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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A genuine question for the people are very open and don’t disguise their identities. Aren’t you worried if someone see it you knew or work?
I guess not or you wouldn’t do it, maybe I just answered my own question lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So why would you be embarrassed, if they are on here too they are doing similar too you. I’d be embarrassed if I had me cock out not that my cock is embarrassing before smart alecs pipe up  |
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"A genuine question for the people are very open and don’t disguise their identities. Aren’t you worried if someone see it you knew or work?
I guess not or you wouldn’t do it, maybe I just answered my own question lol"
If they saw it they'd be on here to so what do you think they would do.... Out themselves?
I didn't show my face previously but not too bothered now. A fair few at work already know anyway. |
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I was recognised by one of the managers from a different branch who contacted me on FB before I had my face on show. He recognised my tattoos.
People can be so easily recognisable from their wallpaper and location to furniture, to body parts. I spotted my ex in a group photo on someone else's profile..... and all I could see was his knee and calf. No scars, no stand out features.
Of course not everyone will recognise you by a thumb or toe, but if ya really want to make sure, you need to blur the background or whatnot too. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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When I first joined Fab over 10 years ago I think it said something advising to have a face picture so I did but was apprehensive about I still have a face picture and only on one occasion a couple of years ago did I receive a message saying they saw me shopping that day and do I still work for so and so company.I was worried about it when I received that message as it was from a tv / ts person but I decided not to respond to the message and just deleted it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope.
We have no children to worry about. Neither of us have jobs where it could cause issues and we're not ashamed of being swingers or sexually liberated.
Couldn't care less who sees my mug on here 
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By *m A FuckerMan
over a year ago
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"I was recognised by one of the managers from a different branch who contacted me on FB before I had my face on show. He recognised my tattoos.
People can be so easily recognisable from their wallpaper and location to furniture, to body parts. I spotted my ex in a group photo on someone else's profile..... and all I could see was his knee and calf. No scars, no stand out features.
Of course not everyone will recognise you by a thumb or toe, but if ya really want to make sure, you need to blur the background or whatnot too."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only have my face pic as private so I can choose who to show it to. I don't meet or chat to anyone who lives in the small area that I do. I don't want anyone I haven't chosen to be friends with approaching me as I live alone and take care of my personal safety.
Most people on Fab are great but there could always be an idiot who doesn't understand you may not want to be approached. |
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I did on my last profile buttimes have changed & i dont want to be openly recognised.
As for concerns over work, legally they have no grounds to do anything to you, giving its all consensual & in your free time (those workplace onces...well).
Plus it does lessen the mailbox meaning i dont lose messages as much
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"I did on my last profile buttimes have changed & i dont want to be openly recognised.
As for concerns over work, legally they have no grounds to do anything to you, giving its all consensual & in your free time (those workplace onces...well).
Plus it does lessen the mailbox meaning i dont lose messages as much
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It is not my workplace directly, it is my profession. There is a clause that is linked to the public perception. |
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"A genuine question for the people are very open and don’t disguise their identities. Aren’t you worried if someone see it you knew or work?
I guess not or you wouldn’t do it, maybe I just answered my own question lol"
No, if they’ve seen my face then they must be on this site too. Why be embarrassed? Everyone knows the reason we are on the site. It’s no secret |
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Who defines public perception though? Its not like almost everyone uses dating apps...
surely whatever happened would need to be a news worthy or police worthy incident rather than just on here, plus they have to be on here to see you so kinda puts them in same bracket & therefore same public perception....hit the complained with the exact same back.
jeez, just about every adult has sex, with whom or doing what is no one elses business long as its consensual etc...i do wish they would stop the nonsense between sex life & everything else |
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"Who defines public perception though? Its not like almost everyone uses dating apps...
surely whatever happened would need to be a news worthy or police worthy incident rather than just on here, plus they have to be on here to see you so kinda puts them in same bracket & therefore same public perception....hit the complained with the exact same back.
jeez, just about every adult has sex, with whom or doing what is no one elses business long as its consensual etc...i do wish they would stop the nonsense between sex life & everything else"
I can't go into detail on here, but I checked with my professional body and I would lose my license. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jeez, you'd think that other adults would know better too, bet half of the rule makes are on here or likewise too.
