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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Always thought that a wink was to let somebody know you are interested in them.
We received one yesterday, we always check out the persons profile and realised they couldn't accomodate so just replied saying that, and also they hadn't read our profile properly.
Got a wonderful message back full of swearing saying it was just because they liked our profile and it was meant as a compliment!!
So what do others see a wink as and do you just delete them or respond in any way?  |
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I seem them largely as indicators of sexual interest, but sometimes they're fine as like a 'Hi' or 'Looking Good'. Realise many struggle with email overload, so wink overload could go the same way.
Otherwise, if I get them, and there's mutual connection, I'll wink back, and can open the door for messaging etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use them as a friendly hello. Some people actually think that a wink means you will definitely meet them for sex. I've actually received messages from people perhaps the OH has winked and if I haven't responded to the message, I get another annoyed message saying 'don't ignore me, you winked me first'.
Maybe that was the case but maybe I didn't like the choice of language used in the message.
A wink in my book is not an indication or guarantee of sex and if I received one and I did like the profile, I may just send a message saying hi but I wouldn't make assumptions thinking they wanted to meet and go on about how they don't meet my criteria.  |
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To add to my comment, some are saying that if you wink you are too lazy to message, now I'm new to the site and I have sent messages to a few people and asked if they would be kind enough to reply even if not interested , so far nothing back from anyone. |
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Everyone uses and interprets them differently. There's no one way or meaning.
I don't look at my winks. The inbox is busy enough and if the most someone is willing to do to show interest or initiate contact is click the wink button rather than actually speak to me, then they're obviously not that interested as far as I'm concerned. And at that first point of contact I don't know if I'm interested yet. I'd rather take the time to look at the ones where we're at least half way to establishing a mutual interest.
But some people do view it very differently  |
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