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Hear this out cos it's not the usual "how do i get....." speech.
Y'all know I don't do that kind of post.
We'll assume that post appocolyptic covid is a far memory and meets are back on.
What etiquette do single guys work with.
The "advertising a meet" option will no doubt be online again soon so that's the start point but after that...
Would you send a message to a couple(s)/single lady and put yourself forward.
Throw your Saturday night cv out and hope for the best.
Go clubbing and behave yourself, mingle, mix and see where the evening leads.
Or like myself, would you wait patiently without expectation and see if a couple(s)/single would invite you to join their company?
Discuss..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Send a generic copy and paste message out in bulk and sit back and wait for floods of offers to roll in.
always the way to my pants tbh   "
Damn it, is this where I have been going wrong!!!! |
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I think new fabbers will be waiting a while if they don't get to a club.
I'm likely wrong, but we're not looking to meet anyone new one on one at the moment, as there's people we've been chatting to that we didn't get the opportunity to meet as the first lockdown came in! |
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"I think new fabbers will be waiting a while if they don't get to a club.
I'm likely wrong, but we're not looking to meet anyone new one on one at the moment, as there's people we've been chatting to that we didn't get the opportunity to meet as the first lockdown came in! "
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I've met with guys who have approached me using all of the different ways you have mentioned, they have used the tools they are confident with and that's what I like "
Im a whiz with my screwdriver.  |
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"I've met with guys who have approached me using all of the different ways you have mentioned, they have used the tools they are confident with and that's what I like
Im a whiz with my screwdriver. "
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"I think new fabbers will be waiting a while if they don't get to a club.
I'm likely wrong, but we're not looking to meet anyone new one on one at the moment, as there's people we've been chatting to that we didn't get the opportunity to meet as the first lockdown came in!
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Precisely!
I feel like old lady Rose in Titanic... it's been 13 long months... |
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"Hear this out cos it's not the usual "how do i get....." speech.
Y'all know I don't do that kind of post.
We'll assume that post appocolyptic covid is a far memory and meets are back on.
What etiquette do single guys work with.
The "advertising a meet" option will no doubt be online again soon so that's the start point but after that...
Would you send a message to a couple(s)/single lady and put yourself forward.
Throw your Saturday night cv out and hope for the best.
Go clubbing and behave yourself, mingle, mix and see where the evening leads.
Or like myself, would you wait patiently without expectation and see if a couple(s)/single would invite you to join their company?
Discuss..... "
If I was a single man I'd keep my options opened, be pro active and put myself forward if someone caught my imagination ...Though a night out with friends is good too
That's what I would do as a woman  |
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"I've met with guys who have approached me using all of the different ways you have mentioned, they have used the tools they are confident with and that's what I like "
did you give a sympathy fuck?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think new fabbers will be waiting a while if they don't get to a club.
I'm likely wrong, but we're not looking to meet anyone new one on one at the moment, as there's people we've been chatting to that we didn't get the opportunity to meet as the first lockdown came in!
Precisely!
I feel like old lady Rose in Titanic... it's been 13 long months... "
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA iTS beEn 84 YeArS
i can't wait to finally see you guys  |
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"Are you sure you're not asking in a roundabout way? It sounds like that "
Of course I am.
I use the forums as a learning curve and a very useful tool for tweaking and honing my ever expanding skills.
Not that there's ever been an opportunity yet to put them into practice since the appocolypse ascended upon us. |
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"I tend to stick to the forums and just be myself.
It works for me.
Not long and we can sort a Lincoln social! "
We want in on a Lincoln social please...we are between Yorkshire and Lincoln currently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve forgotten how to speak to people in a social setting as lockdown has gone on for so long now.
So baby steps for me. booked into a beer garden on Friday 16th, so perhaps start with a friendly chat /flirt with someone there |
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By *n080971Man
over a year ago
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Read people's profile text until find something interesting about them and ask a question about it. In much the same way as if you met someone in real life (not fab), just start a conversation and go from there.
I find treating people as people rather than just looking for someone to fuck a far nicer approach. |
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"I tend to stick to the forums and just be myself.
It works for me.
Not long and we can sort a Lincoln social!
(Raises hand) don't forget little meeeeeeee. "
Of course! You and DC are top of the list |
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"I tend to stick to the forums and just be myself.
It works for me.
Not long and we can sort a Lincoln social!
(Raises hand) don't forget little meeeeeeee.
Of course! You and DC are top of the list "
Can I come please |
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"I tend to stick to the forums and just be myself.
It works for me.
Not long and we can sort a Lincoln social!
(Raises hand) don't forget little meeeeeeee.
