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You feel connection, they disappear
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A couple of weeks ago I was talking to someone not on here but somewhere else a website that I will not mention  I felt like we had a connection I woke up this morning and realised that she is now deleted her account after many voice chats between me and her and she just disappeared. She could have easily just let me down gently or basically made something up instead of me just finding out this morning that she's disappeared I'm sure some of those on here have had the same outcome? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The thing is it doesn't really bother me because it's like it feels that she put her work before for anyone when you speak to her. It just annoys me when we decided that when lockdown comes to an end and we are allowed to meet up we actually planned it and then she just disappears I've got enough going on at the minute anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She was obviously chatting to a few guys, and finally connected to the better one and deleted the rest.
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She was on dating site for rebound, and ex has charmed her back. (Usual case)
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She was bored, and suddenly her actual bf/husband almost found out so she deleted quick. |
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I stopped talking to a woman off a dating app a few weeks ago. Got fed up of her talking about all of her Male friends and vegan lifestyle. I didn’t tell her just didn’t bother answering her last message and I haven’t had any further issues.
I’m off the dating scene until we can meet again I think if I’d met her for a few dates, I’d feel guilty but this was just conversation and it just felt right to end it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The thing is it doesn't really bother me because it's like it feels that she put her work before for anyone when you speak to her. It just annoys me when we decided that when lockdown comes to an end and we are allowed to meet up we actually planned it and then she just disappears I've got enough going on at the minute anyway"
It think it has bothered you a little dude. I wouldn't get caught up in it. Plenty other women out there to connect with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it didn't bother you then you wouldn't want to talk about it? It must sting a little, the not knowing why! You'll just have to forget her and find someone lovely who does as they say x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She was obviously chatting to a few guys, and finally connected to the better one and deleted the rest.
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She was on dating site for rebound, and ex has charmed her back. (Usual case)
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She was bored, and suddenly her actual bf/husband almost found out so she deleted quick. "
Or something important happened in her life? I think we mistakenly think that online is all there is sometimes when actually people can be going through a whole load of stuff we know nothing about. If someone disappears it doesn't automatically mean they are at it or letting anyone down, could just be real life requires all their attention at that time. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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People are cowards. They don't have the balls to say, sorry, I'm no longer feeling this.
There's also the possibility that the other person won't just say ok, was nice chatting, and try to convince them to stick around.
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I posted this morning in the forum about something similar...
I'm afraid it happens all too often. It's too easy to just disappear, block, ghost.. As you said you're not too bothered but I can understand how frustrating it is, time and effort into something and then they've disappeared.
Do what I do.. Have a little weep and then get back on the merry go round!  |
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
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OP you have no idea why she left, could have been a multitude of reasons that have nothing to do with you. I know it's not nice when someone just leaves without reason but depending on what was going on for her maybe that was what she needed to do for her and all that she could contend with.
Don't beat yourself self up about it or view it as personal. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I have a married colleague at work who just joins dating sites periodically to have a good flirt never intending to cheat. Once her ego is pumped enough she deletes her account. "
I have a married female friend who does the same. She used to cheat on her husband, but it became too risky, so she joined some apps to get her attention on there.
She had no intention of meeting anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There could be a million reason why, there’s no point speculating as you’re never going to find out unless she comes back and tells you, even then, it may be a lie.
Simply move on.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately it's just the way of the internet.
I never expect anything from online folk or form any deep emotional bonds. If I enjoy chatting to them then I chat, but with no expectations. Pre-covid, I always found it far better to chat a couple of times and then meet publicly because that tends to out the timewasters and people who are online for an ego boost. |
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She might have just been polite, not feeling the "vibes" as strong as yourself and the easiest way for her was to ghost. Happens to us all. If you made a good connection once you can do it again with someone else. Good luck! |
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