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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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In men's view!
Please refrain from any PMS and 'hormonal women' bashing and silly sexist crap here. I reserve the right not to respond to all today.
I want to know does period put you off? Freak you out a little? Do you buy supplies for your woman? Or you would never attempt a mission like that? Do you struggle to be intimate with a menstruating woman? Just your general thoughts would be nice. Thanks |
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Well I'm not the male half of the couple. But I know M isn't bothered with it, except for the occasional roll of the eyes when I'm hormonal and being dramatic. But he's helped strip the sheets when a leak has happened overnight without batting an eyelid. He does buy supplies though the first time I told him I needed pads. And he had to ring me from the supermarket saying why is there so many different ones and which did I need. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well I'm not the male half of the couple. But I know M isn't bothered with it, except for the occasional roll of the eyes when I'm hormonal and being dramatic. But he's helped strip the sheets when a leak has happened overnight without batting an eyelid. He does buy supplies though the first time I told him I needed pads. And he had to ring me from the supermarket saying why is there so many different ones and which did I need. "
I welcome women testimonies of men too. Should have said
You know what.. i often wonder myself.. why is it so complicated and why on earth there are so many ones. I don't want to stand there for ages confused reading labels. Please simplify it!  |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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I have a fwb who has no issues with this..keeps supplies in stock and appreciates that my horn levels are usually through the roof at that time!
I wouldn’t arrange a meet with someone new during but with someone I trust and know well I’m not one to worry about it xx |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I’m usually aware of it and try to be supportive but don’t get overly involved shopping for supplies ! I’m 50 and never even knew “cup” was a thing until fab, even after cup and douche I never twigged it was a normal way of handling a period, I assumed a period sex thing only. I just thought women used tampons, towels or period suppressing. pill/injection. Most women I know like sex on periods and I’m fine with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If this counts. I used to have a male flat mate who would happily go to the shops for supplies if needed and was very supportive or got his head bitten off |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If this counts. I used to have a male flat mate who would happily go to the shops for supplies if needed and was very supportive or got his head bitten off "
This is a blac*mail Doriss. Not sure if he was supportive or just fearful. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I was horrified when I was once asked to buy tampons.
I have grown up a bit since then and offer support and space when needed. Doesn’t put me off one bit. "
Do you remember why were you horrified ? |
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"I was horrified when I was once asked to buy tampons.
I have grown up a bit since then and offer support and space when needed. Doesn’t put me off one bit.
Do you remember why were you horrified ? "
No reason other than immaturity I believe. Used to be really image conscious so would have worried what people would have thought.
Utterly ridiculous |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have a fwb who has no issues with this..keeps supplies in stock and appreciates that my horn levels are usually through the roof at that time!
I wouldn’t arrange a meet with someone new during but with someone I trust and know well I’m not one to worry about it xx"
I relate it's funny how it affects us all differently. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does not put me of one bit
And yup I used to buy the supplies I really don't get why some guys have a problem buying them "
I would like to understand if its something they feel is a woman only territory and they are just bit retro in their views or its something else. Not here to throw stones. |
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For the men in my past, it was never really discussed.
My lad however seems to know when it’s due “you’ve got a headache and your snappy, time of the month? I’m going to my room to give you space”. He’s not shy about the products either to the point where he’ll say quite loudly in the fruit aisle do we need your plugs or do you have enough, if you need them I’ll go get them
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Mr KC has no issues at all, he never has. Nor does my 18yo son (well, when he lived at home). Both would bring me bits from the cupboard if I needed it, go to the shops for stuff, didn't mind seeing my menstrual cup sitting on the sink etc. We're pretty open in this family when it comes to body stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For the men in my past, it was never really discussed.
My lad however seems to know when it’s due “you’ve got a headache and your snappy, time of the month? I’m going to my room to give you space”. He’s not shy about the products either to the point where he’ll say quite loudly in the fruit aisle do we need your plugs or do you have enough, if you need them I’ll go get them
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Well I'm hoping my boys will be also laid back and okay with it. But is it something you can "enforce"? Or its just the attitude of the person when met with information ? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Doesn't bother me in the slightest in any respect, and have had no issues picking up supplies in the past if asked - likewise when it comes to intimacy or anything else really.
To be honest not sure why anyone would have a problem with it, it's after all a perfectly natural part of how a woman's body functions.
