FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Married men and women on here alone
Married men and women on here alone
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Hi all, I’m on here but shouldn’t be as I’m married. I’m honest with everyone I speak to but realise it’s not swinging. I’m chatted to some lovely people on here in same position, which has made it great being on here but some people don’t agree, which I respect.
Anyone else in same situation? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Welcome to Fab   "
Haha, lol, thank you
I’ve been on and off here years and met some lovely people but there some strange ones to lol
Never really used the forums so thought I’d start tonight and find more lovely people to chat to |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I love talking to others even if it’s going nowhere, just having a general chat is ok for us
Wether you chose to enjoy experiences with your partner or not is up to you but it’s the world we live in that people live to judge
We get it with our friends asking questions saying things like well if you love each other why would you be looking elsewhere but usually they judge cos the done understand but the world accepts it after a while
Throuples would of seemed weird 5 years ago but now it’s seen and hear about more |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
"Hi all, I’m on here but shouldn’t be as I’m married. I’m honest with everyone I speak to but realise it’s not swinging. I’m chatted to some lovely people on here in same position, which has made it great being on here but some people don’t agree, which I respect.
Anyone else in same situation?"
Brave post, wait for the bashings, fortunately there are people on here in the same situation, lot's of apparently single folk male and female, most don't admit it but a few either less judgemental or in the same situation will find you and exchange messages. Most are not interested in the circumstances. That said it's a generally friendly site all in all. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hi all, I’m on here but shouldn’t be as I’m married. I’m honest with everyone I speak to but realise it’s not swinging. I’m chatted to some lovely people on here in same position, which has made it great being on here but some people don’t agree, which I respect.
Anyone else in same situation?"
Yup |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I love talking to others even if it’s going nowhere, just having a general chat is ok for us
Wether you chose to enjoy experiences with your partner or not is up to you but it’s the world we live in that people live to judge
We get it with our friends asking questions saying things like well if you love each other why would you be looking elsewhere but usually they judge cos the done understand but the world accepts it after a while
Throuples would of seemed weird 5 years ago but now it’s seen and hear about more "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hi all, I’m on here but shouldn’t be as I’m married. I’m honest with everyone I speak to but realise it’s not swinging. I’m chatted to some lovely people on here in same position, which has made it great being on here but some people don’t agree, which I respect.
Anyone else in same situation?"
I am. It clearly states on my profile that I'm married  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Hi all, I’m on here but shouldn’t be as I’m married. I’m honest with everyone I speak to but realise it’s not swinging. I’m chatted to some lovely people on here in same position, which has made it great being on here but some people don’t agree, which I respect.
Anyone else in same situation?
Brave post, wait for the bashings, fortunately there are people on here in the same situation, lot's of apparently single folk male and female, most don't admit it but a few either less judgemental or in the same situation will find you and exchange messages. Most are not interested in the circumstances. That said it's a generally friendly site all in all."
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Hi all, I’m on here but shouldn’t be as I’m married. I’m honest with everyone I speak to but realise it’s not swinging. I’m chatted to some lovely people on here in same position, which has made it great being on here but some people don’t agree, which I respect.
Anyone else in same situation?
I am. It clearly states on my profile that I'm married "
Yes me to, although a friend told me to change it but it’s always in my first message. Best way |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I dont agree to it and will tell that person but only because ive been in that position of being cheated on and it killed me , but I will chat to anyone who is married and their partners aint on here but not in a sexual way it be friends only conversation |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I dont agree to it and will tell that person but only because ive been in that position of being cheated on and it killed me , but I will chat to anyone who is married and their partners aint on here but not in a sexual way it be friends only conversation "
Completely respect that, nothing starts with sexual chat, always friendly as to many people forget their manners on here. Person I speak to most on here, as friends now, had same view as you and we’ve never had anything sexual jist found a really good mate and also someone who can speak to openly.
Think we may have chatted a while back to |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Dont agree with cheating. Someone always gets hurt. Either chat with her and see if she will swing or leave her as maybe she can find someone who loves her and wont stray. Sorry to be blunt but i personelly have seen the damage this behaviour has caused. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Dont agree with cheating. Someone always gets hurt. Either chat with her and see if she will swing or leave her as maybe she can find someone who loves her and wont stray. Sorry to be blunt but i personelly have seen the damage this behaviour has caused."
