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Where you live to accommodate?
Assuming your able to host for company is it really important what your accommodation style is.
5 bedrooms, 3 floors with 2 acres of land or rented bedsit and everything in between.
If it's clean, well kept and presentable does it matter or d'you have your style and standards you won't divert from.
My accommodation is very rare due to permanent family circumstances and I can't host often. But on the rare occasions I could my home is a 1 bed 1st floor flat. Complicated circumstances but it's well kept, tidy, clean and homely and I'd like to think the abode I dwell in is presentable for others to be happy to kick of their shoes and make themselves comfortable.
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If I had the choice of meeting 2 people who I liked equally and the only differencewas the location, I'd go with the one with the bigger property. It would be a treat! I don't have a fancy house, I don't have a bath (only a shower) so call me shallow or materialistic but yeah, that's what I'd do.
A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture. |
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I think the only type of home that would potentially bother me (apart from unclean as you've already covered) is a big, shared house with little privacy. If they had a ground floor bedroom and lots of people in the living room/kitchen areas particularly. |
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"If I had the choice of meeting 2 people who I liked equally and the only differencewas the location, I'd go with the one with the bigger property. It would be a treat! I don't have a fancy house, I don't have a bath (only a shower) so call me shallow or materialistic but yeah, that's what I'd do.
A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture."
6 bedroom house here Peaches, disclaimer not all mine tho |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I think the only type of home that would potentially bother me (apart from unclean as you've already covered) is a big, shared house with little privacy. If they had a ground floor bedroom and lots of people in the living room/kitchen areas particularly. "
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
"If I had the choice of meeting 2 people who I liked equally and the only differencewas the location, I'd go with the one with the bigger property. It would be a treat! I don't have a fancy house, I don't have a bath (only a shower) so call me shallow or materialistic but yeah, that's what I'd do.
A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture."
I have a bath |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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"I think the only type of home that would potentially bother me (apart from unclean as you've already covered) is a big, shared house with little privacy. If they had a ground floor bedroom and lots of people in the living room/kitchen areas particularly. "
very private basement flat with own entrance so very discreet
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"Where you live to accommodate?
Assuming your able to host for company is it really important what your accommodation style is.
5 bedrooms, 3 floors with 2 acres of land or rented bedsit and everything in between.
If it's clean, well kept and presentable does it matter or d'you have your style and standards you won't divert from.
My accommodation is very rare due to permanent family circumstances and I can't host often. But on the rare occasions I could my home is a 1 bed 1st floor flat. Complicated circumstances but it's well kept, tidy, clean and homely and I'd like to think the abode I dwell in is presentable for others to be happy to kick of their shoes and make themselves comfortable.
Discuss..... "
If I like the person, I don't care where they live.
Clean, tidy & a warm, welcoming atmosphere is all I need x |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I met someone years back who lived in a studio apartment that was smaller than my hallway.
It was cosy, compact and tidy.
The only problem was the bed was about 2 feet from the ceiling and the ladder was very difficult to climb.
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
No, it doesn't matter to me as long as he doesn't live with his parents or house share.
I met a guy who was renovating his house, had to walk over a plank of wood at the top of his stairs to get to his room! |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I met someone years back who lived in a studio apartment that was smaller than my hallway.
It was cosy, compact and tidy.
The only problem was the bed was about 2 feet from the ceiling and the ladder was very difficult to climb.
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That would be a no for me. I have enough problems regaining my balance after I orgasm without adding falling down a ladder.
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters |
"If I had the choice of meeting 2 people who I liked equally and the only differencewas the location, I'd go with the one with the bigger property. It would be a treat! I don't have a fancy house, I don't have a bath (only a shower) so call me shallow or materialistic but yeah, that's what I'd do.
A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture."
Bath's running. How hot d'you like it?  |
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over a year ago
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No, i can accommodate but choose not too for privacy reasons.
id sooner meet at a hotel neutral ground, safe and relaxing that goes for if the other person can accom, id still sooner book a hotel  |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"No, i can accommodate but choose not too for privacy reasons.
id sooner meet at a hotel neutral ground, safe and relaxing that goes for if the other person can accom, id still sooner book a hotel "
^^ Also this |
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Wouldnt be as comfortable in a house share for me, but not a deal breaker if a social was involed before going there ect.
But a nice place with a decent view would be nice. doesnt have to be big, just a decent location. Sea view would be a bonus |
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It should not be an issue.
A clean , dry warm place. That's all.
However some things need to be taken into consideration .....
e.g. a rough area ? I might decline politely unless I was escorted to and from .... or knew the person really well.
a tent ....... hmmmmmmmm pass.
a garage ..... even kitted out... pass.
A protest site with temporary accomodation ........ pass...
A lorry cab ..... pass.
A portable home/cabin on a site for a cocky watchman ......... pass
Campervan ......... pass
Cosy shed ........ pass ....
I'm starting to realise that yes it matters.....
Hotel or regular home please. Regardless of size.
