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over a year ago
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urmmm.. maybe not 'convincing' them in the first place?
convincing is a lot like coercing... If she doesn't want a threesome.. you're not having a threesome pal. |
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Yup, I'll tend to agree. I think the convincing you are talking about should be rephrased to 'how do I broach the subject of wanting to involve another partner in our play-whilst trying to find a way of explaining why I joined a swinger site, potentially without prior consent' |
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The tactic to use in suggesting a threesome is loving and open communication coupled with respecting her answer.
I'm guessing that you probably worded your post wrongly and didn't mean it quite the way it sounded |
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"The tactic to use in suggesting a threesome is loving and open communication coupled with respecting her answer.
I'm guessing that you probably worded your post wrongly and didn't mean it quite the way it sounded "
That's what I said! Obviously a miscommunication, as no reasonable thinking person would actually try and trick their partner in to a threesome! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OK so you've got an active mind and would prefer your partner to lean the same way you are .broch the subject in a general way and see what the reaction is. If its positive expand on it till you get to threesom .Maybe start with sexual habits and positions, fantasy,s |
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O.P. This is a serious Q ........
3 SOME...... is that You. The Mrs. + Another Bloke ( she gets 2 blokes )
Or is it...... YOU. The Mrs. + Another woman ..... ( They do the lesbian bit for you )
Or is it..... YOU The Mrs. + Another woman and you get to bang them both
Orrrrrrrrrr YOU . The Mrs. + Another bloke and she gets to watch the two blokes at it like knives ?
I think the scenario matters in amongst all the coaxing......
I mean ...... I don't think a 3 course meal of soup n soup n soup cuts it for me ......... |
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I don't think you need to convince your wife you should read the signs that's how I ended up opening up my fantasy with my wife. I hinted at stuff she bited . I mentioned it once left it and she came to me asking my fantasy and what I'd like etc and went from there . Still haven't gone the whole way yet but we role play alot |
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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago
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"Has anyone convinced there mrs into 3sum? And what was the tactic!"
I suggested the idea and it was batted out of the park, however she would mention it at times when we fucked and she would start to ask who/when/where etc. I mentioned the name of one of my mates - who lives 200 miles away - and I did notice a smile.
Then, a few months later he was down for a visit and after a long day drinking at a family function we headed home and to bed (him in the spare room).
When in bed she asked me if i still wanted her to fuck him - and I said yes.
She then said to me 'then go and ask him, before I change my mind'.
That was the start of a 19 year on/off MFM/MMF where a lot of fun was had. |
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"Has anyone convinced there mrs into 3sum? And what was the tactic!
I suggested the idea and it was batted out of the park, however she would mention it at times when we fucked and she would start to ask who/when/where etc. I mentioned the name of one of my mates - who lives 200 miles away - and I did notice a smile.
I’ve been the lucky other guy chosen
Then, a few months later he was down for a visit and after a long day drinking at a family function we headed home and to bed (him in the spare room).
When in bed she asked me if i still wanted her to fuck him - and I said yes.
She then said to me 'then go and ask him, before I change my mind'.
That was the start of a 19 year on/off MFM/MMF where a lot of fun was had."
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"I don't think you need to convince your wife you should read the signs that's how I ended up opening up my fantasy with my wife. I hinted at stuff she bited . I mentioned it once left it and she came to me asking my fantasy and what I'd like etc and went from there . Still haven't gone the whole way yet but we role play alot"
OP was last logged on over a year ago, he probably won't read this unfortunately. |
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Like others have said, just open and honest discussion, if it is not something she is interested in then that isn’t going to change just because you want it, no means no.
This is why My wife and I have an ENM relationship, if there’s anything we are not interested in then the other can find a partner who is to satisfy that need. |
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