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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I lot of singles are clearly very desperate for sex after potentially none for over a year, and understandably so.
Question, when the rules allow, if a platonic friend asked you for a fuck as a favour because they really desperately need one, would you? Or would you keep your friendship platonic but then let their unhappiness continue? Xx |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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I guess it would depend on how good a friend they were, and the dynamic between you both.
If I knew it wasn't going to complicate things, I would probably consider it, if it was just sex and nothing more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I lot of singles are clearly very desperate for sex after potentially none for over a year, and understandably so.
Question, when the rules allow, if a platonic friend asked you for a fuck as a favour because they really desperately need one, would you? Or would you keep your friendship platonic but then let their unhappiness continue? Xx"
No because I'd imagine it wouldn't be satisfying for either person. And I'm all about the mutual pleasure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think friendship and sex mix
I have friends who are ex lovers
If, however, the bonding is based on friendship, that's the way it stays
I won't even fuck friends of friends |
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Definitely not. Don't shit where you eat.
Having said that, 10yrs ago my answer might have been different.
For me it's true to say Im missing sex in lockdowns but I'm craving human contact without screens much more. I haven't hugged a friend in over a year now |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I lot of singles are clearly very desperate for sex after potentially none for over a year, and understandably so.
Question, when the rules allow, if a platonic friend asked you for a fuck as a favour because they really desperately need one, would you? Or would you keep your friendship platonic but then let their unhappiness continue? Xx"
I'm sure my platonic friends could find other quims so no, I probably wouldn't. Why complicate things? Also I don't like the idea of giving a fuck because someone is desperate for one... sex shouldn't be a favour. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I lot of singles are clearly very desperate for sex after potentially none for over a year, and understandably so.
Question, when the rules allow, if a platonic friend asked you for a fuck as a favour because they really desperately need one, would you? Or would you keep your friendship platonic but then let their unhappiness continue? Xx
I'm sure my platonic friends could find other quims so no, I probably wouldn't. Why complicate things? Also I don't like the idea of giving a fuck because someone is desperate for one... sex shouldn't be a favour."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A work colleague offered me a shag last year. Not sure if he thought I'm desperate or if he just saw how sad I was and thought I'd be up for it because my defences were down. Don't really care.
Shagged him a few times. I went into it knowing what the situation was, it was a lot of fun for a while and a distraction.  |
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"I lot of singles are clearly very desperate for sex after potentially none for over a year, and understandably so.
Question, when the rules allow, if a platonic friend asked you for a fuck as a favour because they really desperately need one, would you? Or would you keep your friendship platonic but then let their unhappiness continue? Xx"
Depends. If I was attracted to them and actually wanted to then yes I guess I would. But I absolutely wouldn’t fuck someone as a “favour”, friend or not. Going without sex isn’t nice, I know that having done so for 12 years, but I also know no-one is going to die because of it, and no-one is entitled to my body however desperate or unhappy they are. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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Mmm no. I'm definitely not that desperate so they can just use their hand or search elsewhere.
Also I'm so close with my friends it would feel like going with a brother and that isn't my thing   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, definitely not. No one wants to be in receipt of a pity shag and it would probably ruin the friendship"
Absolutely: I dont want a sympathy shag - that would make me feel even worse |
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If a friend or anybody approached me desperate for food because they hadn't eaten for a while I'd give them it.
Sex is different in my opinion and I don't want anyone to have sex with me just because they're desperate and I feel pity. What a sordid and depressing little episode that would be. Would it appear on YouTube in the acts of kindness social experiment section. |
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"If a friend or anybody approached me desperate for food because they hadn't eaten for a while I'd give them it.
Sex is different in my opinion and I don't want anyone to have sex with me just because they're desperate and I feel pity. What a sordid and depressing little episode that would be. Would it appear on YouTube in the acts of kindness social experiment section."
Maslow's hierarchy of needs has sex on the same level as nutrition. Discuss....  |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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Im single and never has it crossed my mind to give someone a sympathy fuck! Sex isn’t a favour and I personally like to enjoy it. If I was just doing it to make someone feel better I would get nothing out of that plus I wouldn’t want to blur the friendships I have with meaningless sex x |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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If I were n that position and needed sex that badly, without the need to use hookup sites:apps, I would look at finding an escort before approaching any of my friends. If any of my platonic friends approached us about that, then I would make the same suggestion to them.
Lack of sex will not kill you. Its not a need, it's a want or desire. There are so many other ills and issues out there that can put the lack of sticking you dick into something into perspective. |
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"If a friend or anybody approached me desperate for food because they hadn't eaten for a while I'd give them it.
Sex is different in my opinion and I don't want anyone to have sex with me just because they're desperate and I feel pity. What a sordid and depressing little episode that would be. Would it appear on YouTube in the acts of kindness social experiment section.
Maslow's hierarchy of needs has sex on the same level as nutrition. Discuss.... "
 Abraham is entitled to his theory but I would feel obliged to give food to a starving person. If after they'd finished their sandwich they said "right now I need sex, hop on" I wouldn't oblige. I suppose it depends on how far another person feels they should go to satisfy someone's basic needs. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx"
Good decision OP |
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"I lot of singles are clearly very desperate for sex after potentially none for over a year, and understandably so.
Question, when the rules allow, if a platonic friend asked you for a fuck as a favour because they really desperately need one, would you? Or would you keep your friendship platonic but then let their unhappiness continue? Xx"
If I happened to fancy the pants of him... probably.
This said I would have probably made my move already and if he had turned me down , there would be no coming back from that |
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"Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx"
Why harsh? The fact that you "shag random guys off the net" doesn't mean you're the sexual equivalent of a food bank. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx"
I believe it was unfair of him to even ask that question of you if it has never come up before.
Just because you have sex with other people doesn’t mean he or anyone else automatically gets a pass. |
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"Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx"
Ugh, I hope I’m wrong and he didn’t act like this, but it sounds an awful lot like “yOu FuCk AlL tHeSe OtHeR gUyS, wHy NoT mE WAAAAH”. I’m glad you turned him down, I don’t think someone who demands sex like that is much of a friend in the first place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually had an old friend who I haven't spoken to in years message me out of the blue yesterday wanting to hook up.
I said no. Even if we weren't all locked down I would've said no.
In the past I might've.
Saying that though, we generally only play with people we know pretty well and consider friends so I'm not sure how to answer
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