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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Drawing from the thread kissing and the way it was worded, I was curious to know what ppl's opinion on whether or not kissing is more intimate than sex ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing can be intimate. It’s a strange thing for me (and maybe some others can relate.)
I can give a kiss or take a kiss. To share a kiss, that’s where it feels intimate. When you both want to enjoy each other, the longing to taste each other’s lips.
Otherwise one is just giving lip service, so to speak. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think some times it is.
Sometimes kissing, much like sex can just be an act. It can be superficial.
However other times, when you really kiss with feeling, it can convey so much, it can be so wonderful, passionate and very intimate. I guess a lot depends on how much we give of ourselves. Do the walls that guard us come down. When they do and our souls are exposed, that's true intimacy. That can happen in a conversation as much as it can a kiss or during sex. |
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For me it is an incredibly intimate act, I understand how some couples don't like kissing with others outside of their relationship, penetration is more of a crass act but add kissing in and the making love border blurs in some people's minds |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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A good kiss is a thing of beauty. You can give anyone a kiss and it be friendly, pleasant, enjoyable but a kiss with a person you have a strong connection with is a very intimate act. More intimate than sex? Yes, I think it can with the right person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A good kiss is a thing of beauty. You can give anyone a kiss and it be friendly, pleasant, enjoyable but a kiss with a person you have a strong connection with is a very intimate act. More intimate than sex? Yes, I think it can with the right person. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate. "
Oooohhhh. That’s a good point.   |
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By *odgerMan
over a year ago
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"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate. "
Why would you kiss someone that you wouldn't have sex with?  Get it when you're young but as an adult??? |
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"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate.
Why would you kiss someone that you wouldn't have sex with? Get it when you're young but as an adult???"
Women and men are different. Women cam kiss and stop there. Most men only kiss to distract the girl as they race to jam their hands down her panties |
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By *odgerMan
over a year ago
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"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate.
Why would you kiss someone that you wouldn't have sex with? Get it when you're young but as an adult???
Women and men are different. Women cam kiss and stop there. Most men only kiss to distract the girl as they race to jam their hands down her panties "
Ah right..thanks...never knew that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drawing from the thread kissing and the way it was worded, I was curious to know what ppl's opinion on whether or not kissing is more intimate than sex ?
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That’s a really good question. Made me think. For me, it certainly adds to the depth of intimacy, but I’m not sure if it is in itself more intimate. It’s not like I’d just turn up to a meet and only kiss. I wouldn’t really class them as alternatives. I certainly like to kiss the person I’m with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A good kiss is a thing of beauty. You can give anyone a kiss and it be friendly, pleasant, enjoyable but a kiss with a person you have a strong connection with is a very intimate act. More intimate than sex? Yes, I think it can with the right person. "
Definitely this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate.
Why would you kiss someone that you wouldn't have sex with? Get it when you're young but as an adult???"
So am I understanding you correctly in that if someone kisses you then you assume they will have sex with you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Little kisses with Sir are very intimate, very powerful, very ..... very ..... very ..... erm ..... yeah, just yeah. Oh how I miss those.
As she goes off into a land of dreams where only she and Sir exist. |
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I think at times it can be more intimate but it depends on the person.
If a kiss is done right, all your feelings go into it, the connection, the expressiveness, the desire, the sensuality of it all...
Before and after looking deep into someone’s eyes...it’s an incredibly intimate moment.
K
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"I would say sex is far more intimate than kissing although i would not have sex without the kissing."
Exactly! I’m only joking when I say I’m hoping people’s fear of kissing isn’t a result of them bringing the rules of their job home with them. I think that’s rule 1 of the world’s oldest profession  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some really interesting views here. It is entirely possible to have sex without kissing and there are many scenarios for that....gloryholes, gangbangs being the obvious ones. Interesting seeing people comment about lovemaking vs sex. I am on a swinging site as part of a couple, lovemaking is not what I would want, but sex is.
Also really great to see the comment about couples may see it differently than singles. I am the female in a couple and I do find kissing more intimate than sex but strangely when kissing a woman it doesn't feel intimate in the same way as kissing guys.