That said I also respect that for some women it's quite a private thing that they don't like to be open about - so I tend to take my cues from the individual concerned and how they personally deal with it. |
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"For the men in my past, it was never really discussed.
My lad however seems to know when it’s due “you’ve got a headache and your snappy, time of the month? I’m going to my room to give you space”. He’s not shy about the products either to the point where he’ll say quite loudly in the fruit aisle do we need your plugs or do you have enough, if you need them I’ll go get them
Well I'm hoping my boys will be also laid back and okay with it. But is it something you can "enforce"? Or its just the attitude of the person when met with information ? "
I wouldn’t say it’s enforced, but maybe more talked about as something normal and not to be hidden, it’s a completely natural occurrence. My lad is nosey and asks a lot of questions, which he’ll always get an honest answer about (appropriate for his age) in return.
Maybe it is a generation thing to and how it was treated in your upbringing, it was never talked about in my house. When my dad found out I was using tampons you’d think I was the child seduced by the devil the way he reacted, yet he wasn’t bother by the vodka or cigarettes he also found. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I purposely formed my questions slightly negative. I wanted it to be challenged. I do wonder though how men who feel queasy about it can change it. But maybe they don't need to or want to? I loved feeling supported in every way not laughed at for being hormonal or accused of taking advantage of it..  that happened too.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For the men in my past, it was never really discussed.
My lad however seems to know when it’s due “you’ve got a headache and your snappy, time of the month? I’m going to my room to give you space”. He’s not shy about the products either to the point where he’ll say quite loudly in the fruit aisle do we need your plugs or do you have enough, if you need them I’ll go get them
Well I'm hoping my boys will be also laid back and okay with it. But is it something you can "enforce"? Or its just the attitude of the person when met with information ?
I wouldn’t say it’s enforced, but maybe more talked about as something normal and not to be hidden, it’s a completely natural occurrence. My lad is nosey and asks a lot of questions, which he’ll always get an honest answer about (appropriate for his age) in return.
Maybe it is a generation thing to and how it was treated in your upbringing, it was never talked about in my house. When my dad found out I was using tampons you’d think I was the child seduced by the devil the way he reacted, yet he wasn’t bother by the vodka or cigarettes he also found. "
I bought my first tampons very secretly for the fear of being chastised by my grandparents too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I purposely formed my questions slightly negative. I wanted it to be challenged. I do wonder though how men who feel queasy about it can change it. But maybe they don't need to or want to? I loved feeling supported in every way not laughed at for being hormonal or accused of taking advantage of it.. that happened too.
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Yeah women take advantage of the crippling cramps, hormonal mood swings, blood clots, etc.
Thank goodness men tell us how to feel and be. Considering the world ends when they have a sniffle!!!  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I purposely formed my questions slightly negative. I wanted it to be challenged. I do wonder though how men who feel queasy about it can change it. But maybe they don't need to or want to? I loved feeling supported in every way not laughed at for being hormonal or accused of taking advantage of it.. that happened too.
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I guess changing it comes from better understanding and awareness, same as anything really - as I said further up (and this is absolutely not blaming) some women are very private about it, and to a degree it may be a generational thing too, with it being referred to as a "curse" or something "we don't talk about" so it's no surprise that some men may see it that way and shy away from it.
I think these days it's more open and talked about as part of PSHE lessons in school in more detail - so will be interesting to see if future generations of adults are quite so suppressed about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I purposely formed my questions slightly negative. I wanted it to be challenged. I do wonder though how men who feel queasy about it can change it. But maybe they don't need to or want to? I loved feeling supported in every way not laughed at for being hormonal or accused of taking advantage of it.. that happened too.
I guess changing it comes from better understanding and awareness, same as anything really - as I said further up (and this is absolutely not blaming) some women are very private about it, and to a degree it may be a generational thing too, with it being referred to as a "curse" or something "we don't talk about" so it's no surprise that some men may see it that way and shy away from it.
I think these days it's more open and talked about as part of PSHE lessons in school in more detail - so will be interesting to see if future generations of adults are quite so suppressed about it."
Yes I saw that bit and agree. It works both ways. I knew a woman in a marriage of 40 years who wouldn't buy a bra when her husband was nearby and pulled me to a side to dicuss her choices. |
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"I purposely formed my questions slightly negative. I wanted it to be challenged. I do wonder though how men who feel queasy about it can change it. But maybe they don't need to or want to? I loved feeling supported in every way not laughed at for being hormonal or accused of taking advantage of it.. that happened too.
