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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Standard answer - subject or first line indicates they didn't read the profile.
Sending friend invite with a first message.
Sending cock pics staring at me as I open it, next to their face.
And so on. Usually first sentence is all I need. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of things:
People sending boring / generic/ one line messages, or messages that show they clearly haven't read my profile.
Having a dick photo as their profile picture, or having no profile picture at all.
Having little or no profile text, or if that text is generic and doesn't interest me.
Or if their profile shows they're clearly into something I'm not, like bareback or cross dressing etc.
Loads of action shots on their profile.
Bad spelling and grammar. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lots of things:
People sending boring / generic/ one line messages, or messages that show they clearly haven't read my profile.
Having a dick photo as their profile picture, or having no profile picture at all.
Having little or no profile text, or if that text is generic and doesn't interest me.
Or if their profile shows they're clearly into something I'm not, like bareback or cross dressing etc.
Loads of action shots on their profile.
Bad spelling and grammar. "
Oh, and sending Dick pics or nudes with their message if I haven't indicated I want to see them. |
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No face pic - attached or on profile.
Not physically attracted to him.
Attaching cock pic but no face pic.
Rude/overly graphic message.
And more & more I'm getting messages from guys that I interacted with over a year ago. Er, no! It didn't proceed when we COULD meet, what makes you think it'll work now?
Clearly not meeting my profile requiremts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lack of enthusiasm, I can tell when someone isn’t interested....or interesting 
A dude who wants me to be their daddy.
Straight up ‘faf’ messages.
And many more reasons I can’t reply, I want to out of politeness but they leave me with nowhere to go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So many reasons.
Shadow or dick avatar
Terrible profile
Giving me advice or feedback
Telling me what they are going to do to me
Crude/rude
One liners
One that says they’ve read your profile when they clearly haven’t
Ones that tell me I need a photographer err, nope
The one that told me he could be my personal trainer and get my belly fit (just rude)
Dick pics |
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Addressing only the Fem half, then they waffle on about making me squirt, doing anal, and cucking my fella ect.
So many of the no tick boxes. My instink is to hurl a load of abuse. As they have clearly not read our profile. But I was brought up, if you can't say anything good, don't say anything at all.
It just gets deleated and blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages? "
Not bothering to read my profile
Messages with like "Fuck now" and stuff like that
People that are like 300 miles away |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Friends requests when we haven't chatted.
Personality vacuums.
One word messages.
Anyone who expects you to jump through hoops for soft swing.
No photos.
Hairy cock, balls or hairy ass and pussy. |
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So many, many things.
- They haven’t attached a face pic and there isn’t one on their profile
- They have but I’m not attracted to them
- Their message is just a few words
- Their profile says nothing about them
- Their profile shows they’re looking for things I’m not interested in/turned off by, or is over aggressively “I AM A NATURAL ALPHA DOM” 
- Their profile is single but is full of action shots
- Their message is crude/rude/contains a fantasy of what they’ll do to me
- They’re not local
That’s probably not even close to all the things that make me just delete, but it’s the main ones. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Used to just be if it was vulgar or abusive but my tolerance is really low these days. Now, if the message is boring then it won't be getting a reply. Theres only so many "how's you?" messages I can take. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages? "
Guys that message and say they are a couple.
Or a couple that messages and say only the guys playing.
Had both quite a lot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aww do try to be fair, but if not read my profile this is obvious say no one liners, crude or c pics are signs and Copy paste ones sent weekly started to block after several weeks saves there time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of these are just men bashing. Fact is it doesnt matter if you write a polite msg as most women just delete without reading so all this crap about nice profile etc is just rubbish as they just want guys to stroke there ego and you get nothing back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of these are just men bashing. Fact is it doesnt matter if you write a polite msg as most women just delete without reading so all this crap about nice profile etc is just rubbish as they just want guys to stroke there ego and you get nothing back."
No. It isn’t.
I always read a message, and/or look at a profile.
I’ve had meets off here in my last profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A black silhouette no picture. A post just directed to me, which means they've clearly not read our profile. A picture of just a cock "
Or ask for a fuck straight away,or send dick pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of two things make me instant delete without a response... if they haven’t read our profile and boring messages! A little humour goes a long way imho  |
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"Most of these are just men bashing. Fact is it doesnt matter if you write a polite msg as most women just delete without reading so all this crap about nice profile etc is just rubbish as they just want guys to stroke there ego and you get nothing back."
Feel free to tell me what part of my comment was bashing men. I didn’t even mention men at any point, I said “them” throughout. Because guess what, it’s not just single men sending crappy messages from crappy profiles, I’ve ignored plenty of messages from couples and single women for the same reasons.
I have also replied to enough people to have plenty of meets, and have made some very good friends. Because their messages, photos, and profiles were interesting and appealing. If you aren’t getting any replies, you need to look at your profile, your messages, even your forum posts, and maybe adjust your approach. |
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No profile photo
Generic copied & pasted messages
Messages telling us we sound like a great couple when we deleted all our profile text
Badly worded messages
“What u up 2” messages
I could go on...
J x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lots of things:
People sending boring / generic/ one line messages, or messages that show they clearly haven't read my profile.
Having a dick photo as their profile picture, or having no profile picture at all.
Having little or no profile text, or if that text is generic and doesn't interest me.
Or if their profile shows they're clearly into something I'm not, like bareback or cross dressing etc.
Loads of action shots on their profile.
Bad spelling and grammar. "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Getting a "dick how big" reply after a carefully worded message tailored to her profile.
Or "hey mind if my bf/fb/husband/entire group of friends joins?"
