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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont know the ratio but yes its very male heavy, people not meeting because of covid won’t make it any easier just now
probably best just to pull up a chair in the forums or chatrooms and engage that way for a while instead |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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The ratio is somewhere between 10 and 15 to one - but it really is only as hard as you want to make it for yourself to be honest.
The tools are all there to improve your experience of the site, and even better they're all within your control, it just comes down to whether you choose to use them or not - they won't guarantee a thing, but they'll help with your perception.
When people say they're not finding what they want from the site, it often comes down to one, some or all of five key things - none of which will guarantee a thing, but all of which are within your control and will improve your perception of the site - so take a look at these and see where you think you could make adjustments:
Profile - does it sell you well, telling others about you and not only what you're looking for, but what you think you can offer also. Is it appealing and has enough to pique interest, or is it generic and much the same as thousands of other guys here?
Pics - are your pics a good reflection of you and your body, with a little creativity and teasing thrown in, or are they just hastily taken snaps or a series of pics of your cock?
Expectations - are they set correctly or do you need to turn them down a notch, or allow for the current situation and accept that right now a lot of people aren't looking to chat, let alone meet, new people. The default setting for expectations should always be low when it comes to getting meets.
Attitude - have you got it right? Are you always positive or do you bemoan your lack of "luck" on the site? Are you always polite and respectful not only to people you approach, but other users?
Approach - have you found the right approach to the site for you? It doesn't *have* to be about blindly messaging people and hoping they reply, the forums and chat rooms are a good way to get to know people, and them you - likewise when they open/start again clubs and group socials.
Take those into account and you won't be going far wrong, as I said, it won't guarantee a thing but it will improve your experience and perception. |
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I’m in the same life raft as you OP
The ratio is something like 400 - 1 so almost impossible!
As said try and chat in the chat rooms or as you’ve found chip in on the forums.
That’s what I’m doing you won’t win most of the time but the odd friend(s) you may make are worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i dont know the ratio but yes its very male heavy, people not meeting because of covid won’t make it any easier just now
probably best just to pull up a chair in the forums or chatrooms and engage that way for a while instead "
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fill ya profile in op with a bit about urself and what ur into ect and get some pics on not just cock pics,this site is brilliant u just need to advertise urself,u wouldnt buy a car in the paper with no write up would ya, |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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"The ratio is somewhere between 10 and 15 to one - but it really is only as hard as you want to make it for yourself to be honest.
The tools are all there to improve your experience of the site, and even better they're all within your control, it just comes down to whether you choose to use them or not - they won't guarantee a thing, but they'll help with your perception.
When people say they're not finding what they want from the site, it often comes down to one, some or all of five key things - none of which will guarantee a thing, but all of which are within your control and will improve your perception of the site - so take a look at these and see where you think you could make adjustments:
Profile - does it sell you well, telling others about you and not only what you're looking for, but what you think you can offer also. Is it appealing and has enough to pique interest, or is it generic and much the same as thousands of other guys here?
Pics - are your pics a good reflection of you and your body, with a little creativity and teasing thrown in, or are they just hastily taken snaps or a series of pics of your cock?
Expectations - are they set correctly or do you need to turn them down a notch, or allow for the current situation and accept that right now a lot of people aren't looking to chat, let alone meet, new people. The default setting for expectations should always be low when it comes to getting meets.
Attitude - have you got it right? Are you always positive or do you bemoan your lack of "luck" on the site? Are you always polite and respectful not only to people you approach, but other users?
Approach - have you found the right approach to the site for you? It doesn't *have* to be about blindly messaging people and hoping they reply, the forums and chat rooms are a good way to get to know people, and them you - likewise when they open/start again clubs and group socials.
Take those into account and you won't be going far wrong, as I said, it won't guarantee a thing but it will improve your experience and perception."
Very well put that. I think the expectations aspect is crucial. If your expectations is having sex every other weekend then maybe its time to lower that expectations down. Its tough being a single guy.. I should know but having that mentality of going with the flow will help in the long run. And besides, never say never as you may find someone suitable one day. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone know what the ratio is? It’s very hard for a single bloke on here. "
Don’t worry, it’s not just single blokes that find maths hard. I find it difficult to figure out as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone know what the ratio is? It’s very hard for a single bloke on here. "
. Put it this way I’m tempted to start doing the lottery. Never ever struggled with woman till this site. Even get questioned coz no verifications but the woman I like don’t even read my message let alone more lol. Ok il put the violin away
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"fill ya profile in op with a bit about urself and what ur into ect and get some pics on not just cock pics,this site is brilliant u just need to advertise urself,u wouldnt buy a car in the paper with no write up would ya,"
exactly this.
