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over a year ago
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Why oh why oh why is it so hard to find and make connections with people local to you???
Been on fab awhile now and have made loads of friends on the forums your all great and some very sexy people that I shear an attraction to yet they are all miles away from me. There seem to be a fair few people in the Plymouth area on fab yet it seems impossible to make any connection with them at all. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has this problem on fab but just wanted a little rant this moring about it   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What made you think it would be easy?"
I never said it would be easy just amazed how difficult it is to make connections with local people when I've made some great friends on the forums
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why oh why oh why is it so hard to find and make connections with people local to you???
Been on fab awhile now and have made loads of friends on the forums your all great and some very sexy people that I shear an attraction to yet they are all miles away from me. There seem to be a fair few people in the Plymouth area on fab yet it seems impossible to make any connection with them at all. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has this problem on fab but just wanted a little rant this moring about it "
Try Exeter. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why oh why oh why is it so hard to find and make connections with people local to you???
Been on fab awhile now and have made loads of friends on the forums your all great and some very sexy people that I shear an attraction to yet they are all miles away from me. There seem to be a fair few people in the Plymouth area on fab yet it seems impossible to make any connection with them at all. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has this problem on fab but just wanted a little rant this moring about it
Try Exeter."
I have chatted to a couple of people in Exeter and that seemed to be a waste of time to be honest but when I say local I mean Plymouth and South East cornwall |
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Being where you are is a hindrance because you have a smaller pool of people around you. On one side of you there are people (and then Dartmoor) , and on the other side you only have the sea. On top of that, not being near a big city, you are already in a low-population area. Then there are the issues of being a single man we all know about.
Unfortunately you have a perfect storm of issues working against you. |
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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago
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"Why oh why oh why is it so hard to find and make connections with people local to you???
Been on fab awhile now and have made loads of friends on the forums your all great and some very sexy people that I shear an attraction to yet they are all miles away from me. There seem to be a fair few people in the Plymouth area on fab yet it seems impossible to make any connection with them at all. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has this problem on fab but just wanted a little rant this moring about it
Try Exeter."
I went there once no luck either! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why oh why oh why is it so hard to find and make connections with people local to you???
Been on fab awhile now and have made loads of friends on the forums your all great and some very sexy people that I shear an attraction to yet they are all miles away from me. There seem to be a fair few people in the Plymouth area on fab yet it seems impossible to make any connection with them at all. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has this problem on fab but just wanted a little rant this moring about it
Try Exeter.
I went there once no luck either!"
Oh blimey. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why oh why oh why is it so hard to find and make connections with people local to you???
Been on fab awhile now and have made loads of friends on the forums your all great and some very sexy people that I shear an attraction to yet they are all miles away from me. There seem to be a fair few people in the Plymouth area on fab yet it seems impossible to make any connection with them at all. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has this problem on fab but just wanted a little rant this moring about it
Try Exeter. I have chatted to a couple of people in Exeter and that seemed to be a waste of time to be honest but when I say local I mean Plymouth and South East cornwall"
If you relocate to Glasgow Bluebell won't meet you. But you might get more interest in Plymouth. |
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I think the distance is the reason. Establishing a rapport with someone local brings an expectation that meeting up may happen, however likely or not. If there’s some distance then that pressure is removed and people feel more comfortable about it. Obviously there will be exceptions.
Similar to how it’s easier to tell your problems to a stranger I suppose |
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It’s okay having people at a distance if you have longer periods of time without commitments .but l agree so much simpler to arrange meets if you only have an evening free if they are local.
Any clubs near you ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It’s okay having people at a distance if you have longer periods of time without commitments .but l agree so much simpler to arrange meets if you only have an evening free if they are local.
Any clubs near you ?"
I think there is a club in torquey but I've never been to one also a gay and bi club in Plymouth but that isn't my thing lol. Just seems easy to chat with formites yet local profiles are a no go  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have chatted to a couple of people in Exeter and that seemed to be a waste of time to be honest but when I say local I mean Plymouth and South East cornwall"
This is just SO Exeter. |
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"I think the distance is the reason. Establishing a rapport with someone local brings an expectation that meeting up may happen, however likely or not. If there’s some distance then that pressure is removed and people feel more comfortable about it. Obviously there will be exceptions.
Similar to how it’s easier to tell your problems to a stranger I suppose"
This is what I was gonna say (not word for word, there ain't a cunt in there) |
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"I seem to be having a similar issue although having a car and loving day trips has it's perks  day trip my way any time u like
Now THAT'S a day trip, 6 hours one way! "
We could go down together take it in turns
Seriously tho maybe look further out. I was seeing a guy from Devon but we made wknds of it. You may not want that tho. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I agree with those who said it may be your location.
Me for example, being in Cambridge, not only am I surrounded by a city, but im an 80min train ride from London and a couple/3 hours from B'ham/Manchester/L'pool. I'm pretty lucky with where I am tbh.
You know you're always welcome though |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I seem to be having a similar issue although having a car and loving day trips has it's perks day trip my way any time u like
Now THAT'S a day trip, 6 hours one way!
We could go down together take it in turns
Seriously tho maybe look further out. I was seeing a guy from Devon but we made wknds of it. You may not want that tho. "
I'm a single dad of 5 children so difficult to do weekends away offen x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I seem to be having a similar issue although having a car and loving day trips has it's perks day trip my way any time u like
Now THAT'S a day trip, 6 hours one way!
We could go down together take it in turns
Seriously tho maybe look further out. I was seeing a guy from Devon but we made wknds of it. You may not want that tho. "
That's a lovely offer. If I'm ever popping down south, you're welcome to hop in |
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Agree with location as I live in Cheshire, Liverpool and Manchester about an hour away. The coast for Blackpool is an hour and a half or even London is a possibility as a couple of hours from here.
So the solution is easy ...move to Cheshire  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"connecting online can be so distorted and masked with so many lies etc women are fed up with men's attitude as well"
yes I'm told many men are rather unpleasant on here
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"Agree with location as I live in Cheshire, Liverpool and Manchester about an hour away. The coast for Blackpool is an hour and a half or even London is a possibility as a couple of hours from here.
So the solution is easy ...move to Cheshire "
u just want me close to you lol |
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"Agree with location as I live in Cheshire, Liverpool and Manchester about an hour away. The coast for Blackpool is an hour and a half or even London is a possibility as a couple of hours from here.
So the solution is easy ...move to Cheshire u just want me close to you lol"
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unfortunately...
Sometimes a bit of piece and quiet is all I ask for from time to time 
If you aren’t able to travel far then yes I can see that would be a bit of a pisser 