I guess changing it comes from better understanding and awareness, same as anything really - as I said further up (and this is absolutely not blaming) some women are very private about it, and to a degree it may be a generational thing too, with it being referred to as a "curse" or something "we don't talk about" so it's no surprise that some men may see it that way and shy away from it.
I think these days it's more open and talked about as part of PSHE lessons in school in more detail - so will be interesting to see if future generations of adults are quite so suppressed about it."
I'd hope future generations are more open. My son is fully aware of all these things and looks after his girlfriend when she has her period. Makes up hot water bottles, buys pads etc, he's been to get her Pills and all that sort of thing. It's just like going and getting paracetamol if someone had a headache as far as this household is concerned.
But that attitude of his is due to what he's seen at home, far more than lessons at school, so it will take today's parents to educate their children by setting an example. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've got an app on my phone so I can track her cycle. When that time arrives I buy her tampons, towels, ibuprofen, paracetamol, wine and a giant fruit and nut bar.
She won't let me near her when she is menstruating though. I'd love to but I respect her........ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m usually aware of it and try to be supportive but don’t get overly involved shopping for supplies ! I’m 50 and never even knew “cup” was a thing until fab, even after cup and douche I never twigged it was a normal way of handling a period, I assumed a period sex thing only. I just thought women used tampons, towels or period suppressing. pill/injection. Most women I know like sex on periods and I’m fine with it"
That's an interesting statement. Most women i know like sex on periods. Of course it's anecdotal. But most women I spoke to don't. I wonder if there are some stats/polls out there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've got an app on my phone so I can track her cycle. When that time arrives I buy her tampons, towels, ibuprofen, paracetamol, wine and a giant fruit and nut bar.
She won't let me near her when she is menstruating though. I'd love to but I respect her........"
Well that is some preparation! And great you are so selflessly caring. We all deal with this time differently. I can't even say that all my periods are the same and that I would feel certainly feel aroused or not, just because its on. There are so many other factors affecting our mood..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have no issues with purchasing female products for a partner or grabbing hot water bottles etc.
I have partaken in sexual intimacy during these times but has been lady led. "
I went to a strip club once and paid for a dance, only when we had arrived in the private room and she was topless did she tell me she was on her period and bloody - that completely threw me off - didn’t know how to react |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can't always tell without the app.
Maybe 60% of the time I can.
She does however really like sex just after her period?
Thanks for your kind words xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have no issues with purchasing female products for a partner or grabbing hot water bottles etc.
I have partaken in sexual intimacy during these times but has been lady led.
I went to a strip club once and paid for a dance, only when we had arrived in the private room and she was topless did she tell me she was on her period and bloody - that completely threw me off - didn’t know how to react "
It's not something you have expected to happen in these circumstances. I wouldn't know too in fairness. Unless she was stripping naked it wouldn't make a difference. And I'm guessing you weren't allowed to touch? Really depends. If she felt the urge to tell you I guess it might altered the experience? I'm confused. |
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I think we as women need to be more open about it. For years I would just make excuses rather than say I had my period. Now it's full disclosure.
My son was really good with his last gf, I asked once what she was upset about and he said oh she's just got her period, like it was no big deal. I leave my pads out when I've got mine so he's used to things like that. |
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"I can't always tell without the app.
Maybe 60% of the time I can.
She does however really like sex just after her period?
Thanks for your kind words xxxx"
Why would it make any difference, you're not allowed to touch or have sex with them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have no issues with purchasing female products for a partner or grabbing hot water bottles etc.
I have partaken in sexual intimacy during these times but has been lady led.
I went to a strip club once and paid for a dance, only when we had arrived in the private room and she was topless did she tell me she was on her period and bloody - that completely threw me off - didn’t know how to react
It's not something you have expected to happen in these circumstances. I wouldn't know too in fairness. Unless she was stripping naked it wouldn't make a difference. And I'm guessing you weren't allowed to touch? Really depends. If she felt the urge to tell you I guess it might altered the experience? I'm confused. "
No you cannot touch, but she didn’t want to take her pants off. I accepted that, as I didn’t want her to be uncomfortable, but was a strange situation to be in - not what I was expecting when I entered the room! |
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"I have no issues with purchasing female products for a partner or grabbing hot water bottles etc.
