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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can you explain to me (your version) of what you think the difference is between a fuck buddy and a friend with benefits. And where that draws a line before you are in a relationship with them.
Is being in swinging relationship just hanging out with a FB or your FWB is actually a swinging open relationship?
Give me a clue. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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A fuck buddy - you might talk every now and again but it's primarily about sex. You don't tend to do much other than talk about sex, meet for sex.
Friend with benefits - you're friends first and foremost - you can talk on a wealth of subjects, you don't always have to talk about sex, you might meet and do things that aren't based on fucking like going for coffee or to the cinema etc. Things you'd do with friends.
I don't think either are relationships in the sense you mean (traditional) until both parties decide they are and they become one. |
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Yes to me a fb is someone you hook up with when you are both feeling horny
Fwb is someone who is a friend who you meet regularly usually for sex but
who you could call on if you needed someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on. But it is non monogamous so both of you may have several fwbs. |
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For me a Fuck buddy is someone who I meet for just sex and occasionally chat to
Fwb is a close friendship in which we know real life details about each other, we support each other with anything and our time spent together are actually whole weekends plus, which are like going on holiday  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think fab FWBs are more like BWFs (benefits with friends) in as much as it's still based on the sex though you might do other things occasionally, go out. talk, have coffee etc ... a non fab FWB are friends first and foremost and might enjoy accompanying to events, know each other's friends and/or families, going out is the norm ie parties, cinema, gigs etc but the sex is never the end goal but like most friends you don't have to talk every day or see each other all the time etc
A FB is someone you just meet for sex, can still get on fantastically chat etc but you wouldn't go anywhere with them the relationship is purely based on the sex.
Everyone's definitely will be slightly different based on their own life and experiences ... I've had non fab fwbs for years (one for 14 years) and is more what I'm now interested but have fab FBs, one we even go out and do stuff together but the relationship is still purely based around sex! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think fab FWBs are more like BWFs (benefits with friends) in as much as it's still based on the sex though you might do other things occasionally, go out. talk, have coffee etc ... a non fab FWB are friends first and foremost and might enjoy accompanying to events, know each other's friends and/or families, going out is the norm ie parties, cinema, gigs etc but the sex is never the end goal but like most friends you don't have to talk every day or see each other all the time etc
A FB is someone you just meet for sex, can still get on fantastically chat etc but you wouldn't go anywhere with them the relationship is purely based on the sex.
Everyone's definitely will be slightly different based on their own life and experiences ... I've had non fab fwbs for years (one for 14 years) and is more what I'm now interested but have fab FBs, one we even go out and do stuff together but the relationship is still purely based around sex! "
Definition* not definitely |
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I don't have a FB, but my FWB is an ex that I went out with in the mid 90's, she lives about 20 miles from me and looks after her Mother. Due to all this Covid malarkey I've not seen her for about a year  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think fab FWBs are more like BWFs (benefits with friends) in as much as it's still based on the sex though you might do other things occasionally, go out. talk, have coffee etc ... "
This could be a new search criteria. 
A BFW anyone?  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Fuck buddy is someone who you meet for sex, FWB you meet for friendship, drinks, hang out together and have sex sometimes too xx"
This is my understanding too.
A swinging relationship is far more than that though. A swinging relationship is a couple who love and trust each other and share their sexual journey with others |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This is an interesting thread. Is it just semantics or are there subtleties in the different terms? I never really thought about the difference, but don’t really use the term FB unless I’m having a joke with that person. In my mind it almost puts someone in the same league as a fleshlight! FWB is a far better term in my mind and it’s great to get on with someone and have a laugh with them too, and sometimes chill with them and even do stuff with the benefit of having your own space when you want/need it and without the complications of a relationship. There’s also a sub-division of this: exclusive FWB and non-exclusive FWB, the latter I would argue being more in tune with a swinging site. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Like others said an FB is someone you meet solely for sex .It's someone you may keep in touch with but it's mostly based around meeting for sex .
A FWB is someone you are actually friends with as well you meet to hang out together without having sex as well as meet for sex .They know more about you than a FB does and you are actually friends .Sex is just an added bonus to your friendship. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Fuck buddy is someone who you meet for sex, FWB you meet for friendship, drinks, hang out together and have sex sometimes too xx
This is my understanding too.
A swinging relationship is far more than that though. A swinging relationship is a couple who love and trust each other and share their sexual journey with others"
So that’s where it gets blurry for me. Do you have to live with someone to be in a swinging relationship?
I love and trust some friends, maybe a FWB. But I don’t consider it a relationship. Does that makes sense? (Just an example)
Each to their own maybe?
Someone said above it’s all just labels. But I know some like to know where they stand with emotional boundaries. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I never really thought about the difference, but don’t really use the term FB unless I’m having a joke with that person. In my mind it almost puts someone in the same league as a fleshlight! L"
A FLB???   |
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Friends with benefits, you do normal stuff together, go for a drink, have some food, go to a gig etc and sometimes have sex. They might come to your birthday party.