It's like saying on eBay , I'm selling a motorbike but you can't see it, or only a glimpse of the exhaust, but it is nice honest!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did a very un-scientific test a week or two ago for another thread. At that point, within 5 miles of my location, I think 30 women looking for men had been active in the previous week. When I searched for men looking for women in the same radius, there had been 90 in the previous hour. I appreciate, of course, the times we live in currently, but it wasn’t the first time I’d done the ‘test’, but the results are always similar. |
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"fill ya profile in op with a bit about urself and what ur into ect and get some pics on not just cock pics,this site is brilliant u just need to advertise urself,u wouldnt buy a car in the paper with no write up would ya, exactly this.
It's like saying on eBay , I'm selling a motorbike but you can't see it, or only a glimpse of the exhaust, but it is nice honest!!!"
Yes 
On the dating sites its all about the face pics for first attractions, on here it's more intimate pics for first attractions and then you run the BOB FOC gauntlet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok, so the facts... Yes guys probably outnumber women and couples here... But how many of them are actually putting the effort in, or even actually real?
But it isn't like any of the couples or women here owe anybody anything! It isn't like if the ratio was 1 to 1 you would be 'guarenteed' what ever it is you are looking for.
Just be nice, stand out from the crowd of let's face it, mostly morons, for God sake dont send any unsolicited dick pics, and you will probably meet some nice people in return! |
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"The ratio is somewhere between 10 and 15 to one - but it really is only as hard as you want to make it for yourself to be honest.
The tools are all there to improve your experience of the site, and even better they're all within your control, it just comes down to whether you choose to use them or not - they won't guarantee a thing, but they'll help with your perception.
When people say they're not finding what they want from the site, it often comes down to one, some or all of five key things - none of which will guarantee a thing, but all of which are within your control and will improve your perception of the site - so take a look at these and see where you think you could make adjustments:
Profile - does it sell you well, telling others about you and not only what you're looking for, but what you think you can offer also. Is it appealing and has enough to pique interest, or is it generic and much the same as thousands of other guys here?
Pics - are your pics a good reflection of you and your body, with a little creativity and teasing thrown in, or are they just hastily taken snaps or a series of pics of your cock?
Expectations - are they set correctly or do you need to turn them down a notch, or allow for the current situation and accept that right now a lot of people aren't looking to chat, let alone meet, new people. The default setting for expectations should always be low when it comes to getting meets.
Attitude - have you got it right? Are you always positive or do you bemoan your lack of "luck" on the site? Are you always polite and respectful not only to people you approach, but other users?
Approach - have you found the right approach to the site for you? It doesn't *have* to be about blindly messaging people and hoping they reply, the forums and chat rooms are a good way to get to know people, and them you - likewise when they open/start again clubs and group socials.
Take those into account and you won't be going far wrong, as I said, it won't guarantee a thing but it will improve your experience and perception."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok, so the facts... Yes guys probably outnumber women and couples here... But how many of them are actually putting the effort in, or even actually real?
*** But it isn't like any of the couples or women here owe anybody anything! It isn't like if the ratio was 1 to 1 you would be 'guarenteed' what ever it is you are looking for. ***
Just be nice, stand out from the crowd of let's face it, mostly morons, for God sake dont send any unsolicited dick pics, and you will probably meet some nice people in return! "
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"Anyone know what the ratio is? It’s very hard for a single bloke on here. "
The ratio doesn't really matter, it could be 1:1 but that still doesn't mean you're going to get laid.
Pretend it's 5000:1 and up your game accordingly.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Will fill in later
*uploads cock pic*
*waits*
*checks WiFi is working*
*it’s working*
Dammit, no messages yet.....,,,oh come on this is bullshit, Ok, stay patient they’re probably composing their messages now.......
Bollocks to this, I thought this was gonna be clunge city.
*starts thread*
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