happy |
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No, you can get on with someone without having a lot in common. As long as there is a spark, the conversation flows easily, chemistry it’s a start. There are many I’ve met where we’ve had this and have a great time but our two worlds outside of that are so different and wouldn’t mix. I’m meeting the person not their life or interests. |
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"Not neccessarily. The guy ive been seeing the longest we get on really well but have absolutly nothing in common i always joke with him that we wouldnt last 24 hrs in the real world
My wife and I had nothing in common on paper when we met. Different backgrounds and experiences. Different social classes and expectations.
I told my friends it wouldnt last a week when we met first. That was 24 years ago.
We needed opposites to be happy"
thats the same with my partner. On paper we are worlds apart but when you dig deeper we have lots in common |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, not to have sex once or very occasionally. Yes, if you're meeting regularly.
But 'in common' can mean lots of different things, you might differ on politics or music for example but share a sense of humour. |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
This is where I distinguish between sex and swinging. If it's just sex, purely physical, then that doesn't need anything else.
Swinging does. I have my own idiosyncratic single-oriented definition of swinging, which not everyone will share. It involves some degree of friendship, which requires shared values at least.
Sex with friends is much more satisfying. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Do you need to have lots in common with a person before you would have sex with them"
Absolutely so... for me!
I am not thinking of a perfect match stuff but I need to at least like the person. Otherwise it is easier to use a dildo - at least I do not have to make conversation with somebody I do not actually like.
As a result, I am still in contact with the people I have met and played with. We were kind of friends... and having sex did not changed that. xx |
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