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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?
I'm an acquired taste. 
M"
A bit like an olive |
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?
I'm an acquired taste.
M
A bit like an olive "
Exactly that. I used to hate them, now I have them in every salad I make.
M |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s difficult to know.
They mostly seem to like me and want to keep in touch so I reckon I give the first impression that I’m a friendly guy that just looks a bit Grrrr. |
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?
I'm an acquired taste.
M
A bit like an olive
Exactly that. I used to hate them, now I have them in every salad I make.
M"
I couldn't stand them but now love them with a glass of wine |
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?"
I'm just me, I don't put on an act and people either get me or they don't
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends which version of me you meet. Bloke half is probably more reserved, certainly more drab. Nice bloke but nothing to get excited about.
Drag half, a bit up herself at times, can be funny, a bit sarcastic, occasionally bitchy, occasionally arrogant, often loud, but sometimes shy.
Kind.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to think I put people at ease.
We are pretty laid back and chatty.
No complaints so far haha
Depends also if you want them to see the 'real' you.
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?
I'm an acquired taste.
M
A bit like an olive
Exactly that. I used to hate them, now I have them in every salad I make.
M
I couldn't stand them but now love them with a glass of wine "
I'm the same , olives,wine, can i bring some cheese and bread sticks to deep 
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"Some say charming and warm, some say underwhelming and jarring.
Personally, I think I’m a hoot.
And slightly whiskery?
Sometimes I clap my hands and bounce a beach ball on my nose, yes. "
Well done.
Here, have a sardine
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"Some say charming and warm, some say underwhelming and jarring.
Personally, I think I’m a hoot.
And slightly whiskery?
Sometimes I clap my hands and bounce a beach ball on my nose, yes.
Well done.
Here, have a sardine
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?
I'm an acquired taste.
M
A bit like an olive
Exactly that. I used to hate them, now I have them in every salad I make.
M
I couldn't stand them but now love them with a glass of wine
I'm the same , olives,wine, can i bring some cheese and bread sticks to deep
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To deep?...I'm not sure what that is
But yeah..I love cheese and bread sticks too |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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It’s hard to say. I try hard in first social situations to not let my awkwardness out but I large groups I tend to wait and work people out before engaging.
That can mean that people read me as quiet and reserved |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'd like to think I do but we all (or at least most of us) have an impression, a bias of someone before we meet them.
On the whole, and because I'm having a good day, I'd say yes, I am like how people imagine me to be. It depends on how comfortable and confident I feel, in my surroundings and with them.
I'm not sure how I want someone to see me. That varies a lot. |
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over a year ago
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I can appear aloof, but it is just shyness.
I have had clients that I have chatted with over the telephone who have thought I was a completely different person on meeting me. The bubbly, warm personality is suddenly swapped for a very quiet, timid soul. |
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?
I'm an acquired taste.
M"
Same  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"I can appear aloof, but it is just shyness. ."
This for me too. I’ve been told I come across as aloof but it’s because I’m that shy that I just won’t approach anyone to chat, because inside I’m cringing and thinking of an escape route, or wondering where the Bar is, or the toilet.
I’m lovely really. Once you get past my social awkwardness  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hard to say ... others can sometimes see us differently to how we view ourselves.
I guess if they still want to know you afterward you made a good first impression xx |
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over a year ago
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If I meet one to one then I think I come across as I am, more or less. In a bigger social gathering I'm usually more shy or more extrovert, depending on my mood, and that's not so accurate. |
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"I can appear aloof, but it is just shyness. .
This for me too. I’ve been told I come across as aloof but it’s because I’m that shy that I just won’t approach anyone to chat, because inside I’m cringing and thinking of an escape route, or wondering where the Bar is, or the toilet.
I’m lovely really. Once you get past my social awkwardness "
It is tough isn't it.
I went to my first group social just before lockdown not knowing anyone. I am still not sure how I stuck it out for 3 hours. Included in this was a lot of time looking at my feet |
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Yes I think so. I have one those typical irish personalities whereby we are fairly laid back, dont take anything too serious and having a laugh has to be at the centre of everything. As long as people think I'm genuinely nice and good fun to be around then I'm happy. Maybe I'm not wacky enough for some but we all have our place in the world and gotta just embrace that!! |
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?
