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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Who is in an open relationship with their partner? Do you think it's alright to do this?"
Yes.
You’re kind of asking the wrong people on here though as this site is about ENM and sharing partners.
It depends on the definition of ‘open relationship’ but many on here will think that it’s alright |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who is in an open relationship with their partner? Do you think it's alright to do this?"
Isn’t that swinging? There’s a real blurred line to what an open relationship and what a swinging relationship is with me. I think it’s one and the same.
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"Who is in an open relationship with their partner? Do you think it's alright to do this?
Isn’t that swinging? There’s a real blurred line to what an open relationship and what a swinging relationship is with me. I think it’s one and the same.
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I think swinging is a type of open relationship but that there are other types |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who is in an open relationship with their partner? Do you think it's alright to do this?
Isn’t that swinging? There’s a real blurred line to what an open relationship and what a swinging relationship is with me. I think it’s one and the same.
I think swinging is a type of open relationship but that there are other types "
Same. And, Each to their own. |
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It depends how you're defining an open relationship.
For me, having sex with others, either together or separately with knowledge and consent, is fine if that's the dynamic of the relationship. But I could personally never be in a polyamorous relationship...I can share physically but not emotionally. |
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I would like to find an open relationship but to find this is proving quite difficult. I also am open to a poly situation.
I am very open minded and would not want to restrict my partner to having just one partner be it sexually or emotionally. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"It depends how you're defining an open relationship.
For me, having sex with others, either together or separately with knowledge and consent, is fine if that's the dynamic of the relationship. But I could personally never be in a polyamorous relationship...I can share physically but not emotionally. "
This is my way of thinking also. I would want to be able to enjoy the swinger side such as clubs and mutual fun sharing. But know our relationship is safe. At the end if thew day everyone's definitely of relationships are different - even 'vanilla' ones. As long as there is good open and honest communication then that is the main thing  |
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My partner doesn't want to have sex with anyone, not even me. He is happy for me to have sex with whoever I want. I class that as an open relationship but don't think it is swinging. Swinging is what we used to do together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife & I have been in an open relationship for about 10 years, we've both had regular friends with benefits,my wife has lost all interest in the last few years but is happy for me to continue to see other women, though with the current situation I've not seen anyone else for well over a year. If all parties involved are ok about it then happy days. |
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I had one and it taught me a lot about my needs, my jealousy, my envy, my emotions, so much.
Honestly it’s probably one of the best things I ever did, even for my future monogamous relationships.
You really learn a lot about yourself |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"It depends how you're defining an open relationship.
For me, having sex with others, either together or separately with knowledge and consent, is fine if that's the dynamic of the relationship. But I could personally never be in a polyamorous relationship...I can share physically but not emotionally.
This is my way of thinking also. I would want to be able to enjoy the swinger side such as clubs and mutual fun sharing. But know our relationship is safe. At the end if thew day everyone's definitely of relationships are different - even 'vanilla' ones. As long as there is good open and honest communication then that is the main thing "
That's exactly how I feel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who is in an open relationship with their partner? Do you think it's alright to do this?"
Yes
It suits us
It isn't always easy to deal with mentally though
For us, it has to be 'anon fucks only', no being friends or 'getting to know someone'
Physical infedility is easy to deal with
Emotional infidelity would be a deal breaker |
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"Who is in an open relationship with their partner? Do you think it's alright to do this?
Yes
It suits us
It isn't always easy to deal with mentally though
For us, it has to be 'anon fucks only', no being friends or 'getting to know someone'
Physical infedility is easy to deal with
Emotional infidelity would be a deal breaker"
We aren't in an open relationship but I agree about emotional infidelity. Sex is just sex but sharing cosy chats is something else altogether. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would like my next relationship (if I have one) to be open x"
Exactly this. I have been single 5 years but when i get a girlfriend i would like a open relationship and to have MMF and watch her get fucked by other guys. How do you approach the subject with a new partner and should you do it early on or after a few months etc ? |
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"I would like my next relationship (if I have one) to be open x
Exactly this. I have been single 5 years but when i get a girlfriend i would like a open relationship and to have MMF and watch her get fucked by other guys. How do you approach the subject with a new partner and should you do it early on or after a few months etc ?"
I think that you should mention it very early on but that's just me. As I've grown older I've realised that people leave too much unspoken when they embark on a relationship and if you have things that are really not negotiable it's best to talk about them from day one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would like my next relationship (if I have one) to be open x
Exactly this. I have been single 5 years but when i get a girlfriend i would like a open relationship and to have MMF and watch her get fucked by other guys. How do you approach the subject with a new partner and should you do it early on or after a few months etc ?
I think that you should mention it very early on but that's just me. As I've grown older I've realised that people leave too much unspoken when they embark on a relationship and if you have things that are really not negotiable it's best to talk about them from day one."
I agree thats what i would do bit i suppose its scary as if its a new relationship you dont want to scare them off but on the other hand i wouldnt want to lie to them so would prefer to hear there thoughts. |
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That’s spot on
Polyamorous or open relationships often involve emotions and love
Swinging is just sex
The couple are devoted to one another mentally boy can separate sex.