Understand that to |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I dont agree to it and will tell that person but only because ive been in that position of being cheated on and it killed me , but I will chat to anyone who is married and their partners aint on here but not in a sexual way it be friends only conversation
Completely respect that, nothing starts with sexual chat, always friendly as to many people forget their manners on here. Person I speak to most on here, as friends now, had same view as you and we’ve never had anything sexual jist found a really good mate and also someone who can speak to openly.
Think we may have chatted a while back to "
Thats brilliant, I dont come in here looking for sexual partners its great to make new friends and im all for making new friends, everyone has different circumstances going on ,ive had men who are married and don't tell their partners when I told them I won't have anything sexual with them I got abuse telling me I'm judgemental and other horrible stuff
Tbh I lose track of who I've spoken to , I mainly get abuse for not meeting lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Dont agree with cheating. Someone always gets hurt. Either chat with her and see if she will swing or leave her as maybe she can find someone who loves her and wont stray. Sorry to be blunt but i personelly have seen the damage this behaviour has caused."
I have as well and its why I wont go with married men who's wives are oblivious. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I dont agree to it and will tell that person but only because ive been in that position of being cheated on and it killed me , but I will chat to anyone who is married and their partners aint on here but not in a sexual way it be friends only conversation
Completely respect that, nothing starts with sexual chat, always friendly as to many people forget their manners on here. Person I speak to most on here, as friends now, had same view as you and we’ve never had anything sexual jist found a really good mate and also someone who can speak to openly.
Think we may have chatted a while back to
Thats brilliant, I dont come in here looking for sexual partners its great to make new friends and im all for making new friends, everyone has different circumstances going on ,ive had men who are married and don't tell their partners when I told them I won't have anything sexual with them I got abuse telling me I'm judgemental and other horrible stuff
Tbh I lose track of who I've spoken to , I mainly get abuse for not meeting lol "
Well their loss, no place for abuse or rudeness on here. I tend to work on Basic I may only get one person chatting every 6 months but when they do they are genuine and so worth the wait.
Should be no pressure on meets or anything else. You’d not get that from me, I jist love a good natter |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *rFetMan
over a year ago
Clacton On Sea |
Hi!
I'm in a similar position, I wanted to swing but my wife didnt. She's not very Sexual where as I am so I asked her if I could start swinging, we set some ground rules which I am strict on obeying. I regularly check shes okay with our arrangement.
Like you, I too am Married and have been for 3 years now.
My wife is pleased I have found an outlet to fulfil my sexual needs/desires. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hi all, I’m on here but shouldn’t be as I’m married. I’m honest with everyone I speak to but realise it’s not swinging. I’m chatted to some lovely people on here in same position, which has made it great being on here but some people don’t agree, which I respect.
Anyone else in same situation?"
Hello yes me im a married chap who has a over imagintive mind !
Have tons of sexual desires but a wife whom i love lots but has very little intrest in sex more of a thing to make little people than a evening activity!
Im on here to just see what im missing and fuels a secret thumble ! Lol yes we do get slated for it mind ! Happy fantasies sir
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Yep, my wife plays separately to me. We’re not into the same things any more in this context, so she has her play and I have mine.
She’s far more successful than me, mind!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I don't mind if the partner knows they are on here. If they don't, then it’s not something I want to be involved with.
Communicate with your current partner, find a way around, or let each other lead a fuller, healthier life. I never want to be labelled as a homewrecker. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *AABMan
over a year ago
Not far |
If someone is married it’s their issue and their reasons and home situations are all unique. I’d expect a person I meet to be upfront about it as I am. If someone doesn’t want to meet married people that’s up to them too. Whatever your situation, being judgemental of others when not in possession of the facts is deeply unattractive. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Welcome
There are quite a few married (non consent) people on here, keep being open with people and let them decide if they want to play with you, liars are not appreciated, nothing worse than being dragged into a potential messy situation |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If someone is married it’s their issue and their reasons and home situations are all unique. I’d expect a person I meet to be upfront about it as I am. If someone doesn’t want to meet married people that’s up to them too. Whatever your situation, being judgemental of others when not in possession of the facts is deeply unattractive."
This 100% |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Not married, been there and done that too many times, but I am in a relationship. It's a weird relationship, started physical but we've not been intimate since December and we've not spent night together at all this year. We don't live together, only see each other couple weekends a month.
I'm on here mainly for forums, for chats and if any meets come from those chats then yes I will meet someone.