I'm an acquired taste.
M
A bit like an olive
Exactly that. I used to hate them, now I have them in every salad I make.
M
I couldn't stand them but now love them with a glass of wine
I'm the same , olives,wine, can i bring some cheese and bread sticks to deep
To deep?...I'm not sure what that is
But yeah..I love cheese and bread sticks too "
Deep bread sticks in virgin olive oil |
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That I’m just as I am when we chat online before meeting. It won’t be a quiet time as we’ll be talking and laughing.
Anyone else that doesn’t know me beforehand or that I have no intention of getting to know better, they will get a polite hello and I’ll move on.
For both of these their first impression is up to them, but I won’t be something I’m not to create a good impression to please others.
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?"
I would hope they would leave having had a pleasant experience
I would hope they would pick up on self assurance well mixed with deprecation, a humour, a warmth, a friendliness and an openness
A wish to find out more would also be nice
I'd hate to think I'd bored someone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I make a good first impression but I wouldn't say it's the real me - especially in a professional context."
I would echo this - work me is very different to me me
A former colleague who is now a great friend said I 'scared' her at interview, she thought I was really on point, focussed and professional, to the degree she didn't think she'd meet expectations if I offered her the job
She was surprised how laissez-faire I actually was to work with / for once I saw she complimented the other staff and the business
She was even more surprised when we became friends out of work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on the situation and the people as I can shown different sides to my personality and character, depending on how I feel and the vibes im picking up...goes deeper but ill not bore you all with thst one lol  |
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?"
Suppose it depends on the person/people but we seem to do pretty well at making and keeping friendships on and off the scene xx |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Depends on the circumstance - at work I'm usually forced to put on a "work" face relevant to the meeting.
One to one with someone I have got to know virtually beforehand then I'm the same person they've got to know.
One to one with someone I've never met before, or in a group situation I'm quite shy, reserved and awkward until I am comfortable and therefore probably come across as quite aloof initially - once comfort levels kick in though I can be quite chatty, relaxed and easy going.
One thing I don't do though, is put on an act or pretend I'm someone that I'm not - yes work protocol, or specific circumstance may dictate behaviour to an extent but it's still authentically me |
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I play it very safe when I first meet people. Essentially, I want to go away with them thinking "well that guy's not a total prick"
Hopefully that can then become a base for me to open up a bit the more we get to know each other  |
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?"
I’m shy and clumsy until you get to know me, then I’m just clumsy haha |
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Most people we have met want to keep in touch so we take it that we come across ok. We are easy going fun sociable people to be around so we hope that's what people see in us.
If they don't then so be it. You can only be yourself, we don't pretend to be something we aren't. |
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I've always had people say positive things when they tell me about about they thought of me the first time we met.
It's usually smiley, kind and I have got told I come across as posh. I have no idea why people say posh as I'm really not well spoken at all. I think it's because of my immaculate dress sense.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They either think I'm super nice + friendly with high energy, or that I'm really reserved and quiet
I think it depends on the setting.. Generally it's the former |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to leave people with a pretty good one of Mavis from Coronation Street.
Not many people remember who she is these days though so it's often just awkward  |
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I’m a 50/50 depending on if we click. If we do people think I’m lovely, calm and supportive. If we don’t I can come across awkward (I lose the ability to socially interact and John normally has to save me), quiet and defensive. I try for the former but sometimes the later happens, not often though.
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"I used to leave people with a pretty good one of Mavis from Coronation Street.
Not many people remember who she is these days though so it's often just awkward "
Well I don't really know.... |
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?"
People rarely get me (Rick} |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?"
That I'm cheeky, flirty, charming, funny, 'not bad on the eye', great company and fat. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"People must be terrified after meeting me. I quite often cover my nerves with constant chatter and babble so much they must think I've taken something
I actually prefer it when people are more chatty than I am. Because you're happy talking about yourself, it encourages me to be as open back "
Well as long as you don't mind the conversation going to some random places at the same time |
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I’m actually quite affable in person and probably not quite the same person people think I am here in the forums.
My softer personality only comes out when I’m comfortable, in the company of the person I’m talking to, if I’m not I will also exchange a polite ‘Hello’ and move on.