Same as a lot of things, think it depends on the context at the time, situation, the environment, the positions etc as to how intimate something is.
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I only kiss the people I love. Intimacy *to me* is a rare and special thing, not something I can establish with just anybody, even temporarily. In my opinion intimacy and love go hand in hand therefore I don't kiss the people I have casual, sexual encounters with. |
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"I only kiss the people I love. Intimacy *to me* is a rare and special thing, not something I can establish with just anybody, even temporarily. In my opinion intimacy and love go hand in hand therefore I don't kiss the people I have casual, sexual encounters with. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only kiss the people I love. Intimacy *to me* is a rare and special thing, not something I can establish with just anybody, even temporarily. In my opinion intimacy and love go hand in hand therefore I don't kiss the people I have casual, sexual encounters with. "
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By *odgerMan
over a year ago
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"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate.
Why would you kiss someone that you wouldn't have sex with? Get it when you're young but as an adult???
So am I understanding you correctly in that if someone kisses you then you assume they will have sex with you? "
Well not if it was a peck on the cheek no. When I was at university there'd be a lots of snogging..sometimes it'd lead to other things...most times it didn't. In later life I don't think I've been in a situation where a snog didn't lead to something else...well apart from a social where the snogging felt a little sympathetic and a reward for driving for 90 mins |
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"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate.
Why would you kiss someone that you wouldn't have sex with? Get it when you're young but as an adult???
Women and men are different. Women cam kiss and stop there. Most men only kiss to distract the girl as they race to jam their hands down her panties "
It is one of those basic primal things. Men usually initiate the wet tongue kisses. It is a way of delivering their testosterone into us, to flick our switch to want to engage in sex. |
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By *odgerMan
over a year ago
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"I have always thought kissing was the most intimate part of sex/love making, the closeness of our faces, the eye contact, breathing each other’s breath, tongues entwined, being held close, closing your eyes to savour the moment 
Right who wants a snog   "
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I’ve often thought that on fab, things are inverted and we see things upside down, often we see a person’s genitals before their face, discuss sex without even knowing their names and often view sex as a pleasurable pass time. In those conditions, an act like kissing can be the most intimate thing.
Do I see it as such? Not necessarily but I don’t see sex as the height of intimacy on here either.
It’s all a case of who you’re doing it with |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think so. Like most things in life it's situational - I could give a tipsy kiss to someone I found attractive without thinking much beyond the fact it's something that gives me pleasure at that moment in time with someone who gives me pleasure. I suppose that's how some approach casual sex.
For me it would depend on my relationship with someone. The right kiss really is (as soppy as it may read) the brief meeting of two souls. Then again sex can feel that way as well. Hmmm. I'm going with neither and both are as intimate, it depends on you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kissing can be intimate. It’s a strange thing for me (and maybe some others can relate.)
I can give a kiss or take a kiss. To share a kiss, that’s where it feels intimate. When you both want to enjoy each other, the longing to taste each other’s lips.
Otherwise one is just giving lip service, so to speak. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Interesting replies so far!
Even though I juxtaposed both actions, I wasn't implying that they are mutually separated from each other and can, of course, happen simultaneously to heighten the experience that sex can be.
IMO, as stated by many and by the striking quote from EssexLuv, kissing is a soul affair (given there is a connection) while sex can be both, a mechanical act to scratch an itch so to speak or a deeper meaning act.
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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I absolutely adore kissing, could spend hours doing it, however it depends on the situation as to whether I find it intimate or not, quick hook up then not at all I can happily not kiss, with someone I have a connection to then it's a definite act of intimacy as it just adds to the whole experience with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it's someone meaningless and just a quick kiss and fuck then no.
I guess it depends on what you feel about the person you're with. I think with the right person, even just looking into their eyes in a moment you feel something for them could be more intimate than sex.
I'm not sure if that makes sense. But yes, I think kissing and other things can definitely be more intimate than sex in the right moment with the right person. |
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"It just takes two bodies for sex. But it needs two souls to kiss. I think !...."
This hit me in the feels.
I'm quite surprised at the comments on this thread actually, and in a good way.
