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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you'd asked me 6 years ago if have said I'm not into it...because most people (in my experience) have no idea what they're doing, with the odd exception.
Now, I have a man who knows EXACTLY what he's doing and I love it!
There's nothing worse than bad oral butt when it's good ... 
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
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I am not bothered about it tbh, I used to be but can happily take myself to wonderful places in my head with the same results. I like my clitorose being included in the action but its not a deal breaker as there are so many ways to skin a cat for me  |
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"If you'd asked me 6 years ago if have said I'm not into it...because most people (in my experience) have no idea what they're doing, with the odd exception.
Now, I have a man who knows EXACTLY what he's doing and I love it!
There's nothing worse than bad oral butt when it's good ...
Lu "
I'd agree with Lu. Many have no idea so i've given up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I briefly dated a woman who wouldn’t let my tongue near her bits, refused point blank to even discuss it. We didn’t last long cos I love giving oral, it’s an essential part of sex for me |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I enjoy it as long as the person doing it knows what they are doing .If they don't then it does nothing for me but then there is plenty of other things we can be doing that they may be better at. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A follow on thread really from ‘do some men don’t like BJ’s’. So ladies are there any of you out there that don’t like you pussy licked?"
It does nothing for me. I only let them if they insist, but apparently laying there like a bored sack of spuds isn't sexy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really enjoy doing it and like to think I know what I’m doing lol, I do feel there are certain times you do and certain times you don’t. Like it’s not every meet this will happen |
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If someone isn't hitting the right spot or motion for you, can you not instruct them on what you like?
Communication is key, right? We all should know how to get ourselves off, so it shouldn't be too much of a hassle to tell that to who you're with rather than settling for something less satisfying. |
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"A follow on thread really from ‘do some men don’t like BJ’s’. So ladies are there any of you out there that don’t like you pussy licked?
It does nothing for me. I only let them if they insist, but apparently laying there like a bored sack of spuds isn't sexy. "
Finally, I realise where I've been going wrong! |
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"If someone isn't hitting the right spot or motion for you, can you not instruct them on what you like?
Communication is key, right? We all should know how to get ourselves off, so it shouldn't be too much of a hassle to tell that to who you're with rather than settling for something less satisfying. "
Well oddly enough I don't know how to get myself off by licking my own fanny.
Id rather have something hard to fill me up, than a guy down there licking away for God knows how long when I'm there twiddling my thumbs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A follow on thread really from ‘do some men don’t like BJ’s’. So ladies are there any of you out there that don’t like you pussy licked?
It does nothing for me. I only let them if they insist, but apparently laying there like a bored sack of spuds isn't sexy. "
or they get offended when you start doing the crossword in the paper |
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I'm a huge fan and it's a necessity for me. But as said above it has to be good or it becomes very meh. There are certainly men (and women) out there who love doing it, have done the pre work, and have good technique. I've made it my mission to find those people. |
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I don't enjoy oral sex. It isn't because I have issues, or have had a bad experience, or haven't experienced it with the right man. It's simply that I don't like it and I'm a tiny bit fed up with people being surprised about it or suggesting that I really should be enjoying it. |
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It is OK to not enjoy oral sex. If you don't enjoy something you shouldn't have to justify that or be faced with 'you just haven't found the right guy yet/you just need to communicate how to get yourself off'.
No.
It is OK to not want to do something regardless of what (some) men say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In all the men I've slept with they all sucked at oral. Some more than others. Pun intended haha. Most are waaaaay too rough.
BUTT I finally found one who knows exactly what to do and
loves to do it and he literally brings me to heaven  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like it. I get pleasure from it but it takes me a while to cum with other people so I tend to get a bit tense and worry I'm taking too long and either redirect me giving oral to them or go to sex. But with my OH he makes me cum like a train through oral. Lol. I think it's alot to do with being 100% comfortable with someone and I myself can only feel that with my OH. Not that I don't enjoy oral from others, I really do. |
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A number of years ago I did not like oral sex at all, either giving nor receiving - that completely changed when I came out as kinky and met my current partners.
I love both now just as long as the partner is enhusiastically interested. I love receiving oral sex and only good one will do
I am an active participant and my partners can hear and feel the effect it is having so I believe they have plenty of guidance from me.
One of the things that are important to me is lightness of touch (no need to work it like a stain on a carpet!) and also stubble makes it unpleasant so a man has to either be freshly shaven or with a soft beard otherwise it is unlikely to work. |
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"If someone isn't hitting the right spot or motion for you, can you not instruct them on what you like?
Communication is key, right? We all should know how to get ourselves off, so it shouldn't be too much of a hassle to tell that to who you're with rather than settling for something less satisfying. "
I’ve tried the ‘to the left’, ‘to the right’, ‘up’, ‘down’, moved their hands and after a while had the comment ‘why bother?’ He has pulled away. So how does a woman communicate how she likes it? Pray tell. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love it as part of sex but if the man means it as a major part then it would be a let down for me.
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Yeah same. I love it but not interested in this could do it for hours thing. I’d have to make sure I took a book and let him crack on if that’s what he wanted. |
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"If someone isn't hitting the right spot or motion for you, can you not instruct them on what you like?
Communication is key, right? We all should know how to get ourselves off, so it shouldn't be too much of a hassle to tell that to who you're with rather than settling for something less satisfying.
I’ve tried the ‘to the left’, ‘to the right’, ‘up’, ‘down’, moved their hands and after a while had the comment ‘why bother?’ He has pulled away. So how does a woman communicate how she likes it? Pray tell. "
You're better off asking the women in this thread who've said they have communicated for better results.