I don't judge anyone (except idiots that vote Tory), life too short, find what fun and experience whatever you can. We're all a long time dead. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *omvampmMan
over a year ago
gillingham |
"I love talking to others even if it’s going nowhere, just having a general chat is ok for us
Wether you chose to enjoy experiences with your partner or not is up to you but it’s the world we live in that people live to judge
We get it with our friends asking questions saying things like well if you love each other why would you be looking elsewhere but usually they judge cos the done understand but the world accepts it after a while
Throuples would of seemed weird 5 years ago but now it’s seen and hear about more "
What sensible and open words nice to read the world of swinging well world in general needs more people like yourselves open minded and non judgemental xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *omvampmMan
over a year ago
gillingham |
"If someone is married it’s their issue and their reasons and home situations are all unique. I’d expect a person I meet to be upfront about it as I am. If someone doesn’t want to meet married people that’s up to them too. Whatever your situation, being judgemental of others when not in possession of the facts is deeply unattractive.
This 100% "
Again so refreshing to read open minded people who don’t judge there’s hope for us all x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Aye in the same boat.
I'm up front about it on my profile and up front about it again on a first message.
Some will chat, most don't and that's fine I get it. As others have said we all have our reasons but if that's not for you that's fine.
At the end of the day if anyone's up for a chat I'll happily type away. If it leads to anything then so be it. If it doesn't then as.long as the chats good I hope to make good friends. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Your honest with everyone, but not your partner? Doesn't add up to us and we'd never met anyone in your situation.
If there's no respect for your partner then you're hardly going to respect randomers on here. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Your honest with everyone, but not your partner? Doesn't add up to us and we'd never met anyone in your situation.
If there's no respect for your partner then you're hardly going to respect randomers on here."
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I don’t agree with cheating, but I do look at the bigger picture and most don’t get it at home , but there also a lot that admits that they do "
Would be very interested in a thread on why, people who are married, are on here behind their partners back despite getting enough at home.
It would need to be very non judgemental for people to open up so alas I doubt it will happen. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"I don’t agree with cheating, but I do look at the bigger picture and most don’t get it at home , but there also a lot that admits that they do
Would be very interested in a thread on why, people who are married, are on here behind their partners back despite getting enough at home.
It would need to be very non judgemental for people to open up so alas I doubt it will happen. "
I've Seen profiles say I do get it at home, I'm just greedy
My view is however hard relationships get some will never cheat, but some will cheat regardless of how good they have it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I don’t agree with cheating, but I do look at the bigger picture and most don’t get it at home , but there also a lot that admits that they do
Would be very interested in a thread on why, people who are married, are on here behind their partners back despite getting enough at home.
It would need to be very non judgemental for people to open up so alas I doubt it will happen. "
It would be Interesting indeed, but I could predict that a lot of the answers would be "because it's exiting and fun" why else do we do things we are not supposed to do |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I don’t agree with cheating, but I do look at the bigger picture and most don’t get it at home , but there also a lot that admits that they do
Would be very interested in a thread on why, people who are married, are on here behind their partners back despite getting enough at home.
It would need to be very non judgemental for people to open up so alas I doubt it will happen. "
There are some who have a horrible home life, there are some where this is the escape which keeps the home life happy, there are some who just enjoy the thrill of fucking around.
I think that for most, it’s the last group that cause the most anger and provoke aggressive responses but often, they’re the most adept liars and paint their story as one of the other groups.
The thing is that if you’re lying to the person that you claim to love the most, then how can anyone trust you? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I’m in the same position, I never justify my reasons or judge others for theirs, I’m more than happy with conversation and friendship if things progress then that’s between me and my fab friends.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I’m in the same position, I never justify my reasons or judge others for theirs, I’m more than happy with conversation and friendship if things progress then that’s between me and my fab friends. "
Yes but you are honest about it.
I cannot abide the men who keep It secret and drag me into their drama, let me choose whether I want to do it rather than trick me then ghost me because I'm cross when I find out or worse she finds out and targets me for it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hi all, I’m on here but shouldn’t be as I’m married. I’m honest with everyone I speak to but realise it’s not swinging. I’m chatted to some lovely people on here in same position, which has made it great being on here but some people don’t agree, which I respect.
Anyone else in same situation?"
That's my position too |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've met married women.
And to be honest with you then are more reliable and ride like hell as they usually want to get it all done before hubby comes back. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I’m in the same position, I never justify my reasons or judge others for theirs, I’m more than happy with conversation and friendship if things progress then that’s between me and my fab friends.
Yes but you are honest about it.