I have partaken in sexual intimacy during these times but has been lady led.
I went to a strip club once and paid for a dance, only when we had arrived in the private room and she was topless did she tell me she was on her period and bloody - that completely threw me off - didn’t know how to react "
That just saddens me that she sounds like she was uncomfortable with stripping but could not just not work.
Not a dig at you,more the situation she found herself in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't always tell without the app.
Maybe 60% of the time I can.
She does however really like sex just after her period?
Thanks for your kind words xxxx
Why would it make any difference, you're not allowed to touch or have sex with them? "
I'm not allowed near her sexually during as she doesn't like it. But after its finished she really wants to... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have no issues with purchasing female products for a partner or grabbing hot water bottles etc.
I have partaken in sexual intimacy during these times but has been lady led.
I went to a strip club once and paid for a dance, only when we had arrived in the private room and she was topless did she tell me she was on her period and bloody - that completely threw me off - didn’t know how to react
It's not something you have expected to happen in these circumstances. I wouldn't know too in fairness. Unless she was stripping naked it wouldn't make a difference. And I'm guessing you weren't allowed to touch? Really depends. If she felt the urge to tell you I guess it might altered the experience? I'm confused.
No you cannot touch, but she didn’t want to take her pants off. I accepted that, as I didn’t want her to be uncomfortable, but was a strange situation to be in - not what I was expecting when I entered the room!"
It's sad she had to still work.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its a natural part of womanhood so I'm not sure why anyone would be weird about it.
I've been out and bought supplies, done as much as I can to help out, ran baths and just been a lump of meat to shout at or be cried upon if needs be, if I can make it easier then im all for that.
I also actually like that time of the month sexually too and as long as my partner at the time is OK with it then I'm happy, it wouldn't stop me from doing anything that I would do at any other time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's nature
It doesn't fuss me
I am very relaxed in and around flaps
Buying tampons & wings is fine
My lancing of fanny boils was the stuff of legend amongst my exes friends, earning me the moniker 'Doctor Minge'
You lot think I'm joking about that last bit don't you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have no issues with purchasing female products for a partner or grabbing hot water bottles etc.
I have partaken in sexual intimacy during these times but has been lady led.
I went to a strip club once and paid for a dance, only when we had arrived in the private room and she was topless did she tell me she was on her period and bloody - that completely threw me off - didn’t know how to react
It's not something you have expected to happen in these circumstances. I wouldn't know too in fairness. Unless she was stripping naked it wouldn't make a difference. And I'm guessing you weren't allowed to touch? Really depends. If she felt the urge to tell you I guess it might altered the experience? I'm confused.
No you cannot touch, but she didn’t want to take her pants off. I accepted that, as I didn’t want her to be uncomfortable, but was a strange situation to be in - not what I was expecting when I entered the room!
It's sad she had to still work.."
Why?
I don't think we should be advocating that women need time out of their lives when they have their period |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have no issues with purchasing female products for a partner or grabbing hot water bottles etc.
I have partaken in sexual intimacy during these times but has been lady led.
I went to a strip club once and paid for a dance, only when we had arrived in the private room and she was topless did she tell me she was on her period and bloody - that completely threw me off - didn’t know how to react
It's not something you have expected to happen in these circumstances. I wouldn't know too in fairness. Unless she was stripping naked it wouldn't make a difference. And I'm guessing you weren't allowed to touch? Really depends. If she felt the urge to tell you I guess it might altered the experience? I'm confused.
No you cannot touch, but she didn’t want to take her pants off. I accepted that, as I didn’t want her to be uncomfortable, but was a strange situation to be in - not what I was expecting when I entered the room!
It's sad she had to still work..
Why?
I don't think we should be advocating that women need time out of their lives when they have their period"
I am not. I'm advocating she could have a choice. Especially because of the nature of the job where you expose your body. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's nature
It doesn't fuss me
I am very relaxed in and around flaps
Buying tampons & wings is fine
My lancing of fanny boils was the stuff of legend amongst my exes friends, earning me the moniker 'Doctor Minge'
You lot think I'm joking about that last bit don't you? "
Lancing of fanny boils? No I believe you. But what kind of boils?! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Its a natural part of womanhood so I'm not sure why anyone would be weird about it.