People like people who are like themselves |
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"People must be terrified after meeting me. I quite often cover my nerves with constant chatter and babble so much they must think I've taken something
I actually prefer it when people are more chatty than I am. Because you're happy talking about yourself, it encourages me to be as open back
Well as long as you don't mind the conversation going to some random places at the same time "
I wouldn't call your bedroom random  |
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"I’m actually quite affable in person and probably not quite the same person people think I am here in the forums.
My softer personality only comes out when I’m comfortable, in the company of the person I’m talking to, if I’m not I will also exchange a polite ‘Hello’ and move on.
People like people who are like themselves "
People like people who are like themselves.....
I really like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we click I usually get the feeling like we’ve known each other for a long time if that makes sense I’m usually quite chatty like an open book. I think people get the impression I’m down to earth... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Smiley and approachable, although a little quiet at first. At least I think that's the general first impression I give. It's hard to actually know since I lost my mind reading abilities. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"People must be terrified after meeting me. I quite often cover my nerves with constant chatter and babble so much they must think I've taken something
I actually prefer it when people are more chatty than I am. Because you're happy talking about yourself, it encourages me to be as open back
Well as long as you don't mind the conversation going to some random places at the same time
I wouldn't call your bedroom random "
Sshhh don't let people know my house is 'normal' |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Smiley and approachable, although a little quiet at first. At least I think that's the general first impression I give. It's hard to actually know since I lost my mind reading abilities."
Don't you get people to fill out a feedback form? I thought everyone did. |
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"Smiley and approachable, although a little quiet at first. At least I think that's the general first impression I give. It's hard to actually know since I lost my mind reading abilities.
Don't you get people to fill out a feedback form? I thought everyone did."
Thats the verifactions page lol |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"I’m actually quite affable in person and probably not quite the same person people think I am here in the forums.
My softer personality only comes out when I’m comfortable, in the company of the person I’m talking to, if I’m not I will also exchange a polite ‘Hello’ and move on.
People like people who are like themselves "
Naaaaah. I like sexy ladies. |
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"Smiley and approachable, although a little quiet at first. At least I think that's the general first impression I give. It's hard to actually know since I lost my mind reading abilities.
Don't you get people to fill out a feedback form? I thought everyone did."
I tried once but they gave me the stink eye |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I’m actually quite affable in person and probably not quite the same person people think I am here in the forums.
My softer personality only comes out when I’m comfortable, in the company of the person I’m talking to, if I’m not I will also exchange a polite ‘Hello’ and move on.
People like people who are like themselves "
Maybe your last statement is true of a lot of people but for me, I like people who are genuinely themselves, that’s when I feel comfortable around others.
People who are fake or false give me a sense of discomfort and mistrust. I read people very well and am very rarely wrong |
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"Smiley and approachable, although a little quiet at first. At least I think that's the general first impression I give. It's hard to actually know since I lost my mind reading abilities.
Don't you get people to fill out a feedback form? I thought everyone did."
Did I ever send you your feedback form back? |
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?"
Can you control how you come across to people? Everyone has a whole history of influences behind them that will inform how they perceive you. I try to smile and he friendly and leave the rest up to them.
Some get me, some don't. |
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over a year ago
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The soft Dublin accent usually puts people at ease.
How I come across?...Other people have eyes and ears....he says in A Dublin soft Brouge.....
I am who I am....but I'll take notes from others who aren't assholes  |
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"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?
Do you come across how you want to?
Or, do people just not get you?"
most don't get me tbh, I don't fit into any box because I don't even know where the box is.
far too many to lists and some conflict with others from the outside view i.e gearhead (largely repairs & resto) VS environmentalist put it that way, it'd be worse than my usual essays |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people feel comfortable around me - but I can never know for sure.
I've been told I look friendly ( maybe they need to get to know me before they realise I'm not )
Children and animals always like me so maybe that's a good sign |
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"I’m actually quite affable in person and probably not quite the same person people think I am here in the forums.
My softer personality only comes out when I’m comfortable, in the company of the person I’m talking to, if I’m not I will also exchange a polite ‘Hello’ and move on.
People like people who are like themselves
Maybe your last statement is true of a lot of people but for me, I like people who are genuinely themselves, that’s when I feel comfortable around others.
People who are fake or false give me a sense of discomfort and mistrust. I read people very well and am very rarely wrong"
In person or online? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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First impressions are not just up to us...