Of course! You and DC are top of the list
Can I come please "
No.. you traitor
(Spose so...  ) |
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"I tend to stick to the forums and just be myself.
It works for me.
Not long and we can sort a Lincoln social!
(Raises hand) don't forget little meeeeeeee.
Of course! You and DC are top of the list
Can I come please
No.. you traitor
(Spose so... )"
(Love you both ) |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I tend to stick to the forums and just be myself.
It works for me.
Not long and we can sort a Lincoln social!
(Raises hand) don't forget little meeeeeeee.
Of course! You and DC are top of the list
Can I come please
No.. you traitor
(Spose so... )
(Love you both )"
Ahem |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I tend to stick to the forums and just be myself.
It works for me.
Not long and we can sort a Lincoln social!
(Raises hand) don't forget little meeeeeeee.
Of course! You and DC are top of the list "
Oooooo.
I better bring her some Jaffa cakes.  |
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"I tend to stick to the forums and just be myself.
It works for me.
Not long and we can sort a Lincoln social!
(Raises hand) don't forget little meeeeeeee.
Of course! You and DC are top of the list
Can I come please
No.. you traitor
(Spose so... )
(Love you both )
Ahem "
You know you are always my plus 1 and how much I love you bestie |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I tend to stick to the forums and just be myself.
It works for me.
Not long and we can sort a Lincoln social!
(Raises hand) don't forget little meeeeeeee.
Of course! You and DC are top of the list
Can I come please
No.. you traitor
(Spose so... )
(Love you both )
Ahem
You know you are always my plus 1 and how much I love you bestie"
 always gorgeous man |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hear this out cos it's not the usual "how do i get....." speech.
Y'all know I don't do that kind of post.
We'll assume that post appocolyptic covid is a far memory and meets are back on.
What etiquette do single guys work with.
The "advertising a meet" option will no doubt be online again soon so that's the start point but after that...
Would you send a message to a couple(s)/single lady and put yourself forward.
Throw your Saturday night cv out and hope for the best.
Go clubbing and behave yourself, mingle, mix and see where the evening leads.
Or like myself, would you wait patiently without expectation and see if a couple(s)/single would invite you to join their company?
Discuss..... "
You could use all the skills possible - but as you are the other side of the world it would only ever be virtual |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Think of it from the other side.
If I wanted to meet a single guy with my wife (I know I have a single account, but I am not, nobody reads profiles anyway ) what is it they prefer? Do they prefer a stranger just popping up and asking to meet today? Or do they prefer to get to know people so they become comfortable with them asking or posing the question of getting together in the future?
Just one tip on how to socialise differently with different people. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Posting in the forums definitely gets you more attention - if you're a single man who has passable good humour, a mediocre at best witty attempt with words and your lamppost isn't too heavily urinated on by others, you'll get attention from single women. It's a case of posting and getting involved in threads where you can show that side of you off, exaggerating a trait of yours so you're more recognizable.
Every well known SM on here has his own schtick, you've just got to find yours.
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"Read people's profile text until find something interesting about them and ask a question about it. In much the same way as if you met someone in real life (not fab), just start a conversation and go from there.
I find treating people as people rather than just looking for someone to fuck a far nicer approach."
This^^^^
Don't lead with something stupid like "you look like trouble/naughty/cheeky"
Just make an effort! It's really not much to ask. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Posting in the forums definitely gets you more attention - if you're a single man who has passable good humour, a mediocre at best witty attempt with words and your lamppost isn't too heavily urinated on by others, you'll get attention from single women. It's a case of posting and getting involved in threads where you can show that side of you off, exaggerating a trait of yours so you're more recognizable.
Every well known SM on here has his own schtick, you've just got to find yours. "
Some of us even get beaten with our own schtick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Posting in the forums definitely gets you more attention - if you're a single man who has passable good humour, a mediocre at best witty attempt with words and your lamppost isn't too heavily urinated on by others, you'll get attention from single women. It's a case of posting and getting involved in threads where you can show that side of you off, exaggerating a trait of yours so you're more recognizable.
Every well known SM on here has his own schtick, you've just got to find yours.
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I find using 5 tired jokes on heavy rotation works too. |
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We've got a few single guys, and couples, we've either met before or have chatted to online during lockdown that we'll be looking to meet up with so would be focusing on them rather than new people.
We'll also be getting out to some clubs pretty sharpish so up for meeting new people that way. |
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There's a little known secret here, just send a load of women and couples a one liner, something like...
"Hows u"
Or
"hi"
Then wait a few hours your inbox will be full and you'll be so shagged out in a week you'll be begging for a day off 
Seriously though, everyone is different and go about things their own way, some are not so confident to go up and talk, but I often wonder if the quiet ones get anywhere or lucky every now and then? |
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