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With the title of this thread a felt uncomfortable passing by without saying something. 
I'm on introvert in the sense that big ol socials really drain me but I think my chat game is pretty strong these days. It just wipes me out haha |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
"Yeah Im a compleatly socially retarded to the point its not even funny"
It's considered a faux pas to use that word by some round these quarters. Sorry to add to your burden as a social pariah  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes same here total social awkward to point I don’t go out or drink anymore
Find my own company the easiest
Struggle with shopping speaking to people and starting conversation with other |
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Mmm I can be with more than a few people, especially if I'm not too sure or don't know them that well. I work in places where I have to be quite social and extroverted but if I've been around lots of people for a while then I do feel a little drained and end up needing to be by myself for a bit.
Mostly I end up doing something embarrassing or awkward 
It feels strange lockdowns coming to an end and being round lots of people again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to be socially anxious rather than awkward. My approach to combat this has been to improve converse skills. My job had aided me here because its customer facing and has provided the opportunity to practice my patter. If you can get chatting to new people have a few subjects in mind you know something about, (music,film,sports) so you have plenty to keep the chat going and engage the other person, it breaks the ice and a level of feeling comfortable is achieved and it flows from there.  |
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"Hi any 1 else out there that is socially awkward and a bit of a loner "
Meeeeeeeee! Until I found my place at Club SX (now Club Play) and SexiLexi. Still socially awkward, just better at hiding it now haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can be socially awkward. It depends on the setting I have ptsd certain sounds trigger a anxiety complex where I just want out of the social setting. I just clam up. |
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I'm sometimes very socially awkward or more anxious, especially in group situations where I tend to be quiet to avoid being centre of the conversation. I also worry too much about how I come across to others and beat myself up if I say something embarrassing.. The less attention on me the less shy I am! I'm way more confident one on one so prefer it |
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"Hi any 1 else out there that is socially awkward and a bit of a loner "
I'm socially awkward, wouldn't know it if you asked people in the scene, but it takes a lot of inner strength and energy to pretend to be an extrovert.
It can be quite draining |
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I'm socially awkward as in I don't fit in, have no filter, loud, interrupt (alot), and can be bouncing off the walls because I feed off energies, if there is a bad energy in the room i got the opposite way and become very guarded.
mixed combined adhd with a capricorn & what you got....a wild stubborn one
I do get very drained with busy places and large crowds are there is far to much going on and my brain tries to tune into it all....can knock me for days afterwards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes totally, I have an ASD. I’m socially inept, Interacting with people is very difficult and exhausting. Finding someone to connect with is next to impossible. |
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By *obwhateverMan
over a year ago
Stirling/ London/ Yorkshire |
Yep. Often just don’t know what to say to people or start conversation. There’s an expectation to be witty, pithy, insightful, engaging. I just try and keep to people I feel comfortable with. |
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I can be, especially around people I don’t know well. I’m feeling more and more anxious as we head out of lockdown as I’ll see more people. Yet for some reason I have a rather large circle of people around me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing is, on the surface, social comfort comes very easily to me
If you could see inside me though, you would see blind panic, you would see me looking for an exit, you would see the self hate for feeling that way
This is much, much worse in large groups or when meeting new people, in groups of 3 or 4 close friends I am totally at ease
Being social doesn't come naturally, I force it to function on the most basic human level |
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By *P994Man
over a year ago
Travelling |
Social awkwardness sufferer here, certain situations I can’t handle very well and striking up a conversation can be difficult as I’m about as good at small talk is a chocolate kettle is useful. Once I get to know people I’m ok but it’s that initial thing, my brain thinks they hate me, where do I put my hands and all that good stuff that makes me look daft as I’m thinking so hard I’m not talking  |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
I've been told that I am but I don't really feel that I am.
I've been loving the isolation of Lockdown with just a few skype chats a week whilst working from home to give a satisfying level of interaction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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None of you are pretending to be extroverts as they are something totally different! Most of you are just introverts with the occasional shy person thrown in!
It's a total myth that extroverts are the loudest or the chattiest or even always socially adept ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am a loner in that I love my own company. I love being on my own. As for socially awkward, no I don’t think so. I will literally talk to anyone, probably talk too much really!   |
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"Wait... so are we *all* just a bunch of introverts pretending to be extroverts?
LvM"
Half of us are introvert, half extrovert. Does that mean, as a profile, we're neutral in terms of social-ness?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you know that you are awkward? Do people say to you time to time?
...and why you are comparing being introvert to awkwardness? I don’t believe they are connected to eachother in anyway  "
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"How do you know that you are awkward? Do people say to you time to time?
...and why you are comparing being introvert to awkwardness? I don’t believe they are connected to eachother in anyway
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Yes, I've been called awkward, I tend to get nervous and say things that sometimes make people laugh but more so because I'm awkward and "silly".
I don't think you can say people aren't something if you haven't lived their experiences. |
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"How do you know that you are awkward? Do people say to you time to time?
...and why you are comparing being introvert to awkwardness? I don’t believe they are connected to eachother in anyway
Yes, I've been called awkward, I tend to get nervous and say things that sometimes make people laugh but more so because I'm awkward and "silly".
I don't think you can say people aren't something if you haven't lived their experiences. "
Thank you for explaining x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh yes. I'm great with the 'hello,how're you' with a bit smile. Then total shut down. Have know idea what to say."
Same. It used to really upset me that my social skills were on a par with your average 5 year old. I've made my peace with it now. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Oh yes. I'm great with the 'hello,how're you' with a bit smile. Then total shut down. Have know idea what to say.
Same. It used to really upset me that my social skills were on a par with your average 5 year old. I've made my peace with it now."
I’m similar. I have a deep loathing/fear of ‘small talk’ so generally struggle in new company. Unless there’s a reason to converse, I usually don’t!
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I’m a complete loner. I like and need a huge chunk of time on my own.. I’m really happy in my own company. Socially I get overexcited and talk nonsense out of sheer terror of new people. It takes a while to really understand and get to know me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep. I’d love to go to a club but I’m quite shy and I don’t know how to flirt, nor can I understand body language or look in peoples eyes so I don’t know how I’d find it!! |
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I’m socially awkward on the inside but I usually put up a front that involves lots of question asking. I learned to be more outgoing in my 20s and find placing myself in potentially awkward situations has helped overcome any fear I once had. Also, helps to get out of ones head.
That said - there is no way I’m going to a club by myself as a single guy. I would find that very awkward!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am a weird one.
I am extremely sociable...but awkward with it.
Like, my awkwardness doesnt phase me enough to stop me socialising.
I put my foot in my mouth allll the time and often in my own world |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
I had a Zoom meeting with a bunch of strangers. I wasn't shy and not short on input. I just didn't know when to interject and when I did I sounded quite abrupt and couldn't get my words out. I think I made the best points and my volume of contribution increased but my delivery remained unrefined and felt unnatural. Talking with strangers is so simple yet it's not something I've mastered.
I wouldn't make a very good newsreader, interviewer, interviewee or public speaker. My skill lies in saying nothing for an hour and then interjecting with a sharp, cutting remark. |
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