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Women, how are compliments received?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If someone messages you to compliment your picture do you like it, are you indifferent or do you dislike it?
I’m not on about getting compliments then receiving “fuck you ugly bitch” messages when you don’t respond. I’m very sure no one likes them.
I just mean genuine “I really love your photos you’re very beautiful” kind of compliment. Is it nice or is it like “whatever”? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's lovely when it happens but very seldom as I rarely let my filters down.
Getting that from a friend is very nice too though.
I will just message someone if I think theirs are really good  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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In a very much not fishing way, I can safely say I don't get many compliments on my photos. I do on my voice video and I like them because I think they are genuine and to be honest, I don't get many compliments day to day. They give me a little boost and make me feel a bit less bleurgh on those days I do.
The nicest one I've received before was from someone saying how beautiful my eyes are. I was having a bit of a low day anyway and the fact that a stranger took time out, not expecting anything but wanting to say something nice meant a lot to me. |
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Complements from friends/people I’ve met face to face are nice. But I really struggle with complements on here from people I don’t know. I’m a bit prickly and don’t want to be complemented on a photo. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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Speaking from experience, I think that many view them with cynicism as they can often be disingenuous.
I think that if they’re just compliments with no motive to engage or go further, that’s where they’re most likely to be well received |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Complements from friends/people I’ve met face to face are nice. But I really struggle with complements on here from people I don’t know. I’m a bit prickly and don’t want to be complemented on a photo. "
You’re not prickly, you’re a build a bear in a hedgehog costume  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love compliments from people who know me but on here I'm quite ambivalent because a compliment "love your photos" tends to be followed up with silly comments which just negates the compliment sadly.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I guess it depends on the creativity of the comment and on what the comment is target at.
Nice beard. "
Already got that one ! I love the way your stach caresses your nostrils would have been a first ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it is meaningful then yes I like it. I get hundreds of compliments on my photos daily but none ever stand out to be honest. You just know it's what they say to pretty much every woman they like the look of.
You can tell when someone is genuine though, although the genuine ones usually come from women and rarely from men on here. |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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As has been said, it depends on whether it feels like a genuine compliment aimed specifically at me & with no ulterior motive, or if it is a general "nice pics" which is probably fired out to any female within a 50 mile radius in the hope of getting a shag. |
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"If it is meaningful then yes I like it. I get hundreds of compliments on my photos daily but none ever stand out to be honest. You just know it's what they say to pretty much every woman they like the look of.
You can tell when someone is genuine though, although the genuine ones usually come from women and rarely from men on here."
How very dare you, I have a penis an all! |
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I'm guilty of sending photo compliments.
I don't have a stock, 'I like this photo message' and don't expect a FAF reply back
But I am very visual and do appreciate a good photo and do sometimes slide in someone's inbox to tell them that. |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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When it’s a friend, someone I know and it’s a genuine compliment it’s nice, I like it, feel quite shy, but flattered and almost embarrassed all at the same time. They know how I feel about these things.
From a random, I find it awkward and don’t really know how to react, I normally do one of two things; joke, or ignore it. I think because I don’t accept it, don’t believe it’s possibly true.
Lex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take"
I find this very harsh. I think giveing and getting complimenta are nice and old fashioned gestures like this are lost sadly on some folk. If i have had a tough day and recieve a nice compliment it really does wonders for one's well being in my experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take
I find this very harsh. I think giveing and getting complimenta are nice and old fashioned gestures like this are lost sadly on some folk. If i have had a tough day and recieve a nice compliment it really does wonders for one's well being in my experience."
Harsh in what way? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take
I find this very harsh. I think giveing and getting complimenta are nice and old fashioned gestures like this are lost sadly on some folk. If i have had a tough day and recieve a nice compliment it really does wonders for one's well being in my experience.
Harsh in what way? "
I think it can be seen as harsh because giving a compliment is a nice thing. On the other hand women will receive all kind of complimentary messages which aren’t always genuine and yes guys DO just copy and paste compliments in hopes of starting a conversation.