Very often those who don't feel comfortable kissing on meets get spoken down to, or their feelings dismissed by flippant comments. I do hope those comment makers read this thread and it unlocks a little something in their minds to help them *get it*
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only kiss people I find attractive and want to have sex with.
I wouldn’t just kiss and continue my day as if nothing has happened. I think that’s pointless |
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"It just takes two bodies for sex. But it needs two souls to kiss. I think !....
This hit me in the feels.
I'm quite surprised at the comments on this thread actually, and in a good way.
Very often those who don't feel comfortable kissing on meets get spoken down to, or their feelings dismissed by flippant comments. I do hope those comment makers read this thread and it unlocks a little something in their minds to help them *get it*
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Thanks for saying this. I do completely understand, and if a woman asked not to kiss but still wanted to have fun, her wish is my command.
I think my upbringing taught me that you ha e to kiss lots and lots before moving further or the female would think I thought she was a slut.
On the plus side, not kissing leaves much more room to use our mouths for telling each other how “good we feel” or other words and phrases
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it's someone meaningless and just a quick kiss and fuck then no.
I guess it depends on what you feel about the person you're with. I think with the right person, even just looking into their eyes in a moment you feel something for them could be more intimate than sex.
I'm not sure if that makes sense. But yes, I think kissing and other things can definitely be more intimate than sex in the right moment with the right person."
Mr here(T has posted the last couple of comments!) I agree with this statement, any interaction can be intimate, with the right chemistry/situation. Kissing can just be hot and horny, as can sex. Intimacy is an emotional connection, not always related to physical contact. I don't think any one act is always one or the other, it's always down to the people involved.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only kiss the people I love. Intimacy *to me* is a rare and special thing, not something I can establish with just anybody, even temporarily. In my opinion intimacy and love go hand in hand therefore I don't kiss the people I have casual, sexual encounters with. "
^ this
We've agreed on this several times before. |
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I think it’s different for couples (not all couples ) I’m not looking for a connection or intimacy or to look into someone else’s eyes I have all that and more from my husband .There are some things that we can’t physically do with just the 2 of us bi sex group sex etc so kissing isn’t really that much of a big deal to me. |
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"I only kiss the people I love. Intimacy *to me* is a rare and special thing, not something I can establish with just anybody, even temporarily. In my opinion intimacy and love go hand in hand therefore I don't kiss the people I have casual, sexual encounters with.
^ this
We've agreed on this several times before."
We have . I think we've also agreed that an ability to accept other people's preferences is an attractive trait |
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"Drawing from the thread kissing and the way it was worded, I was curious to know what ppl's opinion on whether or not kissing is more intimate than sex ?
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it for me isn't about being more intimate. I had a traumatic experience where the kissing was the bit that caused me issues for all my life... so I am very careful with who I kiss as it can and has triggered very upsetting flashbacks for me. Where as sex and in particular more primal sex doesn't.
I've made love to very few people in my life. And stick to having fun my way via swinging |
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"For me personally the biggest intimacy is hand holding. It can convey so much with such a simple gesture. "
Yes, I was going to mention hand holding. Such a simple act but so meaningful.
I was sitting with my dad once (as an adult) and he said
"Hold my hand (then my name)"
It was the same as saying
"I love you" |
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"For me personally the biggest intimacy is hand holding. It can convey so much with such a simple gesture.
Yes, I was going to mention hand holding. Such a simple act but so meaningful.
I was sitting with my dad once (as an adult) and he said
"Hold my hand (then my name)"
It was the same as saying
"I love you""
Exactly I only hold hands with those I love. And it is a non verbal way of saying I love you and I'm here for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It just takes two bodies for sex. But it needs two souls to kiss. I think !....
This hit me in the feels.
I'm quite surprised at the comments on this thread actually, and in a good way.
Very often those ...... I do hope those comment makers read this thread and it unlocks a little something in their minds to help them *get it*
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Yeah totally true.
Some really don’t get to understand just by reading. But need to experience. Like we can’t swim just by reading. No? |
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"Drawing from the thread kissing and the way it was worded, I was curious to know what ppl's opinion on whether or not kissing is more intimate than sex ?
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Not really. My tongue isn’t 8 inches long. |
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I do get your point haha 