Thankfully my looks prevent me from getting a lot of replies, so the problem is almost non existent |
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By *ickJMan
over a year ago
Hemel Hempstead |
"Most of these are just men bashing. Fact is it doesnt matter if you write a polite msg as most women just delete without reading so all this crap about nice profile etc is just rubbish as they just want guys to stroke there ego and you get nothing back."
Rather than "men bashing", the majority of responses indicate that "lack of profile pic" or "unsolicited dick pic" are the reasons for lack of response.
It's possible to check someone's profile before reading their message (and delete it if their profile doesn't interest you.)
Are you sure your messages are that polite? |
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"Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages? "
When there's no pics or words on profile or in message
When is clear they haven't bothered to check if we match by reading my profile |
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By *arahtvTV/TS
over a year ago
cardiff |
"Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages? "
all of the previous reasons |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are clear in our profile - we don't want pics of genitalia (this includes profile pics) and the constant "how are you/how's Fab treating you/nice pics/hot missus etc. These are always ignored.
Any polite message that shows the author has read our profile or at least presents as decent and considerate is garunteed a reply even if it is a no thank you/not for us reply.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Often people contact me expecting me to make the conversation. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy to participate but please give me something to bounce off, I’m not a good conversation starter. You contact me, you get the ball rolling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I appreciate all the negative comments from woman about guys sending poor / generic / graphic messages.
But is also worth noting that when the odds of getting a response are like 1 in a 100, it can be very time consuming & demoralising to keep going and make every message you send unique.
So perhaps some positive suggestions? Not just the negative |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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Pretty much all of the reasons given above. I'll always look at a profile before I open a message, if the profile doesn't appeal, or is pretty much blank, then I know the message is unfortunately likely to be equally uninspiring. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Text speak. No profile photo. No info on their profile. Only speaking to me on my couple's profile. Being downright crude. Swearing. Sending cock pics. Saying they've read my profile and want to meet, but clearly haven't if they smoke etc. Sending the same regurgitated message they did a few months ago. Need I go on? |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"Most of these are just men bashing. Fact is it doesnt matter if you write a polite msg as most women just delete without reading so all this crap about nice profile etc is just rubbish as they just want guys to stroke there ego and you get nothing back."
Not true, I always reply to well written messages or profiles |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Out the ones I've deleted today alone :
They asked to meet now
Asked me to spank them, we've Never spoken before
Were the other end of the country, not likely we'd meet.
Had only cock pics or pics of other women on show and I couldn't see much of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of these are just men bashing. Fact is it doesnt matter if you write a polite msg as most women just delete without reading so all this crap about nice profile etc is just rubbish as they just want guys to stroke there ego and you get nothing back."
Ouch......
A well worded written first message, that brings to highlight the fact you've spent the time in reading a profile, will always draw a more favorable....
Think your missing the point of...n this is a big factor....excuse my French but fab is so cock heavy....how do u stand out to elicit a response back...is the question |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I reply to all my messages unless they are rude (not in a good way anyway) or obnoxious!
I don't get 1/10th of what the women on here must get, and fully understand the reluctance to reply constantly when all they will say is "thanks but no thanks".
A simple delete is more than enough, its not aggressive, rude or any such thing.
Those who send abuse purely because they get rejected should get a temporary ban. Repeat offenders should just be binned off the site!
Tye frustration comes when you are chatting and it is going really well, then they stop for no discernable reason. But they have every right to chat to whom ever they want!
Frustration, yes. Getting arsey about it.... best you jog on!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very little or nothing on profile
No pics on profile so we can see what they're like
Crude message to start with
Obvious by content of message they haven't read out profile
Friends request straight away before even sending a message (again not reading our profile) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of these are just men bashing. Fact is it doesnt matter if you write a polite msg as most women just delete without reading so all this crap about nice profile etc is just rubbish as they just want guys to stroke there ego and you get nothing back.
Not true, I always reply to well written messages or profiles "
I reply to 9o% of my messages, even if it's to say thanks but no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of these are just men bashing. Fact is it doesnt matter if you write a polite msg as most women just delete without reading so all this crap about nice profile etc is just rubbish as they just want guys to stroke there ego and you get nothing back.
Not true, I always reply to well written messages or profiles
I reply to 9o% of my messages, even if it's to say thanks but no. "
We always reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't reply to most messages I'm afraid.
If I get a compliment, and I reply with thank you, it usually leads to a further message, when really I was just saying thank you and thats it.
If I reply with a no thank you, it leads to a why not, or let me change your mind message.
I reply to forum users, and friends, and thats usually it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't reply to most messages I'm afraid.
If I get a compliment, and I reply with thank you, it usually leads to a further message, when really I was just saying thank you and thats it.
If I reply with a no thank you, it leads to a why not, or let me change your mind message.
I reply to forum users, and friends, and thats usually it "
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Hold my beer.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages? "
The we we approach fab allows for me to reply to every message because I have the time but sometimes I wish I didn’t especially when men go tit blind!!!!
But any messages I leave for my wife there is a millions reasons why she won’t reply and some of them are so left field even I think WTF but it’s her adventure not mine!!!
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Being a straight guy (why are you mailing me??)
Being a couple where the wife doesn't want to be involved (so you're a single guy then???)
Being too eager (No I don't want to meet now)
Not reading my profile (and calling me Hun or babe)
Not attaching a face pic (as politely requested)
Today's day ends with a Y.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't like their avatar pic. I don't even read a message if their pic doesn't attract me. "
This.^
Also if I check out their profile and the room they take a picture in is a shit hole. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A profile named after the male appendage
That's not good for anyone called, Percy, John, Nobby, Thomas or just plain ol' Dick.  "
*damn.....I will leave now. ... |
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