Fuck buddy, you only meet for sex. They aren't coming to your birthday party. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find that all my fuck buddies turn into fwbs eventually. I wouldn't sleep with someone if I didn't think they were a nice person, so eventually we become friends and start hanging out in that way too. Over time I find the lust fades, but sometimes the friendship lasts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never really thought about the difference, but don’t really use the term FB unless I’m having a joke with that person. In my mind it almost puts someone in the same league as a fleshlight! L
A FLB??? "
Haha. I think an FLB is just a fleshlight, otherwise where’s the benefit |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone have a fwb where the benefits seem to take a back seat? How have you dealt with it? "
I've had a friend say he wanted FWB but the friend stuff fell away and he just wanted a FB fuck. I got rid.
I see nothing wrong with FB but we agreed on FWB.
Covid has made everything difficult. If the lack of benefits is due to lockdown restrictions I'd wait and see what happens when we can meet again. |
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"Fuck buddy is someone who you meet for sex, FWB you meet for friendship, drinks, hang out together and have sex sometimes too xx"
Yeah this - I’ve asked for one in my profile (click-bait NOT) but to no avail. Damn Covid! |
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By *unforyou73Man
over a year ago
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Yes all of the above
Love the idea of fwb had a couple of fwb and they were great no pressure and no fall outs like a relationship, fb mmmm maybe try it but I’m on the fence don’t know it I could do the fuck and go thing |
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"Fuck buddy is someone who you meet for sex, FWB you meet for friendship, drinks, hang out together and have sex sometimes too xx
This is my understanding too.
A swinging relationship is far more than that though. A swinging relationship is a couple who love and trust each other and share their sexual journey with others
So that’s where it gets blurry for me. Do you have to live with someone to be in a swinging relationship?
I love and trust some friends, maybe a FWB. But I don’t consider it a relationship. Does that makes sense? (Just an example)
Each to their own maybe?
Someone said above it’s all just labels. But I know some like to know where they stand with emotional boundaries. "
Do you have to live with someone with whom you are in a non swinging relationship?
The only difference between a non swinging relationship and a swinging one is the fact that you enjoy sharing sexual experiences with others on agreed terms surely? |
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I agree with Annie - FWBs are more BWFs! I’ve done dates/weekends away etc with mine. We keep in touch, talk often and will pick up where we left off when we can.
FBs are fine but it depends who it is I guess. I’m not so keen one this one |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Does anyone have a fwb where the benefits seem to take a back seat? How have you dealt with it?
I've had a friend say he wanted FWB but the friend stuff fell away and he just wanted a FB fuck. I got rid.
I see nothing wrong with FB but we agreed on FWB.
Covid has made everything difficult. If the lack of benefits is due to lockdown restrictions I'd wait and see what happens when we can meet again. "
Sorry to read this Outsider. I think regardless of the dynamic between two people, you need to both be on the same page and honest about it. I had similar before - much like you I don't mind a fb once in a while but not if it's under the guise of something else. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fuck buddy is someone who you meet for sex, FWB you meet for friendship, drinks, hang out together and have sex sometimes too xx
Yeah this - I’ve asked for one in my profile (click-bait NOT) but to no avail. Damn Covid! "
I clicked. ... damn you. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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We have friends with benefits (FWB), they are couples (and the ocasional solo fem, used to) that we are friends and socialise with, but occasionally more if the mood takes.
FBs are people who meet more than once for NSA sex. Also guys use FBs (females) for door openers.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone have a fwb where the benefits seem to take a back seat? How have you dealt with it?
I've had a friend say he wanted FWB but the friend stuff fell away and he just wanted a FB fuck. I got rid.
I see nothing wrong with FB but we agreed on FWB.
Covid has made everything difficult. If the lack of benefits is due to lockdown restrictions I'd wait and see what happens when we can meet again.
Sorry to read this Outsider. I think regardless of the dynamic between two people, you need to both be on the same page and honest about it. I had similar before - much like you I don't mind a fb once in a while but not if it's under the guise of something else."
It's a positive really. He wasn't a friend after all so it's not a loss.  |
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"Fuck buddy is someone who you meet for sex, FWB you meet for friendship, drinks, hang out together and have sex sometimes too xx
Yeah this - I’ve asked for one in my profile (click-bait NOT) but to no avail. Damn Covid!
I clicked. ... damn you. "
Hahaha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is an interesting thread. Is it just semantics or are there subtleties in the different terms? I never really thought about the difference, but don’t really use the term FB unless I’m having a joke with that person. In my mind it almost puts someone in the same league as a fleshlight! FWB is a far better term in my mind and it’s great to get on with someone and have a laugh with them too, and sometimes chill with them and even do stuff with the benefit of having your own space when you want/need it and without the complications of a relationship. There’s also a sub-division of this: exclusive FWB and non-exclusive FWB, the latter I would argue being more in tune with a swinging site. "
Isn't an exclusive FWB a relationship though? I see where the OP is going here |
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