Not any of it is a crime...now.
Just baffles me it does."
Why does it baffle you that some folks don't want others to know how they go about their sex life? |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
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We mask our faces.
It isn’t so much that like minded adults will see your pics on this site, it is that the pics can easily be downloaded and then end up anywhere else on the internet.
Very easy for someone to be vindictive and post your pics in places that could cause embarrassment or trouble (especially a problem if you have kids). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's personal preference but being aware of the impact on those around you ie kids etc.
There are plenty of people who enjoy gossip and making mischief for people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I did on my last profile buttimes have changed & i dont want to be openly recognised.
As for concerns over work, legally they have no grounds to do anything to you, giving its all consensual & in your free time (those workplace onces...well).
Plus it does lessen the mailbox meaning i dont lose messages as much
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Yes they can. It counts as social media and bringing the company into disrepute.
People have been sacked for being on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it's personal preference isn't it.
i sometimes do, sometimes don't.. depends on my mood.
if people know me, they know my tattoos, so im not exactly unidentifiable.. and i go on cams, so it's silly really isn't it 
more power to those who choose to, and those who like that bit of anonymity.
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"Jeez, you'd think that other adults would know better too, bet half of the rule makes are on here or likewise too.
Not any of it is a crime...now.
Just baffles me it does.
Why does it baffle you that some folks don't want others to know how they go about their sex life?"
No, it baffles me that work places have any say over someone's life.
Being on fab for instance is completely legal as is consensual sex regardless of type or kink involved or where it is found or with whom.
Its a ridiculous clause. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A genuine question for the people are very open and don’t disguise their identities. Aren’t you worried if someone see it you knew or work?
I guess not or you wouldn’t do it, maybe I just answered my own question lol
No, if they’ve seen my face then they must be on this site too. Why be embarrassed? Everyone knows the reason we are on the site. It’s no secret "
Yes but there are very varied reasons to be on the site and some men have the view that if you are a single woman on Fab that you are available to everyone, anytime |
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"A genuine question for the people are very open and don’t disguise their identities. Aren’t you worried if someone see it you knew or work?
I guess not or you wouldn’t do it, maybe I just answered my own question lol
No, if they’ve seen my face then they must be on this site too. Why be embarrassed? Everyone knows the reason we are on the site. It’s no secret
Yes but there are very varied reasons to be on the site and some men have the view that if you are a single woman on Fab that you are available to everyone, anytime "
That’s true. I never thought of it from that perspective. Although to be fair, you could flip that. Every single guy on here IS available to everyone every time haha!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope.
We have no children to worry about. Neither of us have jobs where it could cause issues and we're not ashamed of being swingers or sexually liberated.
Couldn't care less who sees my mug on here
Lu "
Yep I'm the same - no kids or job that would be an issue.
It's caused no issues so far.
Whoever has seen me on here and would judge me for it is on here too so pot and kettle |
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"I did on my last profile buttimes have changed & i dont want to be openly recognised.
As for concerns over work, legally they have no grounds to do anything to you, giving its all consensual & in your free time (those workplace onces...well).
Plus it does lessen the mailbox meaning i dont lose messages as much
It is not my workplace directly, it is my profession. There is a clause that is linked to the public perception."
Same for me. I have no embarrassment about my lifestyle choices but job can be put at risk by public perception and I have my mortgage to pay |
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"I did on my last profile buttimes have changed & i dont want to be openly recognised.
As for concerns over work, legally they have no grounds to do anything to you, giving its all consensual & in your free time (those workplace onces...well).
Plus it does lessen the mailbox meaning i dont lose messages as much
It is not my workplace directly, it is my profession. There is a clause that is linked to the public perception.