Yes it matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I lived, for a while, in a 1 bed flat above a shop
I would only accom when the shop was closed
I didn't really fancy my landlord listening to me shagging |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I met someone years back who lived in a studio apartment that was smaller than my hallway.
It was cosy, compact and tidy.
The only problem was the bed was about 2 feet from the ceiling and the ladder was very difficult to climb.
That would be a no for me. I have enough problems regaining my balance after I orgasm without adding falling down a ladder.
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I stayed the night, but I was crapping myself trying to negotiate the very slim, wooden ladder. I couldn't get up and down it now. I've had a few issues over the years with my knees and steps.
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"If I had the choice of meeting 2 people who I liked equally and the only differencewas the location, I'd go with the one with the bigger property. It would be a treat! I don't have a fancy house, I don't have a bath (only a shower) so call me shallow or materialistic but yeah, that's what I'd do.
A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture."
I get that PP
When I was going through that period where you've broken up, but are still living together, my 'escape' was going to stay with a guy who had a lovely home
It sounds awfully mercenary of me, but I didn't fancy him all that much, but he had a lovely place, was great company and kept me fed & watered. The other plus, of course, was that it kept me out of that awkward atmosphere. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"If I had the choice of meeting 2 people who I liked equally and the only differencewas the location, I'd go with the one with the bigger property. It would be a treat! I don't have a fancy house, I don't have a bath (only a shower) so call me shallow or materialistic but yeah, that's what I'd do.
A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture.
I get that PP
When I was going through that period where you've broken up, but are still living together, my 'escape' was going to stay with a guy who had a lovely home
It sounds awfully mercenary of me, but I didn't fancy him all that much, but he had a lovely place, was great company and kept me fed & watered. The other plus, of course, was that it kept me out of that awkward atmosphere. "
Did he mind? If not, that sounds like a win/win.
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over a year ago
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This is a swinging site and not 'Call the cleaners'. Just a clean person is fine for me. By all means throw the hoover around if it makes you feel better.
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"If I had the choice of meeting 2 people who I liked equally and the only differencewas the location, I'd go with the one with the bigger property. It would be a treat! I don't have a fancy house, I don't have a bath (only a shower) so call me shallow or materialistic but yeah, that's what I'd do.
A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture."
I'd lose every time then because I live in a caravan 
Although there's hundreds of acres of farm to explore and lots of horses |
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"This is a swinging site and not 'Call the cleaners'. Just a clean person is fine for me. By all means throw the hoover around if it makes you feel better.
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I don’t want to shag in someone’s scummy flat! |
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"If I had the choice of meeting 2 people who I liked equally and the only differencewas the location, I'd go with the one with the bigger property. It would be a treat! I don't have a fancy house, I don't have a bath (only a shower) so call me shallow or materialistic but yeah, that's what I'd do.
A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture.
I'd lose every time then because I live in a caravan
Although there's hundreds of acres of farm to explore and lots of horses "
That'd be an adventure weekend. See, I'd come help with the horses and whatnot rather than expect an indulgent evening of sensuality and wearing my highest of heels.
Bigger picture once again. Depends so much on the kind of meet you're wanting or expecting, but I ain't feeling sexy up to my ankles in 'orse shit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, i can accommodate but choose not too for privacy reasons.
id sooner meet at a hotel neutral ground, safe and relaxing that goes for if the other person can accom, id still sooner book a hotel "
Same. I wouldn't ever go to a stranger's house and they won't ever be coming to mine. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"This is a swinging site and not 'Call the cleaners'. Just a clean person is fine for me. By all means throw the hoover around if it makes you feel better.
I don’t want to shag in someone’s scummy flat! "
On a pillow smelling of bed-head. |
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"This is a swinging site and not 'Call the cleaners'. Just a clean person is fine for me. By all means throw the hoover around if it makes you feel better.
I don’t want to shag in someone’s scummy flat! "
I met someone that claimed he had a 'large town house '
It was actually a dark basement room in a shared town house that was filthy with dirty ashtrays everywhere 
I was afraid he was going to make my skin into a lampshade  |
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In fairness I did briefly accommodate whilst I was in a shared house and I was practically living out of my bedroom, which wasn't ideal and I hope he has no horrific memories. It's not something that I would normally do or repeat. |
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"This is a swinging site and not 'Call the cleaners'. Just a clean person is fine for me. By all means throw the hoover around if it makes you feel better.
I don’t want to shag in someone’s scummy flat!
I met someone that claimed he had a 'large town house '
It was actually a dark basement room in a shared town house that was filthy with dirty ashtrays everywhere
I was afraid he was going to make my skin into a lampshade "
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"If I had the choice of meeting 2 people who I liked equally and the only differencewas the location, I'd go with the one with the bigger property. It would be a treat! I don't have a fancy house, I don't have a bath (only a shower) so call me shallow or materialistic but yeah, that's what I'd do.
A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture.
I'd lose every time then because I live in a caravan
Although there's hundreds of acres of farm to explore and lots of horses
That'd be an adventure weekend. See, I'd come help with the horses and whatnot rather than expect an indulgent evening of sensuality and wearing my highest of heels.