I've been out and bought supplies, done as much as I can to help out, ran baths and just been a lump of meat to shout at or be cried upon if needs be, if I can make it easier then im all for that.
I also actually like that time of the month sexually too and as long as my partner at the time is OK with it then I'm happy, it wouldn't stop me from doing anything that I would do at any other time."
Yes. I always was saddened when a man would find it strange to be intimate with me during this time. Shall I hide in a red tent until its over? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's nature
It doesn't fuss me
I am very relaxed in and around flaps
Buying tampons & wings is fine
My lancing of fanny boils was the stuff of legend amongst my exes friends, earning me the moniker 'Doctor Minge'
You lot think I'm joking about that last bit don't you?
Lancing of fanny boils? No I believe you. But what kind of boils?!"
Just the ingrowing hair type
They were very open about these things for some reason |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My ex the father of my children is that bad with it. He don't even have his daughter over if she having her period. So some men dislike it. "
Oh no.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's nature
It doesn't fuss me
I am very relaxed in and around flaps
Buying tampons & wings is fine
My lancing of fanny boils was the stuff of legend amongst my exes friends, earning me the moniker 'Doctor Minge'
You lot think I'm joking about that last bit don't you?
Lancing of fanny boils? No I believe you. But what kind of boils?!
Just the ingrowing hair type
They were very open about these things for some reason "
Ah I get it. Was wondering.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It doesn't freaking me off per se, but I wouldn't like eating it. But if I have to do to prove you that I love you, I won't ! "
It's ok. I won't go for that far in a search of evidence. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You don’t mess with nature and it’s beauty! I always stepped up the the plate when my ex gf was on her period. Treat her like a queen, get her what she needs, and give her what she needs. "
I chuckled a little at the first line. When I was much younger I recall reading an article about embracing your menstruation. It was eye opening to accepting that it is not a horrible embarrassing thing as I was led to believe by environment. And referring referring previous posts on generational change- I truly hope so ! But it's also up to us to influence that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My ex the father of my children is that bad with it. He don't even have his daughter over if she having her period. So some men dislike it.
WTF!"
Is it OK to ask how it makes her feel? Is she aware ? |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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In short; no, not at all.
I do think that an awful lot of guys, certainly younger guys, have little to no understanding of menstruation and find the whole subject is alien to them. There’s a whole lack of education on the subject and little to no dialogue which only makes it worse. Boys need to know and understand what happens, then there would be far less of the ‘elephant in the room’ every month |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In short; no, not at all.
I do think that an awful lot of guys, certainly younger guys, have little to no understanding of menstruation and find the whole subject is alien to them. There’s a whole lack of education on the subject and little to no dialogue which only makes it worse. Boys need to know and understand what happens, then there would be far less of the ‘elephant in the room’ every month"
On the educational note again, if anyone reads puberty related materials to kids- do you stick to gender specific materials? It's something I'm dealing with currently so would appreciate suggestions. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My ex always used to buy me sanitary products at that time of a month n loads of chocolate n ignore my moods n leave me to it lol "
If that was a recipe for a peaceful retreat for you to deal with it then he did amazing. |
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Never had a issue with buying products for partners.. happy to be intimate during time of the month. Ultimately if both parties are comfortable I don't see the problem. I know everyone is different but it's just a few days and why let fun stop. I realise for some ladies it's painful and uncomfortable but I know from experience some get super horny. X |
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"Never had a issue with buying products for partners.. happy to be intimate during time of the month. Ultimately if both parties are comfortable I don't see the problem. I know everyone is different but it's just a few days and why let fun stop. I realise for some ladies it's painful and uncomfortable but I know from experience some get super horny. X"
I found orgasms to be a good temporary relief for the pain. But I don't experience much of it so I guess that makes me inclined to consider intimacy. Can't imagine doing so feeling rotten. And how heavy is the flow. All things to consider. |
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"You don’t mess with nature and it’s beauty! I always stepped up the the plate when my ex gf was on her period. Treat her like a queen, get her what she needs, and give her what she needs.
I chuckled a little at the first line. When I was much younger I recall reading an article about embracing your menstruation. It was eye opening to accepting that it is not a horrible embarrassing thing as I was led to believe by environment. And referring referring previous posts on generational change- I truly hope so ! But it's also up to us to influence that. "
I believe there has been a shift in generational norms, especially in the last few years. However, I’m not even sure if menstruation is taught in school?? I think positive advertising is a key in influence and I’ve seen a lot of it recently. Can’t recall off the top of my head the company but I’m sure it’s easy to find. |
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"In short; no, not at all.