Same for me. I have no embarrassment about my lifestyle choices but job can be put at risk by public perception and I have my mortgage to pay "
I am not losing a professional qualification that took me years to acquire and develop, for some nasty small minded little twunt to report me for spite. I am happy to share face photos to those I feel some connection or possibility, but not to millions 'just looking'. From a safety aspect, women have posted on here of men recognising them and approaching them in the street, and even following them home. |
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I have to say I’m intrigued that any profession would have an issue with it in this day and age.
If the Armed Forces can be OK with a serving airman being nominated for a gay porn award, I’d have thought that we’re past that sort of thing. People’s private lives should not affect their professional life. |
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"I have to say I’m intrigued that any profession would have an issue with it in this day and age.
If the Armed Forces can be OK with a serving airman being nominated for a gay porn award, I’d have thought that we’re past that sort of thing. People’s private lives should not affect their professional life."
I'm pretty sure some of the external (foreign) agencies we work with would take serious exception to such deviants being in contact with their youth. What is legal and what is sensible can be two different things. |
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Luckily, I haven’t worked for seventeen years.
I also don’t find being sexually liberated embarrassing. All my friends and family know about Fab, including my sons, who just find it amusing! My mum, in particular, loves my Fab anecdotes. She's even driven me to clubs, bless her.
If I get a job as a kindergarten teacher, or the Pope's PA, obviously I’ll hide my fat little face! |
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In the past i have had some reservations as again like a lot of people there was a fear of being recognised and my reputation with my work couldve been affected. Now though, I'm more established so is less of an issue |
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Well there's a thing!
I was scrolling my pics last week and discovered two of my face pics were set to public 
No idea how long they been like that. I definitely set them private when I loaded them
What does piss me off is people not recognising difference between online and offline life. I've had people approach me in pub (remember them?) announcing loudly "him over there tells me you are....from..... site"
Not quite the same thing but I have bumped in to people in from my office in what is euphemistically called "a mucky sauna". They FREAKED |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont normally have public face pics just in case certain people in my life who are absolute gossips see them, but have no problem sharing face pics which are private on my profile when getting to know people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Worth remembering that anything you post online can easily be copied and used by someone else for whatever they want. Each to their own but imo its not worth the risks. |
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"Worth remembering that anything you post online can easily be copied and used by someone else for whatever they want. Each to their own but imo its not worth the risks."
No one will want to copy and use my photos lol |
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We had some Jackass say he was going to tell Kitty’s mum, and ‘the whole of Wellington’! Because we turned him down!
Well joke was on him, our closest friends know we’re on here as do parents (sort of, they know we have an ‘unusual’ relationship). I’m pretty sure 99% of people in our home town wouldn’t give a rats arse what we did if they don’t know us. So it was no threat! |
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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"Some of us have jobs/professions that can be affected by being recognised on here."
i always wonder what sort of job you’re in there. Is it an issue with your employer or your clients?
Anyway to answer the original question? Yeah maybe a little, but hey we’re all gear for the same reason I’d guess so why worry? |
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"Some of us have jobs/professions that can be affected by being recognised on here.i always wonder what sort of job you’re in there. Is it an issue with your employer or your clients?
Anyway to answer the original question? Yeah maybe a little, but hey we’re all gear for the same reason I’d guess so why worry?"
Education is one where people are rightly hesitant. |
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"I did on my last profile buttimes have changed & i dont want to be openly recognised.
As for concerns over work, legally they have no grounds to do anything to you, giving its all consensual & in your free time (those workplace onces...well).
Plus it does lessen the mailbox meaning i dont lose messages as much
It is not my workplace directly, it is my profession. There is a clause that is linked to the public perception.
Same for me. I have no embarrassment about my lifestyle choices but job can be put at risk by public perception and I have my mortgage to pay
I am not losing a professional qualification that took me years to acquire and develop, for some nasty small minded little twunt to report me for spite. I am happy to share face photos to those I feel some connection or possibility, but not to millions 'just looking'. From a safety aspect, women have posted on here of men recognising them and approaching them in the street, and even following them home. "
Absolutely the same and agree babe xx |
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Lost my 20 year job with the council for them.
