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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How many times have you been ignorant or oblivious to people flirting with you, to find out they have fancied you for ages?
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Have you been flirting and making suggestions to someone and they haven’t got the hint yet? Or
You found out after that both of you were unsure you liked each other after not wanting to play your cards early?
*takes a breath   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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“ You found out after that both of you were unsure you liked each other after not wanting to play your cards early?”
That seems to be the case for me usually  |
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I am terrible at flirting, I go from extremes of either being like a mouse or embarrassingly obviously.
Usually embarrassingly obvious to those who have no interest in me. I’m really crap at knowing if someone’s flirting with me unless they are direct, but I can tell if I’m wasting my time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many times have you been ignorant or oblivious to people flirting with you, to find out they have fancied you for ages?
Or
Have you been flirting and making suggestions to someone and they haven’t got the hint yet? Or
You found out after that both of you were unsure you liked each other after not wanting to play your cards early?
*takes a breath "
All the damned time! I'm always surprised when someone is interested in me!
I was flawed when a few years back a friend I'd know for ages told me she'd a crush on me for ages, I was bloody speechless. Such as a shame  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my daily life I assume that no one is interested and it would have to be something really obvious for me to get the hint.
As for me flirting - forget it 
I wouldn't know where to start |
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I've never had this, when I like someone I go straight in with the I fancy you. I have known when people have been flirting with me, but I won't say anything on the thread because I don't want them to have false/unsure thoughts about my intentions, eapecially if it is not reciprocated its easier to keep it private and respectful |
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It depends...in person I love a good flirt, and I'm pretty adept at picking up on whether someone is flirting with me or not.
In messages, not so much.
But either way I don't tend to be very subtle if I like someone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m useless at flirting and I seldom get flirted with unless they’re d*unk "
I never drink logged in on here. I can’t imagine what trouble I would get into... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think I'm brilliant at reading signs...turns out I'm not really 
Another thing to add to my self improvement list 2021 edition...  "
I like your username. Who wouldn’t like a cherry ontop? |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
Passed Beyond Reach |
Don't flirt, very direct. I don't do empty complements (shag me complements). I complement only if there is something to complement. I am also that guy who'll say "its your arse that make you your arse look big in that" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I'm better at reading signs than traditional signalling. Haha.. I do enjoy non rushed approach though so it does work out. Probably I'm too subtle or banterish at times to be taken 'seriously' |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I’m awful at reading signs or subtext regarding when a person is flirting with me, I usually assume that they do that with everyone and are being friendly. I’m also awful at flirting.
Quite how I’ve managed to ever have sex is beyond me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m useless at flirting and I seldom get flirted with unless they’re d*unk
I never drink logged in on here. I can’t imagine what trouble I would get into...
Oh please do it could turn out well "
I’ll go and get beer |
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I am *completely fucking blind* to this stuff. I have to work on the assumption that nobody is interested and any “signals” I think I might detect are just wishful thinking on my part.
I want to live in a world where it’s safe and acceptable to go up to someone and say “Hello. I find you very attractive. Would you like to have sex?”, and they can reply yes or no.
Yes? Wonderful. We go off and have sex.
No? That’s fine too. “I understand. My apologies for disturbing you. Have a good day.”
We have words. I wish we could use them instead of expecting everyone to read minds.
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"I am *completely fucking blind* to this stuff. I have to work on the assumption that nobody is interested and any “signals” I think I might detect are just wishful thinking on my part.
I want to live in a world where it’s safe and acceptable to go up to someone and say “Hello. I find you very attractive. Would you like to have sex?”, and they can reply yes or no.
Yes? Wonderful. We go off and have sex.
No? That’s fine too. “I understand. My apologies for disturbing you. Have a good day.”
We have words. I wish we could use them instead of expecting everyone to read minds.
