I'm no psychologist but surely that comes down to each relationship.
I'm "happily" single. Why? Because previous partners have fucked with my head and how I view the world and the people in it.
Had I had therapy to resolve underlying issues regarding my relationship with my mother and unwired the bad wiring there, I'd have hopefully made different partner choices which may have led to me being happily married now.
So, by happily single, I just mean "safely single" |
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I'm happily single.
After a crap marriage and years of counselling . I'm happy to make my own decisions. Wear what i like.Spend money on what i want with no questions being asked .
And lastly feeling safe in my own home with no risk of injury or upset.  |
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"I'm no psychologist but surely that comes down to each relationship.
I'm "happily" single. Why? Because previous partners have fucked with my head and how I view the world and the people in it.
Had I had therapy to resolve underlying issues regarding my relationship with my mother and unwired the bad wiring there, I'd have hopefully made different partner choices which may have led to me being happily married now.
So, by happily single, I just mean "safely single" "
Seems the experience has now made you a much wiser and stronger person. Relationships can teach us that not everyone has the same heart as we do.  |
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"I'm happily single.
After a crap marriage and years of counselling . I'm happy to make my own decisions. Wear what i like.Spend money on what i want with no questions being asked .
And lastly feeling safe in my own home with no risk of injury or upset. "
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"People who get married do not end up any happier than they were when they were single!?
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It’s untrue. Unless you’re in a bad marriage, or are chronically depressed |
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We are happily married, 11 years this year, and after I ( Jason) have had 2 previous failed marriages I do believe it's about finding the right person. I'm proud , honoured and frankly bemused that someone as stunningly beautiful and kind and funny as Rhiannon would choose to marry me. I go out of my way to make her smile every day and love to see her laugh. We are still learning things about eachother and even in bed we still find new surprises. When we play with others I love to know she's enjoying the night and she makes sure I am too. She's a generous lover and truly kind. Being married might just be a bit of paper to some but to us it's saying I chose you, I love you and your happiness is my primary objective above all other things and I know you won't just walk away it things get hard. It's trust and security. It's home  |
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"I'm no psychologist but surely that comes down to each relationship.
I'm "happily" single. Why? Because previous partners have fucked with my head and how I view the world and the people in it.
Had I had therapy to resolve underlying issues regarding my relationship with my mother and unwired the bad wiring there, I'd have hopefully made different partner choices which may have led to me being happily married now.
So, by happily single, I just mean "safely single"
Seems the experience has now made you a much wiser and stronger person. Relationships can teach us that not everyone has the same heart as we do. "
It has yeah, but it's also a bitter pill to swallow and takes some acceptance. I'd never imagined saying in my early 40s that I'll never have love again, I'll never share my bed, hold hands, share glances, birthdays, Xmas's, holidays and hopes with someone else. No looking at photos of happy faces on my walls and saying "wasn't that a lovely day"
It's upsetting, I'd be lying if I said it wasn't. The point is, that's less upsetting and more favourable than being lied to, cheated on, used as a punch bag.
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I've never been single so can't compare but having been married twice can say that it's all about who you are married too, how in sync you are and what you make of your time together that dictates how happy you'll be.
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I think that's very untrue. Sure, some people probably do end up unhappy. But so many end up happier than ever when married, even after years and years of being husband and wife. It's all down to the relationship I suppose. And plus being single doesn't always mean being unhappy. |
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I'm happily married and wouldn't change it. I still enjoy sex with others, so have the best of both worlds, but my connection with my husband is extremely deep routed xx |
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"I'm happily married and wouldn't change it. I still enjoy sex with others, so have the best of both worlds, but my connection with my husband is extremely deep routed xx"
Guessing this is a good marriage where each partner secretly suspects they got the better deal. |
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Very true are the words:-
“SINGLE doesn’t always mean lonely. RELATIONSHIP doesn’t always mean HAPPY.”
It is far better to be single wishing you were married than married wishing you were single.
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"People who get married do not end up any happier than they were when they were single!?
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I was generally happy single, but I have some love friends. I am honestly happier now than I ever remember being before marriage.
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"People who get married do not end up any happier than they were when they were single!?
I was generally happy single, but I have some love friends. I am honestly happier now than I ever remember being before marriage.
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Im in a relationship where i dont live with my partner and its perfect for us.
I cant imagine living with someone again.
My married was so long ago and non evenful ive kind of forgotten what its like to be married.
So im happy as i am |
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"Very true are the words:-
“SINGLE doesn’t always mean lonely. RELATIONSHIP doesn’t always mean HAPPY.”
It is far better to be single wishing you were married than married wishing you were single.
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Completely agree I think it's often the case that happy single people and happy marriages are the products of those people involved being intrinsicly happy and fulfilled within themselves. They don't necessarily need a partner for fulfilment, it's a beautiful bonus.  |
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