Ex contacted my business network colleagues, my clients and neighbours with my pic.
Self employed, had guys try to black mail me into having sex with them, told them to go fuck themselves and dobbed them in with their emails and texts instead. It doesn't embarrass me, but I won't put up with misogyny.
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Totally get folks choices why not btw, wasn't trying to demise reason.
Just about everyone has taken pics (which an ex or current) can get a hold of & pass about, even an innocent taken one like checking back tan lines in mirror can be posted & set maliciously (had that done with others that were never sent to anyone but auto uploaded to cloud & forgot about). He set up accounts using work email & set to 40 collegues implying an affair as well (not true), was not & could not be sacked for that as i did nothing wrong & what i do with my sex life/photos is my own business.
His whole tactic was to try make out to be some kind of prostitute psycho, neither worked. I returned to work knowing they'd all seen it, despite it & hr claiming otherwise. Nothing to be ashamed of, its just a body & they are adults...pretty sure they've all seen one & that was in a pretty religious country too.
Even in child facing roles - one kids shouldnt be viewing it (parental controls much) & 2. The parents are adults who again would have to join to see & quite clearly have sex themselves if they have a kid. Even if kids did see it, would be an opportunity to educate them on behaviour towards women in particular.
The work issues baffles me to the logic behind it cos there is none other than misconception of a swinger.
I will not be questioned or abused over my sex life choices that do not involve them and absolutely not just cos i'm a woman & made out to be a whore....if i'm a whore i'm dumb as cos i dont get paid. |
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I never used to worry, I worked far enough away from home and if anyone did recognise me then they were doing the same thing and unlikely to say anything outside of here. I've not long started a new job tho that's fairly close to where I live and where there is a lot of foot traffic and potential to be recognises so all my face pictures have come down. Hubby took his down when he became a school governor. Bit more select who we show them to now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've got to be careful for my job. I think.
Otherwise I'd be happy to "
Likewise. It's a shame I have to consider this, but as long as I am in this particular career it's safer to remain anonymous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A genuine question for the people are very open and don’t disguise their identities. Aren’t you worried if someone see it you knew or work?
I guess not or you wouldn’t do it, maybe I just answered my own question lol"
People I work with know im a swinger, so does my Mum aha.
Honestly, I'm doing nothing wrong so I've nothing to be worried about. |
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"A genuine question for the people are very open and don’t disguise their identities. Aren’t you worried if someone see it you knew or work?
I guess not or you wouldn’t do it, maybe I just answered my own question lol"
I dont hide the fact I'm a swinger from people so nope x |
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My brother and sister in law know what we do,the sister in law usually asks alot of questions,but now days its not so taboo,we have had people recognise us and it doesn't really bother us,we are all hear to just have fun. |
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It is what it it is. if someone recognises me, well, I’m not married, not partnered and don’t have much to lose.
For a single guy on fab, I think it makes things easier if you show your face (although in my specific case, it tends to make things harder but then I don’t have to wait for the inevitable radio silence after sending a face pic, so time saved and all that. |
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By *elloWoman
over a year ago
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There's been a few guys I work/ed with that are on here and we all know about each other and have seen each others profiles, it's not an issue.
It's not like I'm a member of an embarrassing website like 'i love the spice girls ' |
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"There's been a few guys I work/ed with that are on here and we all know about each other and have seen each others profiles, it's not an issue.
It's not like I'm a member of an embarrassing website like 'i love the spice girls ' "
What’s wrong with loving the spice girls? |
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I've only recently put my face on here, and I'm not bothered about being recognised, guess for the same reason as many have said, if they're on here, it's not cause they're after a recipe for beef stew. All here for the same thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People can be so easily recognisable from their wallpaper and location to furniture, to body parts. I spotted my ex in a group photo on someone else's profile..... and all I could see was his knee and calf. No scars, no stand out features"
To be fair he was the only smurf I’ve seen in a swing club so easy to spot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone you know see you here, is because is into the same things as you, so no shame at all!"
Not necessarily, people join just to see what it's all about and have a nosey often ... |
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