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By *8dd OP Couple
over a year ago
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Noticed last few weeks we not making love as much I'm sure its anxiety my husband has been hes not telling me
He has but not sure how to go about it your thoughts please
We both love each other but the love making is getting me worried I even get dressed for him but he says not at the momment |
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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago
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Sit down and have an honest conversation. Tell him he needs to be totally honest with you. Surely if he loves you he will be honest.
It could be that he's tired or stressed about something. It is normal for libido to come and go, and after this past year, I think a lot of peoples libido has been affected.
Hope you feel reassured after talking to him. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First thing... its not you!
Im going through the same myself and have been for kncking on a year, my o/h keeps getting upset over it thinking shes to blame. Quite honestly my head is like a pinball machine i cant mentally relax enough to want it or be very interested in it at all.
I dont know if its the same for your o/h but for me the lockdown/work stress/gyms being shut (lack of exercise)and just live in general are taking its toll.
Be tolerant dont pressure him, and let things naturally pick up.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes sex is just as much in the mind as the body. Anxiety can have an impact on desire to have sex. Just talk to him and make sure he's okay. Take the pressure off and let him know you will be ready when he is. Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also, I've just noticed your ages
Does libido not drop with age anyway?
I know mine certainly has
Once a week or once a fortnight is quite normal for me now
Two years ago, it was every couple of nights |
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"Take the pressure off sex wise
If he is anxious, allowing him to feel that he is letting you down will only add to it"
Totally agree, having been there before. On one occasion I failed to perform resulting in an unhappy gf at the time.
The pressure to perform next time was too much and another failure sex wise. This continued as I was more worried about getting hard than enjoying it.
It led to using viagra for quite a while till the anxiety eased off.
Needless to say we didn't last too long after that. |
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