FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > fake it til you make it?
fake it til you make it?
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
people of the forums..
when yous are having a bad day, everything sad and meh, what pulls you around?
my usual tricks aren't working.. the good music, makeup on, pretending im a bad b!tch, faking im fine until one day i actually am.
nada.
Soooo.... what works for you? When you need a pick me up, to remind yourself you are infact awesome?
Px  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"people of the forums..
when yous are having a bad day, everything sad and meh, what pulls you around?
my usual tricks aren't working.. the good music, makeup on, pretending im a bad b!tch, faking im fine until one day i actually am.
nada.
Soooo.... what works for you? When you need a pick me up, to remind yourself you are infact awesome?
Px "
I look back at my life.... all the mistakes I made.... then look at myself now with what I have achieved despite those mistakes x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
I go for a run, long and slow; I just loose myself in my surroundings and let my mind wonder (whilst still keeping a lookout for crazy dogs and even crazier drivers). I always feel on top of the world afterwards. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I allow myself a day to wallow in self pity. Because it's something I'm feeling and it's ok to.
Pick myself up I talk to my mates to be honest. Say I'm feeling shit and they'll let me talk it out. Usually feel a bit better then |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
To be honest I've learned when I'm having days like that just to kind of let them happen.
What I mean by that is I've learned that it's OK to have an off day but obviously if it's a little bit more long term or unmanageable then might be worth chatting to someone.
Hope you feel better soon. X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I put on my gold hot pants, Choose Life crop top and hit the promenade on my roller blades, I just skate them blues away, my soundtrack is very much Girls Aloud ‘The promise’ on heavy rotation. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I put on my gold hot pants, Choose Life crop top and hit the promenade on my roller blades, I just skate them blues away, my soundtrack is very much Girls Aloud ‘The promise’ on heavy rotation. "
Give me my gold hot pants back thief  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eliWoman
over a year ago
. |
Friends letting me vent or listening to my ramblings judgement free.
Going for a waddle and forgetting everything but focusing on my breathing.
The last time I had a really meh day I made barely any contact with anyone and spent it under the duvet with Parks and Rec and marshmallows. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I put on my gold hot pants, Choose Life crop top and hit the promenade on my roller blades, I just skate them blues away, my soundtrack is very much Girls Aloud ‘The promise’ on heavy rotation.
Give me my gold hot pants back thief "
I would if I could get them off. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eliWoman
over a year ago
. |
"To be honest I've learned when I'm having days like that just to kind of let them happen.
What I mean by that is I've learned that it's OK to have an off day but obviously if it's a little bit more long term or unmanageable then might be worth chatting to someone.
Hope you feel better soon. X"
This is really important - it's definitely okay to feel crap every now and again, it doesn't necessarily need to be fixed. Wallowing can be good for resetting. Fingers crossed you get your spark back OP. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *lan157Man
over a year ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
I am capable of digging some very deep holes for myself but fortunately I have family and friends who recognise when it happens and are ready to step forward to help. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I am capable of digging some very deep holes for myself but fortunately I have family and friends who recognise when it happens and are ready to step forward to help."
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I listen to Death Metal on full volume and pretend my kitchen is a mosh pit. The combination of working out my frustration to loud music and the endorphins released by insane exercise lifts my mood.
Plus I love Entombed!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Sometimes I'll just make the conscious decision to wallow in it, give myself permission to just spend a whole day feeling blue.
Giving myself the space to feel it rather than trying to jolly myself out of it sometimes is enough to make the fog lift a little.
Only if it's a short lived blue funk though, anything more serious or long lived needs more than a wallow! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Have these days quite often, just normally sit it out and tell myself it won’t last forever. A better day will always come round. If it’s a Friday I’ll have a few beers  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I put on my gold hot pants, Choose Life crop top and hit the promenade on my roller blades, I just skate them blues away, my soundtrack is very much Girls Aloud ‘The promise’ on heavy rotation.
Give me my gold hot pants back thief
I would if I could get them off. "
That’ll teach you; they’re an 8. Are they catching on your ‘excitement’?  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Have these days quite often, just normally sit it out and tell myself it won’t last forever. A better day will always come round. If it’s a Friday I’ll have a few beers "
This is very true.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Have you tried journaling? Using it as a way to observe your thoughts?
As others have said, it’s ok to sit with those feelings, and have a sad day too.
Sending you hugs xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I allow myself a day to wallow in self pity. Because it's something I'm feeling and it's ok to.
Pick myself up I talk to my mates to be honest. Say I'm feeling shit and they'll let me talk it out. Usually feel a bit better then "
Wallowing to give myself space is a good first step for me too. Then I do something constructive but enjoyable, then I work on my psych crap. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I don’t try to pretend. It’s human to have emotions and trying to pretend that I’m feeling one way when I’m actually another isn’t helping anyone.
If I can’t shake off a low mood, then I need to understand what’s causing it, then go from there.
Feeling down is normal, it’s ok to not be ok. Just know that the feeling will pass |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I don’t try to pretend. It’s human to have emotions and trying to pretend that I’m feeling one way when I’m actually another isn’t helping anyone.
If I can’t shake off a low mood, then I need to understand what’s causing it, then go from there.
Feeling down is normal, it’s ok to not be ok. Just know that the feeling will pass"
I totally agree.
It's bloody exhausting pretending to be OK when your not. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I don’t try to pretend. It’s human to have emotions and trying to pretend that I’m feeling one way when I’m actually another isn’t helping anyone.
If I can’t shake off a low mood, then I need to understand what’s causing it, then go from there.
Feeling down is normal, it’s ok to not be ok. Just know that the feeling will pass
I totally agree.
It's bloody exhausting pretending to be OK when your not. "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
Afternoon went a bit shit for me.
I'm overeating and making myself feel worse.
Hopefully, tomorrow will be a better day all around.
All I can say is don't eat chocolate; you'll feel worse in the long run. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"people of the forums..
when yous are having a bad day, everything sad and meh, what pulls you around?
my usual tricks aren't working.. the good music, makeup on, pretending im a bad b!tch, faking im fine until one day i actually am.
nada.
Soooo.... what works for you? When you need a pick me up, to remind yourself you are infact awesome?
Px "
As long as it’s not happening a lot it’s fine, it’s normal, go with it rather than fight it. You can have different activities for those days and learn to enjoy it...... RGU k if it like allowing yourself to have a real good cry at a funeral, you feel content after. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