I cannot abide the men who keep It secret and drag me into their drama, let me choose whether I want to do it rather than trick me then ghost me because I'm cross when I find out or worse she finds out and targets me for it"
Well that’s unfair and unacceptable in my opinion, I don’t want to cause myself drama let alone anyone else, I’m not looking for anything more than friendship with hopefully some excitement with the right person/couple, I’ve already got a friendship that I hold as special since I joined fab even though I know it won’t be sexually, I certainly wasn’t expecting it but I’m so glad I joined even if that’s all I gain. Even just being on here now gives me extra in my life and I’m enjoying it !! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I’m in the same position, I never justify my reasons or judge others for theirs, I’m more than happy with conversation and friendship if things progress then that’s between me and my fab friends.
Yes but you are honest about it.
I cannot abide the men who keep It secret and drag me into their drama, let me choose whether I want to do it rather than trick me then ghost me because I'm cross when I find out or worse she finds out and targets me for it
Well that’s unfair and unacceptable in my opinion, I don’t want to cause myself drama let alone anyone else, I’m not looking for anything more than friendship with hopefully some excitement with the right person/couple, I’ve already got a friendship that I hold as special since I joined fab even though I know it won’t be sexually, I certainly wasn’t expecting it but I’m so glad I joined even if that’s all I gain. Even just being on here now gives me extra in my life and I’m enjoying it !! "
There are a lot of married men on here who are looking for just friendship and conversations, it's nice that it's not about sex all the time |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I’m in the same position, I never justify my reasons or judge others for theirs, I’m more than happy with conversation and friendship if things progress then that’s between me and my fab friends.
Yes but you are honest about it.
I cannot abide the men who keep It secret and drag me into their drama, let me choose whether I want to do it rather than trick me then ghost me because I'm cross when I find out or worse she finds out and targets me for it
Well that’s unfair and unacceptable in my opinion, I don’t want to cause myself drama let alone anyone else, I’m not looking for anything more than friendship with hopefully some excitement with the right person/couple, I’ve already got a friendship that I hold as special since I joined fab even though I know it won’t be sexually, I certainly wasn’t expecting it but I’m so glad I joined even if that’s all I gain. Even just being on here now gives me extra in my life and I’m enjoying it !!
There are a lot of married men on here who are looking for just friendship and conversations, it's nice that it's not about sex all the time "
So true and the ones I have spoke to it’s all been chat |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hi all, I’m on here but shouldn’t be as I’m married. I’m honest with everyone I speak to but realise it’s not swinging. I’m chatted to some lovely people on here in same position, which has made it great being on here but some people don’t agree, which I respect.
Anyone else in same situation?"
It is quite odd the very fact that Fab is all about swingers people have sex with prety much strangers , thought this site was more about sex and ironing out a few kinks , didnt think it was supposed to be like a dating site where people are looking for long term relationships !
It apears tho if you post anything and your Married the posts all of a suden turn into a Jerrmy Kylie type thing ! Should soneone elses homelife really bother other folk so much when after all its suposed to be about sex rather than running away and having a affair
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
I am now single & wouldn't play with a man who doesn't have consent.
I make absolutely no moral judgement, after all, my past isn't whiter than white.
I just don't want to risk any drama.
Also, in the past when I did meet with married men, I found them to be sexually selfish & couldn't escape quickly enough afterwards!! It was as if their conscience got the better of them after they'd had their fun.
At least you're being honest, op. I hope you can be happy, whatever you decide to do here. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Hi all, I’m on here but shouldn’t be as I’m married. I’m honest with everyone I speak to but realise it’s not swinging. I’m chatted to some lovely people on here in same position, which has made it great being on here but some people don’t agree, which I respect.
Anyone else in same situation? It is quite odd the very fact that Fab is all about swingers people have sex with prety much strangers , thought this site was more about sex and ironing out a few kinks , didnt think it was supposed to be like a dating site where people are looking for long term relationships !
It apears tho if you post anything and your Married the posts all of a suden turn into a Jerrmy Kylie type thing ! Should soneone elses homelife really bother other folk so much when after all its suposed to be about sex rather than running away and having a affair
"
A lot of people are bothered though.
There are quite a few single people on here who are looking for something more than casual sex and they wouldn't want to get involved with someone who was tied up emotionally elsewhere.
We're not bothered if married people are on here without their partners knowledge, everyone has their own story but we won't knowingly meet them. That's our prerogative. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