It’s rare but there are some guys who are quite genuine and don’t realise how other men on here behave. That means they don’t get why a compliment wouldn’t be taken on board.
Tbh that’s why I started the thread. I was going to compliment someones photo but then thought hmm are they going to actually think I’m genuine or just think I’m a nob
Of course the replies here are varied but show it’s more about how genuine the message is but that’s hard to show and also hard for others to believe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take
I find this very harsh. I think giveing and getting complimenta are nice and old fashioned gestures like this are lost sadly on some folk. If i have had a tough day and recieve a nice compliment it really does wonders for one's well being in my experience.
Harsh in what way?
I think it can be seen as harsh because giving a compliment is a nice thing. On the other hand women will receive all kind of complimentary messages which aren’t always genuine and yes guys DO just copy and paste compliments in hopes of starting a conversation.
It’s rare but there are some guys who are quite genuine and don’t realise how other men on here behave. That means they don’t get why a compliment wouldn’t be taken on board.
Tbh that’s why I started the thread. I was going to compliment someones photo but then thought hmm are they going to actually think I’m genuine or just think I’m a nob
Of course the replies here are varied but show it’s more about how genuine the message is but that’s hard to show and also hard for others to believe. "
Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am generally indifferent.
I am really not bothered by what random people think of my appearance. If a compliment is well meant and given with no expectations, I will accept it gracefully... but it won't 'brighten my day' or 'make me feel good about myself' or whatever. It is what it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A compliment never hurts anybody and i always say thank you, sometimes they don't want anymore than just to compliment you.
We've had a few people compliment us on our profile/pics and they can see they are not what we are looking for or try and take the conversation any further.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing "
I don’t quite understand what you mean. I think everyone thinks a compliment is a nice thing don’t they?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Compliments from perfect strangers via the internet are always met with indifference from me... compliments from people I know, however, are very much appreciated and get lots of thanks and blushes from me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always send a reply back thanking them for their compliment, however I have found some guys see this as a green light I'm interested and then want to get chatting, exchanging pics etc...
(And I'm basing this on my current profile).
I'm flattered at that time about the compliment, but that's as far as it goes.
I don't suddenly think I'm the dogs dangly bits
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they can tell me what they like about it.. they it's smile inducing.
'I love the way your dark hair falls onto your back softly in that shot and it makes me want to.. (...)'
This is one I would cherish more ^
Which doesn't mean others are meh. Taking time to say something "nice" is an effort too. Just not as signicant as above.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they are warranted. When they are totally over the top they just annoy me "
Do you mean like this :
OMG WOW WOW WOW WOW!!!
YOU HAVE THE BEST TITS ON FAB
Kinda thing??
That's what I got yesterday, I've since taken the picture down  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing
I don’t quite understand what you mean. I think everyone thinks a compliment is a nice thing don’t they?
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Are you reading many of the replies on this thread? |
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"Speaking from experience, I think that many view them with cynicism as they can often be disingenuous.
I think that if they’re just compliments with no motive to engage or go further, that’s where they’re most likely to be well received "
That's exactly it - genuine compliments tend to stand out. There is an element of compliments used as a "dutiful" thing to write because in a way it is a display of good manners but at the same time because of that it might come across as disingenuous as it is included for a purpose, with a goal so to speak.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on the way it’s worded. If I think it is genuine then I will say thank you, but generally I don’t trust a compliment, and expect it to be a prelude to attempting to hi-jack my knickers.
I think I’m not very trusting generally, particularly of men, as I tend not to trust their motives. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take
I find this very harsh. I think giveing and getting complimenta are nice and old fashioned gestures like this are lost sadly on some folk. If i have had a tough day and recieve a nice compliment it really does wonders for one's well being in my experience.
Harsh in what way?
I think it can be seen as harsh because giving a compliment is a nice thing. On the other hand women will receive all kind of complimentary messages which aren’t always genuine and yes guys DO just copy and paste compliments in hopes of starting a conversation.
