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Struggling to find.. Well anyone?
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By *oungJayy OP Man
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Morning everyone, as the title says, I'm actually struggling to find anyone on here, by the I mean woman, I'm searching get and wide and look to find a woman for after lockdown etc, and I feel I always says s lovely polite message but typically get no response, or typically tend to find my she affects any sort of replies I get.
Does anyone else experience the same? I get the odds are against me because, lockdown, male single sub, quite young
Looking forward to hearing your opinions, and again if I have any sort of appeal to you, please message, I really don't bite x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Morning everyone, as the title says, I'm actually struggling to find anyone on here, by the I mean woman, I'm searching get and wide and look to find a woman for after lockdown etc, and I feel I always says s lovely polite message but typically get no response, or typically tend to find my she affects any sort of replies I get.
Does anyone else experience the same? I get the odds are against me because, lockdown, male single sub, quite young
Looking forward to hearing your opinions, and again if I have any sort of appeal to you, please message, I really don't bite x"
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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When people say they're not finding what they want from the site, it often comes down to one, some or all of five key things - none of which will guarantee a thing, but all of which are within your control and will improve your perception of the site - so take a look at these and see where you think you could make adjustments:
Profile - does it sell you well, telling others about you and not only what you're looking for, but what you think you can offer also. Is it appealing and has enough to pique interest, or is it generic and much the same as thousands of other guys here?
Pics - are your pics a good reflection of you and your body, with a little creativity and teasing thrown in, or are they just hastily taken snaps or a series of pics of your cock?
Expectations - are they set correctly or do you need to turn them down a notch, or allow for the current situation and accept that right now a lot of people aren't looking to chat, let alone meet, new people. The default setting for expectations should always be low when it comes to getting meets.
Attitude - have you got it right? Are you always positive or do you bemoan your lack of "luck" on the site? Are you always polite and respectful not only to people you approach, but other users?
Approach - have you found the right approach to the site for you? It doesn't *have* to be about blindly messaging people and hoping they reply, the forums and chat rooms are a good way to get to know people, and them you - likewise when they open/start again clubs and group socials.
Take those into account and you won't be going far wrong, as I said, it won't guarantee a thing but it will improve your experience and perception.
It's also worth noting that you appear to be looking for something very specific which not only further limits your options, but is also something that requires a level of trust and knowledge which you have to establish and will again limit your options further.
Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When people say they're not finding what they want from the site, it often comes down to one, some or all of five key things - none of which will guarantee a thing, but all of which are within your control and will improve your perception of the site - so take a look at these and see where you think you could make adjustments:
Profile - does it sell you well, telling others about you and not only what you're looking for, but what you think you can offer also. Is it appealing and has enough to pique interest, or is it generic and much the same as thousands of other guys here?
Pics - are your pics a good reflection of you and your body, with a little creativity and teasing thrown in, or are they just hastily taken snaps or a series of pics of your cock?
Expectations - are they set correctly or do you need to turn them down a notch, or allow for the current situation and accept that right now a lot of people aren't looking to chat, let alone meet, new people. The default setting for expectations should always be low when it comes to getting meets.
Attitude - have you got it right? Are you always positive or do you bemoan your lack of "luck" on the site? Are you always polite and respectful not only to people you approach, but other users?
Approach - have you found the right approach to the site for you? It doesn't *have* to be about blindly messaging people and hoping they reply, the forums and chat rooms are a good way to get to know people, and them you - likewise when they open/start again clubs and group socials.
Take those into account and you won't be going far wrong, as I said, it won't guarantee a thing but it will improve your experience and perception.
It's also worth noting that you appear to be looking for something very specific which not only further limits your options, but is also something that requires a level of trust and knowledge which you have to establish and will again limit your options further.
Good luck "
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"Morning everyone, as the title says, I'm actually struggling to find anyone on here, by the I mean woman, I'm searching get and wide and look to find a woman for after lockdown etc, and I feel I always says s lovely polite message but typically get no response, or typically tend to find my she affects any sort of replies I get.
Does anyone else experience the same? I get the odds are against me because, lockdown, male single sub, quite young
Looking forward to hearing your opinions, and again if I have any sort of appeal to you, please message, I really don't bite x"
Maybe try a conventional dating site but stress you are looking for non vanilla relationship? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When people say they're not finding what they want from the site, it often comes down to one, some or all of five key things - none of which will guarantee a thing, but all of which are within your control and will improve your perception of the site - so take a look at these and see where you think you could make adjustments:
Profile - does it sell you well, telling others about you and not only what you're looking for, but what you think you can offer also. Is it appealing and has enough to pique interest, or is it generic and much the same as thousands of other guys here?
Pics - are your pics a good reflection of you and your body, with a little creativity and teasing thrown in, or are they just hastily taken snaps or a series of pics of your cock?
Expectations - are they set correctly or do you need to turn them down a notch, or allow for the current situation and accept that right now a lot of people aren't looking to chat, let alone meet, new people. The default setting for expectations should always be low when it comes to getting meets.
Attitude - have you got it right? Are you always positive or do you bemoan your lack of "luck" on the site? Are you always polite and respectful not only to people you approach, but other users?
Approach - have you found the right approach to the site for you? It doesn't *have* to be about blindly messaging people and hoping they reply, the forums and chat rooms are a good way to get to know people, and them you - likewise when they open/start again clubs and group socials.
Take those into account and you won't be going far wrong, as I said, it won't guarantee a thing but it will improve your experience and perception.
It's also worth noting that you appear to be looking for something very specific which not only further limits your options, but is also something that requires a level of trust and knowledge which you have to establish and will again limit your options further.
Good luck "
Well put |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If your messages have as many mistakes as your opening post that could stop *some* people responding.
Double check over your messages before you send them. |
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People have been in an almost constant state of grief/despair/disbelief/frustration for a year now.
Get yourself to organised socials or clubs, that's where the people that want to talk and meet new people will be. |
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"Morning everyone, as the title says, I'm actually struggling to find anyone on here, by the I mean woman, I'm searching get and wide and look to find a woman for after lockdown etc, and I feel I always says s lovely polite message but typically get no response, or typically tend to find my she affects any sort of replies I get.
Does anyone else experience the same? I get the odds are against me because, lockdown, male single sub, quite young
Looking forward to hearing your opinions, and again if I have any sort of appeal to you, please message, I really don't bite x"
I think you have identified enough stumbling blocks yourself to explain your situation. The pandemic is a big one even for people who might be into you. Your age will rule you out for a lot. Men are very much in the minority around here.
Why are you looking for more reasons?
I hope you are right about your messages being good. Most of the messages we get are diabolical but somebody thought they were worth sending. I can't say whether yours are or not, but do make sure they are relevant, interesting and respectful. |
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