You are relying on so many other factors out of your control which influence how someone will perceive you. IMO |
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"Have I read somewhere that first impressions are formed before you even open your mouth?"
Yes you have, and it’s so true!
That’s why I’m saying it’s not just up to us how we make the impression.... some people will instantly form opinions based on clothing, body language, skin colour, literally everything contributes and it’s impossible to please all.
The amount of times by the end of the day someone has came to me and apologised saying ‘I thought you were going to be a typical jock geordie shore type but your nothing like that haha’ |
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"Have I read somewhere that first impressions are formed before you even open your mouth?
Yes you have, and it’s so true!
That’s why I’m saying it’s not just up to us how we make the impression.... some people will instantly form opinions based on clothing, body language, skin colour, literally everything contributes and it’s impossible to please all.
The amount of times by the end of the day someone has came to me and apologised saying ‘I thought you were going to be a typical jock geordie shore type but your nothing like that haha’ "
I posted up thread that I don't think we have any control over the first impression we make. It's too wrapped up in other people's experience.
Some people like me on first impression some people don't. I've got a lovely coat that makes a big impression on people to the point of them often approaching me in the street to comment on it. They go away with a completely different impression of me to when I'm wearing one of my other coats. |
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"Have I read somewhere that first impressions are formed before you even open your mouth?
Yes you have, and it’s so true!
That’s why I’m saying it’s not just up to us how we make the impression.... some people will instantly form opinions based on clothing, body language, skin colour, literally everything contributes and it’s impossible to please all.
The amount of times by the end of the day someone has came to me and apologised saying ‘I thought you were going to be a typical jock geordie shore type but your nothing like that haha’
I posted up thread that I don't think we have any control over the first impression we make. It's too wrapped up in other people's experience.
Some people like me on first impression some people don't. I've got a lovely coat that makes a big impression on people to the point of them often approaching me in the street to comment on it. They go away with a completely different impression of me to when I'm wearing one of my other coats. "
A pastel coat like the Queen would make a different impression to a full length red shiny latex coat.
I agree... I think there's not much point in worrying what other people might think. If they or I are having a crap day, our first impression of each other will be very different to on a good day.
Etc etc
I've been told at socials that I'm nicer than they expected, they thought I'd be an angry sod. And told by other people at the same social that I am lovely, as they expected.  |
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over a year ago
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"Like a box of chocolates..
In 30 seconds... A spark
In 2mins... Intrigue
In 10mins... Tell me more
In 30mins...I'll have another
In 2hrs... Well.... "
Coffee  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m often misconstrued....though I’m used to it and it no longer bothers me at all...if anything I find it mildly amusing. On getting to know me people realise how different I am to how I’m perceived to be. From strangers I’d often get the “but people like you don’t.....”
We are programmed to judge people’s and situations quickly....but knowing this I’m very mindful of doing the same and don’t jump to conclusions! |
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"Have I read somewhere that first impressions are formed before you even open your mouth?
Yes you have, and it’s so true!
That’s why I’m saying it’s not just up to us how we make the impression.... some people will instantly form opinions based on clothing, body language, skin colour, literally everything contributes and it’s impossible to please all.
The amount of times by the end of the day someone has came to me and apologised saying ‘I thought you were going to be a typical jock geordie shore type but your nothing like that haha’
I posted up thread that I don't think we have any control over the first impression we make. It's too wrapped up in other people's experience.
Some people like me on first impression some people don't. I've got a lovely coat that makes a big impression on people to the point of them often approaching me in the street to comment on it. They go away with a completely different impression of me to when I'm wearing one of my other coats.
A pastel coat like the Queen would make a different impression to a full length red shiny latex coat.
I agree... I think there's not much point in worrying what other people might think. If they or I are having a crap day, our first impression of each other will be very different to on a good day.
Etc etc
I've been told at socials that I'm nicer than they expected, they thought I'd be an angry sod. And told by other people at the same social that I am lovely, as they expected. "
A shiny, red latex coat, now there's an idea
People don't often tell me what they think of me, that's probably a bad thing |
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over a year ago
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"God I have no idea.. I think it will vary dramatically depending on how overwhelmed I am and if I’ve had gin  "
As above but Vodka..lol
Quiet until i feel comfortable. |
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