Bigger picture once again. Depends so much on the kind of meet you're wanting or expecting, but I ain't feeling sexy up to my ankles in 'orse shit "
The space is what you make it and you can make a evening indulgent anyway
Get some riding breeches on and you will feel and look dead sexy |
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"This is a swinging site and not 'Call the cleaners'. Just a clean person is fine for me. By all means throw the hoover around if it makes you feel better.
I don’t want to shag in someone’s scummy flat!
On a pillow smelling of bed-head."
or worse, smeg-head  |
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I think it’s just about communicating what your place is like if worried or feeling like it’s not ideal / comfortable, or hopefully getting vibes off the person you’re in touch with that they won’t judge.
But a clean and tidy place is a must, surely
I would only go to someone’s house as well if I knew they lived there alone, I think shared housing is probably not a comfortable place for either party otherwise.
Meeting at a neutral venue isn’t hard, and respects privacy of both / all whilst maintaining the adventure feeling. |
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"If I had the choice of meeting 2 people who I liked equally and the only differencewas the location, I'd go with the one with the bigger property. It would be a treat! I don't have a fancy house, I don't have a bath (only a shower) so call me shallow or materialistic but yeah, that's what I'd do.
A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture.
I get that PP
When I was going through that period where you've broken up, but are still living together, my 'escape' was going to stay with a guy who had a lovely home
It sounds awfully mercenary of me, but I didn't fancy him all that much, but he had a lovely place, was great company and kept me fed & watered. The other plus, of course, was that it kept me out of that awkward atmosphere.
Did he mind? If not, that sounds like a win/win.
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He enjoyed the company and the fun
I did stop going though
He started getting too clingy for my liking right at that time
He's a nice bloke, we still stop & chat if we see each other out |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it’s just about communicating what your place is like if worried or feeling like it’s not ideal / comfortable, or hopefully getting vibes off the person you’re in touch with that they won’t judge.
But a clean and tidy place is a must, surely
I would only go to someone’s house as well if I knew they lived there alone, I think shared housing is probably not a comfortable place for either party otherwise.
Meeting at a neutral venue isn’t hard, and respects privacy of both / all whilst maintaining the adventure feeling. "
I can offer clean but not tidy. Before my new boiler was installed my place was always cold too. I have to know someone well for them to be invited here. I'd rather pay for a room. |
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"I think it’s just about communicating what your place is like if worried or feeling like it’s not ideal / comfortable, or hopefully getting vibes off the person you’re in touch with that they won’t judge.
But a clean and tidy place is a must, surely
I would only go to someone’s house as well if I knew they lived there alone, I think shared housing is probably not a comfortable place for either party otherwise.
Meeting at a neutral venue isn’t hard, and respects privacy of both / all whilst maintaining the adventure feeling.
I can offer clean but not tidy. Before my new boiler was installed my place was always cold too. I have to know someone well for them to be invited here. I'd rather pay for a room. "
I'll come and tidy for ya Lickety
I like a good tidy
I should charge untidy swingers for it really, it's like a pre-fluffing service |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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So long as clean and tidy I’m not bothered. We live with my mum so I’m hardly in a position to judge other folks living accommodation.
I love looking around other peoples homes though. Especially if they’ve got interesting Knick knacks.  |
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"I think it’s just about communicating what your place is like if worried or feeling like it’s not ideal / comfortable, or hopefully getting vibes off the person you’re in touch with that they won’t judge.
But a clean and tidy place is a must, surely
I would only go to someone’s house as well if I knew they lived there alone, I think shared housing is probably not a comfortable place for either party otherwise.
Meeting at a neutral venue isn’t hard, and respects privacy of both / all whilst maintaining the adventure feeling.
I can offer clean but not tidy. Before my new boiler was installed my place was always cold too. I have to know someone well for them to be invited here. I'd rather pay for a room.
I'll come and tidy for ya Lickety
I like a good tidy
I should charge untidy swingers for it really, it's like a pre-fluffing service "
I'm in on that business idea Bussy 'Untidy Swingers'
I like a good tidy too.
Organising mess brings me joy - yes I am that sad  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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It wouldn't bother me where someone lives or what sort of place they live in as long as it is clean .But then I prefer to meet somewhere neutral like a hotel especially if it's a first time play meet.
I will only bring people to my place if we have met a few times already. |
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"No, it doesn't matter to me as long as he doesn't live with his parents or house share.
I met a guy who was renovating his house, had to walk over a plank of wood at the top of his stairs to get to his room!"
This actually sounds pretty cool |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I guess the accommodation doesn’t really matter as long as it’s clean and tidy and their own space. I’m not fond of shared spaces. I’m an over thinker. If two people on the same day offered to meet and those were the options, yep I’d choose the massive house just for the experience. Never seen a property as massive as you’ve described |
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over a year ago
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We dont accommodate at home, that's our families private space. But we happily accommodate in private rented accommodation or hotels (usually hotels)
If someone is good enough to accommodate us we are happy with any kind of place, as long as its clean and tidy |
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Actually, same applies. 