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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well, that depends on the situation and what I'm feeling jealous about. But I'm very good at dealing with it by myself if I'm being unreasonable.
But if it's getting too much and overwhelming me I usually open up about it. But again, this all depends on what I'm jealous over. It's not an easy question to answer. |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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Jealousy is an emotion build from possesion, I don't posses anybody nor do I want or belive in it. I share moments and experiences with people.
It may last a short or longer time but I don't get jealouse of what they choose to do, their path, their live, their chioces. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hate and jealousy they say is for the weak minded. The truth is, feeling jealous is neither strong nor weak—it's natural. What we do know is that it’s highly unfashionable.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy is an umbrella term that is normally a few different emotions mixing together.
Tends to stem from fear and insecurity. So, ask yourself what you're afraid of."
Spot on Peachy
The times I've felt jealous are usually when I haven't felt good enough |
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Here are some questions that I found very helpful when I was struggling with certain parts of a previous relationship.
* what specifically triggers you?
* are there certain people or situations that feel more triggering?
* what fears come up when you're jealous?
* what other feelings accompany jealousy?
* does the jealousy remind you of other times in your life?
* are you getting what you need from your partner? How is the relationship when it's just the 2 of you?
* what do you need from yourself? How can you take care of yourself when you're feeling jealous?
* ensure clear and concise boundaries are in place
* your partner comes home to you, this is key in many cases
If you answer these honestly, it may shed some light.
To say jealousy has no place I think is dangerous and belittles the feelings of the person struggling, who may well be having their spider sense triggered but not realise it, or may have unresolved issues.
People are humans with emotions, not robots. |
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"Jealousy is an umbrella term that is normally a few different emotions mixing together.
Tends to stem from fear and insecurity. So, ask yourself what you're afraid of.
Spot on Peachy
The times I've felt jealous are usually when I haven't felt good enough"
And that doesn't always stem from us, it can come from the way the other person is behaving, leading us to think that we aren't. Headfucks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it's also dependent on whether it's relationship or possessions.
I always think 'good on you' if someone has something I'd really like. Just makes me want to work harder if I'd like to have that too. But if you did feel that way, surely it's envy rather than jealousy.
Relationship wise, could all depend on your history and the feelings brought up by the actions of others. Someone once told me, you are simply reacting based on previous experience and you need to un-learn these feelings.
Easier said than done but it does get easier with time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jealousy is an umbrella term that is normally a few different emotions mixing together.
Tends to stem from fear and insecurity. So, ask yourself what you're afraid of.
This"
Yup  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Interesting how most replies see jealousy as a negative.
It can drive people to succeed, to try harder, and to better themselves.
It can also be a powerful aphrodisiac. Reclamation sex is partly based on jealousy and perceived ownership.
Harmless as long as open and honest, and useful x |
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