I do think that an awful lot of guys, certainly younger guys, have little to no understanding of menstruation and find the whole subject is alien to them. There’s a whole lack of education on the subject and little to no dialogue which only makes it worse. Boys need to know and understand what happens, then there would be far less of the ‘elephant in the room’ every month
On the educational note again, if anyone reads puberty related materials to kids- do you stick to gender specific materials? It's something I'm dealing with currently so would appreciate suggestions. "
We discuss both, I think it’s good to have an understanding what each gender may experience and within that explain that each individual is different, so although the cause may be the sane what they experience can be different to their friends.
On materials it’s is discussed at school with both genders present and the first book I bought him a few years ago on puberty, had a couple of pages on females as a starting point. |
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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago
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Most natural thing in the world that every woman has.
I've never been with a lady who wants sex on her period but I don't have a problem helping to get supplies if needed. In my experience though most women tend to buy all their own toiletries. |
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Mr has no issues shopping, he’ll just phone me and ask what I need. As far as intimacy is concerned, we’ll still have a kiss and a cuddle, but sex is out of the question. Neither of us want sex at that time.
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"In short; no, not at all.
I do think that an awful lot of guys, certainly younger guys, have little to no understanding of menstruation and find the whole subject is alien to them. There’s a whole lack of education on the subject and little to no dialogue which only makes it worse. Boys need to know and understand what happens, then there would be far less of the ‘elephant in the room’ every month
On the educational note again, if anyone reads puberty related materials to kids- do you stick to gender specific materials? It's something I'm dealing with currently so would appreciate suggestions. "
I can’t say that I’ve used any specific materials regarding this but I would definitely make sure that they know all aspects of puberty, not just those that were relevant to them personally.
It’s just an extension of learning about society and people in general. You don’t just teach them about the sections of the world that are directly relevant to them, do you?
Learning about diversity, different dynamics, genders, sexualities, cultures, etc, just breeds acceptance and empathy |
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"In short; no, not at all.
I do think that an awful lot of guys, certainly younger guys, have little to no understanding of menstruation and find the whole subject is alien to them. There’s a whole lack of education on the subject and little to no dialogue which only makes it worse. Boys need to know and understand what happens, then there would be far less of the ‘elephant in the room’ every month
On the educational note again, if anyone reads puberty related materials to kids- do you stick to gender specific materials? It's something I'm dealing with currently so would appreciate suggestions. "
I bought my son books about puberty etc that dealt with things for males and females equally, plus addressed some areas around LGBTQ too. |
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"In short; no, not at all.
I do think that an awful lot of guys, certainly younger guys, have little to no understanding of menstruation and find the whole subject is alien to them. There’s a whole lack of education on the subject and little to no dialogue which only makes it worse. Boys need to know and understand what happens, then there would be far less of the ‘elephant in the room’ every month
On the educational note again, if anyone reads puberty related materials to kids- do you stick to gender specific materials? It's something I'm dealing with currently so would appreciate suggestions.
I bought my son books about puberty etc that dealt with things for males and females equally, plus addressed some areas around LGBTQ too."
Is it The Every Body Book? |
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"Mr has no issues shopping, he’ll just phone me and ask what I need. As far as intimacy is concerned, we’ll still have a kiss and a cuddle, but sex is out of the question. Neither of us want sex at that time.
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It's good you have an understanding and work together well |
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I dont see, why any men would have a problem, with it. Its natural and if that makes them uncomfortable etc, they arent mature enough in the first place. Ive bought tampons before and I was more embarrassed buying lingerie. Although I did need to make a quick call to make sure I got the right ones |
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"Most natural thing in the world that every woman has.
I've never been with a lady who wants sex on her period but I don't have a problem helping to get supplies if needed. In my experience though most women tend to buy all their own toiletries. "
I thought it was just me! I won't have any sexual contact at period time, it's a total turn off.
I've never asked a man to buy me period products either. I'm an adult and capable of keeping a stock of what I need. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Loving some of these comments..
I have an amazing Mr who is the most supportive and patient with me, even when my hormones are all over the place, and still wants to have sex with me |
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