Sex can be just physical pleasure within a window.
Agreed? |
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"I would like my next relationship (if I have one) to be open x
Exactly this. I have been single 5 years but when i get a girlfriend i would like a open relationship and to have MMF and watch her get fucked by other guys. How do you approach the subject with a new partner and should you do it early on or after a few months etc ?
I think that you should mention it very early on but that's just me. As I've grown older I've realised that people leave too much unspoken when they embark on a relationship and if you have things that are really not negotiable it's best to talk about them from day one.
I agree thats what i would do bit i suppose its scary as if its a new relationship you dont want to scare them off but on the other hand i wouldnt want to lie to them so would prefer to hear there thoughts. "
I can understand to an extent but personally I'd be hurt if six months in someone suddenly said "by the way I really want an open relationship"
It would raise all sorts of questions for me including ehy did they wait until I was emotionally invested? How will our relationship change if I don't want the same?
I think a lot of people hold off making their real requirements clear for fear of frightening someone off when if they were genuinely compatible it would have the opposite effect.
I do realise that people and relationships change over time but for me, going into a relationship without being clear about something as important as that would be a real breaker. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would like my next relationship (if I have one) to be open x
Exactly this. I have been single 5 years but when i get a girlfriend i would like a open relationship and to have MMF and watch her get fucked by other guys. How do you approach the subject with a new partner and should you do it early on or after a few months etc ?
I think that you should mention it very early on but that's just me. As I've grown older I've realised that people leave too much unspoken when they embark on a relationship and if you have things that are really not negotiable it's best to talk about them from day one.
I agree thats what i would do bit i suppose its scary as if its a new relationship you dont want to scare them off but on the other hand i wouldnt want to lie to them so would prefer to hear there thoughts.
I can understand to an extent but personally I'd be hurt if six months in someone suddenly said "by the way I really want an open relationship"
It would raise all sorts of questions for me including ehy did they wait until I was emotionally invested? How will our relationship change if I don't want the same?
I think a lot of people hold off making their real requirements clear for fear of frightening someone off when if they were genuinely compatible it would have the opposite effect.
I do realise that people and relationships change over time but for me, going into a relationship without being clear about something as important as that would be a real breaker."
Exactly and i wouldnt want to lie or leed anyone on so if i get a new girlfriend it will be mentioned within the first few weeks but if i got strong vibes that she would be totally against the idea i would probably drop it as chances of love dont come my way often. Im sure theres many who wanted to have a open relationship but dropped the idea because they new the new partner would be dead against it and didnt want to lose them. Must be such a difficult choice if others are not open minded. I think if you could ask and they could say no without wanting to dump you it would be easier but a lot seem to get offended by being asked a question. |
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"I would like my next relationship (if I have one) to be open x
Exactly this. I have been single 5 years but when i get a girlfriend i would like a open relationship and to have MMF and watch her get fucked by other guys. How do you approach the subject with a new partner and should you do it early on or after a few months etc ?
I think that you should mention it very early on but that's just me. As I've grown older I've realised that people leave too much unspoken when they embark on a relationship and if you have things that are really not negotiable it's best to talk about them from day one.
I agree thats what i would do bit i suppose its scary as if its a new relationship you dont want to scare them off but on the other hand i wouldnt want to lie to them so would prefer to hear there thoughts.
I can understand to an extent but personally I'd be hurt if six months in someone suddenly said "by the way I really want an open relationship"
It would raise all sorts of questions for me including ehy did they wait until I was emotionally invested? How will our relationship change if I don't want the same?
I think a lot of people hold off making their real requirements clear for fear of frightening someone off when if they were genuinely compatible it would have the opposite effect.
I do realise that people and relationships change over time but for me, going into a relationship without being clear about something as important as that would be a real breaker.
Exactly and i wouldnt want to lie or leed anyone on so if i get a new girlfriend it will be mentioned within the first few weeks but if i got strong vibes that she would be totally against the idea i would probably drop it as chances of love dont come my way often. Im sure theres many who wanted to have a open relationship but dropped the idea because they new the new partner would be dead against it and didnt want to lose them. Must be such a difficult choice if others are not open minded. I think if you could ask and they could say no without wanting to dump you it would be easier but a lot seem to get offended by being asked a question."
We've all been brought up in a diet of one partner for life. It's not so much a case of being open minded but more equating sex with love I think.
I agree that a good solid relationship and love are very important but I've been very surprised by the number of men who say they're in secure and loving relationship but find they can't get swinging out of their mind and want to involve their partner years down the line.
Tricky but then relationships are always "interesting"  |
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Yeah...I have struggled with this in the early days..when after a last year lockdown ..mrs said I was boring an routine...what with work 12 hour days 5 hours a day with the kids an 2 hours a day housework..then called me that...now she got her open relationship she sucks mainly an fucks those she fancies...alternative I guess...is lose her and kids so it's a bit of a no brainer...the tipping point for me would be the emotional side...I still do what I did last year...she gets to fuck guys...an I get...well too tired |
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