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Worrying about fab members.

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Maybe it’s just me .... I’m not a stalker or anything

If you had a fab friend that you spoke to on a regular basis and they just stopped logging in and hadnt been on line for days would you worry.

Or would you think they are just getting on with non fab life ?

With the current climate I think I’m become more of a worrier.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess I would depend how close we were, I think I would be a bit concerned though.

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By *KAholeandgloryCouple over a year ago

exeter

"Maybe it’s just me .... I’m not a stalker or anything

If you had a fab friend that you spoke to on a regular basis and they just stopped logging in and hadnt been on line for days would you worry.

Or would you think they are just getting on with non fab life ?

With the current climate I think I’m become more of a worrier. "

We put pretty much the same thread out the other day. What we did was ring him. Obviously not any good if you havnt got their number

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I guess I would depend how close we were, I think I would be a bit concerned though. "

I suppose concerned would be the better word

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe it’s just me .... I’m not a stalker or anything

If you had a fab friend that you spoke to on a regular basis and they just stopped logging in and hadnt been on line for days would you worry.

Or would you think they are just getting on with non fab life ?

With the current climate I think I’m become more of a worrier.

We put pretty much the same thread out the other day. What we did was ring him. Obviously not any good if you havnt got their number"

Last I heard of him was mid week last week by phone to say that he was having his COVId jab.

I messaged him on fab no reply just asking how it went. Also sent a text nothing.

I don’t want to seem to be a stalker but we normally chat daily.

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By *KAholeandgloryCouple over a year ago

exeter

"Maybe it’s just me .... I’m not a stalker or anything

If you had a fab friend that you spoke to on a regular basis and they just stopped logging in and hadnt been on line for days would you worry.

Or would you think they are just getting on with non fab life ?

With the current climate I think I’m become more of a worrier.

We put pretty much the same thread out the other day. What we did was ring him. Obviously not any good if you havnt got their number

Last I heard of him was mid week last week by phone to say that he was having his COVId jab.

I messaged him on fab no reply just asking how it went. Also sent a text nothing.

I don’t want to seem to be a stalker but we normally chat daily.

That’s pretty much identical to our situation

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By *ersey GirlCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

Wouldn't bat an eyelid

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, those I'm close to I worry about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yeah, those I'm close to I worry about."

Let’s hope he just needs some time out and busy with work etc.

Sure he will contact me if or when he wants too.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yeah, those I'm close to I worry about.

Let’s hope he just needs some time out and busy with work etc.

Sure he will contact me if or when he wants too. "

Is usually the way.

Shows you care.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

When I don't log in for a while, for whatever reason, Jim sends out a search party for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Happens to all the time. People chatting the all of a sudden nothing. Think I'm used to it now

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"When I don't log in for a while, for whatever reason, Jim sends out a search party for me

Too damn right

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By * Sophie xTV/TS over a year ago

Derby

There are some where I would and do notice and I hope they're ok but also know that they have their own lives too so may just be getting on with that.

It depends on how they were before they went quiet as to whether I would worry or not though and may drop them a message just to say hi if I have ways of contacting them away from fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be more inclined to think they'd just gone a bit flaky rather than worry

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By *riar BelisseWoman over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I would be concerned but wouldn't make contact any more than I normally do, if they are having a family crisis they do not need me badgering them

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

If the person is an actual friend then I would be concerned, however I would have the number for anyone beyond just a casual chat or acquaintance, so I’d go direct to them that way.

People don’t long on for multiple reasons, very few of those are bad

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By *ablo minibar123Woman over a year ago

We are pretty close in my regular fab chatroom, so if a regular chatter goes AWOL for a week or 2 we usually ask around and get someone to check on how they are doing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I would worry especially if it was out of the blue they just went offline

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By *lex46TV/TS over a year ago

Near Wells

I wouldn't worry. I'm useless at keeping in touch even in real life.

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By *umalotagainMan over a year ago

a town called malice

"Maybe it’s just me .... I’m not a stalker or anything

If you had a fab friend that you spoke to on a regular basis and they just stopped logging in and hadnt been on line for days would you worry.

Or would you think they are just getting on with non fab life ?

With the current climate I think I’m become more of a worrier. "

I had a friend on here who I spoke to loads and then she disappeared, she got back in touch yesterday after more than 4 months and I am so glad she is ok, she has been through hell but is ok now

So it is good to worry about people and I know it sounds strange when it is someone on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I do worry and I do check on people, but if you did it in the past and they always reassured you that they were OK and its not needed, then I wouldn't pester in the future... So it really depends on a person and their pattern of behaviour on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I have been chatting to someone else for a while and they disappear for a while I will pop them message here or on another platform. And last time o took a break from here a person reached out to check on me. We spoke for over an hour on the phone and it was just what I needed. So don't be afraid to reach out if they are a friend they will be thankful of the gesture.