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This is a very interesting insight into your world considering the theme of many of your previous posts about interacting with women. |
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"I am *completely fucking blind* to this stuff. I have to work on the assumption that nobody is interested and any “signals” I think I might detect are just wishful thinking on my part.
I want to live in a world where it’s safe and acceptable to go up to someone and say “Hello. I find you very attractive. Would you like to have sex?”, and they can reply yes or no.
Yes? Wonderful. We go off and have sex.
No? That’s fine too. “I understand. My apologies for disturbing you. Have a good day.”
We have words. I wish we could use them instead of expecting everyone to read minds.
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Same. Stuff is complicated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can read the clearly obvious signs that someone fancies me, and I will make my own feelings known to a person but subtle hints go over my head and then when I find out I am thinking really?! they like me?
I suppose I can be quite flirtatious in general and maybe that is giving out missed signals too.
Her x |
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"I've never had this, when I like someone I go straight in with the I fancy you. I have known when people have been flirting with me, but I won't say anything on the thread because I don't want them to have false/unsure thoughts about my intentions, eapecially if it is not reciprocated its easier to keep it private and respectful"
This ^ saved me typing it out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont get those signals at all.
I'm blind to them mentally.
I think I'm missing something that other people have x
Do they go over your head???? "
Yes x |
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I have no problem reading signals and can usually tell if someone if interested straight away.
However I’m crap at flirting.
I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve said the wrong thing (I’m quite sarcastic) and the person I’m chatting with feels I’m not interested or I’ve insulted them.
I’ve lost a few people I’ve been really interested in because of this
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The check out lady also said have you got a nectar card, I thought there’s definitely a kharmic chi love thang going on here, but turns out she was just asking about my points. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I don’t get the signals in real life and the only way I flirt is this
If I was feeling brave I might tell someone on here that I like them ... maybe. That’s not true - I probably wouldn’t but if we had been chatting a long time then I would tell them. She’s says |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I dont get those signals at all.
I'm blind to them mentally.
I think I'm missing something that other people have x
Do they go over your head????
Yes x "
I might have to lift you up then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m no good at knowing people are interested in me. But depending on how I’m feeling I can flirt, especially when I’ve had a drink all my filters go away x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to assume no one was flirting or making advances to me snd then recently found out loads of people were so now I question everything - I still never want to assume mind you fear looking arrogant! |
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"I’m useless at flirting and I seldom get flirted with unless they’re d*unk
I never drink logged in on here. I can’t imagine what trouble I would get into...
Oh please do it could turn out well
I’ll go and get beer "
Call me   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's difficult on here as there is a lot of banter and flirting and I wouldn't want to assume it is anything more than that, so I don't.
Kx"
This is true... Its very easy to flirt on a keyboard but taking it to real life is a very different matter... I take a lot on here with a massive pinch of salt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My Whole life
I am currently being tested for Adult Autism though 
I can find it extremely difficult to read people in person, understand subtext and sometimes can across as blunt. I also have a terriblle fear of rejection and feel inadequate alot of the time which doesnt help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's why I start the "Am I on your hotlist?" threads
Does it work for u then "
It worked like 3 times! They're so good, I've started chatting to people who I would have probably never did if not for the thread |
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I can't flirt, and I don't recognise when someone else is flirting with me.
I need someone to be ridiculously obvious before I'll get the message, otherwise I'll just carry on completely oblivious for ever. |
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I can't help flirting, its second nature to me. I will only flirt with people I like, though - whether it's as a person or because I fancy the arse off them.
However, I'm not always sure when the feeling is reciprocated - they need to spell it out to me x
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
I'm a flirt. Online, in person, whatever (shocking, I know).
And I love when I get the "flanter" (thank you to the person that introduced that word into my life) back. However, it takes me a very long time to realise, if ever, that someone is flirting back with any intent. There are times I've never realised it.
More often than not, even when the person has said it outright, I still don't believe it. Takes a long while to convince me it is meant and not all part of a wind up of some sort. |
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