From my experience receiving not so great oral, it has been a case of describing the movement or intensity I like, and where to focus the tongue. Hearing a "why bother?" would put me off the person altogether nevermind oral. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't understand the 'if he knows what he's doing' comments.
I am not a carbon copy of other women. What is right for them probably won't be right for me.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"If someone isn't hitting the right spot or motion for you, can you not instruct them on what you like?
Communication is key, right? We all should know how to get ourselves off, so it shouldn't be too much of a hassle to tell that to who you're with rather than settling for something less satisfying. "
It depends on who you are with I've found some just don't listen,one of my ex's was like that. He got annoyed if you tried to say left or right a small bit .There is no point if somone doesn't want to know . |
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"If someone isn't hitting the right spot or motion for you, can you not instruct them on what you like?
Communication is key, right? We all should know how to get ourselves off, so it shouldn't be too much of a hassle to tell that to who you're with rather than settling for something less satisfying.
I’ve tried the ‘to the left’, ‘to the right’, ‘up’, ‘down’, moved their hands and after a while had the comment ‘why bother?’ He has pulled away. So how does a woman communicate how she likes it? Pray tell.
You're better off asking the women in this thread who've said they have communicated for better results.
From my experience receiving not so great oral, it has been a case of describing the movement or intensity I like, and where to focus the tongue. Hearing a "why bother?" would put me off the person altogether nevermind oral. "
It was from a fella in a long term relationship so can’t really end it because he doesn’t do oral right....! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't understand the 'if he knows what he's doing' comments.
I am not a carbon copy of other women. What is right for them probably won't be right for me.
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I agree. I’m definitely not a carbon copy of most women. What works for a lot of women doesn’t work for me. I’ve learnt over the years that I’m definitely not easily pleased! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love it as part of sex but if the man means it as a major part then it would be a let down for me.
Yeah same. I love it but not interested in this could do it for hours thing. I’d have to make sure I took a book and let him crack on if that’s what he wanted. "
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I used to hate it, bored the crap out of me too. I once fell asleep during this  . Now though I enjoy it immensely and the thought of it being done is such a huge turn on. I’m not sure what changed but I’m glad it did  |
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"I used to hate it, bored the crap out of me too. I once fell asleep during this . Now though I enjoy it immensely and the thought of it being done is such a huge turn on. I’m not sure what changed but I’m glad it did "
Maybe you found a man who did it how you like it? I’m yet to find one....... |
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"I used to hate it, bored the crap out of me too. I once fell asleep during this . Now though I enjoy it immensely and the thought of it being done is such a huge turn on. I’m not sure what changed but I’m glad it did
Maybe you found a man who did it how you like it? I’m yet to find one......."
It took many years, I always say eat it like you mean it and offering me hours of it turns me off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me, it's neutral.
In all my sexual experiences, I have only met one guy who was any good at it and I enjoyed it with him. But most guys suck at it, and I was just bored and not turned on at all.
As for communicating - I have done. But if I hear 'well, my ex loved it this way and it made HER come' one more fucking time, I am going to scream.
Ditto for doing that stupid writing the alphabet thing on my clit. What the fuck is that even all about? |
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"For me, it's neutral.
In all my sexual experiences, I have only met one guy who was any good at it and I enjoyed it with him. But most guys suck at it, and I was just bored and not turned on at all.
As for communicating - I have done. But if I hear 'well, my ex loved it this way and it made HER come' one more fucking time, I am going to scream.
Ditto for doing that stupid writing the alphabet thing on my clit. What the fuck is that even all about?"
Basically it’s because some men don’t think we are all different....clueless is what some men are. Note I said some. |
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"For me, it's neutral.
In all my sexual experiences, I have only met one guy who was any good at it and I enjoyed it with him. But most guys suck at it, and I was just bored and not turned on at all.
As for communicating - I have done. But if I hear 'well, my ex loved it this way and it made HER come' one more fucking time, I am going to scream.
Ditto for doing that stupid writing the alphabet thing on my clit. What the fuck is that even all about?"
Obviously, the partner who is doing it has to be receptive to reactions and to feedback. I think that statements like "why bother" or "my ex liked it" in bed are the equivalent of eye rolls everywhere else. Apparently, couples who roll eyes at each other have very low chances of staying together.
Surely, the reason we are having sex with someone is because we want to share something lovely together. I don't understand how a man could get upset for receiving guidance. We all have blind spots or physical ways of touching that may not work for a partner - but we learn. If a person doesn't want to learn what gives me pleasure then that is non-reciprocative and it is doomed to end very quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to hate it, bored the crap out of me too. I once fell asleep during this . Now though I enjoy it immensely and the thought of it being done is such a huge turn on. I’m not sure what changed but I’m glad it did
Maybe you found a man who did it how you like it? I’m yet to find one.......
It took many years, I always say eat it like you mean it and offering me hours of it turns me off "
In my experience, everyone is different (shocker, I know!!). If the giver only has one technique and doesn't try different "tricks", then it's no wonder that the experience is just meh, or worse. Also, practice makes perfect ... |
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"If someone isn't hitting the right spot or motion for you, can you not instruct them on what you like?
Communication is key, right? We all should know how to get ourselves off, so it shouldn't be too much of a hassle to tell that to who you're with rather than settling for something less satisfying.
I’ve tried the ‘to the left’, ‘to the right’, ‘up’, ‘down’, moved their hands and after a while had the comment ‘why bother?’ He has pulled away. So how does a woman communicate how she likes it? Pray tell. "
This. Also the amount of time i've guided and am ignored is countless.
BUT thank you Fab, as I have now discovered amazing does exist, so I'm back from shifting you up and off, and back to judging poor efforts  |
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