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

If i had never met them face to face then i would not worry. People come and go on here all the time. There is only a couple of men i know well who i would be concerned about and also my close fab female friend.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think it can vary from person to person and obviously depend on the dynamic - some people I know come and go for extended periods regularly, others are more permanent fixtures.

I guess all you can do V is make a judgement call based on how well you know the person and the dynamic between you - in all likelihood "life" happened and it's nothing and they'll be back in touch when they're ready.

Is only natural to worry though, despite the perceived ethos of the site, particularly if a regular pattern has been broken - maybe give it a couple more days and give them a call if you feel you know them well enough.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe it’s just me .... I’m not a stalker or anything

If you had a fab friend that you spoke to on a regular basis and they just stopped logging in and hadnt been on line for days would you worry.

Or would you think they are just getting on with non fab life ?

With the current climate I think I’m become more of a worrier.

We put pretty much the same thread out the other day. What we did was ring him. Obviously not any good if you havnt got their number

Last I heard of him was mid week last week by phone to say that he was having his COVId jab.

I messaged him on fab no reply just asking how it went. Also sent a text nothing.

I don’t want to seem to be a stalker but we normally chat daily.

That’s pretty much identical to our situation "

Stange, hope they all ok after the jab

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I would be concerned but if I didn't have their phone number or address I wouldn't do anything about it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'd wonder where they were and hope they are okay but if we are only at the online stage, I wouldn't go looking for them.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Just read what you said above about being in contact every day.

If it's voice by phone or even a text then i'd get in touch.

It could be that he's lost his phone or has no money for calls / texts who knows.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I presume they’re having a break, so don’t hassle them.

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I leave them to it generally. I might send one message asking if ok if they’ve expressed being down or something, but if not then I leave them to it. I’m a bit cold like that though.

They know where I am if they need me is my way of thinking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A difficult one, I chatted daily with someone since I joined not met as other end of the country, then he wasn't on for a few days and came back saying a family member had covid and was in hospital so he would pop on when he could but not as often, he's not been back online and yeah, I kinda worry as to what's happened but as you say, not in a stalker way. Hopefully all is OK but... Joys of Internet friendships I guess.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Id leave them to it. Last thing i want when i take a break is text or phone calls i ignore them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably not as the people I’m very close to I have on WhatsApp or other apps so if they disappeared from there suddenly I probably would be but not here.

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

I have very few people I would worry about, and I probably wouldnt worry if they didn't log in here for a while (sometimes you just want a break).

If messages off the site weren't getting any response I'd probably send a "tell me you're ok and I'll stop worrying and leave you be" type message just to make sure.

I would never be offended by someone else's concern for me either.

Honestly though, I can count on one hand the people I'm close enough to and chat to often enough for unanswered messages to cause concern (and I'd still have fingers left over).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do worry about some folks here

Then I question myself about contacting them

I feel like I am imposing my friendship & concern onto them

Would they appreciate that?

Would they contact me if there was really something wrong or they needed an ear?

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

I'm having that concern at the moment.

Can't help thinking he had an accident or he or a family member is very ill.

Hopefully he's just broken his phone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyone that I would be that close enough to worry about I wouldnt be talking to on Fab really.

I normally use Watsapp for talking to friends I have made on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be glad they had a life outside fab and I probably wouldn't even notice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd be glad they had a life outside fab and I probably wouldn't even notice. "

I am more weary about people who are always on here.

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By *ebedy_XMan over a year ago

Leeds

I'd think they were taking a break for a while

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"When I don't log in for a while, for whatever reason, Jim sends out a search party for me

We have to keep an eye on each other

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I wouldn’t normally worry but my last conversation with him was he was going to message me on Friday.

Anyway. I’ve had a text today to say all ok. His phone was drying out after getting a soaking.

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By *ymo80Man over a year ago

grimsby

"Anyone that I would be that close enough to worry about I wouldnt be talking to on Fab really.

I normally use Watsapp for talking to friends I have made on here. "

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By *ymo80Man over a year ago

grimsby

Very true

It happens to me a few times I’d like to think single blokes on here get it a lot it’s called ghosting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn’t normally worry but my last conversation with him was he was going to message me on Friday.

Anyway. I’ve had a text today to say all ok. His phone was drying out after getting a soaking.

Good news

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