It’s rare but there are some guys who are quite genuine and don’t realise how other men on here behave. That means they don’t get why a compliment wouldn’t be taken on board.
Tbh that’s why I started the thread. I was going to compliment someones photo but then thought hmm are they going to actually think I’m genuine or just think I’m a nob
Of course the replies here are varied but show it’s more about how genuine the message is but that’s hard to show and also hard for others to believe. "
Yes you totally get my point thank you . I agree us decent and genuine guys get a bad name due to idiots who spoil it for us and make it harder for us to be taken seriously. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing
I don’t quite understand what you mean. I think everyone thinks a compliment is a nice thing don’t they?
Are you reading many of the replies on this thread?"
It’s okay never mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In a very much not fishing way, I can safely say I don't get many compliments on my photos. I do on my voice video and I like them because I think they are genuine and to be honest, I don't get many compliments day to day. They give me a little boost and make me feel a bit less bleurgh on those days I do.
The nicest one I've received before was from someone saying how beautiful my eyes are. I was having a bit of a low day anyway and the fact that a stranger took time out, not expecting anything but wanting to say something nice meant a lot to me."
I've had messages like that, really sweet compliments with no apparent hidden agenda.
Its nice.
I do reply to thank them too..  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take
I find this very harsh. I think giveing and getting complimenta are nice and old fashioned gestures like this are lost sadly on some folk. If i have had a tough day and recieve a nice compliment it really does wonders for one's well being in my experience.
Harsh in what way?
I think it can be seen as harsh because giving a compliment is a nice thing. On the other hand women will receive all kind of complimentary messages which aren’t always genuine and yes guys DO just copy and paste compliments in hopes of starting a conversation.
It’s rare but there are some guys who are quite genuine and don’t realise how other men on here behave. That means they don’t get why a compliment wouldn’t be taken on board.
Tbh that’s why I started the thread. I was going to compliment someones photo but then thought hmm are they going to actually think I’m genuine or just think I’m a nob
Of course the replies here are varied but show it’s more about how genuine the message is but that’s hard to show and also hard for others to believe.
Yes you totally get my point thank you . I agree us decent and genuine guys get a bad name due to idiots who spoil it for us and make it harder for us to be taken seriously."
Yeah. That’s why I was asking. Just trying to get a feel of what people think. I think I’ll keep the compliments in my head until I know people well enough for them to believe it’s genuine |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing
I don’t quite understand what you mean. I think everyone thinks a compliment is a nice thing don’t they?
Are you reading many of the replies on this thread?
It’s okay never mind "
I'll simplify...many women on here have learned through experience to take compliments with a pinch of cynicism.
I actually think it's a poor way of engaging someone to strike up some chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It always make me laugh, when I get messages saying hi beautiful, ffs you can’t see my face so how do you know "
Yes this makes me laugh too. "you're stunning"... Maybe you'll think my face looks like a melted welly though! 
I much prefer compliments that aren't based on looks. Tell me I'm funny and I'll love you forever. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing
I don’t quite understand what you mean. I think everyone thinks a compliment is a nice thing don’t they?
Are you reading many of the replies on this thread?
It’s okay never mind
I'll simplify...many women on here have learned through experience to take compliments with a pinch of cynicism.
I actually think it's a poor way of engaging someone to strike up some chat"
Right right. Though I did mean genuine compliments which I highlighted in my initial post. I guess though it shows the fixed views towards them. Informative, which is what I was after  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing
I don’t quite understand what you mean. I think everyone thinks a compliment is a nice thing don’t they?
Are you reading many of the replies on this thread?
It’s okay never mind
I'll simplify...many women on here have learned through experience to take compliments with a pinch of cynicism.
I actually think it's a poor way of engaging someone to strike up some chat
Right right. Though I did mean genuine compliments which I highlighted in my initial post. I guess though it shows the fixed views towards them. Informative, which is what I was after "
Can you give an example of a genuine compliment? |
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